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Your Weight Is Not the Problem

I’m a dietitian, and I’m tired of talking about body weight.

You might think that would be a career-ender, a confession I ought not dare utter aloud. After all, what do dietitians do when faced with an obesity epidemic, if not help people achieve a healthy weight? Weight loss should be my bread and butter (or, perhaps more appropriately, my organic whole grain bread and mashed avocado?), but lately, I’m kind of, well…over it.

I want to let you in on a little secret: obesity is not anyone’s problem.

It’s okay, I’ll wait for the gasps and murmurs to settle down. Hear me out. Obesity can cause many problems but it is not, itself, the problem. It is, in fact, a symptom, a consequence of our collective habits, behaviors, and preferences. When we fixate on a symptom, ignoring the tapestry of circumstances that brought it into existence, we miss the opportunity to make real, lasting change. It’s also, quite frankly, exhausting.

Imagine you’re in a boat, and it’s starting to sink because it’s filling up with water. Panicked, you start scooping the water up with a bucket and dumping it back into the lake. You view the excess water as the problem, not even seeing the very large holes at the bottom of the boat, causing it to fill up in the first place. You can spend every waking minute trying to scoop out the excess water, but you’ll never solve the real problem (the holes), and the boat will fill right back up.

So, you see, the number on the bathroom scale is just a distraction, something that leaves us panicked and not thinking clearly enough to see the bigger picture. Achieving and maintaining a healthy weight can be a huge piece of your health puzzle, but it’s more likely to fall into place when you start treating the underlying issues.

If you’re not sure where to start, here are my top five recommendations for becoming healthier that have nothing to do with weight.

1.    Explore mindfulness.

Mindfulness refers to  focusing your attention on the present: one action, one person (or group of people) at a time. Though we like to think we are master multi-taskers, our brains can actually only focus on one task at a time. It simply puts the less interesting, more familiar tasks on autopilot, and before we know it, we’ve hit the bottom of the bag of chips during the season premiere of The Bachelorette. (Every year I tell myself I won’t even watch, and every year…)

2.    Eat real food.

We could spend an entire day discussing what this means in all of its nuances, but at its core, I think we all understand. Baked potatoes are real food but sour cream and onion chips are not; a roasted pork tenderloin is real food, but pepperoni is not; and 100% maple syrup is real food, but splenda is not. None of these foods is bad or forbidden, but the more often we choose real, whole foods, the better off we are.

3.    Move more.

You don’t have to run a marathon or even a 5k. You could walk to your mailbox and back, take a lap around your office building after lunch, or stand up and stretch during T.V. commercial breaks. Physical activity is not binary; it is not all or nothing. Just like number two above, the more often you choose moving around over sedentary activities, the better, but that doesn’t mean the only way to be healthy is to never stand still again. Every little bit helps!

4.    Meditate.

If formal meditation isn’t your thing, think of it as time taken for personal reflection or stress relief. One easy technique is a mind body scan: close your eyes and every time you inhale, tense up a body part, then release as you exhale; start down at your toes and move slowly all the way up to your head. Journaling, a warm bubble bath, and dancing are other ideas that may work for different people.

5.    Listen to your body.

When we ignore hunger pangs because we fear overeating, or we use a carton of ice cream to soothe a heartache, we teach our body to distrust its own signals. Eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full (not stuffed). Call a supportive friend when you’re sad. Go for a run when you’re angry.  Your body has a lot to tell you, if you just give it the chance.

If you are tired of trying to bail yourself out of a sinking boat, all you have to do is put down your bucket. Listen to your body. Fuel it, strengthen it, and rest it well. Patch the holes, and embrace your new, healthy life.

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The Early Bird Might Catch The Worm, But The Night Owl Patents The Idea

When picking between polar opposites, the choices we make say a lot about who we are. When you’re at the grocery store, do you want paper or plastic bags? When changing your baby, do you use cloth diapers or disposable (or compostable)? When talking about crime and punishment, do you support the death penalty or life in prison? If you’re old enough to remember the classic Miller Lite commercials, you might still be wrestling with tastes great or less filling? If you’re in the mood for a philosophical discussion with no end sight, chicken or egg? Now, even your bedtime is an issue: are you early bird or a night owl? The two, of course, are mutually exclusive–and the differences are quite stark.
Since they’ve already been up for a while, let’s start with the morning people.
A number of studies over the past few years have found that those who get up early are generally happier than those who sleep in. They’re less likely to be diagnosed with narcissism or depression or to take antidepressants. Early risers are also less likely to have problems with addiction, to smoke, to drink alcohol, or to struggle with eating disorders. There also seems to be a connection between the amount of morning light you’re exposed to and your ability to control your weight–regardless of your age, how much you eat, what season it is, or how much you exercise.
Speaking of exercise, people who do their workouts in the morning tend to stick with their routines longer and, as a result, their blood pressure is lower and they’re less likely to be obese. The combination of light and exercise helps regulate your body’s internal rhythms, meaning that you’ll sleep better and you’ll be better able to handle sleep disruptions, such as adjusting to those time changes when going on or coming off of daylight savings time.
But before all you early risers get too smug, you need to hear the other side of this story.
At this point, all the night owls should have rolled out of bed, so let’s talk about you. As with those early-to-bedders, there’s an impressive amount of academic research showing that night owls are the favored ones. One recent study, for example, found that young adults who stay up late and sleep late are, on average, smarter than their counterparts who have a more traditional sleep schedule.
Other studies show that they’re also more alert, have better memories, and are more social, smarter, and more creative. The theory is that with all those morning people safely in their beds, the night owls can let their creative juices fly with no one around to criticize. That could explain why night owls tend to earn more than their early-rising cousins.
At this point, all the night owls should have rolled out of bed, so let’s talk about you. As with those early-to-bedders, there’s an impressive amount of academic research showing that night owls are the favored ones. One recent study, for example, found that young adults who stay up late and sleep late are, on average, smarter than their counterparts who have a more traditional sleep schedule.
Night owls, now it’s your turn to rein in your smugness.
Other studies show that they’re also more alert, have better memories, and are more social, smarter, and more creative. The theory is that with all those morning people safely in their beds, the night owls can let their creative juices fly with no one around to criticize. That could explain why night owls tend to earn more than their early-rising cousins.
There’s a big difference between causation and correlation. In other words, just because two things seem to be related, doesn’t mean that one of them caused the other. So going to bed–and waking up–a few hours earlier is no guarantee that you’ll be any less of a narcissist and it probably won’t help you quit smoking. At the same time, staying up past your normal bedtime probably won’t increase your IQ, and it’s less likely to increase your salary than just working harder.

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Make The Most Of Your Mornings When All You Really Want To Do Is Sleep In

There’s nothing quite as jarring and soul crushing as the sound of your buzzing alarm clock at 6:30 a.m. At least for some of us.

“Some people are larks and some are owls,” says Mary Fristad, PhD, professor of psychiatry and behavioral health, psychology, and nutrition at OSU Harding Behavioral Health at The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center. “It has to do with your personal biology. If you’re a lark, you wake up ready. If you’re an owl, you likely went to sleep late and prefer to sleep late.”

If you’re anything like me, and you’re an owl, you may have these thoughts running through your head every time you’re called to rise: “Just 10 more minutes, please.” If that sounds familiar, here are some ways to get moving in the morning.

Position your alarm clocks correctly.

Do you ever sleep right through your alarm or shut it off accidentally? (*raises hand*) You might need to move it across the room, says Fristad. “It might be that you need to position it to physically get up and turn it off, and that act will help you wake up,” she explains. “Also, know what helps you get in the right mood. Do you need an irritating buzzer to get up, or lovely music to soothe you?” Try both, and see which works.

Adopt the right mindset.

Snooze, snooze, snooze. Not only is hitting that button breaking up your sleep so you don’t feel as well rested, but it’s also putting you in a lethargic, I’ll-get-to-the-waking-up-thing-later mood. “Incorporate into your morning mindset that when the alarm goes off, you get up,” says Fristad. “Whether or not you want to. It’s a mental commitment, and it’s a plan.”

Up your breakfast game with wake-up foods.

If you’re sleepy in the morning, yes, you can hit the coffee for a little caffeine boost—but also try to avoid overdoing it with carbs. “You’ll just feel sleepy again,” Fristad says. “Instead, opt for a breakfast with protein.” Some examples? An egg-white omelet with your choice of veggies, or a Greek yogurt with seasonal berries.

Find the right motivation to move it, move it.

Sometimes, you need a reason to wake up in the morning. Fristad suggests keeping a gratitude journal. “Write down three things you’re thankful, from that day, at night before bed,” she says. “It can be as simple as a sunset. And then, also, write down at least one thing you’re looking forward to for the next day.” Fall asleep with that in mind. Also remember that from the moment you wake up, you’ll be hyper-productive for the first two hours of your day. So, use that as motivation to get busy…not snooze your alarm, amble to the coffee pot, and mindlessly answer emails until you “get around” to real work.

Shake up your evening screen activity.

If you’re struggling to wake up feeling well rested in the morning, adjust your routines. Fristad says that all the gadgets we look at can mess with our sleep cycles. “Screen time is a big thing, but shutting down isn’t realistic. You need a variant of that,” she explains. The solution? Reducing exposure to the blue light that prevents melatonin production will help us get to sleep and stay asleep. “There are orange glasses now that help filter out that blue light,” says Fristad. “And just that can be enough to help the brain produce those hormones that help us sleep.”

Beyond that, remember that your body can only handle roughly one-hour swings in wake-up time. So, even on weekends, attempt to get up at roughly the same time. You’ll feel more primed with sleep, and ready to get your day going.

And when in doubt about your ability to handle your morning? Espresso (wink, wink).

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Make Sure Your Shoes Will Be A Good Fit For The Long Run

So you’ve decided to take up running. You’ve heard that it is an excellent way to strengthen your lungs and heart. You know it is a great way to lose weight and lower blood pressure. You’ve even learned that it can help relieve stress and combat depression too, so you’re ready to give it a try.
Congratulations, you’ve just taken your first step towards a healthier lifestyle.
Before you get too serious about your new workout routine however you should consider buying a proper pair of running shoes. Not only will a good pair of shoes help you ease into the sport, they can also help prevent injury and make those first training miles much less difficult. Shopping for a pair of running shoes can be surprisingly stressful however, as there are so many options to choose from these days.
Do you want a lightweight minimalist shoe, or something sturdier and more robust? Should you go with a dedicated running shoe, or one that is meant for cross training? There are so many things to consider that it can be overwhelming at times, especially for beginners.
But don’t fret too much. While there are plenty of things to think about when selecting the proper footwear, it isn’t as complicated as it seems. With a little knowledge and understanding, you can quickly and easily find a pair of running shoes that are right for you. Here are some tips to help you pick the best pair for your needs, both now and moving forward.
Find the Right Fit
With running shoes finding the right fit is the key to comfort.
They should be snug in the heel but still provide a minimal amount of movement. The upper portion of the shoe should not be tight in any way or it could generate hot spots that can lead to chafing or blisters. Running footwear should be wide enough so that the foot isn’t cramped or constrained, and it should have enough length to accommodate some natural swelling of the feet as you run. If any of these aspects of the shoe don’t feel right on your feet, you probably won’t enjoy running in them.
Try on Lots of Different Shoes
When you go to the store to buy your shoes be sure to try on lots of different pairs, even if you think you know exactly which ones you want.
This gives you the opportunity to experience just how different models of footwear, from different manufacturers, actually feel on your feet. You might be surprised to learn that one company makes shoes that feel much better on your feet than others for instance. Or that a brand you thought you really liked doesn’t feel as good as you had originally hoped. Subtle differences in fit and comfort can become very evident when you’re trying on multiple pairs of shoes in a short period of time. Take advantage of the opportunity and try as many as you can.
Wear Your Running Socks to the Store
To ensure you’re getting a proper fit in your new running shoes, be sure to wear the socks that you intend to run in when you go to the store. Having the right socks on while shopping will help you to avoid any surprises when go home and head out for your first run in those spiffy new kicks.
Visit a Running Specialty Shop
While big-box sporting good stores may offer lower prices, you’ll also get less personal attention too. When you start shopping for running shoes, drop by a smaller shop that specializes in meeting the needs of runners. Not only will the staff be more knowledgeable, chances are they’ll be more willing to take the time to help you find the right shoes as well. They may even have special equipment that can measure your foot and analyze your running style, which can provide invaluable insights into your specific needs.
Don’t Buy Based on Looks
Running shoe companies put a great deal of thought into the design of their products, and as a result they can often look really great. But don’t ever buy a pair of shoes based on just how nice they look, unless they also happen to feel great on your feet too. Running shoes often come in bright, sometimes garish, colors as well, which can be a bit off putting at first. But once you realize that comfort takes center stage over looks, you’ll learn that it is much better to feel good out on the road than to look good.
Take Them For a Test Run
Before you decide you’re ready to buy, ask the store clerk if it is okay to take the shoes for a short test run. You’ll be surprised how quickly you’ll be able to tell if they are the right shoes for you simply by taking a lap around the block. You wouldn’t buy a car without taking it for a test drive first, and the same logic applies to your running shoes too.
Trust Your Feet
Ultimately you will learn to trust your feet.
They’ll know when your shoes feel right and when something is off. Often times it is just a matter of trial and error when it comes to selecting the proper running shoes, but once you discover the ones that are right for you, it will almost feel like they are custom made for your feet. When you do find that particular shoe, it isn’t a bad idea to buy a couple of pairs. Manufacturers change their line-up regularly, and sometimes they’ll eliminate a certain model or radically change its design.
Having the proper footwear will help keep your feet comfortable and happy while you’re first getting started running, which is why it is so important to take your time in finding just the right shoe to fit your personal needs. The right shoe could literally be the difference in whether or not you actually enjoy your workouts and start adopting a running lifestyle.

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Go For the Gold – Serum Style

Not-so-secret confession: I’m a makeup junkie, and I’ve tried everything.
I know the best shades of pink/red/coral/nude lipstick, which tinted moisturizers have the best texture, and what primers actually extend the wear of your foundation — while also providing that ultra-radiant glow we all covet.
And I don’t discriminate. My makeup drawer houses favorites from Revlon, NARS, CoverFX, Smashbox, Laura Mercier, Neutrogena, Dior and more. If a $7 drugstore product is better than a $50 cult classic, I’ll rock it proudly — and it generally takes a lot to shake me out of my tried-and-true standbys, and get me on board a trend bandwagon.
Which is why my initial reaction to trendy serum foundation was so unusual. I smoothed Dior Diorskin Nude Air onto my face and had a “WHOA” moment.
I immediately shot off a text to my beauty-obsessed bestie. “Oh, gosh,” I gushed. “This. Serum. Foundation! I’m a goner. I’m never going back.”
While I still rock tinted moisturizer and oil-free foundation to save my skin, for special occasions, serum foundation is my jam. In case you’re unfamiliar with this latest cosmetic incarnation, here’s how to wear it, which type to choose, and the general 4-1-1:
Serum foundations looks like just like a clear serum; many come in glass bottles with liquid droppers. These gems are generally oil and silicone-centered formulas instead of the watery or powdery creations. “It appears like serum, just with coverage,” says celebrity makeup artist Marni Burton. “AKA, it’s a different texture than other foundations.” With application, the effect is liquidy smooth color that glides on, as the oil melts into skin and blurs imperfections.
Perhaps the best part of the whole serum-foundation deal is how you apply it: In my opinion, literally, it’s the only thing you need. Great formulas are long lasting, and do not require setting powder. You don’t need other tools or products for complexion correction.
“It’s important to use on bare skin for a smooth finish, as prepping your skin with moisturizer under can make it look streaky,” Burton says. ” It can be applied quickly with fingers, instead of a brush, and your skin still looks lifted.”
One step, and that’s it. A little goes a long way for coverage and glow.
The one drawback — there’s always one, right? — is that serum foundation can clog pores, cause breakouts or irritate sensitive skin types, especially if it’s oil-based. This is why these products are in my rotation, and I don’t necessarily use them everyday; while I love them, I don’t love acne flare-ups…
There are a lot of serum foundations popping up, from drugstore finds to pricier options. Burton says her go-to is Yves Saint Laurent Youth Liberator Serum Foundation. I’d also highly recommend Dior Diorskin Nude Air, if money is no object or you’re okay with the occasional cosmetic splurge.
If you’re on a budget, try Maybelline Dream Wonder Fluid-Touch Foundation for a look that’s more matte, or L’Oreal’s Visible Lift Serum Absolute Foundation for extra hydration and easy blending.
A final hint?
Along with my serum foundation, I like to add a natural pop of color to the apples cheeks with a liquid cheek stain. Try Dior Cheek & Lip Glow or Benefit Benetint for complete, smooth complexion perfection.

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Microbead Meltdown

I’ve always been an avid believer in washing my face before bed every night. Even if I’m completely exhausted I try to make an effort to give my face a rinse. The same goes for brushing my teeth. I never really thought twice about washing my face with my favorite exfoliator or brushing my teeth with my go-to toothpaste, but that’s changed since I began hearing about microbeads.

Microbeads have been all over the news recently, and their claim to fame isn’t one to be proud of. These tiny synthetic plastic particles, generally made from polyethylene, are wreaking havoc on our environment.

If you’re like me and use an exfoliator on your skin chances are you’ve come in contact with microbeads. They’re tiny pieces of plastic used as an abrasive in many personal-care and beauty products, including facial scrubs and soaps. They’re also added to makeup and toothpaste.

Yes, there could be tiny plastic pieces in some of your personal care products.

These tiny particles of plastic, barely visible to the naked eye, are added to many personal care products for texture. The microbeads found in personal care products are almost always smaller than 1 mm. The “scrub beads”, as they’re sometimes called, are thought to help exfoliate our skin and keep our teeth sparkly clean, and companies are using them because they’re cheap to produce.

What’s scary is that every time you wash your face with a product containing those tiny plastic beads they wash right down the drain. Due to their small size they end up slipping through most water treatment facilities and make their way into our oceans, lakes and streams.

Microbeads then become part of the plastic pollution found in the ocean. They’re also turning up in the tens of millions in the Great Lakes, which contain about 21% of the world’s supply of surface fresh water.

When those tiny microbeads end up in our water ways they’re often mistaken by fish and other marine life as food. The plastic pieces can poison and kill the fish when they’re

consumed.

It gets even worse from there.

As the cycle continues and fish eat other fish microbeads continue to make their way up the food chain and ultimately into the bellies of humans.

According to the Environmental Working Group, these little plastic beads sit around for a long time waiting to decompose. They have plenty of time to act as tiny toxic sponges, soaking up chemical pollutants such as phthalates and PCBs. When they’re eaten by fish they end up in the food supply.

There is some good news on the microbead front though.

Due to consumer pressure, several companies are voluntarily committing to remove microbeads from their products. According to Beat the Microbead:

In December of 2012 Unilever announced that all of its products worldwide would be plastic free by 2015. Other companies including Colgate-Palmolive, and L’Oréal L’ have stopped using microbeads. Procter & Gamble says their products will be free from microbeads by 2017 at the earliest. Johnson & Johnson says it has already started phasing out microbeads and will no longer develop products containing microbeads. Target’s goal is to remove microbeads from all their own brand products by the end of 2015.

Given the extreme dangers that microplastic pollution poses to our waterways and the environment, there are at least 15 microbead bills pending at various stages across the country.

So read your labels!

Read your labels! The microbeads used in personal care products are mainly made of polyethylene (PE). Don’t use products with PE. Also be on the lookout for products containing these ingredients: polypropylene (PP), polyethylene terephthalate (PET),  polymethyl methacrylate (PMMA) and nylon.

Head on over to Beat the Microbead for a list of brands and products to avoid and products that are microbead free.

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Ambien: Dream Come True or Nightmare Waiting to Happen?

A little more than five years ago I talked to my doctor about how I was having trouble sleeping, which lead to daily fatigue. I think it was my neurologist that initially started me on various sleep aides. I tried each of the major sleeping pills one-by-one and none seemed to help me sleep, until I tried Ambien. I’ve continued to use it off and on ever since.

I don’t use Ambien every night or even close to it, in fact it takes me six months or more to go through a 30-day supply, but if I have to be awake early in the morning, or I just can’t seem to get to sleep, I’ll take it.

I seem to go in cycles, going months without taking a single pill then taking it daily for a few weeks. I’ve been on a 10mg dose from the beginning. So, when I heard a 200lb ex-army guy talking about the trouble he had waking up from it and how he had to cut his pill in half if he wanted to get up in the morning I was really surprised. The guy is almost twice my size and I’m taking twice the amount he is. Typically, when I do take it I’m up and wide awake in eight hours (or less). I’ve rarely ever had a sleep hangover after taking Ambien.

Then a few weeks ago I overheard two women having a conversation about sleeping pills and one of them said something about Ambien interfering with REM sleep. What? That can’t be. I sleep so well when I take it and wake so refreshed I have to be getting quality sleep, including full cycles of REM.

Don’t I?

I decided to do a little research into my little bedtime buddy – Ambien. I hadn’t really done this previously because it seemed that it wasn’t causing me any negative side effects.

Interestingly, the first thing I came across was a 2013 announcement from the FDA [decreasing the recommended dosages by about half. The current recommended dosage for females is just 5mg! Half of what I’m taking. Why did they do this? Because they found that a large percentage of users were waking up with the drug still in their system leading to morning drowsiness and fatigue.

But does Ambien Interfere with REM sleep?

According to three different (albeit small) studies (Besset et al, Dujardin et al, Uchimura et al) that I found, the rumor that Ambien affects REM sleep isn’t true. In fact, it doesn’t seem to negatively alter any stage of sleep.

So, why do people think that Ambien interferes with REM sleep?

My guess is that it’s because the older and more common benzodiazepine sleep aids (eg. Valium) actually do negatively affect sleep cycles. According to the same studies mentioned previously, benzodiazepine drugs decreased both stage 3 and 4 sleep. Benzodiazepines are intended only for short-term use and have a high risk of addiction and abuse. Ambien is considered a non-benzodiazepine sleep aide, meaning that it works in a way that is similar to benzodiazepines but not quite the same.

Non-benzodiazepines (also known as Z-drugs) are not as habit-forming as benzodiazepines, although I guess I can see where anything that helps you get a good night’s sleep can eventually become habit-forming.

That’s not to say that Ambien doesn’t have other side effects. I already mentioned the potential for a sleep-hangover and morning drowsiness if you don’t get at least eight hours of sleep. But, there is also an increased risk for depression or gastric reflux. Then, there are the even worse side effects, like decreased motor control, impaired judgement, hallucinations, and even anterograde amnesia (the inability to form new memories).

There are also those who end up sleepwalking, talking, and eating while on Ambien. I had one friend that called me three times in one night to tell me the same thing. I found out the next morning that she’d decided to try to get some work done after taking Ambien and she didn’t even remember calling me.

If that’s not bad enough, a 2012 study by Kripke, Langer & Kline indicated that you are five times more likely to die of a heart attack or cancer than those not taking these drugs. Scary stuff!

Maybe it’s time to find some alternative ways of getting better sleep.

References:

Besset A, Tafti M, Villemin E, Borderies P, Billiard M. Effects of zolpidem on the architecture and cyclical structure of sleep in poor sleepers. Drugs Exp Clin Res. 1995; 21(4):161-9.

Dujardin K, Guieu JD, Leconte-Lambert C, Leconte P, Borderies P, de La Giclais B. Comparison of the effects of zolpidem and flunitrazepam on sleep structure and daytime cognitive functions. A study of untreated unsomniacs. Pharmacopsychiatry. 1998 Jan; 31(1):14-8.

Kripke, D. F., Langer, R. D., & Kline, L. E. (2012). Hypnotics’ association with mortality or cancer: a matched cohort study. BMJ open, 2(1), e000850.

Uchimura N, Nakajima T, Hayash K, Nose I, Hashizume Y, Ohyama T, Habukawa M, Kotorii N, Kuwahara H, Maeda H. Effect of zolpidem on sleep architecture and its next-morning residual effect in insomniac patients: a randomized crossover comparative study with brotizolam. Prog Neuropsychopharmacol Biol Psychiatry. 2006 Jan; 30(1):22-9.

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Silence Your Inner Mean Girl Once and For All

The need for praise starts at a young age. I’ve watched mothers feed babies and clap while exclaiming, “Yay!” when the baby accepts the mouthful happily. This is usually followed by a huge smile from the baby as she bounces and claps along. As the child ages, it takes more effort to receive the same amount of admiration. Tidying up a bedroom or drawing a pretty picture may elicit a coveted “good girl” remark from a parent.

By adolescence, the opportunities to really shine seem reduced to a perfect report card or acceptance to a good college. Somewhere in those early days, that inner mean girl begins to nag at you, telling you that you aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, thin enough, or just plain “enough” for anything your heart desires. She bullies the best of us, but if we are lucky we can figure out how to shut her up.

Here’s how it started for me …

That particular week seemed more difficult than others. I remember sitting in a team meeting at work and for no reason, tears started welling up in my eyes. I discreetly left the room so that no one would notice and hid in a corner while I cried.

What was wrong with me?

For starters, I was exhausted. I was leading a big project at work, and I felt the need to be “on” 24/7. I couldn’t remember the last time I’d taken a day off. From time to time, I’d daydream about this destination spa that I’d discovered online nearly two years prior. I could practically feel the tranquility through the photos on the website. But there was that voice telling me that I didn’t deserve the time off, shouldn’t spend the money, and that successful people didn’t need a break. My fear of completely losing it must have outweighed the negative self-talk, because I made the decision to take the week off and head for the spa.

Desperate for a little Zen, I decided in advance that I was going to become a yoga devotee during my week away. I showed up for early morning yoga on the first day and found a spot near the front of the room. Class started.

Then something happened.

Instead of the instant bliss-fix that I had counted on, all I could feel was the pain and tightness in my back, hamstrings, and hunched shoulders. I felt angry, defeated, and sad as I let my inner mean girl beat me down. “You should be able to straighten your legs and do a perfect forward bend! You should be able to relax and open your heart like the instructor is telling you,” she shouted. I actually felt anger towards the instructor, as if she was the one demanding perfection from me. I couldn’t wait to get out of there!

Shortly after that class I met Sarah, my assigned personal trainer for the week. She was nice, but I could tell she was there to prove a point. She challenged me with heavier weights and encouraged me during the interval training she had designed for my session.

That 1:1 experience was exactly what I needed. Along with a little positive reinforcement, I was able to let go and be vulnerable. I started running on my own after that meeting with Sarah, and it was during those runs that I was able to start to feel freedom from the judgement of my inner mean girl.

One of my favorite quotes is from Norman Vincent Peale and says “You change your thoughts and you change your world.” Old habits die hard, and that nagging voice doesn’t go away overnight. Here are a few things that worked for me.

1)  Practice gratitude. Start by recognizing all of the good things in your life, no matter how small. When you approach your day looking for the good, you are less likely to focus on the negative. Some people write daily in gratitude journals so they can keep track of their blessings and go back and read previous entries on tough days.

2)  Treat yourself as you would treat your best friend. Would you tell your best friend that she isn’t good enough for something or that she is a lazy slob? Of course not! The next time negative self-talk starts, try responding with the same care and kindness that you’d readily give to your best girl friend.

3)  Accept your imperfections. To err is human. In fact, the most accomplished people in the world succeeded only after first failing many times. Instead of bashing yourself for messing up, look at the experience as an opportunity to learn, to grow, and to do better next time.

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Stop Obsessing Over Calories And Start Eating Better

I have very fond childhood memories of cracking and eating walnuts, pecans, and pistachio nuts with my father. This simple yet delightful food experience followed me into young adulthood.

That is, until the day I started counting calories.       

I remember it like it was yesterday, sitting in front of a computer to complete an assignment in which I was tasked with tracking my calorie intake over the course of three days.

On day one I took in approximately 2,500 calories, largely from fruits and veggies (banana, grapefruit, and carrots), whole grain foods, and, of course, nuts.

By day two I’d clocked in about 2,000 calories, followed by another 1,500 calories on day three.

Interestingly enough, this seemingly meaningless calorie-tracking assignment actually led to my creating calorie deficits for no apparent reason. I wasn’t even trying to lose weight–it was all psychological!

I instinctively started eliminating nuts and other beneficial foods from my diet simply because they were relatively high in calories, but this only compounded the problem. In just three days, I’d become totally obsessed with the idea of calorie counting to the point that I began emphasizing calorie restriction at the expense of nutrition.

I was an undergraduate student then, but today I know a whole lot better. I’ve since reintroduced those walnuts, pecans, and pistachio nuts into my diet, along with a host of other nutritious high-calorie foods.

Unfortunately, many people aren’t as keenly aware of the potential flaws of calorie counting, especially when it comes to weight loss. In fact, numerous dieters and weight watchers are totally obsessed with the notion of calorie counting, often to the point where good nutrition no longer matters.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people shun a 200-calorie portion of nuts or a 150-calorie portion of carrots, opting instead for a 100-calorie cookie or snack pack because of the calorie difference.

Whether it’s pretzels, fruit juice, flavored waters, baked chips, low-fat ice cream, or fat-free salad dressings, devoted calorie counters now have unlimited access to “low-calorie” products. And many people unknowingly perceive these foods as healthier solely because they’re lower in calories.

Now, I’ll be the first to admit that successful weight loss can only be achieved by creating calorie deficits.

The logic here is pretty straightforward.

There are 3,500 calories in one pound of fat; thus, if you want to lose weight you must create a 3,500-calorie deficit per pound. As an example, a daily restriction of 500 calories will lead to a weight loss of one pound a week.

Still, while losing weight is primarily a matter of creating deficits, you can successfully manage your weight and substantially improve your health by simply eating a wide range of nutritious foods.

Remember: The body craves nutrients, not calories.

When it comes to healthy eating in general, a common misconception is that calorie control alone is key, which often leads people to focus solely on counting calories.

In reality, creating calorie deficits will almost always lead to short-term weight loss. However, obsessing over calories may cause you to lose sight of good nutrition, thereby inadvertently starving yourself of valuable health-promoting nutrients.

There are, in fact, countless nutritious foods that carry relatively high calorie counts, such as whole grains, legumes, and healthy fats. These foods also collectively contain all-natural chemicals that can greatly boost your weight loss efforts by revving up your metabolism, optimizing digestion, and reducing fat absorption and storage.

In truth, a diet emphasizing sensible portions of such high-quality foods will likely eliminate the need for calorie counting altogether.                     

Indeed, eating a diet that’s rich in high-fiber carbohydrates, healthy fats, and lean protein can substantially boost your body’s natural fat-burning mechanisms while also helping to reduce cravings, curb hunger, and control appetite. These actions make it much easier to eat less and ultimately lose more weight.

I can personally attest to this, as I’ve been able to effortlessly manage a healthy body weight for years by simply tracking my daily servings of veggies, fruits, whole grains, healthy fats, and lean protein, as opposed to just counting calories.

A 200-calorie portion of walnuts will always be more nutritious than a 100-calorie snack pack.  

At the end of the day, it’s important to eat sensibly by keeping tabs on both your calorie and nutrient intake. Exercising portion control is also critical, as too much of a good thing can surely lead to weight gain and other health problems.

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12 Thoughts That Go Through Every Dieter's Mind

As a trainer who is constantly having new clients joining our weight loss boot camps every few weeks, I get a lot of experience with new dieters. The newbies show up just as terrified about going on a new diet as they are starting a new workout program.

There is a process of thoughts that goes through almost every new dieter’s head. First they have to be literally convinced dieting is a good idea. Then once they actually decide to take the plunge, the mind continues to spin with thoughts, doubts, fears and questions. Success will require continual convincing to just stick with it.

Here are my top 12 thoughts every new dieter ponders.

Contemplation Mode

1. I’ve tried it all, and nothing works.

Many people will try just about anything but doing the right (and harder) thing. They will go from one doctor to the next in search for answers. They’ll try fad diets, pills, trainers, “As Seen On TV” gimmicks and pretty much anything but changing their lifestyle.

If you want to succeed, you must be open to the idea (even if you have tried your best in the past) that you may have not done everything right. Once you can accept you might have done it wrong, you can learn how to do it right.

2. I already eat healthy.

If your diet is already perfect, you probably wouldn’t be thinking about dieting. If you are not happy with your current weight, then you need to make some changes no matter how “healthy” you are eating.

Most people don’t realize how many calories they are eating, even if they are healthy calories. They don’t realize how many calories their salad has once they add all the cheese, nuts, Craisins, and dressing. They may have never truly weighed or measured anything so they really don’t have an idea of correct portions.

If you think you already eat healthy, start logging your calories every day for seven days. Chances are, you’ll discover you are eating way more calories than you imagined. Then you’ll be ready to diet.

3. I don’t eat that much.

This person may not deny they eat pizza, but they are truly convinced they don’t eat that much. They brag about how they only eat once a day and they justify eating big meals since they eat so little the rest of the day.

My mom was like this. She would binge, and then starve herself the next day out of guilt. Her body was so confused. Ironically, people who eat one meal a day tend to eat more in one sitting because they are starving by the time they do sit down to eat, plus they are slowing their metabolism down by starving their body the rest of the day. It’s a double whammy.

My mom was shocked she could actually lose weight eating five to six times a day. She ate fewer calories that way than she did when she ate one big meal, and she had so much more energy all day long.

Diet Mode

4. I have no idea how to diet.

Just because you have no clue how to diet is no excuse not to try. You can fail all the way to success if you allow yourself to learn along the way. No one starts eating healthy automatically. They learn how to eat healthy. As you read labels, weigh food, measure food, and track calories, you learn to make better choices.

But if you refuse to take the time to learn, then you are refusing to get the results you want.

5. I wish someone would tell me what to eat.

Think about dieting like going to school. Someone can tell you the answers to a test, and you can even pass, but you won’t learn anything. Dieting should be a learning process. If you rely on someone to tell you what to eat, you are setting yourself up for long-term failure.

6. I’ll tell people I’m dieting once I lose some weight first.

Most people who are lifetime dieters don’t want to tell their friends they are dieting again. They are afraid of failing publicly or being judged. However, these same people need even more accountability.

If you haven’t told anyone about your goals, that is a red flag. If you are trying to diet in secret, you are just making it more comfortable to fail. Tell your family and friends. Shoot, put it on Facebook and tell the whole world. The more people who know, the more accountability you have to help you stick with it.

7. I hope this works.

Every new dieter goes in a diet with a certain level of reluctance. Most dieters are somewhat skeptical about diet plans because most people have tried other diets and failed. Some people doubt the system, but most people doubt themselves. The key to success here is to focus on the facts. If you are starting a healthy diet based on sound principles (you aren’t doing some off-the-wall fad diet), you can expect results. You can have great confidence your diet will work for you just like it has worked for others.

8. I shouldn’t have to count calories.

People constantly ask me how to lose weight. I guess they think I’m going to give them a new secret , but as soon as I talk calories they immediately tune me out. Their eyes glaze over and are already thinking of what they are going to ask me next because they have no intentions of counting calories.

Counting calories sounds like work–because it is work. However, our weight is directly related to calories in vs. calories out.  Even though there are other ways to lose weight, no gimmicks, tricks, or shortcuts will teach you how to manage your weight like counting calories. You don’t have to count calories forever, but what you will learn will last a lifetime.

9. There has to be an easier way.

Anyone can do something for a short while, but eventually, a new dieter will be tempted to quit or start looking for an easier way. Quick fixes are temporary and will not fix bad behavior. Changing bad habits requires practicing a healthy lifestyle (key word: practice). A quick fix is temporary. Unless you want temporary results, you need to be patient and invest wisely in your long-term health.

10. I should be losing more weight.

Many new dieters are surprised when they get on the scale and they haven’t lost weight. This is common for people who are dieting and starting a new workout routine at the same time. When you start working out, you hold more water and glycogen in the muscle causing your muscle to have an initial increase in weight. However, this will eventually level out. If your diet is right, it will eventually be reflected on the scale too.

Sadly, many people ignore the scale. If the scale isn’t budging, don’t fool yourself into believing you are still being successful. You may need to readjust your calories or fitness plan. Whatever you do, do not settle for a scale that doesn’t budge. Continue to troubleshoot until you get the results you want.

11. Maybe I need to eat more…

Let me just answer this one for you. No. Seriously? “If this was the case,” as my husband always says, “then you just solved world hunger.” You don’t see people on “Survivor” gaining weight, do you? Of course not. Why? Because they aren’t eating enough! They get skinnier and skinnier in every episode. Sadly, however, people actually think they may not be eating enough despite the fact they not losing weight–or worse, they are gaining it.

Like every myth, there’s often some truth to every misconception. There was probably some kind of article about eating more to lose weight, but I doubt it was talking about eating more calories. If you aren’t losing weight, you probably don’t need to eat more, but you may need to eat more often. As you increase how often you eat, you can boost your metabolism…and your weight loss.

12. I can’t wait until this is over.

One of the biggest mistakes a dieter can make is fixating on the diet being over. Don’t get me wrong, dieting isn’t forever. But being disciplined w
ith good eating habits should never end. Eating healthy and holding yourself accountable should never end. Can you celebrate your weight loss with a big cheat meal? Sure! However, you should continue to practice your new healthy lifestyle daily.

I like to compare dieting with budgeting money. Even if you pay off all your bills, you don’t just stop balancing your bank account and start piling on the charges. In the same way, you need to realize you are always accountable for what you eat. Your weight is the balance of what comes in and what goes out. Sometimes you can be stricter about sticking to a budget, and sometimes you can splurge, but you should never be “off.”