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American Parenting Practices That Seem Weird To The Rest Of The World

Americans have many rituals around parenting that we might not even consider to be a little strange—like baby showers, for instance, where grown women fawn over baby booties and sniff diapers full of smashed candy bars. But the weirdness of American parenting goes far beyond baby showers.
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There are many parenting practices that Americans employ that the rest of the world finds just downright strange. From helicopter parenting to potty-training to the support networks we offer new mothers, here are some of the ways that American parenting differs vastly from the rest of the world.

Too Much of a Good Thing

Sarah Baldwin, early childhood educator, author, and owner of Bella Luna Toys from Rockland, Maine, has traveled the world observing parents and visiting schools, where she has noticed that American parenting styles are very different from other parts of the world. She says that each culture has its own parenting style, but Americans alone stand out for the amount of coddling that they do.
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“We want to do everything for them, and don’t want to see them struggle or suffer,” she explains.
She gives the example of American parents who may carry a toddler instead of letting them walk by themselves (guilty), a mother dressing a 3- or 4-year-old who is capable of dressing themselves, parents doing much or all of a child’s homework, and parents bailing teenagers out of bad situation caused by reckless behavior instead of allowing them to face the consequences of their decision.
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In Baldwin’s opinion, American parents coddling their children is not only strange, but it’s also harmful, unfortunately, because it restricts their opportunity to learn. “Allowing children to struggle and work through challenges is what allows children to grow and develop into capable and self-confident adults,” she notes.

Where’s the work ethic?

When I ask my kids to pick up their own toys, from their reaction, you would think I have just asked them to shovel snow in the middle of a blizzard.
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Instead of an expectation that work is part of life, American children often are either not expected to do chores of any kind (including taking care of their own belongings) or are bribed with money, reward “tickets,” or other incentives to do basic tasks.
Contrast that to other cultures, Baldwin points out, and you see a stark difference.
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“In Latin America, Africa, and [developing] countries, it is typical to see very young children doing real work and helping their parents in the home, or on the farm,” she says. “They are strong and capable. [And] in Europe, grade school–age children will often be working in the family business.”

Drowning in Stuff

We recently decided to put our house up for sale, and I had to clear out about 75 percent of my kids’ toys to get our house ready for showing. Imagine my surprise when they didn’t even notice that their most beloved possessions had mysteriously disappeared.
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They have so many toys that they truly didn’t notice when they had gone missing. Even when I am attempting to be purposeful about my children’s toys, well-meaning family and friends can lavish gifts on our children and they quickly add up.
Even Baldwin (who makes a living selling toys) believes that American children have far more toys than they can even play with.
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“I firmly believe that less is more, and that a few thoughtful, well-made toys are more beneficial to a child than a room full of shelves, toy boxes, and closets full of toys, which create an over-stimulating environment,” she explains. “In other cultures, Christmas is not the big materialistic and commercial holiday that it is in the U.S.”

Parental Involvement

Ivette García Dávila, 38, a podcaster and author of I’m The One Pushing: A Practical and Renegade Guide to Choosing Your Own Motherhood Adventure from Los Angeles, California, grew up in Puerto Rico but now raises her three (soon-to-be four) children with her husband, who’s from the state of Georgia. So she has had plenty of hands-on experience in seeing the differences between U.S.–based American parenting and that of other cultures.
Dávila also notes that the word “American” has been appropriated by the United States, when in reality, America encompasses all of North, Central, and South America.
So although she was raised with “American” parenting, the Caribbean–Hispanic community she grew up in has many cultures and subcultures influenced by heritage (Spanish, Native, and African), geography, and social status that differ in parenting approaches and customs.
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According to Dávila, there is a notable difference in how hands-on and involved U.S. fathers are in the raising of their children. She says her father never changed a diaper, fed a baby, or lifted a finger for any family meals, for example.
Because of this, many other cultures become more matriarchal, with mothers and a network of women responsible for all things in the family. And while having fathers more involved is not a bad thing for obvious reasons, Dávila does add that it also seems to lead to one unforeseen consequence…

Support Network

Because child-rearing is viewed as an individual responsibility rather than a collective responsibility, Dávila has noticed that as compared to other cultures, U.S. mothers are left very unsupported, something that many mothers could definitely attest to.
“In matriarchal society, women in the community ‘pitch in’ to raise the kids,” she explains.
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“Being raised in Puerto Rico, I was always surrounded by many helping hands amongst neighbors and cousins. My grandmother took care of all hemming and lice picking, my aunts divvied up the museum and park trips, and I spent just as much time eating my neighbor’s food as my own. In fact, we called our neighbor ‘titi’ (auntie). I find parenting in the US at times isolating. Even though I have a great mom community, there’s an unspoken rule that everyone only takes care of their own children. Perhaps everyone is just a little more overwhelmed.”

Helicoptering and Hovering

Despite her Puerto Rican roots, Dávila has still been influenced by American styles of parenting, and she notes that having her daughter go to a French preschool with many European families has helped to further open her eyes to how different American parenting is, especially when it comes to hovering and helicoptering.
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She gives the example of one European mother who thinks nothing of leaving her three children sleeping alone at home while she and her husband stroll the neighborhood—even though her oldest is only 6.

What’s for dinner?

In other cultures, children might happily scarf down some fresh fish for dinner or munch on some greens for an after-school snack, but many children in the U.S. clamor for packaged crackers and expect that their parents will cook an entirely different meal for them at their whim.
It’s one of my personal least favorite aspects of American parenting and yes, I am entirely guilty of it. (Case in point: Last night, I made not one, not two, but three different meals for my children.)
“Another thing I’ve noticed is that the U.S. has a preference for pre-packaged everything when it comes to food,” adds Dávila.
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“This also translates into dinner—most U.S. households make a special meal just for the kids. I’m not saying I don’t ever feed my daughter chicken nuggets and sweet potato fries, but from very early on, on most nights she eats what we’re eating. Period.”

Take your time.

There is a philosophy that many of us have as Americans that it’s harmful to force our children into potty training, but in other cultures, teaching a kid to use the toilet is not viewed as a negative thing at all.
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“We allow children to stay in diapers for way longer than in European cultures, who start sitting kids in potties before they can walk or talk,” Dávila explains.

The Takeaway

There are many ways in which American parenting practices differ from those of other cultures. That’s not to say that any one way is right or wrong, but only that they are often very different. When we examine our differences as parents, we can come to the realization that even though everyone around us may seem to parent the same way, we still have the choice to do what works best for us.
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By educating ourselves on other cultural parenting practices, we can more clearly choose to employ different strategies (such as more hands-off parenting), creating a wider network of support for over-stressed and under-supported parents while still embracing other aspects of typical “American” parenting (such as involved dual parenting).
The beauty of becoming a parent is that you, no one else, gets to choose what works best for your own family, no matter where you happen to live.

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5 Conversations All Couples Should Have Before Having Kids, According To 6 Therapists (And A Lawyer)

I love babies. I have wanted to be a mother ever since I can remember. I knew that when I wound up getting married, my partner would have to feel the same.
That’s why, when things got serious with my now-husband, we had a frank conversation about kids.

You have to try and find that balance. Take care of both yourselves as a couple and your children’s needs, and that greatly improves the happiness factor for the entire family.

We both agreed that we wanted children and decided that after we got married, we wanted to start a family immediately. Fortunately, we agreed on most topics: religious preference, public vs. private schools, how we’d divide time between grandparents, etc. But many couples don’t see eye to eye on these topics, and what’s worse is they often don’t realize how out of alignment they are until children enter the picture and the issues come up.
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This can be especially hard on kids, who get caught in the middle when parents disagree on important issues. Lisa Helfend Meyer, certified specialist in family law and founding partner of Los Angeles–based Meyer, Olson, Lowy & Meyers, weighs in: “I have seen other situations when parents don’t see eye to eye on such things as discipline. One sets limits and the other doesn’t.”
She goes on to tell HealthyWay, “These kids can end up in therapeutic boarding schools, have eating disorders, substance abuse problems, are self-injurious etc.”
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“I’ve seen the negative outcomes when too much emphasis is placed on one [parenting choice] or the other. You have to try and find that balance. Take care of both yourselves as a couple and your children’s needs, and that greatly improves the happiness factor for the entire family,” says Dr. Gary Brown, a marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles who works with couples who are contemplating pregnancy, already expecting, or are new parents.

Have a frank conversation about kids with your partner.

It can be hard, but couples should be completely open and honest with each other when discussing whether they want to have kids.

If couples cannot come to agreement about non-negotiable issues, they should consider getting professional help before getting pregnant. A professional may help them find a solution…

Elisabeth Stitt of Joyful Parenting Coaching says, “Couples should not only talk about big issues, they should talk about lower level details as much as they are able, as well. Obviously, it can be hard to know how you feel about some these things before you actually have kids, but exploring issues thoroughly is the best chance for couples to find out if there are any non-negotiable issues.
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“If couples cannot come to agreement about non-negotiable issues, they should consider getting professional help before getting pregnant. A professional may help them find a solution—or may help the couple see that though they love each other, their ideas on how to undertake the most important task they will do as a couple are so different, the relationship is likely to break under the strain (which sets kids up for the stresses of divorce, two households, etc.).”
Therapist Kelley Kitley agrees that couples can benefit from professional professional help when having tough conversations.
However you decide to approach a conversation about having children with your partner, relationship experts recommend asking these key questions to determine whether you’re ready to start a family.

1. What is the honest state of our relationship?

Brown recommends answering the following question together: “Is our relationship firmly established and stable enough to bring a baby into the world? Or, are we a high-conflict couple that maybe needs to get some help before we even think about bringing a baby into the world?”
This can be a tough conversation to have with your partner, so Kitley suggests reading The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. “It helps to lay the foundation and manage expectations about how we give and receive love that oftentimes can create conflict during the initial stages of having a baby.”
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Brown continues, “When building a home you want to make sure you have a solid foundation. Right?! Well, having a family is the same thing. In much the same way, having these early … conversations helps to build the foundation of your future family. It’s important because you and your partner need to come to some understandings about how you both view parenting, including not only the impact of parenting on your future children but also the potential impact on your marriage.”

2. Are we financially ready for a child?

Unfortunately, bringing your little bundle of joy into the world comes with a hefty price tag. The average total cost of raising a child through the age of 18 is just over $200,000! Many couples are on the same page about wanting children but aren’t prepared financially.

Instead of grabbing sushi after working past nine, one or both of you have to leave the office and relieve the nanny or pick up from daycare.

New York–based therapist Dr. Kimberly Hershenson recommends that couples “look at current finances and future earning potential as well as future goals such as where they would like to live. The age of the couple should also be discussed. Based on these factors, the couple can decide when they’d like to ideally start trying … how much money they would need to feel secure in terms of family planning.”
Meyer says that there are also emotional implications tied to the financial strain of having children. “Having a child means lots of sacrifices and compromises. No longer can you spend your discretionary income on romantic getaways to Bora Bora. Instead of grabbing sushi after working past nine, one or both of you have to leave the office and relieve the nanny or pick up from daycare.”
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If you aren’t ready to make those kinds of sacrifices or you already resent the lifestyle change a child would bring, Meyer recommends waiting to start a family until both partners are emotionally ready to make these financial changes.

3. How will we make time for ourselves after we have a child?

Many couples don’t realize just how dramatically life changes after having children.

If couples are not purposeful about their time together without the children, this will be a real problem after the last one leaves the nest.

Family therapist Thomasine Shepard says, “Having a baby takes a toll on marriages, and talking about how a couple will stay connected is crucial and often overlooked because parents are understandably focused on baby only.”
Dr. Jim Seibold, a family therapist based in Arlington, Texas, recommends couples discuss how they plan to balance couple and family time. “This is such an important discussion for future parents to have. [Making couple time a priority] is a challenge as long as children are living at home. When they are young, there is often a hesitancy to leave the children at home with a family member or babysitter.
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“Often couples will presume that it will get easier as the kids get older. However, as they get older, they become more involved with outside activities—sports, dance, music, friends spending the night, etc. If couples are not purposeful about their time together without the children, this will be a real problem after the last one leaves the nest.”

4. What kind of birth experience do we want to have?

Seibold says couples should ask themselves,“How do we want to have kids?” before even thinking about what labor and delivery will be like.

…what if their preference is no longer an option? For example, if a couple is unable to conceive naturally, are they open to adoption, IVF, surrogate, etc.?

He continues, “There are several options that are available to people. Of course none of which are guarantees! Would couples prefer to have children biologically or would they rather adopt or foster children? In addition, what if their preference is no longer an option? For example, if a couple is unable to conceive naturally, are they open to adoption, IVF, surrogate, etc.? It would be important that couples understand each other’s expectations here.”
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Once you decide how you will start your family, you and your partner can move on to discussing what you envision for the actual birth experience if you plan to have biological children. Will you see an OB-GYN or a midwife? Will you deliver with or without medication? Will you hire a doula to assist with labor? How about breastfeeding? While many couples let the future mama dictate the birth process (and she should be vocal about what she wants!) partners should take joint ownership of bringing their child into the world.

5. How involved will our parents be?

Ah, grandparents. Parents and in-laws each want their time with the grandkids. Even if you have a great relationship with your parents and in-laws, splitting time between so many people can be difficult. Not to mention how you’ll handle situations in which grandparents ignore your parenting rules (like no sugar before bedtime!), so it’s important to discuss how involved grandparents or other extended family will be in your future child’s life.

…focus on having fulfilling relationships with your family.

“This can be a trouble spot when couples come from different family types. For example, one parent comes from a family that is very close and involved. They grow up spending a lot of time with each other. On the other hand, the other parent grows up in a more disconnected family. They may only get together occasionally. This can also become a point of contention between parents, whether it is about how much time they spend together informally or differing expectations about holiday time,” says Seibold.
Ultimately, Hershenson says couples must “find acceptance in your decision regarding children.”
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If you and your partner disagree on key parenting topics, it doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t ready for children or that your relationship is doomed. Hershenson continues, “What you can change is your attitude. Find gratitude in what you do have in your life (family, career) and focus on having fulfilling relationships with your family.”

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10 Activities For Kids That Promote Creativity And Learning

“Educational toys” might sound like an oxymoron to your school-age kids, but you know that’s not the case. Whether they believe it or not, kids can have fun while being productive, and these days, there are plenty of toys, books, and activity kits that set out to facilitate learning and creativity.
We’re talking about stuff like…

1. The STEM Reads Book Club

The STEM Reads Book Club subscription box is packed full of reading material for kids interested in science, technology, engineering, and math. Each box contains two books, customized learning activities, and one surprise item.

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2. Snap Circuits Electronics Discovery Kit

Kids will have fun building functional circuits while learning all about electricity with the Snap Circuits Kit.

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Buy the kit from Amazon.

3. Amazing Bacteria Science Kit

Hey, what’s more fun than bacteria? Your kid will love to learn about microorganisms with the Amazing Bacteria Kit, which, fortunately, comes with a hand sanitizer spray. Take samples from items around your home and see what grows.

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Get this bio-research kit from Amazon.

4. Spangler Science Club

With the Spangler Science Club, your kids can conduct challenging, hands-on science experiments at home. The monthly kit explores different scientific fields while prompting kids to think about their experiments in a constructive way.

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Sign up for the club on CrateJoy for $9.99.

5. ThinkFun Math Dice Jr.

The Math Dice Jr. game is a fun way to teach early math skills. Roll the 12-sided die to get your target number, then roll the other five dice; use addition or subtraction to reach the target number.

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6. Crystal Mining Kit

Discover buried crystals with the KidzLabs Crystal Mining Kit. The kit comes with one large plaster rock containing eight crystals. Your kids will feel like real-life geologists, and the cleanup’s not too bad.

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Buy the kit from Amazon.

7. Laser Pegs Car Building Set

This kit allows kids to build their own light-up car that really moves. All Laser Peg pieces also fit together with other building blocks from major brands like Lego, so the creative possibilities are pretty much endless.

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8. The Magic School Bus Chemistry Lab

Stay busy for hours with the Magic School Bus Chemistry Lab. The kit contains 51 experiments and a notebook for recording observations.

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9. The Genius Box

Inspire your little genius. The Genius Box brings brand-new STEM activities to your door each month, and each experiment is designed to promote problem-solving skills.

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10. My First Lab Microscope

The My First Lab Duo-Scope Microscope is the winner of the Top Toy Award from Creative Child Magazine. It’s a real scientific tool, and the included materials teach young scientists how to use it effectively. Plus, it’s much less expensive than a laboratory model.

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How Pregnancy Changes A Woman's Brain Structure

When I was a kid, I shared a room with my baby brother and routinely slept through his nighttime crying. In college, I was profiled by the campus newspaper for my impressive napping skills. To say I am a heavy sleeper is a bit of an understatement.
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That all went out the window the second I became a mother, though. Even in the post-labor exhaustion of the first night alone in our hospital room, I woke in a panic at the slightest sound from our son’s bassinet. The immediate physical and emotional connection I felt with him flabbergasted me. I’d never experienced anything like it before.
Now I know there’s a reason for my newfound sleeplessness, one that can’t be blamed solely on pesky nighttime feedings.
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A recent study by Elseline Hoekzema and colleagues, published in the journal Nature Neuroscience, showed that significant, long-lasting changes occur in a woman’s brain during pregnancy.

Baby, you’re always on my mind.

Because the effects of pregnancy on the human brain have not been studied in-depth, Hoekzema set out to discover what actually happens inside a woman’s brain during pregnancy.
According to the study’s abstract, Hoekzema’s research showed “that pregnancy renders substantial changes in brain structure, primarily reductions in gray matter (GM) volume in regions subserving social cognition. …Furthermore, the GM volume changes of pregnancy predicted measures of postpartum maternal attachment, suggestive of an adaptive process serving the transition into motherhood.”
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Women experience a significant reduction in gray matter during their teenage years as well, which scientists attribute to a surge in sex hormones during adolescence. According to the study, “In adolescence, these GM reductions are … generally regarded as an essential process of fine-tuning connections into functional networks and is thought to represent a refinement and specialization of brain circuitry, which is critical for healthy cognitive, emotional and social development.”
As a result of the study, scientists concluded that increased hormones during pregnancy cause women to experience a similar reduction in gray matter volume in the association areas of the cerebral cortex, which are responsible for forming social attachments.
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Dr. Jaime Knopman, cofounder of Truly, MD and Director of Fertility Preservation at Colorado Center for Reproductive Medicine New York, tells HealthyWay, “These changes appear to persist for up to two years post-delivery. Although it is not totally clear why these changes occur, it is thought that these changes help [women] respond to their babies and adapt to motherhood.”
As Knopman notes, these changes can last well into the postpartum period. While Hoekzema only studied postpartum women for two years, the effects of pregnancy on a woman’s brain could actually last much longer. In an animal study, rats experienced permanent changes in the brain long after pregnancy.
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Hoekzema’s report also explains that a loss of gray matter does not mean loss of brain function. In fact, the greater the gray matter reduction, the stronger a woman bonded with her baby postpartum. This effect was not observed in new fathers or in either women or men who recently adopted new babies.

Forget something? Blame it on baby brain.

While I was pregnant, I was notoriously forgetful. I’d get to the grocery store and realize I’d left my purse at home. This forgetfulness has only gotten worse since my son was born. Just last week I brewed the morning coffee, only to find hot coffee pooling on the floor and the pot sitting where I’d left it by the sink.
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Knopman explains, “While pregnancy has its most visible impact on your belly, it can have a significant impact on all parts of your body—including your brain. Yes, pregnancy brain is not a joke! …Pregnancy is dominated by hormones—estrogen and progesterone levels soar during this period. The surge in these hormones [has] been correlated with the change in structural and organizational changes in the brain.”
Dr. Angela Jones, Astroglide’s resident sexual health advisor, agrees. “I see [pregnancy brain] on a pretty daily basis, expectant moms not being able to remember the questions they were going to ask me at a particular visit: ‘Sorry, it’s pregnancy brain.’ I think it is a great start in recognizing just how dynamic pregnancy is and all of the potential systems that are affected. With all the hormonal fluctuations [and] surges characteristic of pregnancy, it’s nice to have some semblance of an explanation as to what exactly is going on and why we experience ‘pregnancy brain.’”
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Knopman continues, “While theoretically a change in gray matter could contribute to the brain fog frequently experienced during and after pregnancy, scientists have long thought that the mental changes experience are due to a rise in hormone (estrogen and progesterone) and their impact on brain neuronal circuits.”
The study didn’t definitively correlate the brain fog pregnant women commonly experience with reduced gray matter in the brain, but it didn’t rule out the possibility that the two are connected, either.
Hoekzema concluded that GM reduction in certain parts of a woman’s brain helps promote bonding between mother and child. Similarly, Knopman says that the brain fog women experience postpartum “is a way to forget all else and focus on your baby—simply stated, an evolutionary response to think about nothing but your newborn.”

Help your evolutionary biology sync with your modern mama life.

If you’re walking around in a bit of a haze during the last trimester, there are a few things you can do to sharpen your memory. During those last weeks of pregnancy, I wanted nothing more than to lie on the couch and eat Dairy Queen Blizzards that my husband dutifully walked down the block to get.
The absolute last thing I wanted to do was walk with him to get my frozen treat. However, a nightly walk could have done more than satisfy my sweet tooth. According to my OB-GYN’s office, exercise can actually help sharpen your memory. Unless you’re Serena Williams, most doctors recommend pregnant women get 30 minutes of light cardio, like walking or swimming, daily.
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My doctor also suggested taking naps throughout the day to reduce the amount of brain fog I experienced. Considering I woke up to use the restroom approximately a dozen times a night, coupled with the fact that it is nearly impossible to find a comfortable sleeping position when pregnant, this nap prescription was not hard to follow.
Plus, now that my son is born, naps are a thing of the past. My advice? Nap away, and don’t feel guilty about it!

Can you avoid the baby blues?

Postpartum mood disorders such as depression affect up to 1.3 million women annually. Jones says, “It’s completely normal for any new mom to experience what is called postpartum blues. Postpartum blues is characterized by feeling overwhelmed, anxiety, periods of tearfulness, mood swings, etc. and usually has its onset two to three days post delivery and can last up to two weeks.”
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I, for one, experienced the baby blues when we brought my son home from the hospital. Everything, and I do mean everything, made me weepy. Commercials, a certain song on the radio, even an episode of The Golden Girls reduced me to tears. The self-care information I was given at hospital checkout said this is standard for most women as hormone levels fluctuate and their bodies return to “normalcy” following delivery.
However, Jones explains that baby blues that last longer than two weeks aren’t normal.
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Postpartum depression is [often] overlooked and attributed to postpartum blues. The difference is, postpartum blues typically resolves … if more than two weeks have passed and you are still feeling sad, overwhelmed, having difficulty bonding with baby, crying all the time, having difficulty sleeping, not eating, feeling depressed, withdrawn, not enjoying activities that routinely bring you pleasure, feeling inadequate … the list goes on and on, you should see your OB-GYN immediately.”
Hoekzema’s study may be able to predict if a woman is more likely to develop postpartum depression. Researchers’ findings “indicated that the GM volume changes of pregnancy significantly predicted the quality of mother-to-infant attachment and the absence of hostility.”
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The study goes on: “To further investigate the possibility of an adaptive restructuring to facilitate aspects of motherhood, we examined the observed brain changes in relation to indices of maternal caregiving. Multivariate regression analyses using the three dimensions of the Maternal Postnatal Attachment Scale demonstrated that the GM volume changes of pregnancy significantly predicted quality of mother-to-infant attachment and the absence of hostility toward her newborn in the postpartum period.
“In addition, a substantial overlap was observed between the GM tissue undergoing volume reductions across pregnancy and the brain areas of strongest neural responsivity to pictures of the women’s babies in a postpartum MRI session. Taken together, our findings provide preliminary support for an adaptive refinement of social brain structures that benefits the transition into motherhood.”
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In layman’s terms, the study suggests that women who do not experience significant reduction in gray matter volume experience greater difficulty forming attachments to their babies, which may increase the likelihood that they will experience postpartum mood disorders.
“While this study doesn’t come close to being able to draw definitive conclusions such as if changes noted are lasting, or treatment options for possible links to affected areas of the brain, specifically postpartum depression … I think it is a great start in recognizing just how dynamic pregnancy is,” says Jones.
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With just under 4 million babies born each year in the United States, the research Hoekzema and her colleagues are conducting is just the beginning of what scientists and doctors can learn about pregnancy’s effect on a woman’s body, long after labor and delivery.

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Why Concussion Doctors Are Warning Parents About Enrolling Kids In Contact Sports

For parents, it’s a difficult question to address: Should children be allowed to play contact sports?
According to a report from The Chicago Tribune, participation in youth football leagues has drastically declined in recent years. Parents say they’re worried for the health of their children.
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“It certainly doesn’t help that concussion is on a lot of moms’ minds,” Adam Campbell, who runs Chicago’s Canaryville Lions football program, told The Chicago Tribune. “And I’m hearing it from dads who are saying, ‘I played but I don’t want my kids to play.'”
And some doctors say that those parents have the right idea.
“We need to develop more brain-friendly, healthier types of sports,” Dr. Bennet Omalu, a forensic pathologist, told TODAY. “We have elevated sports to the level of a religion. We’re in denial of the truth.”
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Omalu, an accomplished physician who consulted on the Will Smith film Concussion, believes that the safest course of action is to pull kids out of dangerous sports, encouraging participation in non-contact sports like tennis and track instead.
A 2013 study published by the Radiological Society of North America showed that a single concussion can cause lasting structural brain damage, and the National Football League has acknowledged the connection between football and chronic traumatic encephalopathy.
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As the evidence against contact sports stacks up, parents are reacting.

Other experts say that contact sports are okay for kids—as long as proper precautions are implemented.

Writing for the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital blog, pediatrician Dr. Greg Myer noted that instances of concussion probably aren’t increasing—we’re simply getting better at recognizing sports-related brain injuries.
Meyer writes that “some families have been scared into paralysis and are choosing to keep their kids out of sports altogether.” He goes on to say, “My advice to those parents is: please don’t be afraid to let kids play sports.”
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Roger Blake, executive director of the California Interscholastic Federation, seems to agree with that assessment.
“Think of how far we have come in the last 20 to 30 years when it comes to concussion awareness, tackling techniques, equipment,” Blake told Sports Illustrated. “And yet we’re still having these discussions about declining participation and safety concerns.”
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Doctors and scientists are working on new safety equipment to limit the risks of concussions. Myer, for example, is innovating an experimental concussion prevention collar that has performed well in trials.
“The most important implication is I want our kids to be able to play sports and feel safe from injury,” said Myer. “Best case scenario, we keep our kids staying active and playing sports. Secondly, being able to play a sport without the fear of injury. That’s what makes me most excited.”
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In the meantime, parents should research sports carefully, talk to coaches, and invest in high-quality protective equipment. Parents should also learn to recognize the common symptoms of concussions, including headaches, feelings of pressure in the head, ringing in the ears, nausea, slurred speech, fatigue, and confusion. Younger children may also display irritability or listlessness.
“Please don’t let a headline in a newspaper or a reporter on TV make the decision for you,” Myer said. “Concussions in kids are a problem—don’t get me wrong. But the lifelong benefits of being active and playing sports at a young age far outweigh the risks of your child possibly becoming injured.”

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Here's Why You Should Seriously Put More Thought Into Your Baby's Name

Exciting news! You’re pregnant!
That means a little bundle of joy is on the way, and you have the weighty task of not only making sure you have researched baby products and chosen a great care provider for yourself, but also finding the perfect name for your new baby.
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But, what exactly does “perfect” mean?
Perhaps you’ve had a name chosen since childhood—I personally adored the names Chrysanthemum and Leslie during my elementary days, inspired by my favorite book characters. Or maybe you and your spouse agreed during the excited planning part of your early relationship what your first son or daughter would be called. This is the boat my sister is in with her husband, although they have yet to share what those perfect names are.
(Come on, sister. I need to start my embroidery project!)
If unique is the goal, I bet you’re considering a wide variety of special names, whether it be the name itself, the spelling, or the pronunciation. But maybe, just maybe, you’re at a loss, and either can’t agree with your spouse or can’t seem to get the right feeling about any particular moniker. If that’s you, don’t fret. Choosing a name is an important decision, but it definitely isn’t the end of the world.

Generally speaking, it seems that parents are on the lookout for special names for their children. They want something that stands out and speaks to the amazing individual they are now and will become. I know quite a few moms and dads who use the social security registry as their guide for gauging uniqueness. If a name they are considering is part of the top 100, count it out!
When California mom Reina Tahai was pregnant, she used two guiding principles when choosing a baby name—uniqueness and tradition. She says, “I have a pretty unique name and so does my son, Maziar. I think it has helped me. I stand out and I think my son will stand out too!”
Speaking of tradition, Reina shares, “My husband is Persian [and his] name is Nima. So we are a family of unique names and wanted to continue the tradition…Reina, Nima, and Maziar.”
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Every parent goes through their own deductive reasoning process to arrive at the name they choose for their child. Whether this is your first, second, or beyond, as you meander through the countless options, take great care in choosing that sweet little one’s name. You’ll say it out loud multiple times a day, they’ll take ownership of it (for good or ill!), and in the end, it’s something they’ll come to cherish or resent.
Keep reading and soon you will see that everyone benefits when a parent puts extra thought into their baby’s name.

How will you explain naming your child North West?

Kim Kardashian and Kanye West have chosen unusual names for both of their children. Not necessarily in spelling or pronunciation, but in the fact that both North, their first daughter, and Saint, North’s little brother, don’t even come close to being considered traditional names.

No one really knows why Kim and Kanye chose to bless (or curse?) their children with such uncommon names, but it’s true that North and Saint won’t quickly be forgotten. Both sister and brother have names that stand out. But are celebrities really the best example to follow when naming a child? And when North and Saint someday question their different names, how will their parents respond?
For years, celebrities have rocked the traditional boat when naming their children.
In 2004, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin named their daughter Apple but then chose a more traditional name, Moses, for their son two years later. Why? Perhaps they were tired of explaining over and over (and over and over!) where the name Apple came from.

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Bottom line, if you go the less-than-traditional route by choosing a cardinal direction, object, or something else off the beaten path as your child’s name, be sure to have a story up your sleeve to validate your child and explain the name to others. They’re going to wonder and others will too.
This goes for spelling and pronunciation as well. My oldest child is named Jemma—pronounced like the British name Gemma. We chose a J because we preferred its phonetic simplicity and because my husband announced during my pregnancy that he didn’t like G names, but still liked the sound of Jemma. Interesting considering he married a Gretchen!
He has since retracted his disdain for the letter G.

The playground is a battlefield.

Parents can love a name to death, but send that child into the real world and love might not be what the child experiences. The playground is a battlefield, and from the start, peers may identify a child as different if they have trouble connecting with a more unusual name.
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“Our names are the first piece of our identity,” says Emily McMason, a parenting coach with an MEd from Harvard University and certification from the Parent Coaching Institute at Seattle Pacific University.
She goes on to say that our names are “the first way in which people begin to know us. As we get older, it is the way we know and define ourselves.” That means the name you choose is really, really important. It can mold a child’s personality and behavior.
Trista Mason recalls a rough patch in her childhood when trying to fully grasp and love her name, “In second grade I wanted to change my name to Trisha. Whenever I introduced myself as Trista, even now, there is ALWAYS a pause and a confused look (the look of I didn’t quite get that?!?!) I have to spell it multiple times to anyone on the phone too.”
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At least her parents put some thought into Trista’s name.
She shares this: “My parents wanted a unique T name so my initials would be TLC … which I did love growing up. What I don’t love though? My name means ‘woman of much sadness.’ My parents didn’t bother to look it up. That is something I would highly recommend. Check the meaning!”

Does a Rebecca act the same as Reign?

No one can truly predict how a child will respond to a less common name throughout their life. Some love it from day one, embracing the flair it gives them in new situations. Others immediately shy away from the attention.
When choosing your child’s name, be aware that others they encounter throughout life might make assumptions about them based on their personal bias and past experiences. It’s not necessarily something we can control, but it is something to consider.
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For example, over her years as an elementary school teacher, Leah Workman has seen somewhat of a correlation between a child’s name and their behavior. “Although not truly scientific, in my experience some names seem to belong to kids with similar traits,” she said. “The Zachs in my classes are usually busy and athletic while Sophias tend to be little socialites. Bens are down to earth and enjoyable to be around.”
Perhaps most notable, Workman mentioned that, “When a child knows they are named after someone special (like a grandparent or other loved one) they have a sense of importance. They are honored and act as if they have a legacy to uphold.”

Though it was a very hard decision, we’ve finally chosen a name for our little man…oddly enough he sleeps so peaceful as he listens to the theme of “Gran Torino”. ‘ #TaurinoLuciano #thebull #lightofmylife #grantorino #babyboy #momlife #family “Gran Torino” Realign all the stars Above my head Warning signs Travel far I drink instead On my own Oh,how I’ve known The battle scars And worn out beds Gentle now A tender breeze blows Whispers through a Gran Torino Whistling another tired song Engines humm and bitter dreams grow Heart locked in a Gran Torino It beats A lonely rhythm all night long These streets are old They shine with the things I’ve known And breaks through the trees Their sparkling Your world Is nothing more Than all The tiny things You’ve left behind So tenderly Your story is Nothing more Than what you see Or What you’ve done Or will become Standing strong Do you belong In your skin Just wondering Gentle now a tender breeze blows Whispers through the Gran Torino Whistling another tired song Engines humm and bitter dreams grow A heart locked in a Gran Torino It beats A lonely rhythm All night long May I be so bold and stay I need someone to hold That shudders my skin Their sparkling Your world Is nothing more Than all The tiny things You’ve left Behind So realign All the stars Above my head Warning signs Travel far I drink instead On my own Oh How i’ve known The battle scars And worn out beds Gentle now a tender breeze blows Whispers through the Gran Torino Whistling another tired song Engines humm and better dreams grow Heart locked in a Gran Torino It beats a lonely rhythm All night long It beats a lonely rhythm All night long It beats a lonely rhythm All night long • • • • • • • • #fitmom #fitmama #fitfam #pregnancy #pregnant #babybump #baby #boy #name #taurus #momswithtattoos #moms #momswholift #fitnessjourney #postpartum #babynames #myboy #mylittleman #instagood #instafit #muscle #musclecar

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So, if you’re considering naming your child after someone, take into account that a sense of honor could guide them for years to come.

Names carry a lot of weight on resumes, in interviews, and around workplaces.

Obviously names stretch far beyond our baby days and school years. Our names travel with us into adult life. That means it is important to consider how a name will be perceived in the workplace. When it comes to navigating life in the adult world, there are a variety of opinions on whether an unusual name aids or hinders a person’s potential success.
Zachary Painter, career advisor and hiring manager at Resume Genius, shared that two studies—one published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology and the other put out by the National Bureau of Economic Research—have guided his thinking about names in hiring processes and workplaces.
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“In reality, unique names have a greater chance of hindering your chances of being hired. Although, as certain industries grow more diverse and progressive, unique names will hopefully be more acceptable, and hiring managers more willing to give these candidates the chance they deserve.”
On the flip side, Beth McRae, president of the McRae Agency, a public relations firm based in Arizona, countered Painter’s insight, saying, “I have reviewed hundreds of applications and hired numerous people since my agency started in 1995. I think a unique name helps the candidate stand out in a sea of similar-sounding names. Sometimes a name might indicate an ethnicity, but I always look for the substance in the resume more than the name itself. The one thing that stood out to me most was one young woman who sent me flowers after I interviewed her.”
There you go! A name is only one piece of the puzzle. The presentation, behavior, and aura of a person can balance and complement a unique name when a child is brought up in a healthy and supportive environment.

Workman concurred with McRae, stating, “A parent’s engagement and support fair outweighs a name—no matter how odd, unique, or what is perceived as ‘normal.'”
So, although naming your child is something to get serious about, never-ending hours of parental involvement will be the most crucial element in their future success.

A name is a gift.

Consider this: Your child’s name is the first gift you have the opportunity to give them. Whether their name is uncommon or common, it will follow them throughout life. It’s the gift that gives day in and day out!

McMason agrees, “The gift of a name—the moniker they are going to go by through infancy, tween years, their twenties, and beyond—is an important and emotional one. Parents use names as a way to show our interests, or our heritage, or our connection to friends that we value and want to honor with a name.”
Sometimes a child might perceive their name as a blessing; others consider it a curse. Of the 100+ people I spoke with about their name and what it means to them, the common thread was that everyone has a season of questioning whether they like their name or not. It seems to be a rite of passage for us all to complain about how boring, weird, different, creative, or generic our name is.
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But, in the end, if parents have put thought and reason into choosing their brand new child’s name, individuals tend to grow to appreciate and embrace the name and all it means.
And, as my own mother always says, “When you have children of your own, you can name them whatever you want.”
So, if your child balks at the perfect name you selected, remind them that their day will come.

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These Tragic Toys Should Never Have Been On The Market

The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) has its hands full. Overfull, to hear some tell it. The federal regulatory agency is tasked with keeping unsafe products—including children’s toys—off store shelves.
So it’s a bit alarming that today the CPSC is looking to slim down. The agency recently asked for ideas on how it can “potentially reduce burdens and costs of its existing rules, regulations, or practices without harming consumers.” Seriously—they posed the question to the public in the Federal Register in June 2017. Share your ideas with them by Sept. 30, 2017 to have a say.
If the CPSC has to get by on drastically reduced funding, that could leave protection for consumers in the hands of the courts. John Risvold is a trial lawyer with the Collins Law Firm in Naperville, Illinois. It takes more than regulations to protect everyone, he suggests.
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“Often the regulatory agencies are underfunded or so lax, or propped up by the companies they’re supposed to regulate, that it is left to the courts and trial lawyers to act as the regulatory body to ensure consumer safety,” Risvold says.
Besides, product recalls and new regulations frequently stem from product-related injuries. Products can’t be recalled until they’re determined to be dangerous—and that usually means someone got hurt.
“The Consumer Product Safety Commission is a helpful entity in terms of removing dangerous products from the market,” Risvold says. “But they cannot undo the damage caused by having the dangerous products in the market in the first place.”
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Risvold tells HealthyWay the threat of lawsuits in defense of injured consumers provides a spur for companies to think about product safety before an injury occurs.
Unfortunately, that threat wasn’t enough to deter the manufacturers of these toys, which the CPSC had to step in to ban:

1. Lawn Darts

This is a sad story, just to warn you. In 1997, a 7-year-old boy from Elkhart, Indiana was playing with an old set of lawn darts—heavy plastic and metal projectiles designed to be thrown at targets—and, somehow, one of the darts poked him through the skull, injuring his brain.
That prompted the CPSC to issue a new warning. Here’s the thing, though. Lawn darts were already banned. The CPSC pulled them from the market on Dec. 19, 1988, after three kids had already lost their lives to the toys.

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“CPSC banned lawn darts in 1988, but some of these dangerous products may still be in garages, basements, or second-hand stores,” then-CPSC Chair Ann Brown said in the 1997 press release. “Parents should destroy these banned lawn darts immediately.”
There’s bound to be an online black market for these things, but we suggest you don’t go looking.

2. Buckyballs

Kids eat stuff whether it’s food or not. That’s the key fact that the manufacturers of Buckyballs and Buckycubes forgot.
To be fair, these sets of small, powerful magnets were marketed to adults, not children. But you try keeping a bite-sized nugget out of a 3-year-old’s mouth. It isn’t easy.
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The first Buckyball would go down just fine. It’d be just like eating a small stone (not that we recommend that, either). The trouble comes when a child eats two or more of these powerful magnets.
“From 2009 to the present, the CPSC has received numerous incident reports of ingestions of Buckyballs and Buckycubes,” the CPSC wrote in 2015. “When two or more high-powered magnets are swallowed, they can attract to one another through the stomach and intestinal walls, resulting in serious injuries…”

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As a result, the CPSC recalled the products on July 17, 2014. Consumers were eligible for a refund if they returned these dangerous novelties by January 17, 2015. If you have Buckyballs, you should destroy them, but we’re afraid the time limit on refunds has passed.

3. Inflatable Baby Floats

Corporate leadership at Aqua-Leisure Industries did just the right thing when they heard reports that the bottom of their inflatable boats for babies were tearing out and dumping kids into the pool. They issued a voluntary recall and worked with the CPSC to remove their products from shelves until they could fix the manufacturing flaw.
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All in all, the company got 31 reports of dunked babies, but fortunately no one was injured.

4. Aqua Dots

In 2007, a new crafting toy hit the market. Aqua Dots were multicolored little beads coated with a chemical that would make them stick together when spritzed with water. The idea was that kids could use them to create miniature mosaics.

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There were just two problems: The coating was highly toxic, and, as already mentioned in No. 2 on this list, kids love to eat small non-food items.
The CPSC began to get reports of children swallowing Aqua Dots and then coming down with dizziness, vomiting, and, in at least two terrifying instances, brief comas. The CPSC issued the recall, and that was it for Aqua Dots.

5. Little Live Pet Lil’ Frogs

These adorable battery-powered buddies represent one of the CPSC’s latest attempts to work with a toy manufacturer to recall a dangerous item. Lil’ Frogs aren’t quite as famous as lawn darts, of course, but the hazard is so strange we had to include them on this list.

According to the CPSC announcement of the recall, “When the button batteries are removed from the toy frogs, the battery’s cap can become a projectile and the battery’s chemicals can leak, posing chemical and injury hazards.”
Leaky batteries we understand. But what’s with that “projectile” battery cap?

6. Powerboard Hoverboards

Remember when “hoverboards” started spontaneously combusting? Yeah, that led to more than one product recall. One company, Hoverboard LLC, quickly issued its own recall, which the CPSC picked up and amplified after hearing reports of their products sparking and smoking. Fortunately, nobody was injured.
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One person reported property damage. But no one reported disappointment that these things don’t work like Marty McFly’s hoverboard in Back to the Future—at least not that we know of, and they definitely should have.

7. Almost 1 Million Toys by Mattel

In 2007, leading toy company Mattel issued a recall for nearly 1 million toys of 83 different types. The harmful playthings included everything from Sesame Street and Nickelodeon characters to a Dora the Explorer backpack and Elmos and Cookie monsters that giggled when you shook them.

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The problem? Mattel’s manufacturing plant in China slathered the toys in lead paint. Actually, though, this case could show us a way forward on the off chance that the CPSC gets so lean that it can’t catch unsafe children’s products this holiday season.
Here’s what we mean:

Challenging Manufacturers of Dangerous Toys Outside the CPSC

Risvold has overseen class action lawsuits of the type leveled against Mattel, and he believes that such legal instruments are a crucial part of protecting consumers from unsafe products.
“I can attest that many toys that are taken off of the market that are dangerous are because of trial lawyers acting on behalf of the injured to force a company to put people over profits,” Risvold says. “The more recent example was the class action lawsuit against Mattel.”
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But it’s hard to deny that federal regulations are also a crucial part of the nation’s patchwork of defense against unsafe products. The CPSC had notable success finding and eliminating unsafe children’s products during the recent years.
The agency recalled more than 170 toys back in 2008. By 2016, that number was down to just 25. Only one of these contained lead paint, which had been an enduring problem in the past. Around the same time, toy-induced loss of life among children younger than 15 declined by 10 kids per year, from 19 in 2010 to just nine in 2013.
The CPSC has also gone to great lengths to prevent unsafe toys from reaching American markets. In 2014, that meant partnering with Health Canada and the Consumer Protection Agency of the United Mexican States to inspect inbound holiday-season toys on the North American continent.
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Fast-forward to today, when a recent headline from The Hill reads, “Consumer safety commission looks to reduce regulatory burdens.”
If the CPSC decides that the best way to “reduce burdens and costs” is to stop going after problematic toys, keeping our kids safe will be left to lawyers like Risvold, manufacturers, and parents themselves. This brings us back to the role of the courts, which could begin to expand in the near future.
“The lack of regulatory oversight on the production and supply side, the front-end regulation, allows for dangerous products to get to market, injure consumers, only to be recalled after the damage is done,” Risvold says.
“This again is another area where trial lawyers seeking compensation for victims helps force companies to consider safety on the front end.”
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Anyway, who knows? Maybe the CPSC will find a way to survive and thrive in an era of shrinking government. If there’s one thing we should be able to agree on, after all, it’s that the safety of our children is more important than politics.

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Is This The Future Of Fast Food? Check Out The 100% Vegetarian Chain Poised To Take On McDonald's

Let’s admit it: We love fast food.
American adults get about 11.3 percent of their total daily calories from fast food, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). For many consumers, the convenience of a quick burger or chicken sandwich is worth the extra calories—not to mention the loads of salt and sugar that come with a typical fast-food meal.

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That might be changing in the near future, though. You might already know about Amy’s Kitchen, since the company’s all-vegetarian products can be found in many U.S. grocery stores. Maybe you’ve tried one of their cheddar burritos, a veggie burger, or a microwavable meal.
But recently, Amy’s Kitchen broke out of the chilly confines of the freezer section.

The company now operates a brick-and-mortar fast-food restaurant—complete with a drive-thru window—in Sonoma County, California.

The restaurant, located in Rohnert Park, California, features a barn-like look and chic decor.

The interior is decked out with shades of turquoise contrasted by bright orange, giving Amy’s a unique look that you won’t find at any other fast-food joint.
The food is affordable. The Amy—a double-veggie burger with cheese, lettuce, tomato, onion, pickle, and a secret sauce—costs $4.29. Vegan consumers can choose vegan-friendly “cheese” for their burgers, or could opt for Amy’s Mac ‘n Cheeze for $4.69 instead.

Customers can also pick up pizzas (both vegan and vegetarian), chili, burritos, and, of course, salads. Everything is vegetarian, and everything’s geared toward diet-conscious diners. That’s not to say that everything is low in calories, but in general, you’ll find healthier options than what you’d get at your local burger joint.
The menu options are also environmentally sustainable, according to the company’s website. All the packaging is compostable, and even the straws for the milkshakes are made from biodegradable paper.
“My parents had an organic garden in L.A. in the ’50s and they taught me to always eat healthy and to never eat things I couldn’t pronounce,” Rachel Berliner, who founded the company with her husband Andy, told CBS News.

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Andy told CBS that he knew the restaurant was a “real risk.”
“I still had trouble visualizing people coming to an organic vegetarian drive-thru,” he admitted. “And they just—they were lined up around the block.”

Currently, the only way to try Amy’s Drive Thru is to visit the Rohnert Park location.

However, the restaurant’s popularity will likely prompt expansion. Business blog Fast Company reports that Amy’s Kitchen is planning a second location and suggests we could see the all-veggie approach spreading quickly throughout the United States.

The market for vegetarian- and vegan-friendly foods is expanding, according to a report from information analysis company GlobalData. The firm’s research showed that 6 percent of Americans claim to follow a vegan lifestyle, up from 1 percent in 2014.
Because Amy’s Drive Thru also offers gluten-free options, they could appeal to another growing market. The Gluten-Free Agency reports that 44 million people adhere to gluten-free diets.

But Amy’s biggest market might not have specific dietary considerations; they might just be typical American adults looking for a fast, affordable, and healthy meal. For the founders of Amy’s Kitchen, that’s perfectly fine.
“If somebody’s hungry, I want to feed them,” Rachel told CBS. “I can be in a meeting and I hear in the background, ‘Oh, I’m really hungry,’ I’ll say excuse me, I’ve got to go feed this person.”

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Health x Body Wellbeing

Gag When You Smell Strong Perfumes? Turns Out There's A Scientific Explanation For Your Reaction

If you react strongly to certain perfumes, you’re not alone. Perfumes are, after all, designed to elicit a strong reaction. Ideally, that’s a positive reaction, but some people can’t help but run out of the room gagging when exposed to certain scents.
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And while your coworkers might tell you to “just get used to it,” you might not have that option. Researchers have been studying the science behind our reactions to olfactory irritants (offensive odors), and they’ve come to some fairly surprising conclusions.

First things first: Offensive odors don’t affect the same part of your nose as other scents.

In a study first published in the Journal of Neurophysiology, scientists discovered that certain smells activate olfactory cells located toward the front of the nose. These cells are sensitive to specific chemicals (for instance, ammonia) that might be dangerous.
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Those cells send an electrical signal to other cells, eventually relaying sensory information to the trigeminal nerve, which controls the gag reflex. The victim—er, the affected person—might also feel burning or itching sensations.
Your body typically reserves that reaction for potentially dangerous substances, but some of those substances are present in perfumes. Other fragrances can smell like ammonia, for instance, which might stimulate an adverse reaction. Perfumes and fragrances contain dozens of natural and artificial ingredients, some of which are allergens and irritants, according to the Food and Drug Administration (FDA).

If you hate certain odors, it might be because your brain has trouble processing them.

Psychology researcher Linus Andersson of Umea University performed a study in 2012 to determine why some smells offended certain people more than they bother others. Anderson found that some people are chemically intolerant to certain scents, and that those unfortunate individuals don’t adjust to unpleasant odors over time.
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“The hypersensitive individuals felt that the smell was getting stronger even though its concentration had not changed,” Anderson said. “Their brain activity images also differed from those in the [more tolerant] group.”
By monitoring his study participants with EEGs and fMRIs, Anderson found differences in how some brains responded to odors. For chemically intolerant people, brain activity didn’t change over time—they simply didn’t adjust.
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“These individuals also have a different pattern in the blood flow in their brains, compared with those who perceive that a smell diminishes,” Anderson said. “A similar change can be found in patients with pain disorders, for example.”

In other words, if you simply can’t stand certain smells, your physical makeup may prevent you from getting used to them.

Anderson also found that people are more likely to have smell intolerances if they react strongly to other irritants, for instance capsaicin, the active component of chili peppers. Both the capsaicin and offensive odors trigger a physical reaction in sensitive individuals that doesn’t subside until the irritant is gone.
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Unfortunately, that might mean that when your co-worker comes into the office doused in Dior, you’ll find yourself gagging throughout the day. All you can do is try to avoid the odor, breathe through your mouth, and take an antihistamine if you experience itching or burning sensations.
Oh, and maybe hold a scarf over your face until your coworker gets the picture.

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This Is Why Some Of The Most Successful People In The World Wear The Same Thing Every Day

As you scroll through the J. Crew clearance section at work this morning, we have a thought for you to consider.

Many CEOs, entrepreneurs, and even a former President of the United States of America shun variety and stick to one simple outfit when they dress in the morning.

We’ll let the 44th president explain the phenomenon.

“You’ll see I wear only gray or blue suits,” President Obama told Vanity Fair in 2012. “I’m trying to pare down decisions. I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.”
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That’s right. Even Mr. Obama, who oozed personality and style and was photographed constantly—and presumably had access to whatever wardrobe he wanted—chose not to choose. And it worked for him.

President Obama and other successful people know the benefits of avoiding “decision fatigue.”

The strange occurrence takes place when a person’s decision-making ability deteriorates after they’ve had to make too many choices. By eliminating less important decisions throughout the day (like what to eat and how to dress), a person can save mental energy for the decisions that really matter.
Roy F. Baumeister, a social psychologist at Florida State University, says that every decision requires a little bit of willpower.
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“It’s the same willpower that you use to be polite or to wait your turn or to drag yourself out of bed or to hold off going to the bathroom,” he told The New York Times.
He continued, “Your ability to make the right investment or hiring decision may be reduced simply because you expended some of your willpower earlier when you held your tongue in response to someone’s offensive remark or when you exerted yourself to get to the meeting on time.” Or, to a lesser extent, when you spent 20 minutes deciding which pair of shoes would impress your boss.

Mark Zuckerberg, CEO of Facebook, also embraces one steadfast outfit.

Zuckerberg is rarely seen in anything other than his signature gray t-shirt and jeans. When someone asked him at a Q and A why he wears the same t-shirt every day, he responded, “I really want to clear my life to make it so that I have to make as few decisions as possible about anything except how to best serve this community.”

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Joshua Becker, a contributor to Forbes, performed an enlightening experiment regarding the one-outfit strategy. He wore the same gray shirt and khakis to work every day for a week and expected instant criticism.
“Because of our conditioning, I imagined everyone looking at my recycled outfit and judging me for it,” he wrote. “However, one week into my experiment, nobody mentioned anything. And in that silence, I was liberated.”

Simplifying your wardrobe could benefit you in surprising ways.

Becker said wearing one outfit had multiple benefits. As he had hoped, it reduced his decision fatigue. But it also allowed him to wear what looked good on him and minimize his wardrobe.
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So start wearing what looks good on you without worrying about variety!
While you’re at it, let your friends or significant other choose which restaurant you eat at or what TV show you watch after work from time to time. That small act just might help you perform better when making more meaningful decisions.