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Why Are American Women So Obsessed With Self-Help Books?

Have you recently been invited to something called a “women’s empowerment circle”? Is someone in your family studying to become a life coach? Does your phone contain at least one mindfulness meditation app?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you’ve no doubt been exposed to the ever-growing obsession with self-help culture—and motivational books are driving it forward.
With a 15 percent increase in self-help books in 2015, it’s no wonder motivational titles are sneaking their way onto bestseller lists. From Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up to Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***, people are fascinated with improving themselves (whether that be through storage solutions or cynical wisdom).

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But what may be surprising to learn is the massive gender divide among self-help enthusiasts. Women are far more financially invested in self-improvement than men, making up a staggering 70 percent of the self-help market. Thanks to them, the self-help trade is worth almost $10 billion.
So what’s the deal? Are women picking up self-help books in pursuit of a holistic lifestyle, or as a response to deeper issues?

The Golden Age of Self-Help Books, Powered by Oprah

Self-help books may be experiencing a surge in popularity, but it’s certainly not the first time.
In the mid- to early-1990s, authors like Doreen Virtue, Deepak Chopra, and the queen of self-help books, Louise Hay, shot to fame. Their books raved about the miraculous potential of energy healing and positive thought, propelling New Age philosophies into the mainstream.

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It wasn’t just spirituality that was selling. Stephen Covey’s 1989 book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, gained more recognition among entrepreneurs. The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence merged typical self-help ideologies with feminism. Chicken Soup for the Soul charmed readers with its motivational anecdotes.
It might seem almost quaint now, but the 1990s were a time of rapid technological advancement. This rise in technology allowed people to shift their focus away from everyday tasks and onto something more introspective. As certified life coach Carolin Wohlschlögel puts it, people had “the luxury to be able to look at ourselves.”
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“If I think of my grandparents after the war, they had to rebuild the country,” she says. “There was no way they could work on themselves and look internally, because there was no time for that. There were more pressing issues.”
People were definitely motivated to buy more self-help books in the early ‘90s, but there was one person in particular that put them in the spotlight. Many successful titles were featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show, which had rebranded itself as a more intimate, self-help-focused programme in the 1990s. Oprah Winfrey’s recommendations to her mostly female audience played a major part in the success of the self-help trend.
The ‘90s came and went, but Winfrey’s self-help book obsession was far from over. In 2006, first time filmmaker Rhonda Byrne was invited to appear on The Oprah Winfrey Show. Byrne had just released a documentary called The Secret, which explored the concept of manifestation through “the law of attraction.”

The Secret was an instant hit with Winfrey’s viewers. Byrne soon released a book based on the film, which stayed on The New York Times Bestseller List for an impressive 154 weeks.
Two years later, Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now was selected as book of the month for Oprah’s Book Club. It became the highest selling title in the Book Club’s history—further evidence that Winfrey’s influence was crucial to the success of both the 1990s and early-2000s self-help movements.
The Oprah Winfrey Show is long over, but self-help books are once again dominating bestseller lists. If Oprah’s no longer propelling the self-help industry, then what is?

Compared to the potentially high cost of therapy, a $20 self-help book can seem like a fair compromise.

Depression and other mental illnesses are rising at an alarming rate. It’s possible that many people, including women, are turning to self-help books for guidance. But while higher rates of depression definitely aren’t good, there’s a potential silver lining there: the fact that people are finally beginning to address their mental health.
In recent years, countless mental health organizations have campaigned to eradicate the stigma surrounding mental illness. Even celebrities like Kristen Bell, Amanda Seyfried, Demi Lovato, and Lada Gaga have joined the movement.

The fact that people might actually be seeking help for conditions like depression and anxiety could mean that they no longer feel embarrassed or ashamed to admit they’re struggling.
But wait—shouldn’t they be seeking professional treatment rather than logging onto their Amazon account?
Well, that’s the catch. Even though more people are feeling more comfortable getting treatment for a mental illness, they aren’t always able to access the services they need. In America, the biggest issue is the cost of treatment and lack of coverage from insurance. Compared to the potentially high cost of therapy, a $20 self-help book can seem like a fair compromise.

Why Women?

If high rates of mental illness are funding the self-help industry, then it’s no surprise that women are particularly fixated. Women are far more likely to experience depression than men.

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In fact, inequality could be a big reason that women are so interested in self-improvement. Women struggling in male-dominated workplaces may turn to books that claim to help readers achieve the success they’ve always wanted. (Not to mention the endless advertisements that are constantly reminding women that they’re not quite good enough.)

We need a new way of doing things.

Wohlschlögel has a different theory. She believes the rise of feminism has encouraged women to explore their inner power through self-improvement, driving an interest in self-help books.
“[The feminism] movement strengthened a desire to explore what it actually means to be a woman— those deeper layers, those spiritual layers, those energetic layers; the fact that you can give birth,” she says. “Feminism has helped women to access these kinds of enquiries in the first place. Twenty, 30, 40 years ago, that was basically not so much a thing, because society was in a very different place.”

Do Self-Help Books Harm More Than They Heal?

Not everyone’s a fan of self-help books. Chloe Gale, 28, says she’s noticed a huge amount of her friends turning to self-help books and life coaching, but she’s skeptical of their benefits—especially when they claim to hold the secret to wealth.
“The only people who are millionaires are the people writing these books,” she says. “I have a few friends who try and give me them, and I just think, I’ve noticed no change in you whatsoever.”
Some of the world’s most successful self-help authors have had their fair share of controversy.

Complete accountability—also known as the law of attraction—is the core philosophy behind ‘The Secret.’

Louise Hay made a career out of her beliefs on energy healing. She believed that all illnesses lived in the mind and could be cured by eliminating negative thoughts. Hay even claimed to have cured her own terminal cancer with positive thought and affirmations alone. Hay was never able to produce any evidence or testimony from doctors who’d treated her to support this claim.

But the real controversy of Hay’s methods was her beliefs on what caused disease. All illness apparently stemmed from unresolved negative emotions. Hay believed that she’d essentially given herself cancer due to negative feelings she had from being assaulted. Her best-selling book You Can Heal Your Life also claimed that HIV was caused by repressed guilt.
This concept of complete accountability—also known as the law of attraction—is the core philosophy behind The Secret. Even Oprah had to make a statement on her show after learning that a viewer with breast cancer had ditched medicine for positive thought after discovering The Secret.

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Many people have also condemned The Secret for over-simplifying complex issues. By the logic of The Secret, people who live in poverty-stricken countries are only there because they’re not focusing on manifesting wealth in their lives.
The negative responses to the flawed logic in the law of attraction could be why that concept is no longer dominating the self-help niche. But the amount of people turning to titles based more on psychology than mysticism could be just as problematic.
While self-help books can help women to gain a greater insight into their issues, they’re hardly a replacement for a licensed therapist—especially when battling mental illness.
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Wohlschlögel believes that an interest in self-help books is a great place to start, but it’s even better to also seek out professional treatment.
“I think they go really well hand-in-hand with each other,” she says. “They complement each other.”

Is Self-Help Here to Stay?

Hundreds of thousands of people regularly tune in to self-help YouTubers like Marie Forleo. Instagram’s “wellness” hashtag has over 13 million posts. The life coaching industry, currently valued at $2 billion, is the fastest-growing profession in America. If self-help culture is set to crash and burn, it doesn’t look like it’s happening any time soon—which is great news for self-help authors.

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But maybe that’s a good thing. Perhaps women are turning to self-help books to seek empowerment and take back control of their own happiness.
In fact, Wohlschlögel thinks we may be seeing the dawn of an entirely new way of running the world.
“The feminine way has been suppressed for so long,” she says. “And I kind of feel like it’s emerging now because the lid has been on for so long. It’s been boiling away in there, and it can’t be contained anymore. We need a new way of doing things.”

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The New Poor: The Truth About Millennial Spending

I have a complicated relationship with money.

Maybe you’re not surprised by that; I am a millennial, after all. Recently, I wrote about how I used to be good with money—because I didn’t have any to spend. I shared that an increase in income actually revealed I had basically no personal finance skills and that I had a long way to go before I could claim to be “good with money.”

The truth is, making some bad financial decisions and having a decent amount of debt actually forced me to buckle down and start teaching myself a thing or two about saving and spending. It also forced me to address the fact that the way I spend my money is heavily influenced by the people around me and the stuff I see online.

Our generation is actually known for being less motivated by money

The other day, for instance, I finally resold a baby product for half of what I spent after only using it once or twice over the course of a year. It was a bassinet for my newborn, but it was virtually useless. I had only bought it because it looked good in the pictures of so many of the moms I follow on Instagram. I’ve felt ashamed of how easily social media influences how I spend my money, but when I realized this wasn’t just my problem, but a problem unique to my entire generation, I actually felt better.

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Knowing that basically everyone my age feels an intense pressure to keep up appearances, both online and in real life, actually gave me a sense power of my choices. I cut back on my spending, I started saving my money and paying off debt, and I started spending less time online.

I also learned a lot about millennial spending and their approach to finances that helped my gain perspective on my own situation and the financial health of the people around me.

Millennials are behind, but it isn’t all their fault.

Before drawing a conclusion about my generation and the state of our finances, I think it is important to be honest about the facts. Many millennials are behind on their financial goals, but it can’t all be blamed on $5 coffees and the iPhone X.

This generation is drowning in student loan debt.

The truth is, our generation is actually known for being less motivated by money and more attracted to jobs that match our personal values, and because of that, we’re not making a whole lot of money.

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“While millennials make up the majority of the workforce in North America, they actually earn 20% less than older generations did at the same stage. This is despite better education. This is likely explained by the majority of job-seeking millennials not being motivated by compensation but rather being treated fairly by their employers. They also prefer working for companies that give back to the respective communities and to the world at large,” explains Josh Zimmelman, the President of Westwood Tax & Consulting and respected voice on personal finance.

This generation is also drowning in student loan debt. According to Harvard IOP, 42 percent of millennials have debt from taking out loans to pay for education.

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In fact, one recent survey from personal finance website Credible revealed that millennials feel so trapped under the weight of their debt, nearly 50 percent of respondents said they’d be willing to give up their right to vote just to have their student loans forgiven.

Millennials are spending under pressure.

Student loans and low incomes seem to hold a lot of the blame for why millennials are so broke, but there is also some weirdness when it comes to how we spend our money. Like me, many members of this generation feel a weird pressure to keep up the appearance that they aren’t actually broke; social media is one major source of this pressure.

I think that spending money that I don’t have will fix [my life] somehow.

“Social media has created a new set of rules,” says Brett Graff, author of Not Buying It: Stop Overspending and Start Raising Happier, Healthier, More Successful Kids. “It used to be that…the style conscious might consider an outfit for and evening and wonder whether the other dinner guests might have seen it previously. Now, once the outfit is displayed on social media, every single person the trend-setter knows has seen it, meaning it’s dead and new outfits are in order.”

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I talked with one millennial, who asked to be kept anonymous, and she admitted she’d made purchases based on what she had seen online on more than one occasion, even when she couldn’t afford it.

“Even though I know that almost everyone only posts the best parts of their lives, I compare ‘the best parts’ of my life and I don’t think they measure up. I think that spending money that I don’t have will fix that somehow,” she tells HealthyWay.

Her admission that her spending is often driven by a quest for fulfillment hit a nerve for me. I often have found myself caught up in comparing my life with what I see online. When I’m feeling my life is a hamster wheel of work, breastfeeding, and diaper changes, it is easy to believe that going out for a fancy dinner, like I saw on a friend’s Instagram the last time I logged on, might bring more excitement to my life. It is easy to get fooled into
thinking that a black romper being promoted by a mommy blogger might make me feel like my own person again, not just someone’s mom.

Psychologists call this the hedonistic treadmill, according to Graff. This cycle of trying to find lasting happiness from things has been scientifically proven to provide no more than a “quick jolt” of happy.

“These [purchases] satisfy what psychologists call ‘extrinsic values,’ meaning satisfaction depends on the approval of other people. To enjoy materialistic goods like new clothes, you need the approval of other people. And working towards those goals make us, as humans, less happy than if we were to work toward intrinsic values, which come within us. Such as learning guitar or how to ski or to meet our own goals and get approval from within.”

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According to The Modern Wealth Index, a survey from Koski Research and the Schwab Center for Financial Research that evaluated the wealth-building behaviors of Americans, millennials often know they’re making poor financial choices. When it comes to buying clothes they don’t need, 70 percent fessed up to this habit; 76 percent said they upgrade to the latest technology, like new smartphones. It is easy to wonder if the pressure to keep up appearances are to blame.

It might not be as bad as it seems.

What I found to be most interesting is the evidence that, yes, millennials are struggling financially, but some of that struggle might be sensationalized by mainstream media. For instance, the same Modern Wealth Index that indicated some overspending habits in millennials actually had a lot of positive data about how we are managing our money overall, especially when compared to other generations.

Millennials are just choosing to [splurge] differently than previous generations.

This generation is actually working hard to get on top of their finances, with 34 percent saying they had a written budget—only 21 percent of Generation X said they had a written plan. We’re making progress, too; 39 percent of twenty-somethings and 57 percent of young thirty-somethings saying they were in a better place financially than they were five years ago.

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And, although it might be easy to paint a picture of millennials being a materialistic generation, that doesn’t actually seem to be the case. When it comes to spending their money, millennials would actually rather save it for an experience, according to Meredith Hirt, an insights writer at Cassandra, the leading ongoing study of emerging trends, generational insights, and youth behavior.

It might be true that even our experimental spending is influenced by social media, but it’s not accurate to assume it’s all about just accumulating more stuff.

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“This doesn’t mean they’re not willing to splurge, they’re just choosing to do so differently than previous generations; they’re not saving up for the flashy sports car, the designer handbag, or the sprawling mansion,” Hirt says. “Instead, they’re spending on festivals, wellness retreats, and food and dining.”

What is the truth about millennials spending?

There seems to be two sides to the coin when it comes to millennials and their money. We’re not exactly thriving: The data does suggests there are more millennial families living in poverty and we know for certain more of us are facing a lot of debt.

But are we really a financially wreckless generation who will do anything “for the ‘gram”? That seems to be an oversimplification. The pressure to spend is certainly there; I’ve experienced it myself and have chatted with friends who admitted to having spent money they didn’t have on something they saw online.

But we’re also not completely unaware nor
are we immobilized in our efforts to change our relationships with money. In fact, the number of millennials with $10,000 or more saved jumped by five percentage points between 2016 and 2017, according to a GoBankingRates survey.

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Personally, I think it’s worth noting that we’re the first generation to live our lives online. That’s relevant because there appears to be an adjustment period that comes with that, particularly as advancements in our careers lead to higher purchasing power in a world that’s constantly throwing advertisements and aspirational lifestyles in our faces.

Despite being adults, most millennials are still learning what it means to have to use social media for good and how to draw boundaries between our online and offline lives.

Although I’ve felt frustrated, or even ashamed, of my spending habits in the past and the reputation my generation has when it comes to money, I don’t feel that way anymore. My own personal progress, and the data that suggests my experience is reflective of the rest of the generation, seems to argue that millennials aren’t a financially inept generation destined for financial ruin. We’re a work in progress, and I’m more than okay with that.

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6 Untrue "Facts" About The Human Body

For years now, I’ve kept a little log in my planner tracking my water intake each day. I aim to drink eight glasses because I’ve always believed it to be the guideline for healthy water intake.
If I’m being honest, however, I’ve never struggled with being dehydrated. It’s just something I’ve felt like I should do as a part of trying to be a healthy person. Lately, this little checklist has started to feel like more of a burden in my busy life than a key to healthy living.
At the end of the day, after taking care of three young kids and working from home as a freelance writer has swallowed up most of my time, my water log is more often than not just one more task I’m not checking off my to-do list.
So recently I actually stopped trying to track how much water I drink each day. I drink when I’m thirsty and leave it at that. But what does science have to say about my dismissal of my old health-seeking habit?
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When it comes the things we believe about the body, it’s easy to oversimplify or believe things about the ways they function that are simply untrue—and how much water we need each day is just one myth we’ve all fallen for.
Even though most of the myths are pretty harmless, some ideas we have about our bodies can actually keep us from making the right decisions about how to care for ourselves.
So, do you have an adequate understanding about how the body works? Let’s clear up those lingering untrue “facts” once and for all.

1. The Truth About Water Intake

When it comes to how much water we aim to drink each day, eight glasses has long been touted as the gold standard. But how accurate is the belief that everyone should drink 64 ounces of H2O each and every day?

That much water is far too much for those people and can overwhelm their systems.

The fact of the matter is, a one-size-fits-all rule is often too simple. Each person has different needs, and this definitely applies when it comes to water intake.
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“Drinking eight glasses of water a day is not only not necessary for most people most of the time; it’s actually a very bad idea for the elderly or anyone who has a heart condition or kidney impairment. That much water is far too much for those people and can overwhelm their systems,” explains Dr. David Belk, internal medicine doctor and healthcare blogger.
So just how much water should you aim to drink each day? You might not like the answer, but water intake should vary person to person, day to day. The activities that fill your day, like working out or working outside, along with the environment you live in influence your body’s need for fluids according to Valentina Olivadese, holistic nutritionist and owner of Valiant Nutrition.
There is good news, though! You don’t have play a guessing game, because your body will tell you when it’s time to pour a glass. The body is great at communicating its needs, especially if you are a generally healthy person.
Instead of aiming to drink a certain number of ounces of water each day, just pour yourself a glass whenever you body tells you it’s thirsty, instructs Dr. Fayne Frey, board-certified dermatologist.

2. The Truth About When You Should Stop Eating

Many dieters and health enthusiasts hold strong to the belief that food eaten after a certain time each night will contribute to weight gain. Even well-respected publications like Runner’s World advise their readers to stop eating right after dinner if they want to lose weight.

Late-night eating is usually mindless and happens at the end of the day when a person ate too little.

As it turns out, though, there is hardly an ounce of truth to this claim, according to Dr. Lisa Doggett, a board-certified family physician who says that the act of eating late at night is not what causes weight gain. Instead, it is eating more calories that can land you in trouble.
So, yeah, that late-night PB&J might be causing you to gain weight, but it’s the calorie count, not the timing, that deserves the blame.
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Additionally, Olivadese suggests that late night eating and weight gain may have a more complicated relationship than we assume.
“This myth is so widespread because late-night eating is usually mindless and happens at the end of the day when a person ate too little. Feeling famished makes us more likely to eat whatever we can find and to eat to the point of feeling stuffed. This cycle of starvation and bingeing can affect weight over time by causing stress and … preoccupation,” she says.
When in doubt, trust your hunger and feed your body healthy options in small portions, no matter what time of day hunger strikes.

3. The Truth About How Much of Your Brain You Use

Maybe like me, the first time you heard the statement that humans only use 10 percent of our brain power, it was coming from a self-improvement guru. Their solution was simple: Learn to use more of your brain, become a better person.

Most of our brain is continuously active, though we are unaware of much of what our brain does all day.

It’s not bad advice at first glance, but dig a little deeper and you’ll learn that it’s based on a widely accepted falsehood about the human brain. The idea that we only use a very small percentage of our brain couldn’t be further from the truth.
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“Most of our brain is continuously active, though we are unaware of much of what our brain does all day. Even when we’re sitting and doing nothing, our brains are busy regulating our heart rate, body temperatures, blood pressures, posture, etc.,” shares Belk.
And even when we aren’t paying close attention to what’s going on in our brain, it is working hard to process what is going on around us using the information it takes in through the senses. Each part of our brain is so important that even a small stroke that affects only one spot in the brain may be debilitating, according to Belk.
“That we only use 10 percent of our brain is an urban myth that was never based on any scientific evidence whatsoever,” he concludes.

4. The Truth About Your Baseline Body Temperature

Feeling a little clammy? Don’t automatically assume something is up just because the thermometer isn’t reading 98.6 degrees.

It’s not even all that common for a healthy person to have a temperature of 98.6 degrees.

Even though most people hold pretty strongly to the belief that 98.6 degrees is the baselines temperature for humans across the board, it’s less of a rule and more of a guideline, according to Belk.
“In fact, it’s not even all that common for a healthy person to have a temperature of 98.6 degrees Fahrenheit. A person’s body temperature will vary by one to two degrees throughout the day with an average of around 98 degrees and only occasionally crossing 98.6 degrees,” he explains.
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Instead, we should look for a range of temperatures within certain limitations. Most healthy people will find that their temperature changes by small amounts but falls somewhere between 97 and 99 degrees.

5. The Truth About What Shaving Does to Your Hair

As a preteen, I was told more than once to put off shaving my legs as long as possible because once I started, my hair would grow in dark and thick. I mostly ignored that advice, but I’ve always wondered if there is any truth to the idea that shaving makes your hair grow thicker.
Frey was quick to set the record straight. Hair does not grow faster or thicker if it has been shaved. In fact, because the nature of hair fibers, which are made of a protein called keratin, it’s impossible for shaving to have any effect on their structure.

The dead hair shaft cannot send information about being cut to the hair follicle.

“The visible portion of the hair that is cut has no biological activity. Since the dead hair shaft cannot send information about being cut to the hair follicle, the site of hair growth, growth continues as usual,” says Frey.
The fact that this belief is a myth isn’t new information, either. According to Frey, in 1928 a forensic anthropologist by the name of Mildred Trotter published conclusive findings that shaving does nothing to the color or texture of hair and it certainly doesn’t speed up growth.
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And, while we’re at it, the same goes for trimming your nails.
“Similarly, clipping a fingernail, also made of keratin, does not cause the fingernail to grow any slower or faster because it was trimmed,” adds Frey.

6. The Truth About Detoxing

After every holiday, we’re barraged with advertising for detox diets. The idea behind each diet is that the body needs help clearing all the junk we eat out of our systems. But just how much truth is there to the claims that there are pounds of waste trapped in the human body? And does detoxing really help?

Our livers are incredible machines, they help detoxify the world around you.

“Our bodies are not dirty vessels and the concept of detoxing is off base…our livers are incredible machines, they help detoxify the world around you,” explains Elizabeth Trattner, an integrative medicine practitioner.

So many women come to see me saying, ‘I ate so much and now I have to detox.’

Although we are exposed to more chemicals than previous generations, regular detoxes are needless according to Trattner, who suggests skipping juicing and just eating the whole fruit instead.
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Trattner does help some of her patients detox, but these are people who have been exposed to dangerous chemicals or have genetic conditions that prevent their livers from clearing heavy metals.
“So many women come to see me saying, ‘I ate so much and now I have to detox.’ Seriously, just eat [healthy foods] and you’re good to go.” she advises.

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Snail Slime And Other Ancient Beauty Rituals You Should And Shouldn't Try

Last week, I started wearing snail slime to bed.
Okay, so it is actually snail extract, but I don’t see much of a difference between the two. After I wash my face each night, I slather on a cream made from 92 percent snail extract before applying a moisturizer to lock it in and climbing in bed with my favorite book.
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Although a certain socialite made headlines for wearing snail slime in her hair to the VMAs, my interest in snails as part of my beauty routine started last spring. It all began when I adopted a rigorous skincare regimen inspired by a 10-step Korean routine.
Next thing I knew, I had moved from researching my favorite oil cleanser to reading up on the benefits of a popular cream claiming to harness the power of snails to repair skin damage and reduce the appearance of fine lines.
As it turns out, this trendy cream is derived from a practice said to have been used in ancient Greece, according to the journal JAMA Dermatology, with its primary use being treatment of inflamed skin. The discovery of the benefits of snail excretions is credited to Hippocrates, and there are rural communities in Italy that have used it to treat warts and calluses, too.
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Admittedly, it makes sense that some people are skeptical, and I get why they might be grossed out, but I have read some interesting studies, like one published in the British Journal of Biomedical Science, that found antimicrobial properties in snail slime. And to be honest, I’m not above trying something a little “out there” to clear up my skin.
Of course, this isn’t the first modern beauty trend to claim ancient roots, and some revived practices have more basis in science and results than others. Keep reading for ancient beauty rituals that you should—and shouldn’t—add to your daily routine.

A Priceless Tradition With Roots in Chinese Medicine

Documentation of the use of pearl powder for cosmetic purposes dates back 2,000 years to ancient China, when women applied it topically to their skin. This practice was rooted in the belief that pearls have unique properties that help moisturize the skin and “reduce toxicity,” according to a study published by the Journal of Cosmetic Science.
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These days, many have taken this practice a step further. Some people ingest water-soluble pearl powder daily in hopes of slowing down the aging process.
And although that might seem unlikely, there is actually some pretty good evidence backing up this practice. In fact, the same Journal of Cosmetic Science study asserts that three different pearl powders demonstrated the ability to moisturize the skin and reduce activation of tyrosinase and free radicals, which are both linked to skin cancer.
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“Topically, crushed pearls are used in many beauty products from thousands of years ago and even today. Pearls are high in minerals and amino acids which help the skin and works as an anti-inflammatory agent,” explains Elizabeth Trattner, an integrative medicine practitioner who employs many ancient techniques in her practice, including acupuncture.

An Ancient Chinese Practice Known for Rejuvenation

Although it isn’t necessarily mainstream, the practice of placing needles in the skin is widely accepted among naturopaths and chiropractors as one way to promote overall wellness and even address specific ailments such as migraines and depression. According to Trattner, it has been a popular way to promote beauty for thousands of years, too.
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“Acupuncture is one of the oldest beauty rituals in the world. For 5,000 years, empresses and Chinese women have been using facial acupuncture for beautification and rejuvenation,” she shares.
When it comes to using acupuncture to promote beauty, practitioners believe it revives the face, according to an article published in the Aesthetic Surgery Journal. The main benefits outlined in the article include reduction of the appearance of wrinkles, tightening of the skin, and reduction of acne.
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“Acupuncture can smooth out wrinkles and bring circulation to the face and neck. It can also treat the underlying conditions that can age a woman, give her acne, dullness to her skin, slack skin, and dry skin,” Trattner explains.

A Bath Suited for a Queen

Many modern beauty products include milk of some kind as a main ingredient, from unexpected DIY breast milk soaps to more conventional goat milk lotion. Next time you reach for a bar of your favorite milk-based soap, remind yourself you’re engaging in a beauty practice fit for a queen.
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“In ancient times, the Queen of Sheba was looked at as the epitome of beauty. As tradition has it, it has been recorded that she maintained her beauty by bathing in donkey’s milk. This was a regular occurrence for her, so much so that it took the milk of over 5,000 donkeys,” shares health and beauty blogger Daniel Powers.
According to Powers, milk is a well-loved beauty product because it is moisturizing. Specifically, milk can replenish the water, fats, and proteins that promote healthy skin.
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Additionally, milk has exfoliating properties because of the acid it contains. Lactic acid specifically is able to gently remove old skin cells and debris, which leaves the skin looking brighter and healthier.

A Sweet Paste for Younger-Looking Skin

Recently, dates have regained popularity as a natural sweetener that’s high in antioxidants. If you think eating them is the only way to reap the benefits they offer, think again! Add this fruit to the long list of food products naturally minded women are applying right to their skin.
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“Another ancient ritual is using date paste on the skin. Dates were used in the Middle East for beauty rituals. Dates are rich in minerals which support healthy skin, including the synthesis of collagen and elastin,” shares Trattner.
This ancient ritual isn’t without scientific basis, either. A 2017 study published in the journal Cosmetics found convincing evidence that applying date extract to the skin moisturizes it, improves pigmentation, increases elasticity, and reduces redness.

A Fermented Drink From Ancient Greece

When it comes to promoting beautiful skin, it really is what’s on the inside that counts. From staying hydrated to eating healthy foods, the naturally minded health community has long maintained that your skin benefits when you make good choices day in and day out.
For instance, switchel—a fermented drink made from apple cider vinegar, ginger, maple syrup, and water—has suddenly become very popular for promoting gut health, according to Jillian Berswick of Rosehive Superfoods.
The drink might be trendy, but it definitely isn’t a new recipe.
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“Some say switchel was influenced by oxymel, an ancient Greek medicinal elixir made from vinegar, honey, and water. Wherever its origins, by the 18th century, switchel was the choice of American farmers during long work days to keep cool and stay hydrated,” says Berswick.
So what does a healthy gut have to do with beauty? If your gut isn’t healthy, it can cause a whole host of health issues, acne being just one of them.
Pass the apple cider vinegar!

A Sticky Solution for Inflamed Skin

The next time your skin is broken out or irritated, consider heading to your kitchen for a solution. In ancient Egypt, honey was believed to have medicinal properties and was even offered as a sacrifice to certain deities.
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For 8,000 years, honey has had a place in traditional medicine for good reason. Research has found that honey is high in antioxidants and fights bacteria, according an article in the Iranian Journal of Basic Medical Science.
It makes sense that this powerful, natural commodity is also popular as a beauty product. Because it is a natural exfoliant and has antibacterial properties, many beauty bloggers recommend honey as a face wash or spot treatment for acne.

Ancient Beauty Rituals Worth Skipping

Of course, not all ancient beauty rituals have scientific basis. Personally, when it comes to adopting ancient methods for looking young, I can get behind snails but can’t get on board with anything potentially harmful or outrageously weird.
For instance, in the Victorian era, women were instructed by a popular beauty guide to ingest a tapeworm egg as an easy method of losing weight, according to Atlas Obscura.
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For 10 centuries in China, the pursuit of dainty feet meant many young girls had their feet broken and wrapped to limit their growth.
Some 18th-century women had a much higher likelihood of getting lead poisoning thanks to their practice of using white lead to lighten their faces to a ghostly white, according to the University College London’s Department of Museums and Collections.
These examples just go to show that jumping on board with a cultural expectation of beauty at all costs is rarely a good idea.
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So do your research, learn to your love yourself as your are, and for goodness’ sake, think twice before slathering on or ingesting any substance in the name of beauty.

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5 Ways For Children (…And Parents) To Get A Better Night's Sleep

Adults get plenty of advice on how to sleep better. They can reduce screen time before bed, avoid caffeine in the afternoon and evening, and stick to a sleep schedule.
Unfortunately, none of these good habits help if children get restless and wake their parents up. Luckily, there are strategies that will help both parents and children get to sleep and enjoy rest until morning. Here are a few things to try.
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1. Give your child the green light to get up with an okay-to-wake device.

One modern solution to children waking too early is an okay-to-wake machine. These devices generally have several different light settings—one for bedtime, one for ambient light while changing diapers in the middle of the night, and one for waking up.
The last one signals to the child that the day has started and it’s okay to get out of bed. It’s simple but effective and can help ensure that parents don’t get woken up at all hours of the night.
Night Light/Sound Machine/OK-to-Wake
Control this all-in-one night light and sound machine combo directly from your smartphone. It features soft light for feeding and diaper changes as well as distinctly colored lights to signal bedtime and okay-to-wake times.

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OK to Wake! Alarm Clock and Night-Light
This adorable alarm clock has hidden controls behind the interchangeable face plates. Light glows soothing yellow at bedtime and shines green when it’s time to wake up. Children can use buttons on the toes to see lights and animations.
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2. Drown out annoying noises with an ambient sound machine.

For those who live in cities or apartments, drowning out noise may be the best solution for addressing sleep problems. There are plenty of great options when it comes to ambient noise machines.
Wave Baby Premium Soothing Sound Machine
The Wave Baby features a minimalist design and easy-to-use buttons. Choose from six soothing sounds: lullaby, heartbeat, white noise, fan, ocean, or rain. The device also has a built in USB port for charging other devices and a shut-off timer to save power.

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myBaby SoundSpa On-The-Go Sound Machine
If your normal sound machine is too big to lug on vacation, we’ve got the perfect solution. This battery-operated travel sound machine has four soothing sounds: heartbeat, white noise, ocean, or lullaby. It clips easily to strollers, cribs, or diaper bags.
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Whisbear Baby Sound Machine
This award-winning product is not your average sound machine. It’s a plush toy that senses when your baby is crying and responds with soothing white noise. Can also be activated by pressing a button and it comes with a lifetime warranty.
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3. Use essential oils, like lavender, to invite and improve sleep naturally.

If you want to harness the power of essential oils, we recommend products with lavender. Lavender is strongly associated with relaxation and soothing, which can help children (and adults!) achieve better sleep.
Aveeno Baby Calming Comfort Bath Wash
Comfort your baby as you moisturize their skin with Aveeno’s trusted oat-based formula. This product is clinically proven to calm fussy babies when combined with a warm bath.

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Organic Lavender Oil
This combo of organic lavender and coconut oils soothes children after bath time. Simply apply to feet, shoulders, chest, wrists, and legs for a peaceful and sweet-smelling night’s sleep. Contains no chemicals, parabens, or toxins.
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4. Put your little ones to sleep with an old-fashioned bedtime story.

This method is tried-and-true and helps form a strong bond between parents and children. We recommend books specifically about bedtime, which tend to slowly lull children to sleep.
Llama Llama Red Pajama”
This adored bedtime story recounts the nightly ritual of a nervous llama and his dedicated mama. Great for reassuring kids that their parents are nearby and looking out for them even at night.

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Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site”
This imaginative piece is a great way to help children wind down at night. As the construction equipment prepares for bed and lies down, your child will happily drift off to sleep, too.
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Goodnight Moon”
This classic has been a favorite of children and parents for over 50 years, thanks largely to its hypnotic rhymes. Goodnight Moon is great for kiddos learning how to read and even better for getting little ones to sleep.
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5. Use a lovey so your baby has a friend while they’re nodding off to sleep.

A favorite stuffed animal or blankie can keep your little one company while they fall asleep. There are ton of soft and adorable options that your children will fall in love with.
Taggies Sherbet Lamb Lovey Toy
This ultra-soft, adorable lamb will become your child’s best friend and keep them company as they fall asleep. The variety of tags can soothe babies as they explore the tactile sensations.

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Angel Dear A Pair and a Spare
This 3-piece blanket set allows parents to wash grubby blankies without triggering a tantrum. The 100-percent microfiber material is incredibly soft and machine-washable. The cute monkey design will be adored by babies and parents alike.
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Here's Why Changing Your Name When You Get Married Can Actually Be A Terrible Idea

Call me old-fashioned, but I always wanted to change my name when I got married. In middle school, I doodled hearts around my first name paired with the various last names of boys I had crushes on. I made my parents drive me to the movie theater in a blizzard the weekend Titanic was released and bawled my eyes out when Rose used Jack’s last name at the end of the film. (Rose may have let you sink to the bottom of the Atlantic, Jack, but I’ll never let go!)

When I was 14, the idea that my husband and I would share a name—and share that name with our future children—was ultra romantic.

When I actually did get married last year, just after my thirtieth birthday, I realized that it was going to be a lot harder for me to change my name than I thought. I’m not talking about the paperwork (although that is reason enough to keep your name if you’re not in the mood for a hassle).

The biggest problem with changing your name is that it can weaken the integrity of your professional network.

Changing my name ended up being a pretty emotional experience for me. I mean, I’ve been known as Katie Raye Phillips for 30 years. I was afraid that if I changed my name, I’d lose that identity. I loved my fiancé very much, but I was nervous about becoming Katie Martin.

I knew Katie Raye Phillips. But Katie Martin? Who was that girl?

The Knot reports that as many as 86 percent of women still change their name after marriage, but the number of women who choose to keep their name is on the rise.

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And those women may be onto something.

Here’s why changing your name when you get married can actually be a terrible idea:

What’s in a name?

Quite a bit, especially in the digital age.

Almost everyone these days has an online presence of some kind. If your online identity is tied to your career, a name change can be a major headache.

I’d still have my career in digital marketing to tend to and everyone knows me by my name. To introduce yet another name would only confuse my contacts, and I’d basically have to start from scratch.

WeddingDresses.com editor and community manager Sophie Darling tells HealthyWay, “The biggest problem with changing your name is that it can weaken the integrity of your professional network.”

“I was married last year but I see no benefit to changing my last name. I have built a brand and network using my maiden name, which is VERY memorable: BACON. I have a master’s degree in my own name, and even if I were to have children, unlikely, I still see no benefit to changing my name. I’d still have my career in digital marketing to tend to and everyone knows me by my name. To introduce yet another name would only confuse my contacts, and I’d basically have to start from scratch,” says Cari Bacon, an SEO specialist and founder of Digital Marketing Darlings.

Changing my name professionally meant potentially losing years of personal branding and SEO

Tracy Bagatelle-Black, founder of Bagatelle Black Public Relations, agrees. “My maiden name was Tracy Bagatelle and I married a man with the last name Black. There was no way, especially as an established publicist, that I was going to lose my unique identity so I compromised and went with the name Tracy Bagatelle-Black. …Later, we got divorced but I kept the hyphenated name because that was now my professional brand.”

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Jessica Thiele, a marketing manager for tech company Virtual Logistics, also decided not to change her name when she married. “By the time we got married, my husband was 30 and I was 29, and at that point I had already established my professional persona as Jessica Thiele; changing my name now meant more than the symbolic gesture. Aside from the legal hurdles and the fact that the digital economy now means my name is tied to countless accounts, social media properties, and more, it’s now my personal brand. Changing my name professionally meant potentially losing years of personal branding and SEO.”

If you searched online for just my first and last name, several people came up that were not me, including an amateur model and a congressional candidate.

When your name is tied to your personal brand and online presence, it makes sense to forgo a name change, but what if your last name is one of the most common surnames in America?

Brianna Brailey recently married and chose to change her name, which she saw as a professional opportunity, not a setback:

“My maiden name was very common, and my first and last name combination was fairly common as well. If you searched online for just my first and last name, several people came up that were not me, including an amateur model and a congressional candidate. The domain name of my first and last name was already taken, as were several social media handles. As far as I can tell, I’m the only Brianna Brailey on the internet now.”

Some surnames are inherently more catchy than others (usually ones with fewer syllables), and if you’re trying to break out into a market or even rebrand your existing business, a name change can actually be beneficial.

Darling agrees, and tells HealthyWay there could be professional benefits for women who choose to change their names after marriage.

“A name change could be just what you need if you’re trying to market that name and aren’t satisfied with your own. Some surnames are inherently more catchy than others (usually ones with fewer syllables), and if you’re trying to break out into a market or even rebrand your existing business, a name change can actually be beneficial. Since many women today run their own businesses (especially compared to in the past), there is definitely potential value here.”

Brailey, who is just starting out professionally, didn’t receive any negative fallout from her name change professionally. “The majority of my clients for my side business—design and brand consultation—know me personally, so the name change was no issue.”

A rose by any other name…

Starting in the 15th cent
ury, women began to take their husband’s surname to show that they were joined together as one entity. Prior to that, women typically didn’t have a surname because they were considered property.

Yikes.

I don’t want to judge other women who do change their name, but I know it colors my perception that they may be less independent and less feminist.

Given the history of why women change their names after marriage, it’s easy to see why women today might want to keep their own surnames.

Janet Ferone, a former National Organization for Women (NOW) chapter president, felt that changing her name went against her principles:

“While it certainly is more convenient to keep my name … the main reason I didn’t consider changing it is that it is MY name, and as a feminist it makes no sense to change it. Also, as an only child, I wanted to continue the family name. The only consideration to changing it that I would give is if my husband added my last name and I added his, but that seems a bit unwieldy. I don’t want to judge other women who do change their name, but I know it colors my perception that they may be less independent and less feminist.”

…is still a rose, right?

Okay, so that’s not exactly what Shakespeare wrote. But does changing your name after marriage really change your identity, as Ferone suggests?

Darling says that “traditions resonate strongly with many people, and although society is gradually breaking from the more outdated ones, a lot of women still prefer to change their name after marriage.”

Ultimately, tradition is what led me to change my name from Phillips to Martin. I very much wanted to share a last name with my children. However, I’m pretty attached to my middle name. Instead of dropping my middle name and going by my first, maiden, and new last names, I chose to become Katie Raye Martin instead. This way, I kept my personal identity intact, while also taking my husband’s last name.

Are the children her kids? His kids? Is this a second marriage?

Ferone admits there are some reasons why a woman might want to legally change her name after marriage. “The only benefit I see to changing one’s name is having the same last name as my husband and son as a family unit. …I’m used to answering to my husband’s last name at our son’s school and am comfortable with that, as it’s hard for schools to keep track of all the names a family might use.”

Children are what prompted Attorney Jody Leighty (née Anderson) to change her name, despite keeping her married name for professional reasons at first.

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“I changed my name once I had children. I felt that it was important for all of us to have the same name. I believed that if my name was different from my husband’s and my children, there would be confusion and questions. Are the children her kids? His kids? Is this a second marriage? So at that time, I changed my name, using my maiden name as my middle name and always using my first, middle and last name on all correspondence, business cards, marketing materials, etc.”

This is a perfect consensus for our relationship and my career.

Leighty acknowledges that her name change hasn’t been easy. “Fifteen years later, some people still get confused, particularly because I never changed my work email address, so it still references my maiden name. And quite frankly a lot of people just still think of me as Jody Anderson, and not Jody Leighty.”

Thiele, too, found a compromise in changing her name.

“My husband and I pivoted our ‘last name’ conversation; I am no longer changing my name, but our children will bear his name. This is a perfect consensus for our relationship and my career.”

If you do want to change your name, here’s how:

Unfortunately, changing your name is more tedious and time consuming than filing TPS reports.

First, you’ll need an official copy of your marriage license, which can be obtained from the clerk’s office of the county in which you were married. (Sidenote: Make sure your witnesses sign both copies of the license, otherwise you could be waiting weeks before a copy of your marriage license can be mailed. Trust me, I know from experience.)

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After you get a copy of your marriage license, visit the Social Security Administration online or in person to fill out the necessary paperwork. You’ll also need proof of your U.S. citizenship, like a birth certificate or passport, and a form of identification such as your driver’s license. Once you receive your new social security card (with the same number, just a new name), you can change your driver’s license, which will also require two forms of identification, proof of address, and a certified copy of your marriage license.

Now that all your official identification has been changed, you can change your name on your banking information, credit cards, bills, and magazine subscriptions. Most require you to actually make a phone call to customer service to change the name on your account, but it’s usually a quick and easy process.

If you’re content with that identity or need to retain it for professional reasons, you should keep it.

Or, if you don’t have the time, use a service like MissNowMrs or HitchSwitch, which takes your documents and information to complete the name change process for you, hassle-free.

Whether you decide to change your name is up to you.

As a wedding expert who’s seen dozens of women contemplate a name change, Darling has this advice: “The bottom line is that a name is a big part of your identity, especially today as that name is pushed into the public eye at an earlier age than ever before. If you’re content with that identity or need to retain it for professional reasons, you should keep it. And if you’d like to change things up, you can consider a hyphenated last name or you can take your spouse’s.”