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The Differences Between Drugstore Makeup And High-End Makeup

If you love makeup or other beauty products, you probably have your go-to brands that routinely fill your makeup bag—and some are probably expensive. But with that higher price tag, are you automatically getting a better product?
High-end makeup aficionados often claim their products have better quality ingredients than their drugstore counterparts. Nevertheless, a quick scroll through your Instagram feed shows makeup fans everywhere achieving incredible looks with drugstore brands as well. In the battle of makeup types, which type reigns supreme?

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Here’s my personal makeup confession: I buy almost all of my beauty products from department stores or high-end retailers. The extra cost is justifiable because I work from home, I mostly reserve my pricey makeup for special occasions, and the products last for months.
As I’m darting out of the department store, the highly saturated pigments of lipsticks and blushes capture my attention. Plus, I’m lured in by the promise of a mascara that won’t flake or a high-shine lip gloss that creates the perfect pout.
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If I had any issues with an item I’d purchased, I could easily exchange or return it. But somewhere along the line, I stopped using drugstore makeup altogether, and I began to believe the best cosmetics came from high-end retailers.
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In my search to find quality beauty products, was it necessary for me to switch from drugstore makeup to high-end cosmetics? Or could I have found great products at both price points?
To compare these two makeup categories, I spoke to several experts—a cosmetic chemist, a geneticist, a pharmacist, and a makeup artist—to gather insights across a variety of cosmetic specialties and find out the differences between drugstore makeup and high-end makeup. Suffice to say, it might be worth revisiting the products you’ve been using—after all, you may find some items are worth the splurge and others are worth the save.

All ingredients aren’t created equal.

Soraya Ali-Hope has some knowledge about the cosmetics industry; she’s worked in it for 34 years.
“All ingredients are not created equal,” says the president, founder, and cosmetic chemist for the Octagon Marketing Group, which helps producers formulate cosmetics. “Raw materials can be sourced from different countries and may be extracted from natural sources or synthesized in the laboratory.”

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In general, the mass-market brands like CoverGirl or Revlon incorporate more synthetic and less expensive ingredients into their products. On the other hand, high-end products, like MAC or Bobbi Brown, often have premium formulations, higher quality ingredients, more pigment, and include more costly technologies in the creation of those products. Ali-Hope says high-end makeup brands regularly utilize “advanced chemistry for both liquids and dry powders.”
Frequently, high-end makeup has cleaner ingredients, fewer fillers, and a range of shades to suit your skin’s individual needs, and they may have a performance advantage over their drugstore “dupes” (less-expensive products that are similar to high-end versions).
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Additionally, many drugstore lines have professional makeup artists test and promote their products after they have launched in store. With high-end cosmetics, it’s not uncommon for them to have artists involved in the formulation of each collection from start to finish.

The quantity of the ingredients varies.

Do two products that purportedly contain the same active ingredients perform the same? Not necessarily.

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Consumers may not be aware that companies will promote their products as containing particular ingredients…while the quantity of those special ingredients vary among brands. Therefore, you might not get the same beneficial results from one product to another.
“There are definitely differences in ingredients and formulations for high-end brands over drugstore brands, particularly in the clinical quantity used in the formulations,” explains Neal Kitchen, chief geneticist and COO at makeup brand HydroPeptide. “Peptides (short chains of amino acids) are a great example of ingredients where the type of peptide and the quantity of the peptide are both essential for how effective the ingredient will be on your skin.”
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Two brands could market the same ingredient but have significantly different results on the skin, explains Kitchen, if one brand is using it for marketing purposes rather than the clinical impact.

It’s a case of convenience versus performance.

Peter Matravers, PharmD, chief scientific officer for makeup seller Arbonne, explains the uses for high-end and drugstore brand makeup.
“For daily maintenance, functionality, and simple needs, I would say stick to mass-market brands if budget is an issue. Not all of your products need to be premium,” he says.

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“Beyond general maintenance,” he continues, “you want to be aware of your specific needs that would benefit from premium, more performance-based formulas that deliver better results.”
Don’t go running off to high-end retailers just yet! At the end of the day, there seems to be a place for both drugstore and high-end cosmetics in your makeup bag. Drugstore brands formulate their products with affordability in mind. High-end products, on the other hand, are formulated to better suit an individual’s preference and goals, meaning the products serve more specific functions in your beauty routine.

What does the makeup artist have to say?

Chicago-based makeup artist, Vanessa Valliant from Valliant Beauty, says, that high-end products “tend to have a better range of classic colors for customers. While they may showcase a certain collection each season, they aren’t solely focused on trends. However, drugstore makeup brands love to pour out every trendy color that hits the market each season.”
Valliant—whose customer base includes celebrities, brides, fashion models, and everyday women—primarily favors high-end makeup brands due to their consistent formulations and wide range of pigments for each skin tone.

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Drugstore brands, though, have the advantage when it comes to price point and experimentation. They can also be helpful when trying out new products (like the latest matte lipstick or a metallic eyeshadow you’ve been curious about) without committing to a higher cost.
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Although not all ingredients are created equal, Vaillant says it’s all about the application of the makeup that can make or break your look.
“Anyone can take drugstore or high-end makeup and blend them to perfection on the skin, achieving an overall, amazing makeup look,” she says. “There are a few high-end makeup lines that have more longevity due to their waterproof ingredients. But for the most part, with the proper application, you can achieve longevity out of both drugstore and high-end cosmetics.”
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Valliant tells her clients that there are some products worth the extra investment; additionally, she tells them there are drugstore items that work well and won’t cost them a small fortune.
Ultimately, the choice as to which makeup is right for you depends on your skin’s needs, the goals you have for the product, your likes and dislikes when it comes to specific cosmetics brands, and your budget.

So, when should you splurge? When should you save?

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Valliant recommends buying skincare products, foundation, a well-made set of brushes, and lipstick from high-end brands.
“Beautiful makeup begins with healthy skin. I love a good skincare line like Kiehl’s because your skin is the largest organ, and it must be hydrated daily. Plus, they have a wide range of products to fit your skin type,” she says. “Also, it’s important to spend a little extra money on foundation … because it tends to perform better on the skin, and it’s created to mimic the look of real skin. My personal choices for foundations and concealers are by Tom Ford and Dior.”

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For brushes,” she continues, “I like NARS. Well-crafted brushes last longer; they’re softer on the skin and are more tailored to specific areas of the face. Lastly, purchase your lipsticks from a high-end brand like Bobbi Brown. There are many colors and textures to choose from, and they’re designed for a variety of skin tones. You can’t go wrong with a lipstick like that!”

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Valliant suggests purchasing mascara, eyeshadow palettes, blushers, highlighters, and eye pencils at the drugstore.

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Maybelline mascara is hands down the best mascara on the market—you’ll find one in every professional makeup artist’s kit,” she says. “If you’re looking for the latest trends, NYX carries the latest eyeshadow palettes, blushes, highlighters, and eye pencils. Nowadays, you can find a wide range of products to fit your budget and needs at most drugstores.”

What’s our takeaway: Drug Store or High-End Makeup?

Regardless of whether you prefer drugstore cosmetics or high-end makeup brands, it’s important to focus on what best suits your skin’s needs, from the price point to the wearability of the product. In the long run, the makeup brands that are right for you are the ones that nurture your skin and help you look and feel your best—regardless of the differences in how they’re made or where you bought them.

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How To Survive A Road Trip With Toddlers

This summer, we took our very first road trip as a family.
My husband and I have three children, and the oldest is 5. It’s been a busy few years for us, adjusting to parenthood, and honestly, we had been hesitant to try anything more than a weekend at the lake near our home. Our kids had done two and three hours in the car at a time…but that would only take us so far.
In the snow and cold of last winter, we realized we were feeling desperate to see the beach. My husband and I hadn’t been since we were teens, and my children hadn’t at all. Since we’re from the Midwest, though, getting to the beach means hours and hours in the car. We were ready for a challenge, however, so we did it. We booked a condo and started making plans for the trip.

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If I’m being perfectly honest, that first hour in our car was rough, driving south on 71. I was certain we had made a mistake. My middle child was already fussing, and my oldest was begging for the tablet. We made two different bathroom stops before leaving our city limits.
Then, I remembered the endless advice I had gotten from seasoned parent-travelers when we first started planning the trip. So we pulled over, my husband climbed in the back, and he started digging through backpacks for coloring pages and crayons while I drove—he challenged my kids to a coloring contest. Things improved at that point. We employed every piece of advice I had been given, from stretching out snacks to playing games, and we made it to our first overnight stop in Memphis with very little drama.
Thinking about hitting the road with toddlers in tow? Here’s what I learned from seasoned parents while preparing for my family adventure.

Pull a graveyard shift.

Let’s be honest, the easiest parts of a road trip are usually when your kids are asleep. So while it isn’t for everyone, there’s a big benefit to driving at night.

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“Last time we drove from D.C. to Florida, we put the kids in pajamas and sized up their diapers,” shares Katie Ann, mom of two. “We drive overnight and then had a big stretch in the morning for breakfast time.”
Personally, I’m not great at driving overnight, but I can attest to the benefit of scheduling at least part of the trip for a time when the kids will doze. On one leg of our trip, we started at 4 a.m., and our kids slept for the first four hours of the drive.

Face your anxiety.

Taking a long trip for the first time can be a little nerve-wracking. It’s easy to get caught up in the anxiety of the unknown, but letting your nerves rule your mood can definitely set you up for a stressful experience. Pushing your kids out the door in the morning or getting wound up about the noise level in the car will only create unnecessary tension on the drive.

… I think our attitude affects theirs.

Katie Ballard, mom of six, says that staying positive is one of the most important things a parent can do. Kids pick up on moods, and your stress or temper can put everyone involved in an awful one.

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If you’re feeling particularly nervous about the trip, don’t try to ignore it—deal with it! Work through everything that makes you feel nervous, and create a plan for success. Being prepared can help you to feel more at peace with a new experience.

Make it special.

It’s easy to look ahead with dread at multiple hours of driving, but the drive can (and should) be part of the experience—even for your kids! Plan to make your drive special by scheduling stops, or even surprises, at certain milestones of the trip.

We try to make the road trip as fun as we possibly can.

“I prepped a fun road trip bag for each of them with new markers, fresh blank paper and coloring books, some books to read, and some silly putty,” shares Lisa Moussalli, mom of two. “I wrapped a few fun gifts that I handed back just once or twice as day, as needed.”

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Gretchen Bossio, mom of four, recalls how helpful doing her research before taking her kids (at this point, she only had two) on a 13-hour drive to Yellowstone. Being able to stop at the fun restaurants she’d scouted or make a pit stop at a playground provided much-needed opportunities for her kids to burn off energy during the drive.
“We plan to stop in a neat area,” adds Lacy Stroessner, mom of three. “We explore part of a city we’ve never been, find a great restaurant that everyone will love, stay in a hotel with a pool… . We try to make the road trip as fun as we possibly can.”

Prepare for the worst.

Okay, so a potty training accident on a road trip might not be the worst thing that could happen, but it certainly makes things more difficult than they need to be. If you’re driving with a newly potty trained toddler, do yourself a favor and put the Pull-Ups on just in case.

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Using Pulls-Ups doesn’t just act as a mess-preventing measure, according to Tessa Schull, mom of three. She says having the extra insurance will allow you to keep driving with fewer stops, especially when your 3-year-old asks to stop thirty minutes after your last potty break.

Pack a grab bag.

If your drive requires an overnight stay along the way, make sure you pack a separate bag for the stop. No one wants to unload a week’s worth of luggage for a single night.

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“If your first stop is just one night, only pack the night stuff you need, plus the clothes for the next day, and so on,” suggests Jeanne Eschenberg Sager, mom of one. “That way, you’re not hauling all your luggage into each stop—along with your kids and all their stuff.”

Pump on the road.

Traveling with a breastfeeding baby presents a whole different set of challenges. Newborns eat a lot, requiring regular stops for as long as thirty minutes at a time.
When possible, pump while your partner drives, and occasionally offer your baby a bottle instead of the breast. You can also sit in the back with the baby and feed them the bottle without having to stop during the drive.

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If you have a baby who nurses frequently, buying a car adapter for your breast pump might help you avoid extra stops.
“When [my son] was tiny, I think he was about 6 weeks, we took a trip to Maryland,” shares Katie Martinez, mom of three. “One super helpful thing we did was that I had a car adapter for my breast pump, so I could pump in the car and feed him a bottle if need be.”

Adjust your expectations.

As prevalent as screens are these days, most parents have strict rules about how much time their kids can spend watching TV or playing games on tablets. It’s okay to the adjust those rules, though, on a road trip. Special occasions call for a special set of guidelines.

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“Some of our normal rules go out the window for road trips,” admits Stroessner. “For example, the kids are never allowed to use a device or watch a movie in the car, but if we’re going to be in the car for two or more days, you better believe we’re breaking out Moana or Trolls.”
My one word of caution, however, is to wait on screens as long as you can. We had our kids do all the other activities we packed first. That way, when we were just a few hours from our destination and everyone in the car was starting get antsy, the screens were a new and exciting change of pace.

Snacks, Snacks, Snacks

When you’re packing for the road trip, pack more snacks than you think you’ll need, and then pack some more.

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Throughout our entire 16 hours trip to Florida, pulling out a new snack became our go-to when nothing else worked. Make sure you have a good distribution—too many sweets could set you up for a car-full of wild and crabby toddlers.

Enjoy the journey.

With kids in tow, it’s tempting to focus so much on getting to the destination that you forget that to enjoy the journey. Every minute of your drive won’t be enjoyable, but take advantage of those that are.

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“The biggest mistake we made [was] pushing too hard to get to our destination,” admits Kendra Moberly, mom of three. “It ended with me being stressed and grumpy, overtired kiddos who were crying, and us just booking a hotel room.”
Instead, take mom Olivia Moore’s advice: Give your kids the chance to experience the new destinations you’re traveling through. Let your kids be bored, encourage them to play with one another, and create playlists that coincide with the trip.
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“For us, the drive is part of the fun, not something to endure,” she says, “and I think our attitude affects theirs.”

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8 Crucial Things Men Need To Know About Pregnancy

To this date, the biggest disagreement my husband and I have ever had took place weeks after the birth of our first child. I felt like I wasn’t recovering well from pregnancy and childbirth and it was largely because I was doing most of the newborn care.
I remember angrily telling him how alone I felt as a new parent; that I thought we were partners, but it hadn’t felt that way since our daughter was born. I didn’t understand why he wasn’t taking more initiative.
What amazed me was that my husband seemed unaware that I was struggling. He said I seemed to be so good at being a mom. He assumed I preferred to care for the baby than have him clumsily try to learn the basics and that I would speak up if I needed help.
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It seems ridiculous in retrospect to think my husband ever believed that parenting was easier for me than it was for him. We have three kids now, and he can skillfully handle all three while I work or if I’m out with friends. He’s so much better at putting babies to sleep than I am and has much more patience for the chaos of bedtime.
I don’t think his experience as a brand-new dad is unusual, however. It seems that many men hold certain beliefs about childbirth and parenting a newborn that are complete misconceptions. They believe it comes more naturally to the women or assume their partner is gracefully handling each and every hurdle pregnancy throws her way.
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The truth is, men could do themselves and their partner a favor and make sure they actually understand what’s happening during pregnancy.
These eight crucial things every father-to-be needs to know about pregnancy are a great place to start.

1. Handle with care?

Although pregnancy is certainly a physically challenging experience, pregnant women aren’t fragile. Moms-to-be don’t need to be handled with kid gloves and they definitely don’t need their partner restricting their activities.
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“Women should be encouraged to stay active throughout pregnancy. Physical activity does not increase the risk of miscarriage, small birth weight, or preterm birth. Continuing to care for small children is safe. Additionally, most employment is acceptable in all trimesters,” says Michael Haydon, MD, medical director of obstetrics, perinatology, and maternal–fetal medicine at MemorialCare Saddleback Medical Center in Laguna Hills, California.
Additionally, Haydon emphasizes that women can and should continue to exercise through their pregnancy. He recommends 20 to 30 minutes as often as seven days a week.

2. Appearances are deceiving.

Even though the pregnancy may not be obvious from the outside, there is plenty going on during the first trimester, and it’s exhausting!. Partners should know that the first trimester can be the most difficult part of pregnancy for some women, and it shouldn’t be surprising that they need more rest.
“I wish my partner realized that while it doesn’t look like much is going on in the first trimester, it’s the most exhausting part of pregnancy,” shares writer Kelly Burch, who is pregnant with her second child. “Sure, I don’t have a big belly yet but my body is producing more blood, stretching and changing, and helping to grow the most important parts of our future child. Yes, I really do need to go to bed at 8 p.m., even if I already had a nap.”
No matter what the pregnant woman in your life is experiencing, the best approach is to be exceptionally empathetic and go above and beyond to make her life a little easier, suggests Haydon.
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If there are other children, Haydon tells dads-to-be to “care for other kids whenever possible as naps or pregnancy massage can promote well-being and relaxation. Taking over some of the cooking or shopping throughout pregnancy will allow pregnant patients to sit down and alleviate pregnancy-related back pain.”

3. It isn’t like the movies.

When the movies portray pregnant women, it seems like they default to the most talked-about and extreme symptoms of pregnancy. Partners should know that pregnancy is different for every woman and you should never, ever doubt what a woman says she is experiencing.

Just because you’ve never heard of it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

“There are pregnancy symptoms besides the ones that you hear about and see in movies. Just because you’ve never heard of it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.
“I didn’t have this issue with my husband, but my brother didn’t believe me when I told him I couldn’t look at the computer without getting sick,” shares Shana Westlake, a writer and mom of two.
Even the smallest symptoms can make life difficult for pregnant women. It is helpful for partners to work to understand these symptoms and to respond with empathy.

Pregnancy changes a woman’s body inside and out from head to toe.

“Pregnancy changes a woman’s body inside and out from head to toe. A supportive spouse should acknowledge that fact. While constipation, heartburn, insomnia, swelling, low back pain, anxiety, or the many other effects of pregnancy may not seem to be much of an inconvenience when considered individually by a spouse, he should try to imagine having all of those issues simultaneously for months while continuing to go about business as usual,” says Amy Peters, DO, OB-GYN at Saddleback Medical Center.

4. You’re both beginners.

First pregnancies are a brand-new experience for both parents involved.
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It’s easy to assume that the mom-to-be knows what she is doing simply because she is a woman, but the belief that motherhood just comes naturally to women is mistaken.
The truth is, each day is a new experience when you’re pregnant with your first baby. Pregnant women have fears and questions, just like their partners, and how they experience those fears can vary widely.

Remember this is a new experience for your wife too.

“It’s unknown territory for her too. Remember this is a new experience for your wife too and she also doesn’t know what to expect. Have empathy on the different feelings and stages she may go through during it,” suggests Boulder, Colorado–based marriage counselor Wyatt Fisher, PsyD.

5. Intimate Expectations

Although some women may experience an increased desire to be intimate with their partner, expecting this from all pregnant women is a good way to create tension in your marriage. Pregnancy is different for every woman, and things can change greatly from day to day within each pregnancy.
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Exhaustion, discomfort, and emotions all play a role in a pregnant woman’s desire (or lack of desire) to be intimate. It is perfectly normal for women to experience extreme fluctuations of their libido, according to Fisher, who says men should prepare themselves for these changes.

6. Two-Person Job

It is certainly accurate to say that women do most of the work during the pregnancy, but that doesn’t mean men don’t have an important role. Conceiving a child is a two-person job, and growing a child should be as well.
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Of course men can’t carry the baby, but they can help by offering emotional support to their partner and remaining involved in the decision-making process.
“When we talk about what is the partner’s role in pregnancy, it is to support the pregnant woman,” says Kenneth James, MD, OB-GYN at Saddleback Medical Center. “Partners should be partners. Support, love, and shower their partners with praise, and remind them how special they are. Trust me that it is easier than pushing out a baby!”

Having a baby together can be one of the most bonding experiences to have together.

Staying engaged emotionally will also help men to feel involved in the process and remain connected to their spouse, which is important preparation for becoming parents.
“Keep in the journey together. Having a baby together can be one of the most bonding experiences to have together. Therefore, stay actively a part of it by regularly checking in with her, her feelings, her needs, and share yours as well so the experience can bring the two of you closer together rather than further apart,” advises Fisher.

7. Mental Health Awareness

We don’t hear much about it, but depression isn’t limited solely to the postpartum season. Even if you’ve been trying to conceive and you’re excited to become a parent, depression during pregnancy is a real risk.
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Although nailing down firm statistics on prenatal depression hasn’t been easy, a study published in the Industrial Psychology Journal estimates that between 4 and 20 percent of pregnant women will experience prenatal depression.
Some pregnant women may speak up when they feel depressed, others may keep their symptoms to themselves. This is why partners should remain aware, watching for symptoms of depression or anxiety. It’s crucial for the well-being of both mom and baby. These symptoms can include frequent crying, difficulty sleeping, or not enjoying things she previously loved to do.

Pregnancy can have great effects on the newborn child, not just medically but emotionally.

“Pregnancy can have great effects on the newborn child, not just medically but emotionally. We know that anxious, angry, and depressed mothers can make anxious, angry, and depressed babies. This may set their baby up for difficulties in life starting from childhood throughout adulthood. By helping the mother stay happy and healthy, this can have a positive impact on children,” explains Fisher.

8. Preparing for Fatherhood

Moms-to-be spend a lot of their pregnancy preparing to be a mom, but men should also be aware of the things they need to do before becoming a dad. We’re not even talking about parenting books or classes. These things are important, but there are more basic preparations to be made.

Do not rely on her to do everything.

“Get your own medical check-up, vaccinations, and newborn CPR classes. Do not rely on her to do everything,” says Fisher.
Specifically, there is a whole list of vaccines parents should have to protect themselves and their fragile newborn. Some of these vaccines cannot be given to newborn babies, so it is crucial that their caregivers do their part!
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Additionally, all parents should know how to perform CPR, and fathers should plan to attend both childbirth and breastfeeding classes to learn how to support their partner.

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Healthy Holiday Cocktails

Whether you’re hosting a holiday party this year, attending a work event, or gathering with friends somewhere special, chances are that cheers are on the menu. Cheers…and calories.
Classic cocktails can be incredibly high in calories. Liquor is notoriously high in sugars and carbs, and liqueurs have even more. Triple sec is typically mixed with a variety of other boozes, and a 1.5 oz shot of the stuff adds a whopping 188 calories to what’s already in the cup. So once mixed, some of the best sippers tip 300 to 500 calories per glass. Considering that most bartenders expect guests to consume 2 to 3 drinks in a single evening, it’s not uncommon to drink over 900 calories in a single night.

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Thankfully, we’ve got the 411 on low-calorie cocktails—and they look as beautiful as the high-calorie stuff. These four simple, three-ingredient cocktails are designed to look incredible on any holiday table.
The secret here is that each of these cocktails is created with pure liquor, which generally rings in at a fairly low calorie count. For instance, 1.5 oz of gin contains 112 calories, while the same amount of vodka, a pure liquor, contains 98 calories, according to the USDA Food Composition Databases.
Wine lovers may be glad to discover that a half-ounce glass of dry white wine is just 72 calories. Red wine serves up a little more, at 125 calories per glass.
To make a low-calorie cocktail—we set our bar at under 150 calories—the secret is simple: Omit as much sugar as possible, use pure liquor, and steer clear of liqueurs. To bulk the drink up without them, use sparkling water. Light and bubbly, it makes a great topper for cocktails, giving you a little more to sip, so you can have a drink in hand all evening and keep your cocktail consumption on the DL.
The list of cocktails below offer a variety of holiday-themed drinks, and most can be prepared ahead or are easy enough to prepare as guests arrive. Each features a different liquor, so you can select the perfect mixer for your menu.
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We’ve included a mocktail option with each recipe—that way, you can serve the kiddies and make sure non-drinkers get to raise their glasses in celebration right along with the rest of the crew. Cheers!
Please note: All calorie counts are approximate and are dependent on the ingredients used and specific liquors or wines selected. To calculate the calories, we used the SayMmm Nutrition Calculator.

Sparkling Cranberry Gimlet, 120 Calories

A gimlet is a simple-yet-classic combo of gin and lime. Here, we add seasonal cranberry, which pairs nicely with the gin and lends great color to any tablescape.

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We love the look of this cocktail when served in a squat round glass or a rocks glass. If you want, run a bit of lime around the rim and dip it in sparkling sugar to add a “frosted” look to your glass.
Serve this cocktail alongside any holiday classic. It tastes great with turkey and serves as a nice early-evening cocktail to get the party started.
Sparkling Cranberry Gimlet
Amount Served: 1 glass
Ingredients

  • Ice
  • 2 oz cranberry juice cocktail
  • 1 ½ oz gin
  • ⅔ cup lime sparkling water

Instructions:
Fill a rocks glass halfway with ice. Top with cranberry juice, gin, and sparkling water.
Ideas for garnish: Fresh cranberries or cranberries on a skewer. A slice of lime and sprig of mint also look beautiful in this simple sipper.

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Make it a mocktail: Omit the gin and add juice from 1 freshly squeezed lime. This version has even less calories!

Boozy Orchard Cider, 150 Calories

What holiday meal can’t be completed with a hot toddy in hand? Skip the dessert and serve up this low-cal cocktail instead. A fun adult take on hot cider, this drink is a delightful way to round out a low-key evening around the fireside.

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Serve this cocktail in a small mug or heat-safe glass. You can add a variety of garnishes, from cranberries to anise stars, or you can keep it simple and ladle into mugs with a cinnamon stick for sipping.
This spiked cider is ideal at the end of a meal or paired with casual, comfort food like honey-baked ham or biscuits and gravy.
Boozy Orchard Cider
Amount Served: 1 glass
Ingredients
½ cup light apple juice, heated until hot
2 cinnamon sticks
1 ½ oz bourbon
Instructions
In a small pan, heat together apple juice and cinnamon sticks. Once steaming, pour into heat-safe glasses or small mugs. Add a shot of bourbon.
Ideas for garnish: Anise stars, orange or apple slices, and fresh cranberries make this warm toddy as pretty as it is tasty.
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Make it a mocktail: Omit the bourbon and add 2 tablespoons of fireball or cinnamon candies, instead. For a sugar-free version, simply heat apple juice with cinnamon sticks, anise stars, and slices of fresh garlic for a deliciously flavored drink.

Pear Fizz Sangria, 93 Calories

What would winter be without sangria? Sure, this isn’t traditionally a winter drink, but we’ve given it a holiday makeover, and we couldn’t love it more. White wine infused with pears (from here, you can serve guests small half-cups of sangria or) topped with sparkling water to add a little extra to sip from tall glasses.

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Wine glasses, stemless wine glasses, and even mojito glasses make this drink look good. Want to rim the glasses? Try a thin rim of agave and apple pie spice for a beautiful crown atop the cups.
Ideal with turkey, ham, and everything in between. The flavors here are elegant enough to serve to important guests, and they’re mellow enough to pull out for casual friend visits.
Pear Fizz Sangria
Amount Served: 4 glasses
Ingredients

  • 2 pears (bosc, red or green), sliced
  • 2 cups sweet white wine
  • 4 cups sparkling water or pear-flavored sparkling water

Instructions
Place sliced pears and wine in a large glass pitcher. Refrigerate 2-6 hours or overnight.
Just before serving, top with sparkling water. Stir lightly to mix.
Ideas for garnish: Serve a few slices of pear in each glass. Garnish with fresh cranberries and sprigs of rosemary for stunning seasonal flair.

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Make it a mocktail: Replace the wine with white grape juice.

Pumpkin Pie Martini, 104 Calories

Enjoy yourself twice! With this pumpkin pie themed martini, you’ll get pumpkin pie for dinner…and pumpkin pie for dessert. Win-win!

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Though it’s not your grandma’s martini, this one looks great in a true martini glass.
Not too sweet, this cocktail is tasty with any meal where pumpkin pie is on the dessert menu. It’s a classic for Thanksgiving!
Pumpkin Pie Martini
Amount Served: 1 glass
Ingredients:

  • crushed ice
  • 2 Tbsp. pumpkin pie puree (or 1 Tbsp. pumpkin puree + 1 Tbsp. maple syrup + 1/4 tsp cinnamon)
  • 1.5 oz vodka (or vanilla vodka)

Instructions:
In a cocktail shaker, add ice, pumpkin pie puree, orange juice, and vodka. Shake well. Strain into a martini glass.
If using pumpkin puree, add 1 tablespoon maple syrup and a pinch of pumpkin pie spice to the cocktail shaker.
Ideas for garnish: Rim your martini glass with a bit of honey and crushed graham crackers or coconut sugar and cinnamon.

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Make it a mocktail: Swap apple cider for the vodka, shake in a cocktail shaker, and enjoy.

Cheers to a Happy Holiday!

Whether you opt for cocktails or mocktails this year, any one of these four sippers is sure to make your holiday tablescape sparkle. Enjoy!

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Barbells And Bae: Why You Should Start Working Out With Your Significant Other

I can’t think of anything that makes my spouse happier than going on a family bike ride on a crisp fall day. It sounds kind of basic, yes, but I have to agree. Nothing quite compares to the cool fresh air blowing in your face while you check out the changing leaves and revel in your shared endorphin boosts and smiles. Another thing that makes this autumn family tradition so special is that we started going out of our way to ride bikes together like this about a decade ago, way before marriage and a mini-me entered the mix.
Could this early (and somewhat sustained) effort to sweat together have contributed to our apparent ability (and desire) to stay together? Science says it’s possible—even likely.
To start with, there are tons of obvious reason why combining workout time with romance is a modern couple multitasking win. You have built-in quality time, you keep each other motivated with the buddy system, and you experience a shared endorphin boost, meaning you’re making happy memories together. And that’s just the start.

Sweat together, stay (happily) together.

No matter how you measure success, coupling up works. Do you and your partner want to trim down? A 2015 study found that couples who set weight loss goals together were twice as successful as those who set them alone.
And if you’re in it for the long haul, you’ll be interested in research published in the Journal of Sports Medicine and Physical Fitness that found married couples who set out to exercise together have much higher rates of sticktoitiveness.
But perhaps most importantly, findings published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology strongly show that partners who exercise together report higher rates of happiness and satisfaction within their relationships.
Sound appealing? Grab your boo and throw on some spandex.

Workouts for Two

Running

Either see the sights together as you pound the pavement or challenge each other while watching a quiz show on side-by-side treadmills.

Biking

See the countryside or choose a destination date five to 10 miles away. Have a pint of beer at your turnaround point, then pedal home for some Netflix and chill.

Gym (or Home Gym!)

Grab a medicine ball and play catch. From overhead passes, feet-to-feet sit-up passes, and core-strengthening back-to-back twists, you’ll get a great workout and have a free pass to get handsy at the same time.

Sidestep common roadblocks.

It’s hard to be a good motivator when you’re raring to go and your partner is…less than energetic. Support each other by scheduling your workout days to avoid other activities that will sap your energy, at least until your workout is over.
Maybe one of you is fitter (faster, stronger…whatever) than the other. No sweat. Maybe one person’s hard workout day is the other’s easy day. Problem solved.
Even though our nutso busy lives mean we can only exercise together a few times a month at this point (for hiking, biking, and even the odd three-hour partners yoga workshop on Valentine’s Day this year…which I loved it but he did not), my hus and I have really never stopped enjoying getting outside and doing heart-pounding activities together.
If you’re looking to take the plunge and work out with your partner, we say go for it.

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How To Be Happy: Psychologist-Approved Ways To Achieve (And Maintain) Your Bliss

The pursuit of happiness is a core part of life. It’s what humans have chased for thousands of years, attempting to find it through relationships, experiences, and even material goods. But despite how much you try to have a positive outlook, you might find yourself in a rut at some point. Work feels like an uphill battle, you struggle to connect with your partner and friends, and the activities you once loved just don’t bring joy anymore. It’s like you’re waking up on the wrong side of the bed every day. What gives?
“Depression is like glasses you wear on your brain,” says Acacia Parks, PhD, chief scientist at Happify—a company that aims to make positive psychology both accessible and interactive. “You see whatever is happening to you through a filter that makes everything look bad.”
Stanford University’s Neurodevelopment, Affect, and Psychopathology Laboratory provides a straightforward resource on depression that distinguishes various clinically diagnosed forms of depression from the feelings of sadness we commonly refer to as “depression,” which is an important differentiation to keep in mind when considering happiness and mental health.
Everyone feels down at times, and while some depressive symptoms point to a need for clinical intervention, Parks, who has spent years researching the psychology of happiness, says that feeling amazing all the time just isn’t realistic. Negative and positive emotions each play an important role in being human. The good news is that there are scientifically supported techniques that can help you figure out how to be happy.
Here are some ways you can shift to a more cheerful, healthful, and sustainable mindset:

Let the facts reveal the truth.

Depression can trigger deep feelings of loneliness. It can be so overwhelming that you end up feeling isolated from your closest companions, even when they try to help. But it’s important to remember that you are not alone: One in every six adults will experience depression at least once in their life according to the Centers for Disease Control. Women especially need to focus on how to be happy, as they tend to suffer from higher rates of depression than men. In fact, overall, only 33 percent of Americans say they are very happy and the fact is that everyone experiences unhappiness sometimes.
“You might look at your circumstances and feel you have no one to connect with,” says Parks. “But once you overcome that, you can look at the exact same circumstances with a different filter.”
One way to rekindle social connections and experience a surge of happiness is by writing a gratitude letter, says Parks. Think about a person you feel grateful for, such as a friend or relative. Then, write a letter describing why you’re glad they’re part of your life. Use specific examples of their behavior and how it has enriched your life.
“You can stop there,” says Parks. “But if you want the full effect, read your letter to the person.”
It’s an intense experience, but you’ll feel better immediately. It’s also a powerful reminder that you’re not alone.
“You’ll become closer to them. The gratitude letter will help you build more social resources if you don’t have a lot of positive emotions,” she says.

Be your own mirror.

It’s all too easy to blame your lack of happiness on a set of circumstances. Maybe you missed out on a big promotion at work or you were ghosted by someone you really liked on a dating app. Those situations, of course, will make you feel sad, but they don’t necessarily cause depression.
Parks suggests that a shift in perspective may be an essential part of making space in your life for happiness. For example, don’t think of a setback in your career as a sign that you’re not good at your job or a valuable contributor to society—try to see it as a challenge that you can overcome, and look for areas of improvement. Consider taking a class to improve your skills, finding a mentor, or volunteering in your field to build your experience and confidence.
Baby steps will help you not only feel better on a day-to-day basis, but also support your success in the long run.
“Certain people take problem-solving approaches and look at situations as threats, whereas others see them as challenges,” says Parks.
Take a look at what’s within your control—then take action.

Observe the art of the ritual.

Humans tend to focus on the negative rather than the positive. From an evolutionary standpoint, it’s actually a good thing for our species.
“Generations ago, all the people who didn’t pay attention to negative things got eaten by tigers. But the memories of bad things can drown out the memories of good things, and that’s really bad for us if we let it happen,” says Parks. “The biggest thing about how to be happy is looking at where you direct your attention.”
No matter how bad your day goes, something good probably happened (whether or not you acknowledged it). So how do you zoom in on it? Parks recommends a nightly ritual where you jot down three positive things from your day.
“It sounds easy, but it can be a challenge when you start out. It eventually gets easier because you’ll get better at noticing things as they happen during the day, and you think to yourself, ‘I need to remember to write this down later.’ Before you know it, you achieve a better balance of positivity and negativity,” says Parks.
Rituals like this will play a big role in your journey toward experiencing more happiness and appreciation. They give you something to rely on for comfort, no matter how your day goes.
“Make sure when something good happens, it gets the attention it deserves,” she says.

Fuel your well-being.

When you’re feeling unhappy, the last thing you feel like doing getting off the couch and hitting the gym. However, a recent study of more than 10,000 people revealed that those who moved around frequently throughout the day—even if they didn’t engage in any rigorous exercise—experienced higher levels of happiness. Even a brief walk or stretch can help get mood-boosting endorphins pumping through your body.
Physical activity isn’t the only fuel our bodies need to be happy, though. Our diet impacts how we feel from head to toe. A recent study found that people who switched to a modified Mediterranean diet (which focuses on eating lots of whole grains, fresh produce, and lean proteins while reducing consumption of sweets and processed food) experienced significant improvements in their moods. So put down the Ben & Jerry’s and dig into a colorful, intentionally prepared plate or bowl of fresh, well-balanced food instead.
Another important element of how finding and maintaining happiness is not overindulging when it comes to treating yourself. Shopping sprees, binge-watching TV, and eating a box of cookies might feel okay in the moment, but the positivity is fast fleeting, and you won’t find the satisfaction you’re really looking for. Instead, try to nourish your soul by doing something more meaningful.
“Research finds that we want to do nice things for ourselves when we’re down, but if you actually do nice things for other people, you’ll feel way better,” says Parks. “Doing nice things for other people—community service and volunteering—reliably lead[s] to people feeling better.”
Even something that seems small, like helping someone load their groceries into their car or giving your spare change to someone in need, can amp up your happiness.

Know what to savor.

Maximizing your happiness isn’t always about hitting major life milestones (although that certainly doesn’t hurt!). Bliss can be experienced in some of life’s smallest moments, like getting a whiff of your favorite perfume, feeling the warmth of the sun on your face, snuggling with your pet, hearing your favorite song on the radio, or listening to children laugh at the playground on your way home from work. But how can you relish in the seemingly mundane occurrences of your daily routine?
“Savoring techniques will help you get the most of everything, from your meals to your walk from the car to the office. There are so many things out there that you can stop and deliberately savor,” says Parks.
Savoring involves intentionally appreciating the sensory details of an everyday experience. Take your morning coffee for example. You could just dump it in your travel mug and guzzle it down on your commute. But instead, try savoring it. Breathe in the nutty aroma as it brews. Pour the coffee into your favorite mug and feel it gently warm up your hands as you bring it to the table. Personalize it with perfect amount of cream and sugar. Then, take a sip and try to taste all the subtle flavors of the brew.
“Exercises like this will give bursts of happiness often enough to get you moving from negative thoughts on to something better,” says Parks.
Getting in the habit of finding authentic satisfaction throughout your day will help you learn how to be more satisfied with life in general. You won’t have to wait for something big to happen to feel joy.
“People who do this can learn how to experience gratitude, even when bad things are happening. Those moments are the building blocks of resilience to stress,” says Parks.

Choose you.

How many hours a day do you spend mindlessly scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, and other social media? It might seem harmless in the moment, but it could actually be impacting your overall happiness. It’s hard to feel content with your own life when you’re constantly barraged with posts of your friends’ romantic weddings, tropical vacations, graduations, career advancements, and happy families.
“People who are happy are not looking at other people and comparing themselves. But social media can foster social comparisons whether you mean to or not, and it’s antithetical to happiness,” says Parks.
Keep in mind that social media is a highlight reel—everyone is sharing the most picture-worthy moments of their lives, not their typical experiences. If social media is causing you to experience feelings of missing out, limit the amount of time you spend on those platforms. Chatting with your friends through email, text, phone or (better yet) in-person get-togethers gives everyone the opportunity to be more honest about their lives.
“Emails from friends are more nuanced. They’re more likely to talk about their problems, as well when they’re doing awesome,” says Parks.
Mindfulness meditation is another way to tune into yourself and discover what really matters. It helps alleviate feelings of anxiety by allowing you to acknowledge perceived threats (like the fear of always being unhappy) and put them into a more healthy perspective.
“Trying to change how you feel is like psychological quicksand. If you flail around, you will sink. But mindfulness meditation is a way to receive the message of what’s making you anxious and let your body know you’re handling it,” says Parks.
Interested in trying it? Consider signing up for a mindfulness-based stressed reduction program or exploring the mindfulness and meditation apps your phone puts at your fingertips. The exploration of possibilities can be exciting, while a continued practice will calm your mood and improve your outlook over time.

The Journey to Bliss

Believing you can’t be happy until everything, from your career to your love life, falls into place is a myth. The reality is that a happy life is not built on circumstances—it’s achieved through healthy habits, appreciation of meaningful moments, and seeing life through a generally positive lens, even when things aren’t going according to plan.
“You need positive and negative emotions to deal with everything in life. It’s not about getting rid of the negative emotions, but remembering the good things that happen. If you can then look at them side by side, the bad things have less power over your life,” says Parks.
Experiment with a variety of techniques to see what works for you. Meditation might not be your cup of tea, but creating a gratitude journal might be really effective for you. Regardless of which particular practices capture your attention and loyalty, make a few mindfulness exercises (from savoring a beautifully made salad to jotting a note of gratitude on a Post-it) part of your everyday life.
“Happiness involves sprinkling positivity throughout your day, allowing you to feel more expansive, connect with others, and plan for the future,” says Parks.
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to how to be happy. But by engaging in self reflection, setting realistic expectations for your emotions, experiencing meaningful engagement with others, and treating your mind and body with care, you will get out of your own way and let genuine happiness enrich your entire life.
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You May Be Completely Misusing These 15 Beauty Products

I want you to take a moment to think about how long you’ve been wearing makeup. How many years have you been committing a small part of your day to using products? How much have you changed your routine? And more importantly, how much have you not changed your routine?
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No matter how many videos you’ve watched from beauty vloggers, there’s bound to be a few gaps in your hair and makeup knowledge. Even those with perfect eyebrows are probably doing something that’s not quite right.
Are you one of those people? Take a look at these common beauty blunders and see if you’ve been misusing any of your products.

1. Beauty Sponges

If you’re struggling to achieve smooth foundation application and basically wasting a whole lot of product thanks to your makeup sponge, then chances are you’re not using it correctly. Before you throw that beauty blender in the trash, ask yourself one question: Are you using it dry or damp?
Instead of applying your foundation with a dry sponge, make sure it’s damp, and gently dab the product on your face. Amazing, right?
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Don’t forget: There are completely different rules for using silicone sponges. You don’t need to use nearly as much product, thanks to the non-absorbent material. You should also use a circular motion first before dabbing.
Speaking of flawless complexions, beauty blogger and YouTuber Lucy Kyselica—known as Loepsie to her readers and subscribers—thinks ideal coverage comes down to two things: the right color applied sparingly.
“I like to say there are no rules to makeup, but it always makes me a bit sad to see girls applying thick layers of foundation all over their faces like a mask, often covering up perfectly beautiful skin,” she says. “I’m a big fan of just using a light foundation to cover ‘problem areas,’ like parts of the skin that show redness or are discolored.”

This technique is used by makeup artist Lisa Eldridge and is even known as “the Eldridge technique.” It’s perfect for problem skin and, as Kyselica says, allows you to “wear your natural skin wherever possible.”
“Applying foundation this way looks really natural and fresh and is better for the skin,” she says.

2. Brushes

If you’ve spent a ton of money on a skincare regimen just to still experience pesky breakouts, then you might want to focus on your tools rather than your products.
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Makeup brushes and even those sonic cleansing brushes aren’t going to do squat to help you achieve that flawless complexion unless you’re regularly cleaning them. Product and bacteria will build up over time, causing breakouts and even posing a health risk.
Sephora has got a video full of handy tips for choosing—and cleaning—brushes.

3. Hair Oil

If hair oil is leaving your hair more, well, oily than moisturized, you’re probably not applying it correctly. Pumping oil into your palm and raking it through your hair will only leave you with greasy streaks while the rest of your hair is still crying out for attention.
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Instead, dispense a few drops into your hand and rub it between your palms to warm it up. Ensure your entire palm and fingers are evenly coated in oil. Next, lightly apply it to your mid-lengths and ends using a twisting motion.
Try not to apply the oil directly to your roots, as your scalp already produces its own oils.

4. Mascara

Even the most expensive mascara isn’t going to grant you voluminous lashes if used incorrectly.
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Rather than raking the brush directly up, hold the brush against the lash roots and gently wiggle it upward. This helps to really coat your lashes in product and achieve maximum volume.

5. Coconut Oil

Coconut oil is often touted as the miracle solution to all your problems. It can help you achieve silky-smooth shaved legs, moisturize your body, and remove even the thickest layer of eye makeup.
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But before you go lathering it all over your face, you might want to do a patch test first. Why? Because coconut oil is super comedogenic. This means that if you use it as an oil cleanser or moisturizer, you might end up with major breakouts rather than the complexion of your dreams.
Coconut oil can also produce undesirable results as a hair mask, since it’s loaded with protein. If your hair is just dry rather than damaged, you should probably steer clear.
Everyone’s skin and hair is different. You might be better off using something like jojoba oil on your face and moisturizing olive oil as a hair mask.

6. Baking Soda

If you’ve ever used baking soda to clean your home, then you’ll know that it’s great at scrubbing away and lifting grease. As tempted as you might be to apply the same method to your face, just…don’t.
Baking soda is simply too harsh for your skin. It can really irritate it and strip away much-needed oils, throwing everything out of balance. No one needs an exfoliant that strong!
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The No ‘Poo Method has no doubt helped baking soda sales skyrocket worldwide, but there are concerns that it may be too drying to be used as a shampoo.
So does baking soda have any place in your beauty routine? Surprisingly, yes—it can actually be used to clean your makeup brushes!

7. Pore Strips

There’s nothing more disgustingly satisfying than using pore strips. Unfortunately, they’re not going to help your pores get any cleaner.
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Those little bumps left on the strip aren’t dirt, but sebum, which your pores need. Sure, you may remove a few blackheads. But after you remove the sebum, your pores are waiting to be filled by whatever dirt happens to come in contact with them. This may lead to even more blackheads.
A better solution is to treat blackheads with these dermatologist-recommended methods. They will be much gentler on your skin and actually get results.
Using pore strips is kind of like squeezing a pimple. You really want to do it but you know it’s not good for you. Just be aware of the consequences!

8. Dry shampoo

Dry shampoo is basically a miracle product, helping to seriously freshen up your hair between washes. It works by soaking up the grease in your hair, mimicking the appearance of clean locks.
Many people apply dry shampoo in the morning before they leave the house. But the best time to apply it is actually before your hair looks like it needs it.
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Applying dry shampoo before you go to bed on a between-washes day means you’ll wake up with much cleaner-looking hair. Similarly, apply it before a sweaty gym session rather than after.
It’s also important not to apply it too close to your roots. Hold the can a good few inches away from your scalp and spray sparingly. Otherwise, you might end up with obvious splotches on your hairline.

9. Brow Products

Whether you use a gel, a pencil, or a powder, technique is crucial to achieving a killer brow. If you literally try to fill them in like you’re attacking a coloring book, you’re bound to end up more Groucho Marx than Cara Delevingne.
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Instead, use small, light strokes to draw on natural-looking hairs, focusing on the most sparse areas first.

10. Hairbrush

Brushing your hair shouldn’t be a painful experience. If it is, odds are you’re doing it wrong—and it might just be the cause of all those flyaway hairs.
First of all, never start brushing your hair from your roots. This can cause the bristles to snag on knots and cause breakage. Instead, hold your hair and gently brush from the ends, working your up to the top of your head as you untangle.
If you have curly hair, then your head might resemble more of a frizzy lion’s mane than Marcia Brady’s silky locks. Try brushing your hair only before you get in the shower to avoid breaking your curl pattern.

11. Bobby Pins

Here’s a surprising fact: Almost every single one of us is using bobby pins upside down.
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Ever noticed how bobby pins have a bumpy side to them? That’s the side that’s supposed to face down in order to grip your hair. No wonder they always fall out!

12. Eyelash Curler

If you’re not using an eyelash curler, then you should seriously consider it. This nifty little tool can make you look more awake and wide-eyed and can perfectly complement the right mascara.
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However, make sure you’re not curling your eyelashes at the wrong step of your beauty routine. Curl those lashes before mascara, not after. Otherwise, your lashes can get stuck to the clamps, pulling them right off your eyelid and leaving mascara all over your curler.
Oh, and since it comes in such close contact with your eyes, make sure to clean it regularly. Eye infections are not a great look.

13. Perfume

Many people believe that applying perfume to “pulse points,” such as the wrists or neck, can unlock the subtle notes in a perfume’s scent. Unfortunately, this is garbage science with no real merit.
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As for rubbing your wrists together? It doesn’t exactly “bruise” those scent molecules, but it does produce heat, which can cause the perfume to evaporate faster. You’re probably not going to enjoy the smell quite as long as if you left it alone.
There are some lesser known but super effective places you can apply perfume instead—like your hair.

14. Heat Tools

Even if you apply a heat protectant beforehand, you may still be committing some major sins when it comes to using heat tools.
When it comes to blow drying or straightening you hair, maximum heat does not equal maximum style. Dial down that temperature and save your hair the damage.
According to Kyselica, women have been curling their hair for eons. But they didn’t always use heat.
“Curly hair has been popular all throughout history,” she says. “And since curling irons weren’t that easy to use for a long time—they were literally irons, which you’d heat in the fire or over a stove, eek!—ladies resorted to overnight curling methods.”
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Whether you’re looking to achieve vintage pin curls or the more frizz-tastic 18th-century paper curls, you’d be surprised at what you can achieve without the use of heat tools.
“The key is to start with damp hair and a setting product,” says Kyselica. “Separate the hair into even sections, twist each section into a curl and secure it according to the method you’re using. Then allow your hair to dry and set overnight.”
The result? Beautiful curls with no damage whatsoever. Trust me: your ends will thank you.
“Overnight curling is much better for the hair than heat styling, and often tends to last longer as well,” she says. “Definitely a lost treasure, if you ask me!”

15. Conditioner

Unless you’re following the Curly Girl Method and co-washing, you should never apply conditioner to your roots. Your scalp probably produces enough oil, and adding more may leave you with greasy hair.
Focus on the mid-lengths and ends when applying conditioner. Make sure to leave it in for a couple of minutes before rinsing it out so it can really work its magic on your hair.
The best part about washing your hair this way? Your hair stays much cleaner for longer. You’re welcome.

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Real Misconceptions That Men Have Had About Menstruation

Allow me to set the scene for you. It’s a Wednesday afternoon at Wirth-Parks Middle School in Cahokia, Illinois. Police have been called to attend to a gruesome discovery by the school’s janitor. An excruciating three hours pass. The coroner is called in. This doesn’t look good.
What exactly did that janitor find in the girls’ bathroom? A used menstrual pad.

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Of course, he didn’t realize that’s what it was at first. The janitor—and apparently the local police—suspected it was actually fetal remains. They even sent it away to get tested at a lab. Spoiler alert: It was just period blood.
As crazy as that story is, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that so many men were unable to recognize the sight of period blood. When it comes to menstruation, men are often left in the dark—willingly or otherwise.
Not convinced? Then you’d better prepare for a rude awakening. Who knows, you might even learn a thing or two.

1. Period pain comes from the birth canal.

Katie Atkins is a 37-year-old artist with a 31-year-old partner who recently revealed that he didn’t fully understand the deal with period pain.

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“He thought women got pain inside—like, the ‘lining’ of the sides,” she says. “Basically where a tampon goes. Because he heard the word lining, I guess.”
“I burst out with crazy laughter and was like, ‘I’m not laughing AT you, I promise.'”
For the record: Periods can cause discomfort in other areas like the lower belly and the back, but the actual cramps are caused by contractions in the uterus. The pain can range anywhere from mild to severe and it is true that some lucky women don’t experience them at all.

2. Period blood can be held in, like urine.

Contrary to popular belief, getting your period is not the same as urinating. Nevertheless, some men believe that it is, in fact, very similar to urinating.

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How? As this Reddit post posits, women somehow have the ability to hold in their period blood. Which would mean that any woman who accidentally leaks on her clothing, mattress, or any other surface is willfully soiling herself.
For the record: Women have absolutely no control over when their period happens. There is no pause button. We wish there were a pause button. Somebody, please, invent a pause button.

3. All women get their periods at the exact same time of the month.

Have you ever noticed that all women everywhere are mysteriously moody, sporting hot water bottles and reluctant to engage in strenuous physical activity at the exact same time every month? Yeah, me neither.

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This in itself should be enough to make you realize that women aren’t all “synced up” like clockwork, but apparently not. One woman posted on Twitter that her male co-worker thought all women menstruated at the same time at the end of each calendar month.
For the record: Every woman is different, and no two women share exactly the same cycle. There has been some research to suggest that women who live together can sometimes “sync up” on their cycles (a process referred to as menstrual synchrony) but the jury is still out on that.

4. Premenstrual syndrome is a myth.

This is one misconception that I personally wish were true. Unfortunately, it isn’t. But that doesn’t stop some men from believing it. Apparently we’re incapable of experiencing either extreme pleasure or pain.

I had the misconception that the media had played up PMS and that it was a bit of an excuse to vent.

Jhey Aymes, a 37-year-old father of two, didn’t buy into the “PMS myth” conspiracy, but he did feel that it was a tad exaggerated.
“My first serious girlfriend, who I was with from 16 till 23, had very mild periods and not much mood fluctuation,” he says. “So I had the misconception that the media had played up PMS and that it was a bit of an excuse to vent. I have since had partners who are very debilitated by their cycles and know its a gamut.”

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Nowadays, Aymes is a father of a toddler and a teenager, and has made sure both his kids are fully educated on menstruation.
For the record: Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) is a broad term that describes the physical and emotional symptoms that can occur a few days before a woman’s menstrual cycle including cramps, mood swings, and headaches. There is actually some debate about whether the cause of PMS is more biological or psychological, but it remains a widely recognized condition in the medical community. A more severe form of PMS called Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) does appear in the DSM-5.

5. Period blood attracts grizzly bears.

No, it’s not just an iconic line from Anchorman. Many men are genuinely concerned that being in the presence of a menstruating woman may put them at risk of encountering dangerous wild animals, such as bears or sharks. Supposedly this fear can be traced back to a bear attack in Montana in 1967 which left two women dead, one of whom was having her period at the time.

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For the record: This misconception is so pervasive that the National Park Service published research to show that no, grizzly bears are not interested in your tampon.

6. You can squeeze blood out of a menstruating woman by hugging her too tightly.

As much as I wish I’d read this on the internet, unfortunately I had to experience this firsthand when a male friend did indeed hug me a little too tightly.

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I winced and asked him not to do that, as I was having my period. I assumed he would know that I was trying to tell him I was in pain and that a tight hug may hurt me.
He immediately released me, a horrified look on his face, before comparing me—in all seriousness—to a sauce bottle. That’s right: He thought that if he squeezed me too tight, he would squeeze the blood out of my body.
For the record: Period blood can’t be forced out. As stated above, women don’t have any control over how much blood comes out or when.

7. You can’t get a woman pregnant during her period.

This is one menstruation misconception that even women are guilty of believing (which is dangerous, considering that it can result in, well, pregnancy).

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For the record: The risk of pregnancy while menstruating is very low but can be higher depending on the length of a woman’s cycle. Sperm also has the ability to survive for quite a long time in the body, so you could end up with a fertilized egg days later, especially if you have a shorter cycle.

8. Every cycle is the same.

Andrew Hann, a 58-year-old carpenter, believes he has a pretty open mind and had always been quite confident in his knowledge of women’s anatomy. But even he admits to once having some misconceptions of his own.

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“The only misconception I can think of pertaining to a woman’s period is that it was for a day or two,” he says. “Not sure where I got that one, but I found out later that not all women experience the same duration or intensity and that it does affect hormones and mood for up to close to a week.”
For the record: There is no “normal” period length. It varies from woman to woman, and the menstrual cycle might occur every 21 to 35 days and last two to seven days. These cycles can be regular (the same length every month) or differ from month to month.

Why do men think these things?

It’s hard to believe that someone who received comprehensive sex education at school could believe any of the things on this list. And yet it seems that some men are learning much of what they know about periods from their significant others. At the same time, they’re failing to understand how differently each woman experiences her cycle.
Both Hann and Aymes admitted to showing an interest in learning about physiology from a young age, reading books and asking their parents questions. Hann also believes he received adequate sex education from his public school. As for his friends, he assumes their knowledge of menstruation probably isn’t lacking.
“The men I know probably wouldn’t have gaps because we are older now and have had ample time to learn, although there are still some that won’t go near it,” he says. “This is a difficult question because I can’t ever remember talking in detail about it with other men.”

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Atkins thinks that the gaps in her partner’s knowledge may be caused by his inadequate sex education.
“I feel like they didn’t talk too much about things like periods when he was growing up, and he’s too polite to ask,” she said. “He said he was a tiny bit embarrassed and pretty much acknowledged that he didn’t get taught this kind of stuff at school.”
And then, of course, there are online communities that actively perpetuate mistruths about women’s bodies and reproduction in order to degrade and shame them. Let’s not mention them by name.
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Anti-feminists aside, there’s still the issue of men who simply aren’t aware of the scientific facts. Their formal sex ed classes may be long behind them, so how can men be expected to learn what they don’t know?
The answer might be honest discussion about menstruation from both men and women.

It’s hard to see your own blind spots.

“It’s hard to see your own blind spots,” says Aymes. “I think that the whole thing has been somewhat normalized but also has a ways to go. I mostly interact with women and have not had many discussions with males about it, but if many women still think it’s ‘gross’ and struggle to express what they need in that time, then I am sure there are men who are confused and perpetuating negative stereotypes.”

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Is Coffee Good For You? Here’s What The Research Says

Dunkin’ Donuts likes to tell us that America runs on Dunkin’, but let’s face it: Americans will run on any old coffee. An estimated 54 percent of us over the age of 18 drink at least one cup daily, and most coffee drinkers are sucking down at least three cups of joe each day.
Coffee consumption is a $40 billion business, according to a 2010 report from the National Coffee Association, but what are we really drinking? And is coffee good for you, or are the side effects outweighing that sweet caffeinated boost?

What is coffee, anyway?

There’s an old dad joke that coffee is a bean, so it’s a good way to get your vegetables. Technically, coffee does come from a coffee bean, but the bean part of that phrase is a bit of a misnomer. Coffee beans are really seeds from the coffee cherry, which grows on the flowering coffee fruit tree. So in reality, coffee is a fruit product.
The National Coffee Association traces the origin of our favorite pick-me-up beverage back to ancient times, when a goat herder named Kaldi supposedly noticed that his goats were eating “berries” from a particular tree and showing signs of high energy after their snacking.
The berries were, of course, what we now know as coffee cherries, and whether the legend is true or not, it’s clear that at some point in history, people started looking to coffee beans as a means for getting caffeine into their exhausted bodies. By the 15th century, coffee was a tradeable good on the Arabian peninsula, with the Turkish word kahve and the Arabic word qahweh eventually giving rise to the English coffee.  
The drink had hopped continents to Europe by the 17th century and came across the Atlantic shortly thereafter, making its way to America thanks to the help of the British sometime in the 1600s. The infamous tea tax that prompted the Boston Tea Party (and eventually the American Revolutionary War) buoyed coffee’s popularity in America and got us hooked on java. That’s when coffee consumption became as much your patriotic duty as means of fight fatigue, and a nation of coffee drinkers was born.
Of course, the fact that coffee will wake you up in the morning didn’t exactly hurt in making coffee our go-to beverage.
“The main active compound in coffee is caffeine, which stimulates the central nervous system and makes us more alert,” explains registered dietitian Travis King.
And just one cup of coffee can pack a whole lot of caffeine. A venti (20 oz) of Starbucks’ Blonde Roast boasts 475 milligrams of caffeine, whereas a standard Green Mountain Keurig K-Cup will infuse 75 milligrams of caffeine into just eight ounces of brew.
There’s no question that we love the jolt that we get from coffee, but what is all our coffee consumption doing to our bodies?

Is coffee good for you?

If you go by the constantly changing headlines, coffee can do a whole lot of harm—or a whole lot of good—to the body.
A study published in the Annals of Internal Medicine just this past August, for example, suggests that coffee drinkers live longer than people who stick with tea or water. Funded by the National Cancer Institute, the researchers looked at more than 180,000 American adults ages 45 to 75 and their coffee drinking habits. They then looked at mortality statistics, including deaths due to heart disease, cancer, respiratory disease, stroke, diabetes, and kidney disease. Their conclusion? “Higher consumption of coffee was associated with lower risk for death in African Americans, Japanese Americans, Latinos, and whites.”
Another study, also published in the Annals of Internal Medicine and funded by the European Commission Directorate-General for Health and Consumers and International Agency for Research on Cancer, took a look at the impact of coffee drinking by more than half a million Europeans in 10 different countries.
The researchers considered everything from liver function to inflammation and metabolic health, splitting up men and women to see if coffee had different effects based on gender. In the end, they came up with similar results: “Coffee drinking was associated with reduced risk for death from various causes.”
So coffee is a magical elixir that will save—or at least extend—your life, right?
Not so fast.
“It’s been called a wonder drug, and it’s been called a carcinogen,” says Ruth Kava, PhD, RD, a senior nutrition fellow at the American Council of Science and Health. “It’s all over the map.”
But the answer lies somewhere in between, and one of the major issues with caffeine research and data is how studies are performed. Most coffee studies are retrospective, Kava tells HealthyWay. That means that people are being asked to report their past activities—for example, how much coffee they drink—to researchers after the fact.
“Maybe you’re going to remember that accurately, maybe you’re not,” Kava points out. What’s more, retrospective studies can be skewed by a participant’s fear that the researcher will judge their answers, meaning they may under- or overreport their coffee consumption.
That makes all of the results that claim to show coffee is good for you a mixed bag. Kava’s analysis of all the studies out there?
Coffee isn’t magic, but it does have its benefits, at least when it comes to the caffeine portion of the equation. Being alert, of course, is a good thing. It means we have better reaction times, we’re more vigilant, and we’re usually better able to perform our day-to-day tasks. A registered dietitian herself, Kava drinks coffee in the morning as a wake up, as do 43 percent of Americans who turn to caffeine to combat “daytime sleepiness.”
The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) gives limited caffeine intake the rubber stamp. Although there is no official guideline from any federal agency on how much coffee to drink for health, the FDA espouses adult consumption of up to 400 milligrams of caffeine a day “as an amount not generally associated with dangerous, negative effects.” If you’re constantly hitting the coffee cart at work, there’s good news here: 400 milligrams is equal to about four or five cups (as in measuring cups—not paper cups or mug refills) of coffee per day.
Even the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (ACOG) has given pregnant women leave to consume some coffee during their pregnancies. In a committee opinion issued in 2010, the OB-GYN group noted, “Moderate caffeine consumption (less than 200 mg per day) does not appear to be a major contributing factor in miscarriage or preterm birth.”
And while the doctors did note that caffeine can cross the placenta to the baby, the official opinion states that the crossover “does not cause a decrease in uterine blood flow or fetal oxygenation.” Pregnant women are advised to speak directly with their medical caregivers before consuming caffeine, but the ACOG leaves the door open for a bit of java consumption during pregnancy.
Even if you’re not pregnant, the amount of coffee you should drink (or whether you should consume any at all) should come down to a talk with your medical practitioner, but Kava is quick to advise that women not jump on the coffee bandwagon hoping it will cure them of their ills.
“For the average, relatively healthy adult, moderate consumption is not going to hurt you, but it’s not going to cure all your ailments,” she says.

Is coffee bad for you?

Did you notice Kava said coffee consumption is okay for the average, relatively healthy adult? The key word here is adult. Even the doctors who say coffee is okay to drink (and that it can give you a much-needed wake-up call in the morning) are adamant that coffee is likely bad for children.
Almost three-quarters of kids consume caffeinated beverages every day, according to a study published by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), with energy drinks and coffee leading the pack in terms of kids’ caffeinated beverages of choice. But if you have a child at home who is begging you to just let them tag along on the next Starbucks trip because “Everyone else is,” it’s okay to stand firm, even if you’re a coffee drinker yourself.
According to the AAP, the risks of coffee (and other caffeinated beverages) to kids is limited, but so far, studies on coffee and caffeine intake have largely focused on adults. The AAP study does report cases of caffeine toxicity and deaths, as well as the risk of tachycardia, arrhythmia, hypertension, hyperactivity, anxiety, and increased blood sugar concentrations as reasons kids should not drink coffee or other caffeinated beverages.
And it isn’t just kids who can suffer from coffee’s side effects—or the side effects from whatever’s added to your coffee.
“The antioxidants in coffee have been linked to a decreased risk of type 2 diabetes, Parkinson’s disease, myocardial infarction, and cirrhosis,” says Matthew Kunar, DO, a family practitioner with OhioHealth Primary Care Physicians. “However, there is some evidence that shows adding sugar and non-dairy creamer to your coffee may decrease the antioxidant effects.”
Those additives in coffee can add up, Kava points out. If you’re sweetening your coffee with spoonfuls of sugar, you might want to take a look at just how much you’re increasing your sugar consumption, because doing so can be linked to obesity, heart disease, and more.
The idea that coffee consumption should be limited to less than 400 milligrams of caffeine, per the FDA guidelines, is also not to be ignored. If nothing else, limiting your coffee intake could help you sleep better. Studies have found that the fatigue-fighting benefits of caffeine end up costing us when we drink too much coffee (or drink it too close to bedtime), basically creating a vicious cycle of being tired, drinking coffee to combat it, struggling to sleep, being tired, and going for another pour.
“Caffeine, especially within four to six hours of sleep, can cause insomnia, so I usually advise against an afternoon cup of coffee if it’s interfering with sleep quality,” King points out.
Depending on how much you drink, or how your body reacts, the stimulating effects of caffeine can also be considered a drawback.
“Everyone’s response to caffeine is different, so some people will feel more anxious, jittery, and have a rise in blood pressure from a small amount of coffee,” King explains. If you’re feeling shaky or overstimulated, it’s suggested you cut back on your intake—or cut it out of your life entirely.
It’s important to note that not all coffee-beverages are created equal. A study conducted by researchers at the Second University of Naples’ Department of Experimental Medicine found that espresso increased parasympathetic nervous system activity in healthy young people, but regular coffee didn’t. Clearly your next coffee shop order should be guided by your own health and wellness goals.
The good news? Many of studies that slam coffee as something harmful are much like those that declare it a wonder drug, Kava says. They’re retrospective or just plain inconclusive.
“It’s really kind of a mishmash of studies,” she points out.

The Bottom Line

While grabbing a coffee is a trendy way of socializing and can feel like an indulgent pick-me-up, coffee drinking also manages to get a bad rap. Despite the mixed messages on our relationship with the beloved bean, at the end of the day, most doctors give coffee the thumbs up, at least when you stick to a few cups a day rather than slurping it down from dawn to dusk.
As Kava points out, “You can drink too much of anything!”
If you’re worried about how much coffee you drink, you may want to talk to your doctor about it. They can help you devise a plan to kick a caffeine habit that’s gone too far without having adverse withdrawal effects. And if you’re convinced you need to go it alone, don’t be too hasty.
“I wouldn’t recommend trying to quit cold turkey,” warns Trude Brinley, a registered dietitian at OhioHealth Grady Memorial Hospital. “That can lead to severe headaches!”
Instead, she suggests switching to half-caff beverages—a blend of regular and decaf coffee—or ordering a small cup rather than the large. “Then start taking it down little by little,” she says.
Replacing coffee with water will definitely make your doctor happy (how often do we hear how much we need to hydrate?) Tea may be another obvious alternative, but be aware: Teas often have caffeine in them as well, unless you opt for completely herbal varieties. That said, they are a good middle ground between coffee and going caffeine-free, if that’s what you need.
“Teas, especially green teas, are associated with a lot of the benefits of coffee with a more moderate dose of caffeine, so some people may not experience as strong negative side effects with tea,” King says. “Other infused drinks, like guayusa and yerba mate, are becoming more popular as sources of caffeine that are claimed to have a variety of benefits, but these haven’t been researched as extensively, so take health claims with a grain of salt.”

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6 Essential Oil Blends You Need To Cozy Your Home Up For Fall

Burning scented candles has long been the way to do aromatherapy on a budget. But with everyone and your mother pushing essential oils on Facebook and rumors that candles may or may not be hazardous to your health, if you’re looking to make the switch, now might be the perfect time.
Whether aromatherapy has medicinal benefits is still up for debate in the scientific community, but there is no question that we are affected by the scents around us. So whether you’re looking for the calming benefits of a house that’s full of good smells or just want to encounter some delicious scents when you walk back in the door after a long day, here are some recipes you may want to play with this fall:

1. Frankincense, Patchouli, Lavender, and Rosemary

The outside air isn’t the only thing that’s crisp in autumn! Rosemary adds freshness to this fall brew for the same sort of pick-me-up you get when you take a walk on a fall afternoon. Patchouli is said to have mood-boosting properties too, making this mix a must when you’re stuck at home and want to feel good about it.

2. Cinnamon, Clove, and Nutmeg

Hello pumpkin pie. No need to turn on the oven with this mix! These oils are all reminiscent of the kitchen, but you don’t have to whip up any baked goods to spread the smell throughout the house. Heck, if you want to put your diffuser in the bathroom to make things smell divine, we won’t judge.

3. Orange, Lime, and Sage

Sage isn’t just a thing you sprinkle in your stuffing. The sage and citrus oil mix is a popular blend in soaps and lotions for good reason. The freshness of the citrus cuts through the strong herbal scent for a smell that’s clean and invigorating.

4. Nutmeg, Orange, Clove, Lemon, Cinnamon, Eucalyptus Radiata, and Rosemary

That’s a whole lot of scents, we know. But the orange and lemon bring the citrusy scent that makes a home smell fresh and clean into a mix that’s otherwise earthy and reminiscent of a walk through the local nursery.

5. Orange, Cinnamon Bark, Clove, Vanilla, and Nutmeg

Hello holiday cheer! Remember when your mom used to boil the orange peels on the stovetop with a few dashes of this and sprinkles of that? Now you can mix the whole thing up in a diffuser and spread the smell of the holidays throughout your house. No one has to know you didn’t have time to bake this year!

6. Lavender and Cedar Wood

People have been sprinkling lavender on their pillows and packing clothes in cedar chests for decades (if not longer), so these scents tend to bring us back to childhood. Add this mix to your diffuser and set it up in your bedroom for a pleasant trip off to dreamland.