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The Steps You Should Follow Before Getting Highlights

Jen Panaro, the woman behind lifestyle website Honestly Modern, chose the balayage technique because the lack of upkeep worked well with her lifestyle.
“After highlighting my hair for a few years in high school, I took a 15-year break from highlights because I didn’t want to commit to the regular appointments and expensive cost,” she says. “Recently, I started having balayage treatments, and I have been so happy with them! Because I only have to get treatments once every six months, it’s much more affordable and takes up much less time. Because it’s not colored near the roots, I can also decide at any time to stop coloring it and let it grow out to my natural color with no concerns.”

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So, you’re thinking about getting highlights, too. You’ve glanced at Instagram and marveled at the luscious locks, you’ve read stories like Panaro’s to get you extra excited, and you’ve even given thought to a reasonable budget. Now what?
Well, there are a few steps you should follow before hitting the salon. We hit the books and talked to professionals to acquire them. Here’s what you need to know:

Step 1: Brush up on what highlights actually entail, then evaluate the current state of your hair.

If you’re totally new to hair dye and highlights in general, here’s a quick primer on how the whole thing works.
Hair is mostly made up of keratin, which is a protein also found in your nails and skin. Your natural hair color is determined by two different melanin proteinseumelanin causes dark hair, and phaeomelanin causes blonde and red hair. Hair dyes are little molecules of color designed to reach the thickest layer, or cortex, of the hair. Semi- or demi-permanent dye molecules will eventually get washed out and leave the cortex; permanent hair dye molecules react with the melanin inside the hair cortex, permanently changing the hair’s color.

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Once the chemicals have been applied to your hair, you must wait a while for the chemicals to do their magic—and yep, sometimes that means hours.
While most modern hair dyes are very safe, some people may experience some nasty allergic reactions to them. A common hair dye ingredient called paraphenylenediamine can cause rashes, swelling, welts, and itching in people who are allergic to it. (To test for allergies, your stylist should always do a patch test—that means dabbing a small amount of the dye onto your skin, usually behind your ear or on the inside of your elbow, to see if anything happens within a 24- or 48-hour period.)
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Before you make changes to your hair color, you should figure out what’s going on with your hair right now. Ask yourself a few questions: Is your hair damaged by heat or color? When was the last time you had it treated? Are you super sensitive to chemicals or dye in general? Are you sure you want to change your hair, or would you be just as happy rocking a fun colored wig on special occasions?
If you are already suffering from breakage or seriously dry hair, you should wait until your hair is healthy again and ready to take on color. If you’ve had it colored recently, ask a professional hair stylist how long you should wait before getting more color.

Step 2: Figure out the style you want.

Once you’re confident that your hair can handle some color, it’s time for the fun part: Narrowing down exactly what you want.
Paul Cucinello, CEO of members-only salon Cucinello Studio, says you should ask yourself what type of highlights will be most flattering with the texture and base color of your hair.

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“I always say that highlights should always accentuate and enhance the depth and dimension of a beautiful hair color,” says Cucinello. “They shouldn’t have to be more than a few shades lighter than your existing color. If that’s the case, you might want to consider changing your overall color before you start adding highlights. You can’t decorate the house before you build the foundation.”
Social media is a great place to start. On Instagram, browse hashtags like #balayage, #haircolor, #mastersofbalayage, #brunettehighlights, #blondehighlights, and #hairdressermagic, then save your favorite pics to your phone or tear out magazine pages so you can show stylists exactly what you are looking for (and maybe a few examples of what you don’t want, too).
While you’re researching, take time to brush up on the lingo. A few key terms you should know:
Partial highlights: If you get partial highlights, the stylist won’t put the highlights all over your head, obviously, but just on part of your hair. Typically, partial highlights frame your face. 
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Full highlights: This is when the highlights are done on every section of your head.
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Foil highlights: During this process, the stylist will take sections of hair, apply the highlighter chemicals to them, and fold them up in pieces of foil until the dye has set in.
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Balayage: This is a freehand technique where the stylist essentially “paints” your hair with the color rather than using the foil method.
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Ombré: Ombré is the French word for “shadow.” In the context of hair, it means a look that goes from darker to lighter in color.
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Lowlights: Lowlights are when you add a darker color to your hair rather than a lighter one.
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Pintura: Pintura is a specific technique for highlighting curly or textured hair, developed at the DevaChan salon 20 years ago (the salon specializes in curly hair).
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“[Pintura] literally means ‘to paint,’ and with this technique, colorists apply hues directly onto the hair without the use of foil,” the DevaChan blog explains. “They ‘paint’ this way because it allows more application freedom, as a result colorists are able to individually identify which curls catch the light the best, and highlight them to add more dimension to someone’s individual texture.”

Step 3: Look for a hair stylist who has done this before—and is comfortable working with your hair type.

“If you don’t have a colorist or have never colored your hair before, find someone who has great hair color with highlights and then schedule a consultation with that colorist,” Cucinello recommends. “Bring lots of pictures of what you have in mind, and more important, what you don’t want.”
You can also check out salon reviews on Yelp and Google and browse stylists’ Instagram pages to see their previous work.

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If you have specific concerns, look for relevant reviews and call ahead to the salon. If you have natural hair and want to ensure your stylist has experience with your texture, for example, see if other natural-haired customers have reviewed their services or ask the salon to confirm the stylist’s experience.
When you’re researching, don’t forget to consider pricing. The price range will depend on a few things, like what kind of highlights you want, how long your hair is, how experienced your stylist is, and where you are located. At the Bumble and Bumble salon in New York City, partial foil or balayage highlights run $175-$320, and full foil or balayage goes for $225-$375. At Blondes and Blowouts in Dallas, balayage starts at $250. At Edit Salon in Chicago, full highlights start at $150. Highlighting your hair usually isn’t cheap (sadly) so you need to be realistic about your budget.
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When you call to make your appointment, ask the salon if they have any specific instructions for you. A good general rule of thumb is to show up with clean hair, wearing your usual everyday style.
Smadar Nadav, a junior colorist at Devachan, explains: “We ask our clients to come in with their curls down and in their natural state. Since we paint with your curl pattern, the more we can see the curl and definition the better we control where the color lands. We section out the hair before we highlight. Then we paint each curl we want to showcase and bring light to.”

Step 4: Figure out how your appointment is going to go.

Many salons will offer a consultation ahead of the actual appointment. During that consultation, you can patch test the hair dyes and make sure you’re on the same page with your stylist about the final look. You can ask questions about the chemicals in the dye they use, talk through any potential side effects, and work out an aftercare plan. The stylist can also advise you on how long they expect your appointment to take—giving you the option to rethink things if the 8 hours it would take to give you lavender highlights is not your idea of a great time.

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Though you may have your heart set on a certain style, remember that the stylist is a pro. It’s possible that your dream color might not look great with your skin tone, and you may be better served by a warmer or cooler tone. Listen to their input—this is a great chance to collaborate and use the stylist’s expertise to come up with something that’s perfect for you.
“As a colorist, I always have the final result in mind and a color that may look great on one client, might not fit another one,” stylist Giulia Farella from Fabio Scalia Salons explained in a blog post. “Trends come and go, but a great style could last forever. My advice would be to consult with your colorist to find a color that fits your skin tone, haircut, and style in general.”
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On the day of your appointment, eat beforehand, and make sure to have water and snacks on hand. Some salons, though, offer complimentary snacks and beverages; other places even have a menu you can order from.
Wear something comfortable (dark colors are always a safe bet if you’ll be around dye—accidents happen, people!). Chances are you’ll be at the salon for a number of hours, so come prepared with your phone charger and something to keep you occupied. Most salons will offer reading material, but you could bring along crosswords, addictive iPhone games, or even headphones to watch a show or listen to a podcast during times when your stylist isn’t actively working on your hair.

Step 5: Figure out how to care for your hair afterwards.

Your stylist will provide you with specific aftercare instructions, but here are a few general guidelines.
In many cases, experts suggest waiting 72 hours before shampooing your hair. And you may need to pick up some specialized shampoos for color-treated hair, as many professionals recommend washing your hair with a sulfate-free shampoo after a color treatment. Sulfates are common in shampoos and cause the product to lather when you add water; however, they can also strip your hair and scalp of natural oils, drying out your hair and making it brittle. Sulfates can also strip your hair color, causing dye to fade fast.

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Other tips to keep your highlights looking great: Don’t wash your hair too often, as that can cause the color to fade; use cool or lukewarm water when washing your hair because super hot water can leach out the dye; allow your hair to dry naturally as often as possible; when you do need to heat-style your hair, use styling tools on low heat and use a heat-protecting spray or balm on your hair as well. Oh, and if you’re going to be out in the sun, consider throwing on a cap or scarf to protect your color (along with SPF for your skin, of course).
“I always tell my clients to give their curls a little extra TLC,” Nadav says. “Leaving in extra conditioner or doing a conditioning treatment is always beneficial after the color has had time to settle … the better your curls are hydrated the better your color will look and last.”

The most important step: Deciding whether this process will work for you.

Highlights can be amazing, but if you do all your research and decide it’s not worth it, there’s no shame in that.
“Will the highlights be realistic to maintain based on your budget and lifestyle?” Cucinello asks. “How often will you need to have your highlights retouched? Will you need to do the same amount of highlights every time, and what will the cost be? No one likes surprises when it’s time to pay for their services.”

Some people may not have the patience to sit for hours in the salon chair; for others the service just isn’t in the budget; for others still, the aftercare instructions might be a little too high-maintenance. If the highlight world isn’t for you? No big deal. But if it is, gather all the info you need and reap the rewards of your hard work when you walk out with your new look.

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I Hate My Job: How To Stay Positive When You Can’t Quit (Yet!)

It’s probably safe to say that most people have thought I hate my job at one point or another. Unless you’re one of those lucky few who truly loves their job, chances are pretty high you feel a sense of disappointment on Sunday night: The weekend’s ending, and you’ll be back to the daily grind as soon as you wake up on Monday morning. But as we get back into the swing of the workweek, most of us manage to have a positive outlook and generally enjoy feeling productive—or at least making some hard-earned cash on pay day.
But what if the Sunday scaries don’t go away, and you feel an impending sense of doom on your way to work every single day? You dread the thought of checking your inbox, the walls of the office seems to close in on you, and you’re counting down the hours until quitting time as soon as you step in the door. Worse than that, when you hate your job, you end up taking that frustration and hostility home with you—ruining the few free hours you have away from work.
I’ve been there—there was a time when I’d tell my work bestie, “I need to get out of this place. I hate my job,” as soon as I sat down at my desk. And like most people, I couldn’t just walk out (though I had to fight that urge daily). In most cases, quitting takes time and careful planning—and the opportunity to leave a job you hate doesn’t usually happen as quickly as you’d like. So what can you do in the meantime to make your Monday through Friday bearable when you hate your job?
If you’re intent on sticking it out at a job that makes you miserable, there are some strategies you can use to get through it. Executive coach Libby Gill, author of The Hope-Driven Leader: Harness the Power of Positivity at Work explains that it’s important to continue doing your best at work, even when you’d rather be anywhere else.
“Slacking off will only make you feel worse about your job, especially when you start to get pushback or complaints or a negative performance appraisal,” she says. “Instead, take responsibility and do something to make the situation better until you can move on.”
If you find yourself reciting a running narrative that starts with “I hate my job,” here’s what to do to stay motivated, keep your head high, and eventually move on to greener pastures.

Are you annoyed, or do you truly hate your job?

Any job can get under your skin. But there’s a difference between being annoyed by a temporary circumstance, like a missed promotion or a chronically delayed project, and being able to say “I hate my job” and really mean it.
What types of things can drive someone to want to throw in the towel at work?
“Most of the time, when someone hates their job, it’s because of the sheer volume of work and feeling like they’ll never get everything done,” says Gill. “We tend to say yes to too many things, and supervisors can also be unrealistic about what it takes to get a job done.”
Sometimes hating your job is less about the volume of assignments on your plate and more about the work itself. Finding your tasks insufferably boring or meaningless can lead to disengagement at work. In fact, a 2017 Gallup report found that “85 percent of employees are not engaged … with their jobs.”
“The biggest thing that makes people hate their jobs is when they don’t see a direct connection to their company’s value or purpose,” says Gill.
Practical issues can also cause resentment at work. Frequent battles with your supervisor, a lack of advancement opportunities, and chronic stress at the office can make your job feel intolerable.
“Assess the workplace situation and identify the root cause of what’s making you miserable so you can work toward solutions,” advises Gill.
Once you understand why you fell into the I-hate-my-job camp, you can start finding your way back out.

You are not your job.

Given how much time and energy we devote to our careers, many professionals pin their identities to their jobs—and that can make us feel like failures when our companies don’t meet our expectations. Getting some emotional distance from your work (even when you still need to be physically present) can help you feel a lot better when you hate your job.
“If you’re feeling unappreciated, you need to rediscover what’s in your personal life outside of work. It’s not realistic to find all your joy, happiness, and appreciation at work,” Gill says. “What are you doing outside of work that feeds your soul?”
Trying out a new hobby, signing up to volunteer at a worthy organization, and even reviving friendships can help you feel better when you hate your job. These experiences will energize you and remind you of all of the various ways you’re equipped to contribute to society and enjoy life.
“Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Keep up with exercise, pay attention to your relationships and your finances. It’s all common sense stuff, but people tend to neglect the basics when they hate their jobs,” says Gill.

There’s a right (and wrong) way to vent about a job you hate.

All that pent up frustration about work needs to go somewhere—like a passionate venting session with someone you’re close to. I’ll be the first to admit that when I hopped on the complain train with my work bestie, it felt like a relief to blow off some steam for a few minutes.
But in the long run, venting doesn’t do much good. Science shows that complaining actually just makes you feel worse—so try not to let it become a habit.
“It’s okay to vent sometimes, but pick your allies carefully. Vent to people outside your work, like your friends or family, if you need to complain from time to time,” says Gill.
Better yet, try to have an open, honest conversation with someone in a role that’s similar to yours.
“If you can talk freely with them, it can be helpful to see if they’ve faced similar issues and what they’ve done about it,” says Gill.

Take advantage of opportunities—even at that job you hate.

When you hate your job, you might feel like there’s no way to fix it. But it’s worth exploring solutions that could improve the situation. Maybe your workload is too much, or you no longer feel challenged—these are situations that aren’t beneficial for you or your company.
“Talk to your supervisor, human resources, or anyone who might be able to rectify the situation,” says Gill. “Of course, you don’t want to be seen as a whiner, so make the conversation count by bringing real-life examples of issues and potential solutions. Make it clear that you’re there to make the situation better.”
If that doesn’t work, strive to take advantage of fresh opportunities at the job you hate. Learning new skills, trying out a different project, and taking training programs can help you stay in engaged—and make your resume more attractive to future employers when you’re ready to move on.
“Learning something new at work can help you feel like you’re getting something back from a job you hate. It also helps you start thinking about what you might do next,” says Gill. “Even if you know you can’t leave your job for five years, don’t just sit around daydreaming. Spend a year studying, finding a mentor, and taking control of your plan.”

Working Through a Job You Hate

Most of us don’t have the luxury of jumping ship when we hate our jobs. You might just need to grin and bear it. Focusing on small things can help you work through it.
When I hated my job, I tried to make it better by treating myself to really tasty lunches at least once a week. I’d also take frequent walks, both around my spacious office and in the neighborhood—vitamin D and exercise are easy pick-me-ups. And since the office felt unbearable, leaving on time became a priority. I powered through my task list from 9 to 5, which helped the hours fly by and got me out on time.
“Never underestimate the value of friendships and having fun,” adds Gill, “even if you have to schedule them well in advance. Getting together with people you love will help put things back into perspective.”
Gill also suggested something really clever that I wish I’d tried when I hated my job: starting a “thank you” file.
“Whenever people send you an email or a letter of a job well done, put those in a folder. Once in a while, go back through those and you’ll see where you are appreciated. It feels really good,” she says.
From time to time, reread your own resume and LinkedIn profile. Reminders of all that you’ve accomplished can also help you remember that there are bigger things on the horizon.

Networking When You Hate Your Job

It’s tempting to isolate yourself from your colleagues when you hate your job. But that’s the opposite of how you should approach things, says Gill. She says networking can be a powerful tool for helping you cope during a difficult time at work.
“Find healthy relationships on the job and get to know people outside of your own team. Have lunch or coffee with somebody new once a week. People feel like that’s a lot, but it’s not if you plan ahead,” she says.
Forming those bonds may revive some of the passion you lost for work—or at least put you on a path toward leaving a job you hate.
“I suggest to people that they do something industry-wide once a month, like professional conferences or women’s networking groups, so you’re exposed outside of your organization. It adds to your ability to look around for your next job,” says Gill.
Talking with new people frequently also helps you practice a critical skill: making your elevator pitch.
“You’ll learn not to immediately say, ‘I hate my job,’ and instead talk about how you’re curious about what’s next for your career,” says Gill.
Staying professionally active will be a positive, energizing force that counterbalances a draining day job.

Planning an Exit Strategy From a Job You Hate

Maybe you’ve decided it’s time to cut your losses and break things off with the job you hate. Hopefully you have another job already lined up. But if not, start dropping not-too-subtle hints to people who can lead you to your next opportunity.
“Look around while you’re still on the job. Unless it’s contractually prohibited at your company, you’re allowed to take meetings and plant seeds. The safest way to do it is to say, ‘Hey, I’ve been working here for this number of years, and things are going well, but I’m looking for my next adventure.’ I guarantee your bosses are doing the same thing,” says Gill.
If your job search does get back to your boss, fess up to it, says Gill.
“Tell them you need to keep your options open for the future and you’ll never leave them in the lurch. Remind them that if and when you decide to leave, you won’t be doing it to try to leverage a raise or promotion from them,” she says.
Finally, when it’s time to part ways with your current company, leave with grace.
“I call it the art of the depart,” says Gill. “Give it your best effort until the day you leave. Give a reasonable amount of notice and try to hand off your projects in a seamless way.”
Whatever you do, don’t gossip about your boss or the company—you’re probably going to need them for a reference at some point in the future.
“Trashing your boss can really come back to haunt you. So rather than talking about how much you hate your job, focus on everything you’ve learned and been able to contribute in your role,” says Gill.
Resigning with dignity will help preserve your professional reputation and give you the headspace you’ll need to focus on your next move—hopefully to a job you don’t hate.
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Why Human Papillomavirus Is The STI That’s So Hard To Avoid

Ellen (name changed by request) was just 19 years old when she was rushed to the emergency room. The problem? Excruciating pain during sex. The diagnosis was human papillomavirus (HPV), which had created abnormalities in Ellen’s vagina, resulting in pain—and later a diagnosis of cancer.
“I was young. I felt this awful fear,” Ellen tells HealthyWay. “Who would want to be with me? How do you tell someone that you are a carrier for an STD? I had a lot of guilt and disgust.”
It’s true that HPV is a sexually transmitted infection or STI (a term that’s replaced the phrase sexually transmitted disease or STD in medical circles in recent years), and with it has come an unfortunate stigma for the women and men who are diagnosed.
But while cancer and other complications from HPV are real, the truth is, being sexually active in America means your chances of coming in contact with HPV are sky high. It’s almost guaranteed that sexually active Americans will encounter this common STI at some time in their lives.
Sounds like an exaggeration, right? One virus can’t possibly be so prevalent that nearly everyone will be exposed to it at one point or another. Guess again.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has labeled HPV as the “most common sexually transmitted infection in the United States.” CDC literature even goes so far as to state that “HPV is so common that nearly all sexually active men and women get the virus at some point in their lives.” Every day, approximately 14,000 individuals ages 13 to 24 are infected with HPV, and every year, more than 30,000 cases of cancer are tied to human papillomavirus.
With 40 distinct types, human papillomavirus isn’t just prevalent. This STI is also wildly contagious, which is why at any given time an estimated 42.5 percent of Americans in the 18 to 59 age range are walking around with a case of HPV.
“Other than abstinence, there is no reliable way to prevent transmission,” says Steven Vasilev, MD, a gynecologic oncologist and medical director of integrative gynecologic oncology at John Wayne Cancer Institute at Providence Saint John’s Health Center in Santa Monica, California. He tells HealthyWay that “A condom will not help prevent transmission, because the virus can be present on multiple genital areas, not just the penis. Other than vaccination at an early age, before exposure to the virus, there is no reliable medical way to prevent spread.”
For Ellen, HPV came with a sexual assault when she was just a tween. For hundreds of thousands more Americans, HPV can come at any time as a result of a sexual encounter, be it one that’s consensual or not.
Because it’s so contagious, the risk is high. But with warnings that some types of HPV (although not all) can cause cancer and it’s nearly impossible to avoid, how worried should you be about HPV? And is there anything you can do to protect yourself or your family?
We asked the experts to weigh in on the real deal with this STI.

What is HPV, anyway?

Short for human papillomavirus, HPV is a virus, just as its name would imply. That means it’s a microscopic organism that replicates inside the cells of a host organism. According to Amesh A. Adalja, MD, a senior scholar at the Johns Hopkins Center for Health Security, human papillomavirus chooses mucosal surfaces as host and tends to live in or on the vagina, penis, anus, and/or mouth, which is where it spreads from person to person via sexual contact.
That means HPV infection can be genital, anal, or oral, depending on the mode of sexual contact, Adalja says. In other words? Oral sex, anal sex, and any other form of genital-to-genital contact can spread HPV. So unlike with pregnancy, simply avoiding sex that puts a cisgender male’s penis in contact with that of a cisgender female will not keep someone safe. Even the use of condoms in those cases can still do little to prevent transmission, as HPV lives in the area around the vagina and anus, not just inside.
Because there are 40 different types of HPV, what happens next depends on what kind you’ve contracted. Most types will cure themselves, passing through the body in six to 12 months without ever showing any symptoms, Vasilev says. But it’s not always that simple.
“Sexual activity timing could be such that the infection is passed back and forth between a monogamous couple for a prolonged period of time,” Vasilev says. What’s more, certain types of HPV can cause complications—some as serious as cancer.

Low-Risk HPV

Most types of HPV are what’s termed “low risk” by doctors. That doesn’t mean it won’t cause problems in your life, but it does mean it’s unlikely to cause cancer.
Low-risk HPV includes the types that cause warts or, as they’re known in medical circles, papillomas (hence the name), says Gerald J. Botko, DMD, a master of the Academy of General Dentistry and dentist chief of service at VA Miami Healthcare System. These warts typically crop up in the genitals and anus of men and women, although women may also have small cauliflower-type growths on the cervix and/or vagina, and oral warts are a possibility. The warts are usually painless but cause some irritation, itching, or burning, Botko continues. Low-risk genital HPV typically goes away on its own without treatment.
“In oral HPV infections, the warts colonize in the back of the mouth (throat), including the tongue, base, and tonsils,” Botko explains. In those cases, contagious lesions found in the gingiva (gums) and palate typically have to be excised surgically for a cure, although sometimes oral HPV can go away on its own as well.
Low-risk HPV can also cause wart-like lesions called condylomas. Again, these can be found on the genitals or in the mouth (the latter from oral–genital contact). Condylomas can cause disfigurement and are difficult to treat, Botko says.
Although low-risk HPV types 6 and 11 cause 90 percent of genital warts, they are still termed low risk because they rarely cause cancer, Botko says.

High-Risk HPV

About a dozen of the 40 types of HPV are considered high risk, but there are just a few that have been linked to cancer. Despite that bit of good news, it turns out that 79 percent of the cancers of the vaginal region, anal region, and mouth are caused by HPV. Researchers have tied most of those back to human papillomavirus types 16 and 18. According to the National Cancer Institute, the most common types are:

  • Cervical cancer: Types 16 and 18 are responsible for about 70 percent of all cases of cervical cancer.
  • Anal cancer: Approximately 95 percent of anal cancers are caused by HPV, most by type 16.
  • Oropharyngeal cancers (which includes cancers of the middle part of the throat, including the soft palate, the base of the tongue, and the tonsils): Approximately 70 percent of oropharyngeal cancers are caused by HPV, more than half by type 16.
  • Vaginal cancer: About 65 percent of cases are caused by HPV, most by type 16.
  • Vulvar cancer: Approximately half of all vulvar cancers are linked to HPV, most caused by type 16.
  • Penile cancer: More than a third of all penile cancers are caused by HPV, most by type 16.

Unfortunately, high-risk HPV tends to be silent, says Renée Volny Darko, DO, an OB-GYN and founder and CEO of Pre-med Strategies, Inc. That means there aren’t signs that scream “I have HPV,” such as pain or itching. Typically, the first sign of infection will be a precancerous lesion—or cancer itself.

Finding HPV Before It Turns to Cancer

Because HPV doesn’t have symptoms until it causes a disease such as genital warts or cancer, most people don’t show up in a doctor’s office complaining that they have an issue. Men can’t currently be tested for HPV, as no such test exists. With women, however, testing can be done at your annual exam to determine if you have HPV.
Although it can’t be picked up via a regular Pap smear, Darko says HPV can be tested from the same sample collected for your Pap smear.
Confused?
“A Pap smear is looking at cells of the cervix under a microscope to determine if they are normal or abnormal,” Darko explains. “HPV can be hiding in cervical cells. Another test can be done on that same sample of cervical cells to determine if HPV is present in the cells.”
If HPV types that are considered low or high risk are noted, your doctor will advise you on the next steps. For example, those tied to cancer may indicate you should have more frequent screenings to ensure that no such cancer has developed.

Preventing HPV Before It Starts

So nothing prevents HPV, right? Sticking to oral or anal sex, condoms—none of that will keep you safe?
Yes and no. Some HPV cases simply can’t be avoided, save for complete abstinence, but Darko says, “HPV vaccine is the next best line of prevention against several types of HPV.”
For children and women under the age of 26, there is now a trio of options out there to prevent the highest-risk forms of human papillomavirus. Gardasil and Cervarix have both been found to help prevent HPV type 16 and 18 infection. Gardasil 9, a more recent vaccine, prevents types 6, 11, 16, 18, 31, 33, 45, 52, and 58.
The vaccine can be given up until age 26, even if you’ve already been sexually active. If you’re pregnant, it’s best to put off the vaccination, says Lara Millar, MD, a radiation oncologist with the Eastern Virginia Medical School, as there’s not enough research on the safety of the vaccine for pregnant women. If you’re afraid you may contract HPV in the meantime and put your baby at risk, Millar says transmission from mother to child can happen but is extremely uncommon.
If at all possible, it’s recommended that you get the HPV vaccine well before pregnancy—and even before having sex.
Darko advocates that parents in particular talk to their children’s pediatrician about it earlier rather than later, no matter how uncomfortable it is to think of their child one day encountering an STI.
“The vaccine is most protective when it is given before the first sexual encounter. So it is recommended for males and females as early as age 11 years,” she says.
Kids who get a dose of the vaccine typically only need one follow-up shot, whereas older women and men who opt for vaccination may require three doses to be fully vaccinated.

Is it worth it?

Consider this: Since the U.S. Food and Drug Administration’s approval of vaccination for human papillomavirus more than a decade ago, doctors have seen a reduction in infection rates. Six years after the vaccine’s approval, a study of infection rates for the four most common high-risk types of HPV showed a 64 percent decrease among females age 14 to 19 years and a 34 percent decrease among those age 20 to 24 years.
It’s also worth using condoms and dental dams regardless of whether you’ve gotten the shot, Darko says. Although they are not 100 percent effective in preventing HPV, contraceptives like these can prevent other STIs (and pregnancy). And if the HPV infection is living inside the vagina or anus or on the penis (rather than outside on labial tissue or near the penis), that coverage may indeed make a difference.
One final note of relief? Although the internet is rife with myths on how HPV is spread, the American Cancer Society assures women and men both that they cannot contract human papillomavirus via a dirty toilet seat, by swimming in a pool or hot tub, or by simply being unclean.

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Mindful Parenting Motherhood

The Baby Sleep Guide Every Mom Needs To Read

It’s the bane of every new mom’s existence: sleep. Or, more accurately, the lack thereof. A major lack thereof in some cases, for months (or even years).
Second to the pain of not sleeping? Getting 1,000 mixed messages about how to deal with your baby not sleeping. Should I let him cry it out? (Or is that too traumatic?) Should I rock her until she’s asleep? (Or is that creating a bad habit?) Should I sit in the room? Should I leave him alone to learn to self-soothe?

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When some people hear baby sleep training, they immediately think of the Cry It Out Method. But the truth is, there are as many approaches to baby sleep training as there are babies, and that amount of choice can be incredibly overwhelming, especially when you are so, well, sleep deprived. The most important thing to keep in mind? It is possible to do what’s best for your baby and for your family. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad or guilty for the choices you make.

How does sleep deprivation affect you?

Not sleeping is no joke—any new parent can tell you how utterly debilitating it is. It impacts every single part of your life. It robs you of your ability to think clearly and to remember things. It weakens your immune system and your reflexes, making you more accident prone. It increases your risk of diabetes and heart attacks and lowers your sex drive. It can also cause depression and anxiety. Lack of sleep can even contribute to the complex recipe for postpartum depression.

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In other words, everything is harder when you’re not sleeping.
But the sleep deprivation of early motherhood will end one day. Eventually, your little one will sleep through the night. Your new normal might be a 6 a.m. wake up, but that will seem like heaven after being up every hour all night long!

Why is getting baby on a sleep schedule good for mom and dad?

You still matter! That’s the short answer.
The longer answer is this: We all need time to refuel, and this is virtually impossible when there is zero time set aside for you.
“Having a baby on a schedule”—more on that below—“allows parents to have a life,” explains Kiri Gurd, PhD, MSC, sleep consultant at Baby Sleep Science, a sleep resource center that offers private consultations, educational materials, and a sleep app. “If your baby only naps in the stroller or the car, you’re not using that time to recuperate, sleep, or do an activity that feeds you.” Likewise, if you’re spending four hours a night struggling to get your baby to sleep, you have no time for adult activities—like couple’s time or going out with friends.
[pullquote align=”center”]“Taking a more systemic approach to sleep—thinking of it as one would nutrition—is helpful. You wouldn’t deny yourself food! It’s so important for the health of the family.”
—Kiri Gurd, PhD[/pullquote]
If you feel guilty, know this: “Sleep is as important to babies as food,” explains Gurd. “And more research shows that lack of sleep is an indicator for disease, anxiety, and depression in mothers.” She encourages moms to think about what exactly they’re feeling guilty about—the fact that the baby is crying? That she’s taking a shower when she should be gazing at the baby? There are lots of different stressors, she explains, including mom being depressed.

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She says, “Taking a more systemic approach to sleep—thinking of it as one would nutrition—is helpful. You wouldn’t deny yourself food! It’s so important for the health of the family.”
Still, Gurd understands that moms have guilt about doing anything for themselves, but argues that they do not need to justify it. “If you need a rationale, I’d say it makes you a better mom. Having free time is not a luxury; it’s a requirement.”

Learning to sleep is a skill.

“Sleep training options are generally perpetuated in a binary way,” Gurd explains. And the rhetoric around that binary often deals in great extremes: “Either you do cry it out and your baby will cry forever, or you’ll co-sleep until they’re 9.” In reality though, your options for teaching your little one to sleep are much more varied—and don’t mean crying forever or bedsharing until middle school.
Gurd and the team at Baby Sleep Science don’t espouse conforming to one method. They lead by what is developmentally fair for the child, based on the science of sleep. “Sleep is so particular to each family,” she explains. “If you don’t feel comfortable with the method you’re using, you won’t be consistent, so it won’t work.”

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She explains that some discomfort—as well as mom guilt—is often alleviated if families understand the science of sleep and the baby’s brain development, but the bottom line is this: We can teach kids to sleep, and we should.
Here’s why: We help our kids learn a number of skills in their lives—to eat, sit, stand, walk, read, write. “When they learn to ride a bike, we don’t just give them a bike and say, ‘Good luck!’” Gurd says. “Or, conversely, if they fall off the first time they try, we don’t say, ‘You clearly can’t do this.’”
“Learning to sleep is like learning any new skill,” she explains. “It’s both psychological and physiological. To learn to [linkbuilder id=”6639″ text=”fall asleep”] on our own requires that the body learns a series of steps that move us into a more relaxed state.” That’s the physiological piece. Psychologically, a baby needs to understand, for example, that she’s safe in her crib.
[pullquote align=”center”]“You’re teaching them a healthy habit. They are sad and confused and you’re going to help them through it, like you will with a million things in their life.
—Kiri Gurd, PhD[/pullquote]
And yes, oftentimes there’s resistance to sleep training, which usually means the baby cries. Sometimes a little, sometimes a lot. “Our discomfort is with the emotions,” Gurd says. “But if you’re doing a method you believe in, that’s biologically sound at an appropriate age, you’re teaching them a healthy habit. They are sad and confused and you’re going to help them through it, like you will with a million things in their life.”
Jane Rosen, PsyD, MA, PhD, and director of a preschool in Los Angeles, concurs. “When parents start to sleep train, it’s often the first time they’re setting a limit, which is hard,” she says. “It’s the beginning of parenting in a much different way.”

How do I know my baby is ready to sleep train?

“The first thing to guide sleep training is the developmental age of child,” Gurd explains. “We can’t do it at 4 or 5 weeks—the child doesn’t have the neurological capacity.” Generally speaking, babies experience a cognitive surge around 4 months, Rosen says. Most parents experience this as the dreaded four-month sleep regression, when all hell breaks loose and whatever schedule you’ve established falls apart.

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Many sleep consultants begin sleep training at this point because babies are developmentally capable of self-soothing—and they are finally sleeping in sleep cycles. The American Academy of Pediatrics’ Healthy Children website notes that babies do not have regular sleep cycles until they’re about 6 months old, so some professionals recommend waiting a bit longer to start working on some form of sleep training.
In other words, when your baby starts waking up during what had formerly been a long stretch of sleep at night—whether it was 4 or 8 hours—it’s time to start teaching him to sleep.

But I’m scared to sleep train! What if she doesn’t stop crying?

It’s normal to feel nervous about sleep training. It is almost impossible to expect your child not to cry when you suddenly start, say, putting her down at 7 p.m. and leaving the room rather than rocking her for hours upon hours.
[pullquote align=”center”]“The baby had you sleep trained, and now you’re changing it up. That’s not harmful.
—Jane Rosen, PsyD, PhD[/pullquote]
That said, “every change is accompanied by crying,” Rosen says. “The baby is fussing and saying, ‘I don’t like this.’ The baby had you sleep trained, and now you’re changing it up. That’s not harmful.”
Given that there will be crying or screaming for a few consecutive nights, “you need to be at point where this is worth it,” Gurd says. “If you’re so tired already, it makes the process harder because you’re already feeling really messed up.”

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She suggests starting sleep training before you’re completely out of your mind with sleeplessness. “Once you see that stretch of sleep go awry at 4 months, that’s a good point to start [laying the foundation].” At 6 months old, a baby can be trained to sleep through the night (but not so at 4 months when they’re still not developmentally ready).

How much should my baby be sleeping?

According to experts at Baby Sleep Science, the following amounts of sleep are developmentally appropriate for baby:

Newborn to 4 months

A newborn doesn’t have a schedule yet, so your main goal is to just surrender to her “schedule.” Let her eat, sleep, and play on demand. The key thing is to not let the baby get overtired or keep her up too long.
Naps: 4 to 5 naps, on demand
Total Sleep: 15 to 16 hours within a 24-hour period (unfortunately not all at once!)

4 to 6 months

A schedule is revealing itself! Hooray! Baby shouldn’t be up for longer than 2 to 2½ hours between naps. During this time, you should try to have the baby sleep in the same place for naps and bedtime, says Rosen. No more moving the baby around wherever you go.
Naps: 3 naps, with the third being the shortest
Total Day Sleep: 3 to 4½ hours
Total Night Sleep: 10 to 12 hours

6 to 9 months

Baby’s schedule should be becoming more set in stone. During this phase, baby usually drops one nap, moving from 3 to 2 naps a day.
Naps: 2 naps
Total Day Sleep: 3 to 4 hours
Total Night Sleep: 10½ to 12 hours

9 to 15 months

Most babies sleep through the night at this point. They usually drop one of their two naps around 12 months, taking just one nap a day through toddlerhood.
Naps:1 nap
Total Day Sleep: 3+ hours up to 12 months,  then down to 2 to 2½ hours after their first birthday
Total Night Sleep: 10½ to 12 hours

Tips for Getting Your Baby to Sleep

Create sleep cues.

Five of them, to be exact, according to Gurd. Sleep cues are actions that are repeated every night, exactly the same way. They become cues that teaching your baby she’s about to go to sleep. These happen after bath time and pajamas. An example would be:

  1. Dim the lights in the bedroom.
  2. Put the baby in a sleep sack.
  3. Read a book.
  4. Sing a song.
  5. Put the sound machine on.

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Note that these should only take 15 minutes in total—any longer than this and the baby won’t associate them with sleep. This applies for slightly older kids, too, but again, keep it short because a 2-year-old will just assume you’re onto another fun activity and not register that these actions are connected to sleep if they take too long.

Don’t vary bedtime—or wake time.

Performing the same rituals is important, but so is sticking to the clock. “Keep bedtime and wake time within a 30-minute window,” says Gurd. Obviously things will come up, but just like adults, babies sleep better when they do it around the same time every night.
Rosen recommends that kids up to age 5 go to sleep as close to 7 p.m. as possible. Once you start pushing the cortisol levels by keeping them up later, all hell breaks loose. In other words, your fantasy that keeping your baby up late will make her sleep in? That’ll backfire.

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That said, Gurd and the folks at Baby Sleep Science believe that while being overtired (as well as under-tired!) can make it more difficult for a child to fall asleep and stay asleep during the first part of the night, as long as their schedule is age appropriate, there is no “right” bed time—early or late. Bed times, they say, can vary from family to family—just not night to night!—depending on what works best for baby’s family and their lives. As Gurd says, “I have a family putting their 1-year-old to bed at 10 p.m. and waking at 9 a.m., and that’s totally healthy.”

Be realistic about your expectations.

Understanding how much a baby should sleep at any given phase of development will go a long way toward setting realistic expectations. A lot of baby sleep sites will tell you that sleep begets sleep.
[pullquote align=”center”]“Sleep begets sleep up until the limit of your sleep.
—Kiri Gurd, PhD[/pullquote]
This is true on some level, “but there’s only a certain amount of sleep any person can do in a 24-hour period!” says Gurd. “Sleep begets sleep up until the limit of your sleep.”
When you’re looking at averages—i.e., a 12- to 18-month-old will sleep between two and three hours during the day—consider that this is a big spread in terms of age and hours of sleep. So within this six-month age range, the 12-month-old will nap longer and more often than the 18-month-old.

Create the right sleep environment.

Babies are a lot like us: They need a peaceful environment in which to rest. In fact, research shows that we all sleep best in a room that is dark, cool, and quiet. This means a few things:

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  • Don’t overdress the baby. If she’s too hot, she won’t sleep well. (It’s also associated with SIDS.) Make sure she’s sufficiently covered, but know that a cool nose or fingers are fine. If baby seems flushed or is sweating, she’s overdressed.
  • Make the room dark. Really. This is what blackout curtains are for! You can use small nightlights, but keep them far from the child and opt for orange hues.
  • Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Yes, it would be ideal if your little one could sleep anywhere, but after about 4 months old, this is not ideal. You want your child to rest in a peaceful, calm room and learn that sleep is a sacred act that happens in one place. If the room isn’t quiet (city dwellers will probably hear noise from the street), consider using a noise machine with a constant sound (rainfall or waves), and keep it on all night, not just for the time when baby is drifting off to sleep. This will help him go back to sleep if he’s suddenly woken. Remember, too, that from 4 months on, babies have a tremendous fear of missing out. They used to cry because they were wet or hungry—now they cry because they want company and fear not being invited to the party. FOMO: It starts early.

Be consistent.

Babies, like adults, thrive on consistency. Once you establish a sleep routine, stick with it. Babies will be confused if they’re being rocked to sleep one night and left to cry it out the next. Older children will try to slip through whatever loophole you leave. (“But Mommy! You rubbed my back last night! I can’t fall asleep without it now!”)

Use a transitional object.

A blankie (for an older baby), a bear, whatever—preferably something that smells like mommy or daddy—should be incorporated into baby’s nighttime routine. It helps them not feel quite so alone and helps them associate an object with restful slumber.

And most importantly, follow this piece of advice.

“If I could give one gift to a new mom, it would be this: Don’t worry about bad habits,” says Gurd.
[pullquote align=”center”]“Keep your baby safe, help him sleep. Just enjoy your baby.
—Kiri Gurd, PhD[/pullquote]

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“Keep your baby safe, help him sleep. Just enjoy your baby. I wish them less anxiety about it all.” She adds that this culture of shaming moms for creating “bad habits” is detrimental to mothers.
“Newborn babies want to be held to sleep—and that’s not the end of world!”

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Health x Body Wellbeing

Hashimoto’s Disease: All You Need To Know About This Common Thyroid Condition

You might have heard of Hashimoto’s disease, an endocrine disease that’s become more visible in the media over the past few years. Recently, celebrities like model Gigi Hadid and Jane the Virgin actress Gina Rodriguez have spoken up about the realities of life with Hashimoto’s.
Rodriguez in particular has spoken about how she’s struggled with depression, forgetfulness, fatigue, and fluctuating weight—all of which are symptoms of Hashimoto’s disease. Hadid has also shared on social media how difficult it is to live with Hashimoto’s while working in the modeling industry, where her weight is constantly under scrutiny.
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Hadid and Rodriguez are not alone. According to Andres Palacio, MD, an endocrinologist with Tenet Florida Physician Services, Hashimoto’s disease can be found in up to 10 percent of the population. Studies indicate that Hashimoto’s may be up to eight times more common in women than in men.
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But despite the fact that the condition is fairly common, many of us aren’t familiar with the signs and symptoms of Hashimoto’s. If you think you could potentially have Hashimoto’s disease, or if you’re simply curious and want to learn more, read on.

What is Hashimoto’s disease?

Hashimoto’s disease is an autoimmune disease, meaning that the body’s immune system attacks the bodily tissues. It’s also recognized as a chronic illness.
Hashimoto’s specifically affects the thyroid gland, which is a part of the endocrine system. The endocrine system is responsible for regulating the hormones throughout the body. According to Palacio, other than in cases caused by an iodine deficiency, Hashimoto’s disease is the most common cause of hypothyroidism.
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Hashimoto’s disease can also cause thyroiditis, which is an inflammation of the thyroid. Because of this, Hashimoto’s disease might also be called Hashimoto’s thyroiditis. It’s important to note that thyroiditis isn’t always caused by Hashimoto’s disease, nor is it only linked to hypothyroidism. “[Thyroiditis] can be caused by viruses or autoimmune processes. It can present both as hyperthyroidism [producing too much hormone] or hypothyroidism [producing too little hormone],” Palacio notes.
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Hashimoto’s disease is most likely to appear in people between the ages of 40 and 60. You’re also more likely to have Hashimoto’s disease if you have other health conditions such as Addison’s disease, rheumatoid arthritis, lupus, autoimmune hepatitis, vitiligo, pernicious anemia, and type 1 diabetes.

What are the symptoms of Hashimoto’s disease?

Because the disease attacks the thyroid gland, people with Hashimoto’s have low levels of thyroxine, a hormone made in the thyroid that is essential for many bodily functions such as digestion and brain development.  
Palacio notes that Hashimoto’s can sometimes include the development of a goiter. According to the American Thyroid Association, a goiter occurs when the thyroid swells, making it look like a large mass in the neck near the Adam’s apple. It’s important to note that a goiter could be caused by hypothyroidism or hyperthyroidism. As such, it can be caused by Hashimoto’s disease, but it can also be caused by conditions, such as Graves’ disease, that cause hyperthyroidism.

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According to Mayo Clinic and the American Thyroid Association, the symptoms of Hashimoto’s disease include:

  • Sore, stiff, or weak muscles
  • Weight gain
  • Fatigue
  • Pale, dry skin
  • Constipation
  • A puffy face
  • Menorrhagia (excessive or prolonged menstrual bleeding)
  • Depression
  • Brittle nails and hair loss
  • Memory loss

Because hypothyroidism affects thyroid levels, Hashimoto’s can also lead to high cholesterol, which can in turn cause heart conditions.

How is Hashimoto’s disease diagnosed?

Hashimoto’s disease is diagnosed by measuring thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH) along with thyroid peroxidase (TPO) antibodies, Palacio says. Since Hashimoto’s is an autoimmune disorder, it’s usually accompanied by a high amount of TPO antibodies.
Unfortunately, getting a diagnosis isn’t always easy.
Kathryne struggled to find a diagnosis for her extreme fatigue for 18 years before she was finally diagnosed with Hashimoto’s disease just three years ago. The 52-year-old strategist and mother says that It became so extreme that I could barely walk up a short flight of stairs. At that time, I was only being seen by regular, general practice doctors. I didn’t have any idea what was going on, so I didn’t know that I should have pushed harder for answers. It was many, many months before they even thought to do a thyroid test,” she recalls. For the next 10 years, she was treated for hypothyroidism.

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Despite the fact that her other symptoms seemed like Hashimoto’s disease, her doctors dismissed it. During this period, she developed a bald patch, found her hair thinning, and had a rash. When her rash flared up, she would experience extreme fatigue and pain. Yet she still couldn’t find someone who could provide her with effective treatment.
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Both naturopaths and traditional medicine failed to help her. Eventually, she found a functional medicine doctor who ordered a full thyroid panel and confirmed that she had Hashimoto’s disease. Since then, she’s been able to find an effective form of treatment.

How can Hashimoto’s disease be treated?

Hashimoto’s is a chronic illness, meaning there is no cure. But it can be effectively treated with medication.
“The main recommendation for patients when they have Hashimoto’s is to take their medication appropriately—on an empty stomach, with water, and at least 60 minutes before having any food,” Palacio says.
The medication often prescribed for Hashimoto’s is levothyroxine, a synthetic version of thyroxine that ensures that hormones are at an optimum level. Palacio notes that people being treated will also have to have their hormone and antibody levels checked every six to 12 months.

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Kathryne says that her doctor, a practitioner of functional medicine, has taken a different approach to her medication. Her doctor has reduced her levothyroxine dosage, prescribed liothyronine, and adjusts her medication based on both her lab results and symptoms.
“My doctor recently started me on LDN (‘low dose’ micro doses of naltrexone), and she is carefully monitoring my thyroid panel, including TPO, to make adjustments to my dosages of levothyroxine and liothyronine as necessary,” Kathryne explains. Naltrexone is an opiate antagonist, and LDN is a fairly common treatment for people with autoimmune disorders such as Hashimoto’s disease.
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Many people try gluten-free diets if they have disorders like Hashimoto’s disease. This is because various studies suggest celiac disease is prevalent in people who have endocrine autoimmune disorders. While many people believe that a change in diet can help them, that’s not something Palacio personally recommends to his patients. “There is no scientific evidence that there is a need to change the diet if the patient has hypothyroidism,” Palacio explains.
That said, certain lifestyle changes could help manage the symptoms of Hashimoto’s disease. Healthy lifestyle changes are never a bad idea, but they’re especially imperative with a chronic illness such as Hashimoto’s disease. Kathryne says she feels best when she eats a Whole30 diet, practices yoga daily, gets regular exercise, and sleeps well.
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As mentioned earlier, Hashimoto’s is linked to depression. Lifestyle changes might be necessary to address any mental health difficulties experienced as a result of Hashimoto’s. For those who do experience depression, psychotherapy (also known as talk therapy) might be useful.
Although Kathryne struggled to find an effective approach, she finally found a form of treatment that’s right for her. “I haven’t had a serious flare-up since then. My energy level is much better,” she says. “I still have to be careful about overexertion. I work very hard at maintaining a healthy balance of diet, exercise, and especially rest. I now feel better than I have in almost 20 years,” she says.
If you suspect you have Hashimoto’s disease, don’t let healthcare providers dismiss your symptoms without offering any explanation. It might take awhile to find a doctor who takes your symptoms seriously, as Kathryne’s case shows, but her story also shows that persevering is worth it.
Don’t stop looking until you find a healthcare provider who really listens to you and looks at a wide array of test results,” Kathryne says. “Healing can take a long time, so don’t give up.”

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Sweat Tested: The Best Leggings For Yoga (And Hot Yoga)

You’ve finally done it. You’ve found the perfect pair of workout leggings with seams that don’t chafe: the holy grail of versatile athleisure aesthetics. Just as you turn to see how the snug fit complements your bum, your worst nightmare flashes across the paneled mirrors—your favorite pair of black workout leggings have deceived you in the form of see-through material! If this struggle sounds all too familiar, I’m here to help.
Searching for the perfect pair of workout leggings can often feel like a daunting task due to the number of options available. With various brands claiming to offer the best product, it can be hard to decipher which pair of pants will actually deliver during a legitimate sweat sesh like a 60-minute vinyasa flow.

Best Leggings for Yoga

Stress no more, my friends! I’ve taken the time to personally test five different pairs of popular workout leggings to determine which options are the best fit for your yoga practice. To help you save time and your hard-earned money, I put these workout leggings to the ultimate yogi challenge by attending one hot, one power, and two vinyasa yoga classes with each pair.
Following each class, I logged my insights on factors including breathability, comfort, the integrity of the waistband, athleisure applications, and the integrity of the material. Read on for my honest opinions regarding which pants you should consider adding to your yoga practice and which workout leggings are best left on the shelf.
[sol title=”C9 Freedom High Waist Leggings” subheader=”Size XS”]
I celebrate a budget-friendly legging as much as the next yogi, but unfortunately the C9 Freedom High Waist Leggings fell short. The lack of stretch was a key player in the leggings’ downfall due to their sheer material. If I can’t down dog without flashing my polka-dotted cheeky to the woman behind me, the item will certainly not be added to my closet.

Target

Pros

Stranded in a town far from home without your favorite LBL (Little Black Leggings) and desperate for an easy yoga flow? This pair will get the job done in a pinch, without leaving a worrisome dent in your wallet.

Cons

While I may pick them up in the above scenario, they would live in my dresser drawers thereafter. Ultimately, the C9 legging doesn’t offer the stretch, tailoring, or technicality that many women (including myself) search for in the quest for the perfect pair of yoga leggings. The thin black material is prone to pilling and the extra seam of piping down the leg makes the legging a bit itchy and uncomfortable for everyday wear. By the end of a full flow, the legging’s shape and fit were noticeably looser on my body. Bottom line? This one is a pass.
Reminds me of: A traditional cotton legging—not necessarily a yoga-friendly pair
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[sol title=”Athleta Meshblock Pocket Salutation Tight” subheader=”Size XS—Available in Plus, Petite, and Tall Sizes”]
These leggings offer a goddess warrior squat-proof, naked-feeling fit! Athleta touts the Meshblock Pocket Salutation Tight’s “unpinchable” waistband and flatlock seams that minimize chafing. Thanks to a high rise that hits just below the belly button—and the heavenly soft matte material—flowing through a sun salutation in these yoga leggings unites the best of both comfort and style.
The strategically placed mesh blocks flatter and contribute to breathability, making these great go-to leggings for hot and power yoga flows (as long as they’re removed immediately after class).

Athleta

Pros

These yoga leggings feature a waistband pocket that’s useful for non-clunky items like cards, cash, or a loose key. Walking into my local yoga studio, I was pleased to find that the side pockets easily accommodated my iPhone 6s during the quick commute. Once class began, it was clear that the Salutation Tight was made of a perfectly breathable material: The light, thin fabric ensured sweat wasn’t lingering in any curves or crevices during class, and I didn’t notice any visible sweat spots despite the heat.
The fit is very comfortable: no chafing or compression along the seams of these yoga pants (I didn’t even have lines or indentations after taking them off!). Athleta’s mesh is softer and far more flexible than what you’ll find in many other pairs.
Throughout my yoga flow, the high-rise waistband resisted rolling and folding. It lays flat and didn’t show through my lululemon Cool Racerback. All this plus minimal clinging, a hardly noticeable cameltoe, and no feeling of being held in (which means no compression—ladies, these will not hide cellulite) equates to maximum comfort. I’m happy to say the Salutation Tight is commando-friendly. All my queens rejoice!

Cons

As I mentioned, if you’re looking for cellulite-concealing compression, this won’t be your go-to pair of yoga pants. Also note that after class, the sweat I’d worked up left a noticeably moist feeling, and I needed to change into my breezy romper before heading out to my favorite coffee shop. These yoga leggings feature great breathability, but given the mild clamminess typical of a matte-finished workout legging after a sweaty class, they aren’t ideal for a quick transition from the studio to your next activity.
Reminds me of: The lululemon Align Pant
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[sol title=”lululemon Align Pant” subheader=”Size 2—Available in 19”, 21”, 25”, and 28” Lengths”]
It’s hard to find workout leggings as comfortable as the lululemon Align Pant. Movement during every variation of yoga was noticeably easier in this pant thanks to the “naked” material, which takes standing bow to a whole new level.
The fabric has a soft, matte feel, which makes these the perfect yoga pant to transition your look from a workout to a night out. Since these workout leggings don’t have any flashy features or a super sporty look, they’re perfect paired with just about any item in your closet, from a long cardigan sweater to booties and Old Skool Vans.

lululemon

Pros

The lululemon Align Pant is similar to the Athleta Meshblock Pocket Salutation Tight in terms of moisture wicking and breathability. There is no feeling of thickness or super tight compression to these pants, and the shape holds well when worn as suggested. The waistband on these workout leggings is easily my favorite out of the various pairs I tested. It sits just above the belly button, slightly higher than the Athleta Meshblock Pocket Salutation Tight and lays completely flat with no rolling or adjusting needed.  

Cons

Although these pants were airy and comfortable during hot yoga, the moisture was noticeable once the flow stopped. While the sweat spots weren’t visible, I would still recommend removing these pants shortly after a heated class since they are not entirely moisture-wicking. If you’re looking for a workout legging that can help disguise cellulite, the lack of compression in these pants may not be a feature you’re looking for.
Reminds me of: Dancing around in nothing but my underwear (or the Athleta Meshblock Pocket Salutation Tight)
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I’m a fan of high-waisted leggings, but the Beyond Yoga High Waist Leggings missed the mark a bit for me. Although these pants were tailored well to the calves and ankles, the fabric wasn’t very breathable and felt more like a traditional cotton legging. While these leggings are not ideal for a sweat session, they do pair well with everyday attire. With that being said, they don’t hold up well enough for regular wear. There were signs of pilling in just two short weeks.

Amazon

Pros

These workout leggings had comfortable seams and didn’t chafe during my hot and vinyasa practices—or core circuits! The waistband hit at the belly button and stayed in place, only requiring one adjustment during my 60-minute yoga flow. These pants have decent compression, but no excessive squeezing that would limit breathing, moving, or eating.

Cons

Unfortunately, these workout leggings were not comfortable for hot yoga as I began feeling clammy and restricted as class continued. These pants also did not dry quickly after class. Overall, I would only recommend them for room temp flows. The fabric was slightly see-through, which made me feel a bit self-conscious during my practice. Unfortunately, this nagging distraction is the last thing you want during a centering movement meditation. In my opinion, these workout leggings were not worth the price tag.
Reminds me of: A traditional cotton legging
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ZELLA’s Live In High Waist Leggings are a well-tailored yoga pant option that’s crazy posture proof. (Hollow back handstands, here I come!) If you like thicker material and an extra long inseam on your yoga pants, this is a great pick. In fact, the legs were so long that at 5’4” I experienced a little scrunching around the ankle, which means the Live In Leggings will be perfect for tall and long-legged ladies. 
The poly-spandex blend results in a matte, brushed-feeling material that’ll keep you comfy, especially in a cooler studio space (i.e., I’m not recommending this pair for hot yoga).

Nordstrom

Pros

I got to to do some hip-opening, root chakra–grounding binds while sporting these leggings and was pleasantly surprised by their flexibility. No chafing and no cutting in, even as I was breathing through my flying lizard lunge! The Live In High Waist is true to its description, sitting just above the belly button. The leggings stayed in place throughout my yoga flow—no adjustments necessary. The crotch is also comfortable with or without underwear, which is great for poses like bird of paradise and happy baby. I would gladly wear these out and about, which means these yoga leggings stay true to their name.

Cons

Some will love the thickness and compression of the Live In Legging, but for those who break a serious sweat, a quick change after class (or a more moisture-wicking pair of leggings, like the Nike Pro HyperCool Training Tight) will be welcome since the material can feel a bit clammy. If you already love the ZELLA Live In Legging but are looking for something for hot yoga, opt for ZELLA’s Lightweight High Waist Midi Leggings or their High Waist Mesh Crop.
These yoga pants are prone to clinging and are likely to pill if not handled carefully. Also, if you’re petite and bothered by scrunching at the ankle or want yoga pants with a pocket that can hold more than a card, cash, or a loose key, opt for the Athleta Up For Anything ⅞ Tight.
Reminds me of: A long, warm hug
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Going Green: Here's How To Make Sure Your Eco-Friendly Home Is Actually Sustainable

We probably don’t have to sell you on the advantages of an eco-friendly home. Putting the future of life on this planet aside, a sustainable home can save you a ton of money.
According to data from UtilityScore, the average single-family household spends $226 per month on utilities. Energy-efficient upgrades can reduce those expenses by $200 to $400 per year, per the Department of Energy, putting a decent chunk of change back in homeowners’ pockets.
Need a more significant financial incentive? Eventually your home’s energy efficiency might even affect its overall value.
“I really expect that home energy labels are going to become the norm, at the time of sale, sometime very soon,” says Asa Foss, director of residential technical solutions of the U.S. Green Building Council. “I really see that driving the market in the not-too-distant future.”
“People in the lending community are now looking at how they can [assess] utility costs to make that part of the fundamental information they use to determine how much home you can afford,” Foss tells HealthyWayIn other words, if you have a truly eco-friendly home, you might enjoy a higher sales price when you’re ready to move on. And if you’re looking to buy, you might be able to lock down a lower interest rate.
Even if your primary concerns aren’t money or the environment, there are other reasons to go green. Some eco-friendly upgrades might make your home a more comfortable—and healthy—living space. The Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) notes that many household products contain volatile organic compounds (VOCs), some of which can have “short- and long-term adverse health effects.” Invest in eco-friendly upgrades and you can reduce organic pollutants, potentially avoiding some of those effects.
We’ll just assume that we’ve convinced you to take a look at your home’s sustainability. That was the easy part—but where do you start?      
That depends on whether you’re buying, renovating, or just looking for a few simple upgrades. Here’s what you need to know.

Eco-Friendly Renovations: Planning a Sustainable Makeover

Everyone loves a good remodel, but unless the Property Brothers spontaneously show up on your doorstep, you’re probably shelling out big bucks for major renovations. Making sustainable changes means budgeting carefully. Eco-friendly materials often pay for themselves over time, but they’re initially expensive, and you’ll want to make sure that you’ve got enough green to go green.
“Depending on your budget, you can set a goal,” says Erica Leigh Reiner, owner of E. Leigh Designs, an eco-friendly interior design firm. “For instance, you can say that 20 percent of items or materials will be green, and then you can prioritize what those will be.”
Not sure where to start? To get the most substantial benefits, just look up.
“It’s difficult to properly insulate the walls of a home after it’s already constructed,” says Foss. “However, from an energy-loss perspective, the most important place is the ceiling. That’s absolutely the first place that people should be looking when retrofitting.”
Foss also recommends investing in inexpensive insulation upgrades in the basement or crawlspace. Cellulose insulation is an especially attractive option for eco-friendly renovation, as it’s often made from recycled newspaper and provides an R-value that’s similar to fiberglass but with fewer potentially toxic substances. Wool insulation is another renewable alternative.
For significant renovations—room additions, kitchen remodels, and the like—try to choose recyclable building materials. For instance, look for wood certified by the Forest Stewardship Council. Products carrying an FSC certification are sourced from sustainably managed forests. Wherever possible, choose local materials to minimize fossil fuel consumption from freight.

Oh, and remember those VOCs we mentioned earlier? They’re potentially a big deal; the EPA notes they’re a potential cause of “sick building syndrome,” a mysterious medical condition in which the occupants of a building show signs of illness. Many construction materials can emit VOCs, but paints are an especially significant contributor.
“Use no-VOC paint for as much of your space as you can afford,” Reiner says.
Note that low- or zero-VOC paints can still contain harmful substances such as formaldehyde, so research paint brands carefully before making your purchase. Dark paints generally require more pigments than lighter paints, and as such, have higher levels of VOCs on average.
And as strange as it might sound, flooring can also affect indoor air quality. Again, look for low- or no-VOC flooring options.
“Even if you can’t afford eco-bamboo or cork flooring, you can probably get low-toxin flooring,” Reiner says.

Buying an Eco-Friendly Home: What makes a home sustainable, anyway?

If you’re buying a new home, keep this in mind: There’s nothing to stop sellers from using the term “eco-friendly” to offload a decidedly eco-unfriendly property.
“There needs to be an educated conversation about the [home-buying] process,” says Jeff Bogard of R.E.A. Homes, a custom home builder in St. Louis. “Consumers need to understand what sustainability means—the science behind how homes function, right-sizing utility systems, finding longer lasting materials, and things of that nature.”

It’s pretty overwhelming, but fortunately, there’s a shortcut.
“Look for building certification programs,” Foss says. Admittedly, he’s a bit biased in this respect; his organization runs the LEED for Homes certification program, one of the most widely used sustainability programs in the United States. Even so, Foss says that all sustainable certification programs are beneficial for ecologically mindful consumers.

“Building certification programs are really the easiest way for consumers to tell,” he says. “The biggest organization in the country, for homes, is Energy Star, which covers somewhere from 5 to 25 percent of the home market. It’s a really good baseline for people to look at.”
Other popular home energy efficiency programs include the Home Energy Rating System (HERS) Index and the Department of Energy’s Home Energy Score.  
“There’s a lot of local and regional home sustainability programs, which differ, but we’re all pretty much looking at the same things,” Foss explains. “There are nuances—and they’re important nuances—but we’ve got the same goals. We’re all trying to go green, it’s just different shades of green.”
Bogard agrees and notes that consumers should pay special attention to appliances, particularly water heaters and HVAC systems. While you’re shopping, don’t be afraid to ask your real estate agent for copies of actual utility bills, and personally inspect important appliances. If you’re thinking about upgrading right after you move in, make sure that your home will allow for the upgrade.
“You might want to upgrade to an eco-friendly water heater, but that will depend on your home’s flue situation,” Foss says. “But there are some really tremendous eco-friendly options available, particularly with water heaters.”

Look for a home inspector who specializes in analyzing eco-friendly homes. Green home inspections through organizations like InterNACHI evaluate a home’s materials, energy efficiency, and features that could affect human and environmental health.

Building an Eco-Friendly Home: Make sure you’ve got the right approach.

Planning on new construction? Make sure you’ve got the right mindset for eco-friendly building. For starters, you’ve got to look past the upfront fees.
“Very few people build a home more than once in their lifetime,” Bogard says, “so the default is to think of upfront costs as the total expense of the home. There’s very little conversation about operating costs and lifecycle costs.”

“Let’s say you get a more expensive HVAC system that costs less to operate. After a certain number of years, it pays for itself, and it’s eventually a reverse annuity for the client,” he explains. “You’ve also got to think about how long the system will last before you need to replace it. A system with a higher price tag that lasts for five more years is probably the better value.”

Yes, that means that you might pay more up front initially. The good news is that an eco-friendly builder can greatly reduce your living expenses over the long term while providing a comfortable, sustainable home.
“We have several accounts of people who built homes several times bigger than their old homes—old meaning homes from the ’50s and ’60s—where the monthly energy costs are significantly lower in newer, larger homes,” Bogard says.
To ensure sustainable construction, you’ll need to work closely with your contractor from the first stages of the process. Bogard notes that many “sustainable” construction projects start off on the wrong foot.

“When you stick-frame a house in the traditional way, you end up with a lot of waste that ends up in the dumpster, which ends up in the landfill,” he says. “When you use wall panels, the sections of the home come out, get delivered to the home, and there is no waste, so nothing is going to the landfill. It’s a win–win. You’ve got to look at the whole home to do things the right way.”

Starting Small: Quick Ways to Make Your Home More Sustainable

Let’s say that you don’t have the budget for huge renovations, and you’re not in the market for a new home. Are you doomed to waste fossil fuels and suffocate on VOCs until the end of time? Not quite.
Minor home improvements can improve both air quality and sustainability. For starters, consider adding a few plants. Some studies show that certain house plants can improve indoor air quality by removing VOCs from the air in a process called phytoremediation (don’t worry, there’s no quiz at the end of this article).
However, you need to get the right type of plant, as some indoor plants can actually release VOCs. Bill Wolverton, PhD, is one of the NASA scientists who discovered this effect, and he recommends Boston ferns, bamboo palms, and dwarf date palms, among other species.
When you’re ready to tackle sustainable interior design, remember: Reduce, reuse, recycle, in that order. Try not to purchase anything you don’t need, and wherever possible, avoid brand-new products.
“Buy quality secondhand pieces,” Reiner suggests. “There are so many online platforms to buy pre-loved pieces in any style and price range these days. This reduces [the] demand for new products that require virgin resources and fossil fuel for shipping and trucking.”
Reiner says to steer clear of cheap furniture manufactured in other countries, as tempting as the low price tag might seem.

“The wood is probably composite wood glued with formaldehyde, the fabric is probably petroleum based, the foam cushions may have been sprayed with fire retardant, and they were shipped long distances on ships using petroleum,” she says. She recommends taking 15 minutes to research manufacturers and look for green alternatives prior to each purchase.

“I am fascinated with products made from unwanted material,” Reiner says. “There are countertops made of recycled glass or stone, aluminum tiles made from old airplane wings, beautiful tables made from old barn wood, and leather floor and wall tiles made from reclaimed leather. Reclaiming or repurposing unwanted materials is great for three reasons: First, you greatly reduce the amount of energy, water, and virgin materials needed for the product. Second, less waste will enter the landfill. Third, the products might be made closer to home.”
What if you don’t like any of the sustainable options? We’re not judging; we’re pretty picky when it comes to interior home design.
“Even if there’s nothing you like in your style or budget, you can always limit your footprint,” Reiner says. “Take old paint to paint recycling centers or call carpet recyclers to pick up old materials. You can also donate old items—cabinets, materials, and furniture—to an organization like…Habitat for Humanity’s [ReStore].”   
When your main priority is reducing your carbon footprint, focus on making your home (relatively) airtight. If your home has a lot of windows, consider picking up some energy-efficient blackout curtains, which can keep your home cooler during the summer and warmer during the winter.

While you’re at it, check your windows for air leaks, which can easily cost you big bucks over the course of a year. During the winter, use temporary caulking to seal your windows (you’re not opening them until the spring, anyway), and consider getting rubber gaskets for any drafty electrical outlets. Use pipe blankets to keep water pipes warm during cold snaps.

Ultimately, your results will depend on your goals, budget, and your commitment to the project.
“Make a plan,” Reiner says. “The clearer you are about what you want, how you want it, and by when, the easier it will be to stay focused. Be your own project manager.”

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Mindful Parenting Motherhood

What To Do When Cluster Feeding Feels Like It Will Never End

Cluster feeding is one of those baby stages that can feel like it will never end: Baby cries. You get up and feed them. You lie down. Baby cries. You get up and feed them. You lie down. Baby cries. You can see where this is going.
Most breastfed babies will go through a period when they seem to want to do nothing more than eat, eat, eat, and then eat some more. Called cluster feeding by doctors, these periods can feel like your baby is turning you (and your breasts) into a human pacifier as nothing—and we mean nothing—but a mouth full of breast will quiet their screams.
So what’s going on with your fussy baby? Will a cluster feeding newborn continue to be a cluster feeding infant and later turn into a cluster feeding toddler? Is there a way to stop this insanity?
We asked the experts to help make sense of why your baby has turned hangry and what to do about it.

What is cluster feeding, anyway?

First, a little good news: Cluster feeding is normal in babies.
Pause for sigh of relief.
Okay, now let’s dig in.
Babies go through phases where their eating patterns change, but just because they’re eating more does not mean they’re cluster feeding. To be considered true cluster feeding, a baby needs to be demanding to eat almost constantly in a very short amount of time.
Exact numbers will vary from baby to baby, but if your baby’s demanded to eat two to four times in a row over a three-hour span, it’s safe to say you’ve got a bout of cluster feeding on your hands, says Leigh Anne O’Connor, an international board-certified lactation consultant based in New York City. You might want to grab some water and load a few good binge-worthy shows into your Netflix queue.
This could go on for a while…literally.
It’s normal for cluster feeding to last anywhere from two to five days, O’Connor says, although you should get some breaks along the way. Just as the name implies, cluster feeds tend to happen in clusters, meaning baby will eat, eat, eat for a chunk of time and then lay off. It may even be limited to one portion of the day.
“When breastfeeding is going well and the baby is growing, it is normal for babies to cluster feed in the evening,” O’Connor says. There are a few reasons for this phenomenon.
“As the day goes on, the volume of milk is less than in the early part of the day,” O’Connor explains. Because the first milk a baby drinks early in the day is watery, it’s good for hydration. But if baby doesn’t eat a lot, that first milk, called foremilk, stays in the breast and builds up. Each time baby goes to have a meal, if they stick to short and sweet eating times, they’ll continue to get that more watery foremilk.
If a baby cluster feeds, on the other hand, they quickly work their way through the foremilk, O’Connor says, and get to a mother’s hindmilk, which is fattier and helps baby grow.
“Also, in the evening the milk has more melatonin,” O’Connor adds, “so after a cluster feeding in the evening, the baby has a belly full of fatty milk with a natural sleep aid!”
With the changes in breast milk throughout the day, it’s no wonder doctors say cluster feeding is more prevalent in breastfed babies than those who are formula fed. As Cathy M. Coleman, MD, an associate professor of pediatrics in the department of pediatrics at Stony Brook Children’s Hospital on New York’s Long Island puts it, “Formula-fed babies may have appetite changes at various times, but formula is not human milk and takes longer to digest, so feeds are typically spread farther apart in a formula-fed infant.”

Is cluster feeding a problem?

Having a baby who won’t let you put them down for five seconds can be frustrating and even a little alarming, but it’s important to remember that cluster feeding is a normal part of development for newborns. And despite what you might have read in some parenting Facebook group, it isn’t “spoiling” your baby to respond to their cries for food and feed them on demand. Cluster feeding babies really do need to eat.
What’s more, that time you spend meeting your little one’s demands not only helps them grow, but can also help a breastfeeding mom’s body adapt to meet the demands of feeding a growing baby.
How?
Deedee Franke, a registered nurse and international board certified lactation consultant based at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, Maryland, says cluster feeding is “a way babies in the early months help mom build a milk supply or how a baby makes up feedings missed after a long stretch of not eating”—particularly after they may have been sleeping for a longer period.
Because a mom’s milk production system is built to respond to a baby’s demands, cluster feeding is one of the ways baby is programmed to trigger mom to make more milk, which they will need as their bodies get bigger and thus require more food.
“If a baby is nursing more and removing more milk, then the mother produces more,” Franke explains.
You’ve heard that babies (and older kids) go through growth spurts?
Cluster feeds are part of helping baby and mom adjust for those growth spurts, Franke explains, which is why they tend to occur several times in the first three months of life.
Cluster feeding can first crop up in the first week after a baby is born, as mom’s milk is coming in and nature does its part to help establish good milk production. From there babies will typically cluster feed around the two or three week mark, then again at around six weeks, and once more at around three months old, Franke says. As they grow and eventually begin eating solid foods in addition to (and eventually instead of) mom’s milk, the need for cluster feeding wanes, and you’re less likely to experience it with older kids.

Muddling Through

Cluster feeding can be exhausting, especially for parents who have to work or take care of older children in addition to feeding a fussy baby at night. So the answer to “How to stop cluster feeding?” may be disappointing.
You don’t.
But before you let the tears flow, there’s some good news to consider.
Forty percent of moms told University of California, Davis, and the Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center researchers that they don’t feel like they produce enough breast milk, and some even turn to a breast pump to stimulate their milk ducts between feedings. But cluster feeding is nature’s way of helping your body keep up. As Franke puts it, “Baby is the best pump,” not to mention baby at the breast is often preferred to the mechanics of a pump, if only because it’s much more pleasant to bond with baby than operate a machine.
What’s more, if you know a baby is cluster feeding, you’re armed with information. Use it. Now is the time to tell others in your household that you really need them to pick up the slack or to call in those favors from friends and family members who offered to lend a hand at your baby shower. They made the offer; don’t leave it hanging.
Coleman says it’s also a good excuse for a mom to take to her bed where she can rest and do nothing but feed herself and baby.
“The milk supply will respond to the demand, resulting in decreased feeding frequency,” Coleman says.
If your nipples are chapped or you’re feeling pain in your arms or back from all that nursing, check with your insurance company to see if a lactation consultant can help you check your latch and find a more comfortable position.
“Some moms need to go back to Latch 101 during a cluster period, as this will help with nipple comfort,” O’Connor says. In other words, go back to the basics of latching baby on your breast, or ask for help making that latch.
“It is easy to get relaxed about positioning baby at breast, but as babies grow they can become acrobats and pull on the nipples,” she notes. “Grounding the baby and making sure the baby is super close should remedy discomfort.”
If your nipples are sore, a balm like coconut oil or other nipple cream designed for breastfeeding moms can help. As for back, arms, and neck pain, changing up your positions might help. For example, a side-lying pose can allow you to rest while baby has access to your breasts.

When to Call Your Pediatrician

Although cluster feeding is a normal part of baby’s development, that doesn’t mean it isn’t alarming or confusing, especially for first-time breastfeeding moms who haven’t been through it before.
Struggling to know if you’re breastfeeding “correctly” or should even keep doing it? Know that you’re not alone. According to the UC Davis and Cincinnati Children’s Hospital researchers, 52 percent of moms worry that their baby is not feeding well at the breast, leading researchers to conclude that moms need more support in their breastfeeding journeys.
If a baby is “nursing constantly for a few hours, they will get both fore and hind milk, therefore they should be getting all the nutrients” they need during cluster feeding, Coleman says. But if a mom truly does not have enough milk, then baby may need to be supplemented with formula to allow for adequate caloric intake. “This would be based on the baby’s weight and urine and stool output, and should be decided with the pediatrician,” Coleman says.
That doesn’t necessarily mean a mom who wants to continue nursing has to give up, she says. Supplementation with one or two bottles of formula a day for a few days can help baby improve weight gain and give mom a little rest, and baby can be weaned back off formula once things calm down.
It’s important to always trust your mom gut, and it never hurts to ask a medical expert for some help. If your baby is struggling to maintain their latch, if they’re falling asleep quickly at the breast, or if they’re gaining weight slowly, it’s especially important to make that call to the pediatrician.
“Sometimes a baby will frequently feed because the baby is not feeding well or transferring milk well from the breasts,” Coleman explains. “If a mother is not sure about how the baby is feeding, it is a good idea to have the baby’s weight checked and speak to a lactation consultant or your baby’s healthcare provider about the baby’s feeding pattern to make sure breastfeeding is going well.”
A baby may also be fussing and using a mother’s breast for soothing rather than sustenance, so it’s important to keep tabs on other markers of health to determine if baby is hungry or just not feeling well.
“If a breastfed baby is at least a week old, and not urinating at least six to eight times in 24 hours or stooling at least three to four times in 24 hours, the pediatrician should be called,” Coleman says, adding that “if a baby is very fussy for a prolonged period of time, parents should take the baby’s temperature, and the pediatrician should be called.”

When it’s over, it’s over.

Although true cluster feeding can last for several days, and it can come back, once you hit the three-month mark, things tend to improve. Not only is your milk production in full swing, but in a few months, baby can generally start to eat other things in addition to breast milk, taking some of the pressure off your body and allowing you the fun of sharing your favorite eats with your little one.
It’s important to remind yourself that not only is cluster feeding normal, but there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.
As Coleman (who isn’t just a pediatrician, but a mom too) says, “It is hard, but if you focus just on the nursing for a couple days, usually things improve.”
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Get It For Your Mama: 18 Thoughtful Gifts Your Mom Will Love

Mother’s Day is right around the corner; if you’re forgetful, go ahead and mark May 13 on your calendar now. The default is gifting Mom with something simple—like a bouquet of fresh flowers, a card, or maybe even a lunch out—and there’s nothing wrong with that. But if you’re thinking of stepping up your game this year, we’re here to help.
Whether she’s always looking for the latest in tech, knows how to rock a great piece of jewelry, or just wants a good night’s sleep, we’ve got a gift that’ll make this Mother’s Day stand out.

For the Mom Who Loves Jewelry

Does your mom never leave the house without an accessory or two? This year, gift her with a stylish new piece with a personal touch. The best part is that you won’t have to spend a fortune to get her something she’ll treasure. 

Custom Pendant

This piece’s minimal design will still have a big impact. After making a cast of your fingerprint (the price of the necklace comes with everything you need to do this easily), you mail the print back to the necklace maker. They’ll use your print and your initials to create a unique necklace for your mom.

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Personalized Cuff Bracelet

If bracelets are more her thing, you can still create a piece of jewelry that’s truly made just for your mom. Customize a cuff that’s engraved with your own handwriting for a one-of-a-kind piece. Tell her you love her or just pen an uplifting message that she can turn to day after day.

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Family Tree Necklace

Opt for this eye-catching necklace for a pop of color that’s personalized for your mom. The gems on the necklace represent her children’s birthstones, and there are small gold leaves stamped with the initial of each child. The necklace can also be made with silver if that’s more her style.

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For the Mom Who Drinks Wine

What mom doesn’t love to unwind with a nice glass of wine? Whether she’s a total aficionado or just likes to relax with a glass every now and then, you can get her a fun gift to go along with one of her favorite bottles.

Mom Fuel Wine Glass

The end of a long day with a glass of her go-to wine is when Mom gets to really relax and recharge. This Mom Fuel wine glass will put a smile on her face as she sips the stress of her day away.

Paper Source

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Rewined Candle

If a bottle of wine is your usual gift for your vino-loving mom, here’s a clever way to switch things up. Soy wax candles are scented to mimic notes in some of the most popular wines, and they’re poured in repurposed wine bottles, making this an eco-friendly gift that she won’t expect.

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Custom Map Wine Coaster

Does your mom have a favorite spot for grabbing a glass of wine? Help bring that spot into her home with this customized wine coaster that features a map with whatever location you’d like.

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For the Mom Who Hits the Spa

Mom might not always have the time or money to take a trip to the spa, but you can help her create her own spa-like experience at home. Even if she likes to be pampered, don’t worry about spending a ton—you can totally gift her with a spa experience on the cheap.

Bathtub Caddy

When Mom can’t get to the spa, a nice bath is the next best thing. Help her make it truly relaxing with this bamboo bath caddy, complete with a book stand, wine glass holder, and a spot for her razor and loofah.

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Massage

If your mom is more about getting pampered than pampering herself, treat her to a relaxing spa day. Use a site like Groupon to find great deals on spa experiences you know she’ll love, like massages, facials, and more.

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Spa Night Kit

For the times when mom can’t make it to the spa, help her bring the spa home with a spa night kit. Pick out a nice candle, some scented bath salts, and a rejuvenating face mask so she can have a relaxing soak in the tub surrounded by all of the elements of her favorite spa.

For the Mom Who Knows Tech

We realize that most people aren’t going to run out and splurge on a new phone for their mom, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get your tech-loving mom something that’s right up her alley. It’s all about the accessories, and we’ve got a few picks that we know she’ll love.

Bedside Smartphone Vase

Since you’re probably planning to gift mom with some fresh flowers anyway, why not get her something handy to put them in? This multipurpose bedside stand is perfect for propping your phone up while it charges overnight, and it also adds a sleek decorative element when it’s filled with some fresh blooms.

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Kids’ Art Phone Case

If you have younger children or siblings, a customized phone case is a great way to create a gift that they’re in on. All you have to do is upload a photo of the artwork you’d like to feature, and the experts at Casetify will duplicate that work on a one-of-a-kind phone case for your mom.

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Digital Photo Frame

Mom is always asking for new photos of her kids and grandkids, so why not give her hundreds at once? This digital frame is controlled from an app, so you can easily upload new photos every day for Mom to display in her home. Available at Amazon, Bloomingdales, Best Buy, and Aura Frames.

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For the Mom Who’s a Sentimental Soul

Moms appreciate any gift they get from their children, but there are some who’d really rather receive something simple and sentimental. These are often the moms who are hardest to select a gift for, but we’ve got some special finds that’ll help you surprise her.

Letters to Mom

Do you ever wish you could express how much you love your mom even when she’s not there? With the Letters to My Mom booklet, you can write your mom letters that she can open whenever she pleases for a sweet reminder of how much you care.

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Long-Distance Touch Lamp

Moving away from family is hard, but it can be a little easier to bear with these lamps. When one person turns on their lamp, the other one begins to glow too, connecting you and your mom no matter where each of you are in the world.

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Printable Coupon Book

If you truly can’t think of what to get for your mom, a coupon book will give her a little bit of everything. She’ll love redeeming coupons from her booklet when she’s craving freshly baked cookies, her car needs a wash, or she’s tired of watching your favorite show and wants to steal the remote.

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For the Mom Who Just Needs Some Sleep

We can’t think of anyone who’s more deserving of a great night’s rest than a hard-working mom. Whether she’s always claiming to just be “resting her eyes” or she needs a good nap, help her get one with these gifts that are perfect for the mom who appreciates some good shuteye.

Pajamas

Pajamas are a great way to encourage Mom to relax and get some rest. These ultra-soft PJs are perfect for lounging or crawling into bed. Chances are Mom won’t ever want to take them off.

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SLIP Silk Pillowcase

Treat your mom to a luxurious sleep experience with a silk pillowcase. Silk pillowcases are super smooth and soft and don’t pull at your hair or skin, so your mom can get some great sleep and wake up looking more refreshed, too.

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Deep Sleep Pillow Spray

If your mom usually has trouble falling asleep, this spray will help. It uses calming lavender essential oil to help her get to sleep faster, so she’ll always wake up feeling rested and ready to seize the day.

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Everything You Need To Know About How To Choose A Doctor

The pain in my jaw was back, and it wasn’t going away this time. I went to the dentist to get it checked out and one of my deepest fears came to life: I’d need to get my wisdom teeth removed. Even worse: It wouldn’t be your standard dental office procedure—there were complications and I’d need to see a specialist. I asked him about how to find a doctor to help me, and he referred me to an oral surgeon. That’s when the real trouble began.
“You should have had this procedure done years ago,” scolded the oral surgeon during our consultation a few days later. “Why didn’t you have this done yet?”
I cowered in the chair, my jaw throbbing with pain, unsure of how to respond. He met with me for all of five minutes, during which he explained that the oral surgery would cost about $7,000 (a sum that I, a recent college grad, did not have) and told me I should speak with another staff member about taking out a loan. He left in a huff.
How could I trust this doctor, who chastised me and hardly explained the surgery, to take care of me with compassion during an invasive procedure?
I decided to shop around, but it turned out that the intricacies of healthcare in the U.S. make it extremely difficult to figure out how to find a doctor who fits your needs and your budget. Few medical offices reveal prices ahead of time, and ratings from patients are often mixed (if you can even find them).
After nearly two dozen unsuccessful calls to oral surgeons in the Bay Area drove me to tears, I ended up on the phone with the sweetest receptionist at an oral surgery office who explained that the doctor was an expert in this particular procedure and was willing to work with me on financing. I went to a consultation that lasted more than an hour, and the oral surgeon patiently explained exactly what would happen during the procedure and why it was important for my health.
This was a doctor I felt I could trust. The entire experience—from going under anesthesia and getting a bone graft to healing and eventually getting the stitches removed—went better (and cost less) than I had expected. What a relief!
A great oral surgeon is just one of many doctors we might need in our lives. No matter what type of care you’re looking for, you’ll need a solid strategy for how to choose a doctor. R. Ruth Linden, PhD, who helps people find medical experts in her role as health advocate and president of Tree of Life Health Advocates, a private health-advocacy firm in San Francisco, shares her insights on how to find a doctor you can trust.

How to Find a Doctor Who Can Help You With Your Goals

With so many factors involved in how to choose a doctor, it can be tough to know exactly where to start. Linden recommends coming up with a list of healthcare-related goals you’re hoping to achieve by working with a medical professional.
“What do you want to get out of the appointment, and the relationship? In order to get your needs met, you need to know exactly what they are. Ask yourself what your goals are,” she says.
Examples of goals might be successfully managing a chronic illness, improving your sleep habits, developing a healthier diet, or overcoming depression. These goals will not only give you (and your doctor) clarity about what you expect to achieve, but they’ll also inform the type of medical professional from whom you seek care.
Your first stop might be a primary care physician, internist, or family doctor. These types of doctors are trained in helping patients manage their general health, diagnosing diseases and illnesses, administering treatments, and dealing with everyday concerns. Most of these doctors hold MD (medical doctor) degrees, and they practice the form of medicine most Americans are familiar with, which is known as allopathic medicine.
A minority of doctors choose to get a DO (doctor of osteopathic medicine) degree. They undergo practically the same training as their MD colleagues, but they also spend another 200 hours or so learning more about the musculoskeletal system and osteopathic manipulation, a technique in which a doctor uses touch to diagnose and treat patients.
Both types of doctors undergo years of training and need to pass a licensing exam to earn their white coats. Whether you choose a DO or an MD depends on your preferences and who is available in your area.
Some health concerns require the intervention of a specialist. For example, most women choose to get birth control, screenings for sexually transmitted diseases, and Pap smears from an obstetrician-gynecologist (OB-GYN). Allergists and immunologists treat disorders of the immune system such as food allergies, asthma, and eczema. Otolaryngologists treat disorders and diseases in patients’ ears, noses, and throats. Dermatologists treat problems with the skin, nails, and hair. As for mental health, both psychologists and psychiatrists can help treat depression, anxiety, addiction, and other concerns, but only the latter can prescribe medications, like antidepressants.
The list of areas and treatment types doctors can specialize in runs long, and some people choose to see doctors who are trained in traditions outside of allopathic medicine. Naturopaths, for example, are doctors who use natural approaches, such as acupuncture and nutrition, to address health issues.
You may need to get a referral from your primary care physician to get treatment from a specialty doctor depending on your particular medical needs and insurance requirements. In most cases, they’ll recommend a handful of specialists for you to choose from. If for some reason you’re sent to a specialist you don’t want to work with going forward, you can explore options for seeing someone else with your insurer, or by asking for another referral from your PCP.

Finding a Doctor Who Takes Your Insurance

Once you come up with your list of goals and potential specialists who can address your particular concerns, the next step in how to find a doctor is thinking about your budget. If you’re insured, you’ll need to decide whether you want to work with someone in network with your health insurance.
“An in-network provider will reduce your out-of-pocket costs, but sometimes it’s challenging or even impossible to find a great doctor who takes your insurance,” says Linden.
You can usually find an up-to-date list of in-network providers on your insurance provider’s website. If nothing comes up, which is more likely to happen when you’re looking for a specialist, you’ll have to broaden your search—and consider your willingness to pay more.

How to Find a Doctor: Building a Short List

Once you’ve determined whether you’re going to use your health insurance, it’s time to come up with a list of candidates. A Google search for doctors is likely to yield an unwieldy array of options, which is why Linden recommends starting your search the old-fashioned way: by asking your friends, family, and colleagues for recommendations.
Online resources such as Yelp, ZocDoc, Healthgrades, and RateMDs can also give you an inside look at other patients’ experiences with particular doctors. But take those reviews with a grain of salt, says Linden.
“People use online review sites to comment on all kinds of irrelevant things, like parking, the elevator, the demeanor of the front desk staff. These are things you might want to be aware of, but many times, they’re not the doctor’s responsibility and don’t reflect on how they care for patients,” she says.
Qualifications play a big role in how to choose a doctor. Merely having an MD isn’t enough to prove that a doctor provides high-quality care, says Linden, who only refers her clients to board-certified professionals.
“It’s very important to see someone who’s board certified,” says Linden. “That credential assures you that the doctor has completed his or her training and passed a national exam. It’s a minimal standard, as far as I’m concerned.”
Doctors will typically share their certifications in the bio sections of their websites. You can cross-reference their board certifications with the Administrators in Medicine DocFinder, the American Board of Medical Specialties Certification Matters site, or the American Board of Family Medicine doctor finder.
Gender is another important factor in how to choose a doctor. Some patients feel indifferent about whether their physician is a man or a woman, while others may struggle to feel comfortable receiving care from someone of the opposite gender.
“I find that women tend to prefer to see women doctors, while men don’t care,” says Linden.
It takes a lot more than the right gender, a recommendation from a friend, and solid credentials to make a doctor the right fit for you, though. You also have to consider the logistics of working with any medical professional. Is their practice close driving or walking distance from where you live or work? Is the doctor accepting new patients right now? Can you get in for an appointment relatively soon? A “no” answer to any of these questions doesn’t make a doctor a poor choice for you, but you should think about whether or not it’s worth it to travel far or wait a long time to be seen at a practice.
“Long wait lists for an appointment are not a red flag. I referred a client to to the very best internist in her area, who had 4,000 five-star Yelp reviews. She couldn’t be seen for months because she’s in demand, but she’s worth waiting for if you don’t need to be seen right away,” says Linden.
All of these factors should help you narrow down your list of candidates to just a select few doctors. Then, go with your gut—if you’re naturally drawn to one of the physicians, it’s time to see if he or she is the right doctor for you. Call up the practice and schedule an appointment.

Finding The Right Match

Your relationship with your doctor will be an incredibly intimate experience. He or she will know some of the most personal details of your life, ranging from your family medical history and allergies to your sexual history and substance use. Getting the best personalized care depends on how open and honest you can be with your doctor.
“There’s a loop I like to work through with each client when introducing them to a new physician,” says Linden. “It consists of three legs: preparing for the appointment, asking questions during the appointment, and debriefing after the appointment.”
Get ready for your initial appointment by referring to your health goals and drafting a list of questions for the doctor. Think about what you hope to get from the appointment, says Linden, who offers several examples of potential inquiries for a doctor:

  • I take blood pressure medication but I want to make some lifestyle changes so I no longer need the prescription. Is that something you can help me with?
  • I’ve been feeling depressed. Can you talk to me about the pros and cons of starting an antidepressant?
  • I want to lose 20 pounds. Can you provide nutritional guidance to help me?

“You can’t make a decision about whether that doctor is a match for you unless you understand your own expectations,” says Linden.
Meeting with the doctor gives you the opportunity to ask those questions and evaluate the physician’s communication style and bedside manner. Linden emphasizes the importance of asserting your preferences and needs during this initial appointment.
“You have to learn to advocate for yourself. We all become passive in a medical setting because of the power differential between doctor and patient, but you have to be assertive. If you need to be handled with special care, tell the doctor so they have the opportunity to treat you extra gently,” she says.
If the doctor frequently interrupts you, fails to address your preferences, or isn’t flexible in her handling of patients, she’s probably not the right fit for you. Take some time to reflect on how things went after the appointment.
“Did you feel your questions were answered? Did the doctor meet your expectations? What happened and how did you feel about it?” asks Linden.
Hopefully the legwork you did as you decided how to choose a doctor led you to a physician with expertise in your health concerns and a style that resonates with you. And if not, keep searching—it can be frustrating to try out different physicians, but it pays off tenfold when you finally find a doctor you trust.