There’s a difference between wanting to look your best and wanting to take literally hours to look your best. You shouldn’t have to spend all day trying to perfect your eyeliner. So take a look at these tips, meant for you ladies who want to look great, but save time and effort doing it.
Fix Too Dark Foundation
You know that feeling when you’re caught between two foundations? They’re the same brand, and maybe, to the naked eye, they’re even the same color. There’s a slight difference between the way each blends on your skin, though, with one looking a bit more subtle than the other.
You take it home and put it on, only to realize that, alas, it’s still too dark. Don’t panic, you don’t have to go around looking like you have a less-than-perfect spray tan. If you just combine a little moisturizer with your foundation, that can actually make it a bit lighter!
Three is the Magic Number
With contouring, there’s a ton of tips and tricks out there for how to make sure your face is perfectly on point. If you’re in a rush though, just trace from above your brow, to underneath your eye, and along your jawline, in the shape of the number three.
Line Using Your Curler
Your curler doesn’t have to be used just for your lashes. Try using your eyeliner to draw a line along the part that will crimp the top of your lashes. This way, the liner will transfer from the curler to your eyelid.
Cards for All
You’ve probably heard that you can use business or ID cards to help with evening your eyeshadow distribution or even to help ensure a straight line with your liner. Did you know that you can also use it for mascara? Place the card behind your lashes and swipe up against it so the excess mascara lands on the card, not your lids.
Glitter Cover-Ups
If your bottom cuticle is ruining the aesthetic of your manicure, you can cover it up with some glitter polish. Ombre is still in, so Cosmopolitan suggests going for that sort of vibe. The same is true when your tips might be flaking away, just add some glitter and make it look like you were aiming for a revamped French all along.
Warm Up Your Mascara
Mascara works better when it’s warmed up, and a quick way to do this is to let it rest in your bra for a bit before you go ahead and use it, because, you know, body heat.
Tee vs. Towel
Towel-drying your hair might seem like a time saver, but really, it’s a time drainer. Use a t-shirt instead for significantly better absorption.
Match Foundation to Your Tan
If a darker foundation is exactly what you were looking for, because you’ve spent all month lying in the sun, just mix it with some bronzing powder.
Eyeshadow Works for Hair Too
Are you showing more of your scalp and not enough of your lustrous locks? Don’t worry, take some eye shadow that matches the color of your hair and brush it along your part to create the perfect illusion.
Band-Aids Can Help Your Nails Too
If you have some of those classic Band-Aids laying around with the tiny holes in them, try putting them over your already dry nails, and paint over the holes for a polka-dot look.
White Goes Pop
Did you know that white eyeliner can be used for more than just making your eyes look bigger or helping them to pop a bit? (That works by putting it on your waterline, for the record.)
It can also help to make your lips look a bit fuller, which we all know is a big concern amongst today’s women. Just put some light liner—you can probably stick to pencil liner for this—in the center of that pout you’ve got, and it will create the illusion that there’s more to your lips.
Bonus: swiping some white liner on your eyes (either the entire lid or just where you line it) can help any shadows or other liners you use to really make an impression.
Low on Sleep? Stock up on Highlighter
Apply your highlighter to the right places (the center of your forehead, the top of your nose, and the apples of your cheeks) so that you can look ready to go, no matter how little sleep you got the night before.
Hide Split-Ends
If you’re saving your money, and not ready to get another cut just yet, but you can’t help but cringe at your split-ends, hair oil might be your answer, according to Cosmopolitan. It can hide your split-ends from the judgmental eyes of others.
Master the Smokey Eye
Was there ever a time when the smoky eye was not regarded as the ultimate makeup look? Well, probably not since the 21st century got underway at least. Funnily enough though, there are still so many of us who have trouble perfecting this signature look.
That stops here! Just take “an eye crayon … and draw on a couple of criss-cross lines over the outer corner of your eyes.” Blend it with a brush meant for eyeshadow, and you’re done.
fFix Mascara
Is your mascara less than fabulous right now? Well, just take some contact solution, put a few drops in your mascara bottle, and mix it.
Highlight Differently
You don’t have to always use a typical makeup highlighter. Instead, you can go natural, and use an oil, like jojoba, according to Cali of DePasquale The Spa. Just put it on the same spots where you would your traditional highlighter and you should be all set.
Make Your Hair Smell Great
Is the perfume you spray on your body just not cutting it? Well if you want to stand out, then maybe add a little something extra to your hair.
You can just take a brush, spray some perfume on there, and the sweet scent will transfer onto your locks. Be sure that you don’t spray it right onto your hair though, because “the alcohol in the formula can dry [it] out.”
Easy Clean
Rather than choosing not to clean off all your makeup because you’re feeling exhausted or lazy after it’s been one of those days, just keep some makeup-removing wipes next to your bed.
Dry Shampoo Reliance
If you have a full schedule and even a shower is too much to squeeze in for the day, you your appearance doesn’t have to reflect your exhaustion.
Just use some dry shampoo; it’s an incredibly quick way to make your hair look presentable, at least until you have time to give your hair a really thorough scrub.
Cope with Less than Perfect Bangs
Do you spend half your time loving your bangs and the other half of the time wanting to chop them off? Well if they’re being incredibly stubborn, refusing to work for you, and you’re not in the mood to deal with the annoyance, there is a solution.
You can use them to your advantage by “[working] them into a style, like a headband braid or a boho twist.” It’s easier to achieve some sense of flair this way too, rather than just settling for putting some bobby pins in to keep them out of your face.
Double Up on Shower Caps
Did you know that if your hair is prone to frizzing in humid conditions, showering with two shower caps could actually help keep the effects of the humidity at bay?
Ice Water
Before your next D.I.Y. manicure, set out some ice water. If you’re in a rush (or you’re just really impatient when it comes to waiting for your nails to dry, because you have things that need to get done), you’ll only need to let the polish dry for a couple of minutes. Then just place your fingers in the water and it will help to “harden your polish the rest of the way.”
Turn Glossy Polish Matte
Have you ever wondered if there was a way that you could change your glossy, clear polish to matte? Well there is a way. All it takes is the addition of some corn starch. If you add it to your clear polish, the result should be closer to matte.
Ask anyone how to get rid of the “common cold” and you’ll get a million different answers. While we aren’t doctors and therefore can’t guarantee that these tips will work, they come at the advice of medical professionals. Take a look what they suggest.
First Things First
E. Neil Schachter, M.D., who wrote The Good Doctor’s Guide to Cold and Flu, advises taking a shower first thing after you wake up feeling sick, as the steam can help to clear up some of that stuffiness you’re likely to feel. If the idea of being soaking wet when you’re already achy sounds less than ideal, there is an incentive, especially if you’re full of mucus and your sinuses are acting up—the humidity actually serves to help with both.
If you’re debating whether or not to take the day off, Dr. Jason Jones, GP, suggests judging by your symptoms, “If you have a fever (above [99.5 degrees F]), diarrhea, are coughing heavily or are so congested you have a headache, don’t go to work. These are signs you’re fighting an infection.”
While you might think staying home is taking the easy way out, Jones says that you risk aggravating your illness otherwise.
Hydration, Hydration, Hydration
It’s commonly said that you need to drink even more fluids when you’re under the weather, and there’s a reason for this. Jennifer Wider, M.D. spoke to SELF and explained, “Certain illnesses can cause a rapid water loss, for example vomiting and diarrhea.”
The point of drinking more water than you might normally is to prevent you from experiencing dehydration as this can exacerbate the symptoms—not that you ever want to be dehydrated, for the record. You’re also susceptible to dehydration if you’re in the midst of a fever.
Be careful not to have too much water though—that is a thing, as it turns out—as you don’t want to over-hydrate and, as a result, experience hyponatremia. (Click here for more information about why you should be mindful of your water intake.)
Though the amount of water each person should be drinking varies, it’s suggested that a daily allotment of eight eight-ounce glasses should suffice for most. There’s water in the food you eat as well, which does count, though if you’re experiencing either diarrhea or you’re vomiting, you might need a little more water.
Gastroenterologist James Lee, MD, advocates the BRAT diet for those experiencing diarrhea. The foods you should focus on having if you’re following this are “bananas, rice, applesauce and toast. Also oatmeal, boiled potatoes, saltine crackers, and baked chicken or turkey without the skin.”
Caffeine and artificial sweeteners, like sorbitol, are just a couple of the things that should be avoided if you’re experiencing these symptoms.
If it’s a sore throat that’s bothering you, on the other hand, Lauren Slayton, RD, suggests a combination of lukewarm peppermint tea with Manuka honey, as well as creamy, yet soft, foods. Take this opportunity to enjoy a bowl of mashed potatoes, custard, or some cream soup. If you want to go the slightly less-fattening route though, you can also have scrambled eggs or yogurt.
You should really strive to avoid drinking anything that’s hot, or eating foods that would constitute as “scratchy” like chips and granola. For more symptoms and how to approach them when it comes to food, click here.
Rely on a Lozenge
Though you should definitely take the above into consideration before choosing what you will or won’t eat whilst under the weather, you might want to take some zinc for t
he time being, according to Ananda Prasad, MD.
Research says it has the propensity to cut the length of your cold in half if you suck on it within the first 24 hours after you first experience symptoms. Not just that, but it can even ease your sore throat or, if you have it, runny nose.
The key is to stick to lozenges as opposed to syrup or another alternative, as it will stay in your mouth for a greater amount of time—so long as you don’t bite it.
There are a couple of things to be aware of though. Avoid orange lozenges if you decide to go this route, as both citric and tartaric acid can lessen the effect the zinc will have on you, and don’t become reliant on zinc, as it can result in diarrhea or vomiting.
Exercise—A Bit
Ball State University’s Leonard Kaminsky, PhD, of the university’s Clinical Exercise Physiology Program, Human Performance Laboratory, says that rather than hiding from exercise because you don’t feel 100 percent, doing some low-key exercise won’t just likely not exacerbate the situation, but it might even help somewhat.
When he says easy exercise though, he means it; activities like walking or yoga (the gentle kind) actually have the propensity to not only get you over your cold more quickly, but to lessen its intensity as well as stuffiness you’re experiencing.
Going overboard though might actually do the opposite and cause you to take a longer time to recover. Listen to your body, and if taking a walk around the block feels like too much, take that as a signal that you should stop and rest.
You should also avoid working out if you’re running a fever, your stomach is bothering you, or your body is aching. For more tips on judging whether you should workout whilst sick, click here.
The one thing you have to watch out for, though, is how reliant you’re becoming on one of these sprays, as using one for a longer period of time than the instructions advise has the ability to harm more than help, by irritating your nose and reverse the intended effects. If you use it the wrong way, you risk extra congestion. Just ensure you’re following the instructions regarding the dosage, to a tee.
Another option is to use what’s referred to as “nasal irrigation systems” which utilize saline and are helpful when it comes to “[treating] congested sinuses, colds and allergies.”
The FDA warns against using tap water given that it isn’t filtered as well as it should be, and the bacteria found in there “can stay alive in nasal passages and cause potentially serious infections.”
Elderberry Syrup
Though this probably only sounds familiar in reference to Sleeping Beauty and other fairy tales, elderberry, which is known as elder for short, is actually a plant—technically “a large shrub or small tree.” It’s served humans well for hundreds of years and can be taken orally as a means of “[treating] respiratory illnesses such as cold and flu.”
Though this isn’t the only purpose it serves, black elder, which is also referred to as European elder, is the most commonly used species when it comes to serving as a form of medicine.
While it might come off as a bit too good to be true for those who aren’t fans of seemingly holistic purposes, it’s the flavo
noids in the plant which are most helpful. Also found in particularly popular berries like blueberries and blackberries, flavonoids are even more potent in elderberry, and could potentially “help prevent damage to the body’s cells.”
Be sure to avoid the dwarf elder at all costs, as it may be poisonous. Keep in mind that there haven’t been too many human studies involving elder, so its effectiveness is yet to be confirmed.
Bedtime
When it comes to figuring out your bedtime, Dr. Jones says that it’s best to get to sleep on the earlier side, but you shouldn’t alter your schedule too much. He says not to go to bed “more than an hour before your usual bedtime so you keep your routine and sleep well.”
The widely popular eight-hour rule is still something to take into account as well, in order to facilitate the healing process.
According to a study found in Sleep, the amount of sleep a person gets on regular basis impacts their likelihood to become sick, when compared to those who sleep an average minimum of seven hours each night. In fact, the study found that those in the former category were nearly five times as likely.
Factors that didn’t appear to play a role included, but were not limited to the season, as well as the demographics of each participant.
There are a lot of things we learn throughout the course of life that we hold to be true. As it turns out, despite being widely believed, a lot of these so-called facts are anything but. Here are some “facts” you were probably told over and over, and the reality behind them.
Myth: You Should Choose Fresh Over Frozen
Despite what intuition might tell you, eating what you consider to be “fresh” produce over frozen doesn’t necessarily make a difference. In fact, they’re not mutually exclusive.
According to Dariush Mozaffarian from Tufts University’s Friedman School of Nutrition Science and Policy, “You can have something that’s fresh and processed and something that’s fresh and not processed.”
The FDA backs this up with their qualification of “fresh,” which can be found here. Sometimes, it’s the lesser of two evils, so to speak.
One instance is if the fruit you want to eat is no longer in season and you can choose between a frozen version or a version that was grown far enough away that it was “then put in a refrigerated system and then put on a ship … [and] grown four months ago,” explains chef Hugh Acheson. It seems like a pretty obvious choice at that point then, doesn’t it?
Myth: Carbs = Weight Gain
First of all, it should be noted that not all carbohydrates are the same—complex vs. simple, for instance, makes a huge difference.
According to Sian Porter, a dietitian, the word itself covers so many things that you can’t distinguish one from the other by just using the word carbohydrates. “It is the type, quality and quantity of carbohydrate in our diet that is important,” Porter explains.
In fact, Porter says that meals should ideally be centered on the starchier variety of carbohydrates; the less processed, the better it is for you. This is where the whole grain vs. white flour issue comes into play.
In case you don’t know what exactly carbohydrates are, they’re a macronutrient, which just means they make up a significant portion of our diets. Carbohydrates come in three versions: starch, fiber, and sugar. Energy, an increased risk of disease, and the amount of calories you should be consuming are all reasons that you should not think before cutting out carbohydrates, and, in fact, not cut them out at all.
Myth: Digesting Gum Is Hard on Your Body
Fooled again! Chances are that you and everyone you know have probably heard—more than once—that you should never swallow chewing gum for the sole reason that it takes a whopping seven years to fully digest.
According to Nancy McGreal, M.D., a gastroenterologist from Duke University, “The gum base is insoluble, just like the fiber base of raw vegetables, corn, popcorn kernels, and seeds.” Despite its qualification as an indigestible substance, you needn’t worry that inadvertently swallowing some gum will cause any significant harm, at least not to the digestive system.
You definitely don’t want to swallow it on purpose or in excess though, because it can cause some less than pleasant side effects, such as headaches.
Myth: Bathroom Doors Lead to Germs
Sure, just about every commercial promoting anything to do with cleansing or sanitizing will note how both your bathroom doorknob and kitchen counter are hotbeds for germs. This is a bit of an overreaction, to put it mildly.
He says that “viruses can stay alive on objects for a period of hours, or even longer in moist environments,” but that’s not the only place you can find them. Just take into consideration how liable you are to catch a cold following a long trip on a crowded bus or train.
The viruses present in people’s sneezes and coughs and on their hands “become aerosolized, and you breathe them in,” says Weisholtz. This doesn’t discount the fact that you should keep your hands as clean as possible and take other precautions, such as keeping your flu shots up to date and avoiding sharing germs unnecessarily.
Myth: Wet Hair Outside Will Lead to a Cold
According to Jack Gwaltney Jr., M.D., whether or not you spend time outside with a head full of wet hair is irrelevant as to whether you’ll come away with a cold. Viruses are to blame instead.
What might come as a shock is that rhinovirus, Gwaltney says, happens to stick around during times of high humidity. “But in the mild weather, we aren’t crowded together indoors, making exposure less likely.”
Rather than washing your hands with soap and water though, it turns out that hand sanitizers are actually a better option when it comes to trying to beat rhinovirus. Sadly though, research from the University of Virginia notes that this won’t necessarily prevent you from catching it to begin with.
Ronald Turner, M.D. says, “Conversely, airborne transfer may be more important than previously recognized.” Whether that means we should start investing in masks to keep viruses at bay or just be sitting ducks is another story.
In fact, plenty acknowledge that we might have more senses than we’ve even considered.
Have you ever heard of something called equilibrioception or maybe proprioception? No, they aren’t sequels to Inception, but the “sense” of balance and “the awareness of where your body parts are,” respectively.
In fact, these other “senses” all seem to be things we take for granted, but abilities of our bodies that we do become aware of once we really break them down, one by one. Another one which actually seems pretty obvious when you think about it, is that of our ability to distinguish between cold and hot temperatures, which is known as Thermoception.
Though this is just one of numerous myths that doctors in general have taken to heart, Dr. Carroll and Dr. Vreeman studied myths “which either aren’t true or lack scientific evidence to support them.”
It turns out that people have believed this particular one since at least 1907, if not earlier, though references, the doctors found, were “often repeated by people advocating the power of self-improvement.” (Think along the lines of The Secret.)
On the contrary though, evidence showed Carroll and Vreeman that humans use significantly more than the measly 10 percent we’re told about. They wrote, “‘Numerous types of brain imaging studies show that no area of the brain is completely silent or inactive.”
Myth: Everyone Should Drink Eight Glasses a Day
Another shocking myth Carroll and Vreeman researched was the theory that you should be sure to drink a minimum of 64 ounces—or eight glasses—of water each and every day.
They weren’t able to locate any scientific evidence, despite the fact that the media, health professionals, and workout fiends continually promote it.
The culprit, it seems, could very well be an article from 1945, in which it was said “that a ‘suitable allowance’ of water for adults is 2.5 liters a day, although the last sentence noted that much of it is already contained in the food we eat.”
Well that sounds like a bit more than an oversight, doesn’t it? In fact, the doctors made it clear that there are studies which have focused more on how much fluid we should be having, as opposed to how much water exclusively.
Food is the fuel that keeps our bodies going, usually. Some foods, as it turns out, tear your body apart. You’ll never believe the risks you’re taking by eating these totally normal foods.
13. Nutella
If you’re a fan of Nutella—which, really, who isn’t, these days?—you’ve probably heard of the recent revelation that it might be dangerous. Now, whether it really poses a risk is still up for debate, but, as of now, “The European Food Standards Authority has previously declared that the palm oil [used in Nutella] contains a contaminant, known as glycidyl fatty acid ester, which is carcinogenic.”
Currently, it’s uncertain whether Nutella/palm oil becomes dangerous after a particular amount is consumed, but “due to a lack of definitive data, no level could be considered safe.” Not to mention that many animal rights groups say that acres of rainforest are cleared hourly to harvest palm oil, which severely impacts the habitats of already endangered orangutans.
Unfortunately, according to the manufacturer, Ferrero, removing palm oil doesn’t appear to be a viable option. Vincenzo Tapella, the purchasing manager, noted, “Making Nutella without palm oil would produce an inferior substitute for the real product; it would be a step backward.”
Well, at least we know they’re putting health and safety above all else, right?
12. Tomatoes
Among the most identity-challenged foods (is it a fruit? Is it a vegetable? Will the debate and confusion ever end?), one thing is for certain when it comes to these plump red plants. Their leaves are laced with Glycoalkaloid, which is a poison that’s “known for causing upset stomachs, severe cramping, and anxiety.”
To be safe, just ensure that you avoid those pesky leaves, as well as the stems. You can never be too careful, after all.
11. Potatoes
Not only are they featured alongside tomatoes in those famous lines ( “You like potato and I like potahto / You like tomato and I like tomahto”), but similarly to tomatoes, potatoes are stricken with poisonous leaves.
Their stems are also poisonous, and as it turns out, there have even been “potato-related deaths,” which tend to arise from “eating green potatoes, or drinking potato leaf tea.” If you’re ever offered either of these, just politely decline and move along.
10. Cherries
If you don’t get too worked up about eating cherries with the seeds in tact, you might want to be more mindful of it. As it turns out, convenience or not wanting to choke on a seed aren’t the only reasons to avoid them with this fruit.
Cherry seeds are not only a pain to have to spit out into a napkin when no one’s looking, but there just so happens to be hydrogen cyanide in them.
9. Almonds
They may be a handy and convenient way to get your protein in on the go, but almonds aren’t exactly what they seem. For one, an almond isn’t a nut, but a seed—mind blown, right? But more disturbingly, similar to cherries, they’re potentially poisonous. According to Delish, “Bitter almonds, while in their raw form, are full of [cyanide].” How is it that seemingly raw almonds are packaged and sold in supermarkets all over then?
Well, as it turns out, there’s “a specialized heat treatment … [used] in order to remove the toxins.”
8. Raw Meat and Uncooked Eggs
Now this one probably sounds like common sense. After all, most of us have been told the cautionary tales of those who eat raw cookie dough, even if we haven’t experienced it ourselves.
What you might not know though is that uncooked eggs aren’t alone in being possible carriers of salmonella. In fact, “Raw meat—including red meat, poultry, and seafood … can contain salmonella bacteria.” What exactly does this lead to, if consumed though, you might wonder?
Well, it can lead to something called gastroenteritis, as well as “serious complications, such as bacteremia (when salmonella enters the bloodstream),” and it can threaten the life of a person whose immune system is on the weaker side.
If you’re really in the mood for cookie dough, there are plenty of eggless options out there—or else cookie dough ice cream might be your best alternative. If it’s raw meat or fish you’re in the mood for, make sure you’re getting your sushi from a reliable place, certified to serve you rare/raw meat or fish.
7. Coffee
If you’re a fan of iced coffee over hot, then you might only need to worry about “the possibility of increased heart rate, trouble sleeping and discoloration of teeth” when you’re downing a cup of your caffeine of choice. For those who favor a hot latte or anything of the sort though, beware of just how hot your coffee is.
Given an incident in 1992 which resulted in a 170-degree cup of coffee causing a McDonald’s customer to have “third-degree burns over 6 percent of her body,” Mickey D’s has since “lowered the temperature at which it brews coffee and made warning labels more prominent.”
Starbucks though, has done the opposite and “reportedly brews its coffee at higher levels to this day.” Yikes!
No, not that kind of ‘shrooms. If you see a wild mushroom—or just about any food in the wild—you’re not supposed to eat it (common sense, we know, but the reminder can’t hurt).
Certain types of mushrooms (for instance, Destroying Angels) are not only poisonous but potentially deadly if consumed.
5. Leafy Greens
Though you likely believe leafy salads to be among the healthier options when you’re eating out, “Leafy greens — including spinach, lettuce, cabbage, arugula and kale — were listed as the riskiest foods of 2009, according to the Center for Science in the Public Interest, which is regulated by the FDA.” Scary, right?
As it turns out, there were “363 separate outbreaks linked to the veggies [in 2009]; 240 of those cases were linked to food from restaurants.”
The pathogen in question? Norovirus. You might want to put away any food while reading this, because it’s more than a bit unsavory. Basically, if the person dealing with your food happens to be under the weather and has forgotten to wash their hands, you’re at risk.
Salmonella and E. coli were among the other culprits, “both of which can be introduced during the production phase if the greens come into contact with animal manure, contaminated water or wild animals.” Maybe you should do more research before you eat out after all…
4. Raw Cashews
Similarly to raw almonds, the cashews you believe to be raw are a bit misleading, as they “have been steamed to remove a deadly chemical: urushiol.” While this “can be found in poison ivy,” which as we know isn’t usually thought of as more than an itchy plant, high levels of urushiol can be fatal.
As a precaution, you should just ensure that your cashews aren’t “truly raw” any time you plan to consume them.
3. Apricot Seeds
In case you hadn’t read enough about cyanide and all the seemingly edible places it can be hidden, we have one more for you: apricot seeds, also known as stones. As it turns out, they “contain cyanogenic glycosides, which are converted to hydrogen cyanide in the body when eaten.”
Many people in Turkey—where apricot trees are particularly common—have died following the consumption of too many of these seeds.
2. Bean Sprouts
Speaking of salmonella and E. coli, did you know that bean sprouts are actually among the most common offenders of foods that contain these dangerous diseases? Oh, and don’t forget listeria, as all of these troubling diseases “thrive in the same warm, humid conditions that sprouts are grown in.”
If that doesn’t give you a hankering for sprouts though, we don’t know what will, but thankfully, they’re usually a garnish more than a main meal.
1. Raw Milk
Do you remember all those lessons you had in middle or high school about Louis Pasteur and the eponymous pasteurization? Well, the milk in your fridge is almost certainly pasteurized—assuming that you purchased it at the grocery store, that is.
For people who are getting their dairy from elsewhere though, it could very well be raw. Unpasteurized milk might sound fine, but “is far more likely to contain salmonella, E. coli and listeria,” so always be mindful.
Once a cheater, always a cheater…or is that really the case? It turns out there might be a scientific basis to the reason a person becomes a cheater. Are you the type of person who would cheat? You just may be…if you’re in one of these groups.
Those With Ages Ending in 9
It’s been said plenty of times that those who cheat partially do so because of insecurities. While it’s easy to brush this sort of statement off as, “Excuses, excuses,” there is something to be said about an increase in one’s insecurity as they get older. Just look at every romantic comedy you’ve ever seen wherein a woman nearing the end of her thirties begins panicking about her age.
Well, if you’ve ever been cheated on by someone on the crux of a new age bracket, whether they were 29, 39, 49, etc., the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences might have identified said ages as the common link.
According to their abstract, it’s this period of life that leads “adults [to] undertake a search for existential meaning … which leads them to behave in ways that suggest an ongoing or failed search for meaning…”
These potentially “life-altering choices” can include cheating, as well as the decision to change the way a person works out, among other things.
Women Who Teach
Sure, there’s the ever-present stereotype of the demure and innocent teacher—especially when it comes to women who teach. It’s likely that most of us are guilty of these assumptions, that the women who teach are automatically just a bit more…immune to the ills of the world than the rest of society.
Rather than being confronted with the chore of social media, they’ve got their noses stuck in a book as they spend their nights crafting lesson plans instead of taking selfies for Instagram, or binge watching salacious series. Right?
On the contrary, if a woman is cheating, it’s probably a safe assumption that she’s in the education field. According to a survey that polled over 5,000 women, 65 percent of those who cheat do so at their place of business.
In a turn of irony though, 85 percent of said women advise against having intimate relations with a coworker.
Tweeters
Some people are always seeking approval online through their various profiles. Social media obsession can be a huge red flag to look for when committing to a serious relationship: As you’ll see in the video below, people who spend the most time on Twitter are more likely to be unfaithful.
The Quiet Ones (IT-ers)
Sure, the stereotype is that just about any guy who works in the IT field—or any technology field—is quiet, unsuspecting, and a bit of an outcast. We assume he’s lacking in social confidence and, as a result, frequently passed over as a potential mate.
This applies to the concept of cheating as well, as it’s rare to think of the nice, innocent, guy in IT seeking out a potential affair. Another survey actually appears to prove the opposite though.
So if you know that you have a particular weak spot for those who are a bit more technologically savvy or do that for their career, then you might want to be a bit more wary before you get involved in something serious.
Just because he spends his days repairing other people’s mishaps on their computers and company networks doesn’t mean he isn’t also juggling a couple of women at the same time.
Tall Men
Height is one of the few physical attributes which can be agreed upon by most women looking for a man. It’s pretty common to seek out a taller man, at least in the West. This is a preference that women might want to reevaluate from here on out though.
An infidelity site conducted a survey that concluded that a man’s height—specifically, if he’s 5’10” or over—actually directly correlates to his likelihood to cheat.
It’s not that men over 5’10” are genetically engineered to cheat and those who are shorter aren’t. Rather, a man’s height oftentimes corresponds to his confidence. Given societal standards, it isn’t shocking that a taller man tends to be more confident than his shorter peers.
While confidence is a pretty attractive trait, it just so happens to be the downfall of men exceeding this height bracket and tends to lead them to have a wandering eye.
Wayne
Believe it or not, the fate of your significant other (current or future) might have been decided for them long before they ever had a chance to decide what sort of person they wanted to be. In fact, their tendency to cheat might be linked to their name.
According to a couple of thousand women who were surveyed, the name Wayne was actually deemed the most suspect when it comes to the world of romance.
According to another cheating site, which reached out to over 4,000 men and women—more than a couple of thousand of each—it seems that Nathan might be the most popular name of cheating men, while Megan is the one to watch out for with women.
Talk about judging a book by its cover, right, people? Well it turns out that it just might save you a lot of time and pain in the long run if you ignore the adage and do that, according to a survey.
This one found that blondes make up 42 percent of the population of unfaithful women, with redheads following right behind at 23 percent. Next were brunettes at 20 percent. Women sporting black hair appear to be the “safest,” as they come in at just 11 percent.
On the contrary, men with brown hair are more prone to cheating than those without—they came in at 40 percent. Those with black hair made up 23 percent of the population, with blondes making up 20 percent, and redheads just 5 percent.
One thing to be considered though is that the study didn’t take into account whether a person was balding or dyeing their hair. So maybe there’s still hope?
Shopaholics
While it might be unfair to automatically ascribe a woman’s tendency to cheat to a love of shopping (come on, there are just some things that we can’t help but buy), a survey— conducted by, you guessed it, a site promoting infidelity—would say otherwise.
In fact, over 52,000 women were surveyed and what might be even more shocking than the shopping connection are the favored clothing brands of this subset of women. At the top of the list is none other than Banana Republic.
This tendency to shop might not be a cause of the cheating, but rather, an effect, given that a good deal of the women “said they spend more on their appearance since they started cheating.”
Victoria’s Secret has, unsurprisingly, been cited as the default pick for underwear for 69 percent of women in this situation. Other brands that struck their fancy included, but were not limited to, J. Crew, Macy’s, and H&M. Quite the gamut there.
McDonald’s might be one of the defining ways of life for Americans, so much so that its empire has conquered entire countries across the globe. Believe it or not though, Mickey D’s has some stiff competition waiting in the wings. Business Insider compiled a list of fast food restaurants that will usher in the revolution—take a look.
1. The Kitchenette
If you follow the happenings of the technology world, then you’re probably familiar with the Musk family. Well, as it turns out, the brother of Tesla and SpaceX giant Elon Musk, Kimbal Musk, has his own creation to be quite proud of in The Kitchenette.
Though there’s only a single location to speak of at the moment, inside Shelby Farms Park in Memphis, additional locations are in the works. Well, they will be, at some point, according to Musk’s current goals.
Though technically part and parcel of the restaurant chain The Kitchen, The Kitchenette offers much of the same as Panera Bread and other fast-food cafés. The Kitchenette aims to make the most of local food. Oh, and did we mention that everything the Kitchenette sells costs less than $5? We’re not joking. So if you want a change from pricey café fare and you find yourself down south, you might just want to try The Kitchenette.
2. Salad and Go
If you’ll be heading to Arizona anytime soon and the Grand Canyon isn’t enough to satisfy your appetite for southern goodness (it’s stunning, but really, you need something to refuel your energy after a good hike), then you might want to try this chain—a native to the state.
True to its name, Salad and Go is the perfect stop for salad enthusiasts who are in a bit of a hurry. What’s more? You get plenty of bang for your buck here where the massive salads are are all sold for under $10 (a rarity if we’ve ever heard of one). By massive, we mean 48-ounces. It sounds like a pretty good investment, right?
At the current moment, the chain has six homes, all of which are found in the state of Arizona, though there are supposed to be an additional eight come 2018. If you’re not in Arizona, don’t fret, they might come to your state by 2020!
If you like Panera Bread’s Greek Salad, which comes in at 400 calories, try Salad and Go’s Greek Salad, which is only 325 calories with dressing or 170 without. All of their salads can be ordered as a wrap, if that’s more your style.
3. LocoL
Roy Choi and Daniel Patterson, a pair of renowned chefs in their own right, are responsible for this California-based chain. While it’s not quite as low-calorie as other healthy choices, it takes advantage of its home area, as “everything is made with high-quality, locally sourced, whole ingredients.”
If you’re looking for a twist on some meaty classics like chicken nuggets, the LocoL version uses fermented barley as one of its ingredients .
Having opened in 2016, LocoL can be found at just two permanent Southern California addresses at the moment, though there are more options when it comes to ordering from one of their many food trucks in the city.
This year is going to be a big one for the chain, as they’re striving to add nine more locations around the country by the time 2018 rolls around.
If you have trouble when choosing how to treat yourself (pizza vs. burger vs. pizza—an epic battle), you might want to try one of LocoL’s specialty $5 Pizza Burgs.
4. Veggie Grill
Reformed carnivores-turned-vegans can delight in this chain, which might just serve your new favorite “burger.” Although you might have to be a fan of peas to enjoy it. This is because their main ingredient just so happens to be pea protein.
Maybe you were more of a chicken fan in your meat-eating past. If so, the pseudo-chicken sandwiches served at Veggie Grill are made up of a combination of pea, soy, and wheat protein that will surprise you with how tasty they are. This chain has a bit more of a range than the others when it comes to pricing, selling items from as low as $3.50 to nearly $12.
At the moment, only West Coasters have access to Veggie Grill, as all of its nearly 30 locations are spread across just three states: California, Oregon, and Washington. Its goal is to have double the locations by 2020, and to become a national presence once investors have contributed a modest $22 million.
While the concept of ordering your fast food from an iPad isn’t entirely uncommon (as seen at Panera, for those who want to participate in their Rapid Pick-Up service), Eatsa takes that one step further. Rather than receiving meals from a waiter or an unmanned shelf, Eatsa customers are greeted by “automated cubbies.”
Meals here go for as low as 450 calories to no higher than 700. This chain, which is known for its quinoa bowls, might be small, with only four locations to its name, but it’s powerful, as every restaurant is based in an American metropolis: from San Francisco, to Los Angeles, then to Washington, D.C. as of November 2016, and, most recently, Manhattan.
If you’re big on Mexican food but want something that isn’t prohibitive in calorie count, you might want to give Eatsa’s Burrito Bowl (653 calories) or their Tres Chiles (550) bowl a taste.
6. Dig Inn
If you have a secret love of farmer’s markets and your concern for the environment goes further than just keeping your eating clean, then Dig Inn might be the place.
This is especially true for those of you planning a trip to Boston or The Big Apple. Dig Inn made its debut back in 2011, and qualifies as a “farm-to-table chain.” There are currently 14 locations, though more are to come.
Though it’s a bit more expensive than your run-of-the-mill fast food chains, which are known for their unbeatable prices, Dig Inn’s prices are pretty comparable to that of Panera Bread. Their items typically start around $8 and rarely exceed $11. The affordability is thanks to the chain’s work with farmers from the local area.
Ironically, this chain—which is an acronym for the motto “Love Your Food Everyday“—is the brainchild of former McDonald’s big wigs: Mike Roberts and Mike Donahue (in addition to another man, Stephen Sidwell), according to First We Feast. Roberts was the fried food empire’s global president, while Donahue had a role as the chief of corporate communications.
Though LYFE has only been around for the last few years (since 2011, to be exact), the California spot is on its way to a nationwide takeover, with 20 Kitchens across the country. They can be found in California, Nevada, Colorado, Illinois, Texas, and Tennessee. If you’re not a fan of artificial food, then this might be the choice for you.
You won’t find anything on the menu with butter, cream, or high-fructose corn syrup. As if that wasn’t impressive enough, none of the food has MSG, preservatives, or trans fats.
With its home base in Los Angeles, Everytable is one of the other few good things that came out of 2016, with its food—much of which is vegetarian, vegan, and/or gluten-free—coming from local vendors.
Instead of following in the footsteps of sheer, unadulterated capitalism, Everytable cares about its customers and price-adjusts based on what those in the area will find affordable.
Currently, Everytable can only be found in South L.A., though it will soon open in downtown L.A. as well, with additional Los Angeles locations not far behind and in subsequent American cities down the line.
If you enjoy Panera’s Turkey Chili (260 calories), Everytable’s menu, which is “inspired by the cultures & flavors of Los Angeles” and offers Yucatan Chili (490). This spin on the traditional chili includes zucchini, corn, and white mushroom, to name a few. Be sure to put this place on your L.A. bucket list.
9. Freshii
Alright, so this one isn’t exactly new, but that doesn’t make it any less impressive. Freshii hails from our neighbors up north in Canada and has been serving up healthy choices since 2005. Boasting over 300 locations around the globe, Freshii’s menu consists of bowls, salads, and wraps that, for the most part, are less than 700 calories—score!
As if that wasn’t enough to get excited about, the bulk of what’s served at Freshii only costs $7. Sure, that’s certainly more than you’re likely to pay for a single item at Taco Bell or Burger King, but at least you’re paying for food that’s intended to be good for you, not just your wallet.
If you like Panera’s Beet & Citrus Salad or Fuji Apple Salad with Chicken, which are 490 calories and 570 calories respectively, then you might want to try Freshii’s Market Salad. It comes in at 610 calories, though it’s also available as a 785-calorie wrap (both amounts include the calories for the sauces/dressings).
If you want to try something a bit different, as far as salads are concerned, Freshii also offers their Pangoa bowl with brown rice, black beans, avocado, and more, though it does come in at 770 calories.
Do you ever see some strange mark on your body and immediately panic? Then when you’re panicking, is Web M.D. your next move? It leads you to panic more and consider calling every doctor you have, doesn’t it? Well here are some strange things about your body that usually turn out to be completely normal.
Internal Worms
Did you know that about a hundred years ago, it wasn’t a rare occurrence for worms to be present within the human body, more specifically, within the intestines? As you take a minute to absorb (and cringe about) that, you should know that it wasn’t all negative. Sure, the thought of it is gross, but it just so happens that these worms might be linked to aiding those with multiple sclerosis and allergies, among other afflictions.
It turns out that certain “intestinal worms may be ecological mutualists, providing advantages for their host organisms while also benefitting themselves.”
Hey, at least they have the potential to be helpful to us, in that they “may play a vital role in keeping the gut free of harmful bacteria.” Amazingly, that doesn’t make it sound any less disturbing to us, but then again, maybe you have a stronger stomach than any of us do.
Runny Nose
Speaking of running (laugh, please, we need it), it’s pretty common for runners to be in need of a tissue once their run is finished. Rhinitis, which is the actual name for a “runny nose during exercise,” is no stranger to those outdoor runners, though the time of year does tend to affect it.
As you probably guessed, it’s more of a hassle during the colder months and “especially, of course, during times when allergens like pollen, dust and dry air are high.” This then affects your nasal passes and leads to the subsequent presence of mucus—hold your applause.
Another possible reason for runny noses being more of a common occurrence outside than inside, is “air pollution, particularly the nitrogen dioxide found in car exhaust, [which] is a big trigger.”
If this theory is correct, you might want to reconsider how much you value “fresh air” over a dry nose.
While this was sometimes characterized by the way a person began immediately repeating the words of another in an “uncontrollable” fashion, which is also known as echolalia , or whether they would “[meaninglessly repeat or imitate] … the movements of others,” which is also known as echopraxia, it would vary.
Sometimes, it could even result in what a 1986 abstract deemed “forced obedience.”
Benzodiazepines, which are intended for those who are plagued by extreme anxiety or seizures, can apparently be used to treat one suffering from this as well. If you’re wondering what it is that triggers these reactions, stimuli is the culprit, with “involuntary jumping and falls” being an example.
Adult Acne
Despite what you might have been told during the dark days of high school (or during all of adolescence), acne doesn’t end with graduation. Dr. Ava Shamban, a dermatologist who spoke to Bustle, noted that though plenty of women are under the impression they should not be getting acne in their adult years, this isn’t necessarily the case.
Dr. Shamban attributes the issue to a multitude of possible factors, whether that’s extenuating health issues, not ensuring that the skin is clean and well taken care of, or hormones.
Nose Hairs
The idea that only men ever get nose hair is yet another all-too-common misconception. Rather, similarly to other hair found on the body, though it might prove inconvenient, it’s there for a reason.
This is pointed out by Dr. Shamban who describes that the presence of nose hair is actually “‘necessary to filter out allergens and dust from the environment.’”
Asymetrical Breasts
Bustle spoke to Donnica L. Moore, MD, who assured them that having uneven breasts doesn’t necessarily mean anything is out of the ordinary, per se.
Rather, it’s actually pretty common. This can apply to either a variation in shape or size, which “can be very different,” and you needn’t worry about it.
What we will say, though, is that despite your breasts not being symmetrical likely being normal, it is always best to check with a doctor and keep up on your annual exams. t’s always a good idea to confer with someone who specializes in the field and can speak to your specific circumstances rather than the general population.
Smelling Like a Geriatric
Now we’re not talking about the smell in nursing homes here. That’s different—at least we hope it is. Apparently though, senior citizens aren’t the only ones who “have a distinctive smell, but so do people at all stages of life.”
Tongue Psoriasis
Okay, so it’s not technically psoriasis, but it might as well be. Benign migratory glossitis, which is also referred to as Geographic Tongue, is what you call it when “your mouth starts exhibiting symptoms like that of psoriasis.”
Though the Mayo Clinic makes it clear that the condition is in fact harmless, it has the propensity to make you uncomfortable or “[increase] sensitivity to certain substances.” These substances include, but are not limited to, “hot, spicy, salty or acidic foods.” Lesions that are found on an affected tongue lend it “a map-like, or geographic, appearance.”
As far as additional symptoms are concerned, they’re mostly appearance-related, such as evidence of the lesions (which are said to be “smooth, red, irregularly shaped patches”) that are located either “on the top or side of your tongue.” Alterations in where these lesions can be found, their size, or how big or small they are can also be symptomatic, if any of this is a regular occurrence.
While likely nothing to worry about, if your condition doesn’t clear up within a week, or a maximum of 10 days, then you should be sure to visit either your dentist or another doctor.
Twitching Muscles
If you don’t drink much water while you’re working out, or beforehand, then you might be used to feeling your muscles twitch a bit. According to Christopher Minson, Ph.D., you could be experiencing “muscle fasciculations … [which are] caused by an imbalance of electrolytes in your muscle fibers as they fatigue.”
In order to avoid this, says Men’s Health, you have to ensure you’re adequately hydrated. While sports drinks like Gatorade definitely have electrolytes, you should stick to cold water for the shorter workouts—30 minutes or less.
If you’re doing anything longer, that’s when you resort to Gatorade and the like, because of the “potassium, sodium, and other electrolytes to [help] replenish what your body lost through sweat.”
So long as your twitching fades away quickly, you should be fine. It’s when it lasts “for days or disrupts your sleep, [that] you should see a doctor,” as there is a slight possibility that you might have torn or strained something, according to Michael J. Ryan, Ph.D. If your spasms are more frequent or have gone on for a relatively long time, it might mean something else.
Taste of Metal When Running
If you’re a runner, you might be familiar with that strange taste you get as you’re in the middle of an intense workout.
Well, Men’s Health would like you to know that blood-like taste you can’t help but cringe at is, in fact, blood. According to Jordan Metzl, who happens to be a sports medicine doctor, this taste is a sign that you’ve popped some red blood cells. This leads to the “‘release [of] heme,’ or iron, which is why it tastes like metal.”
It isn’t just your taste that’s being affected by this popping, but your air sacs as well, as the “red blood cells can also leak into your air sacs during really hard efforts.”
Though the idea of contending with popped blood cells might sound a bit disconcerting, you shouldn’t worry much if it’s only a sporadic occurrence. If it’s normal for you though, then you should probably visit a doctor to make sure you’re alright.
We all know those strange white marks on our fingernails, but few of us know what they mean. In fact, your fingernails can lend way more insight into the state of your body and health than you might realize. Here are what your fingernails can tell you.
1. Nail Beading
Likely caused by thyroid issues, hormonal changes, diabetes, or stress, this condition can be identified by “vertical beaded ridges resembling a candle’s wax drippings.”
Not a fan of the way it looks? You have options. Medium-grit buffers can be used to help with smoothing these ridges.
Onychogryphosis
In general, onychogryphosis is characterized by “a thickening of the nail plate, with associated gross hyperkeratosis and increased curvature.” The surface is known to be irregular, and the most notable physical traits don’t actually manifest until later on. The disease is particularly “common on the great toenail of elderly patients,” and is seen as a result of many issues, such as: old age, peripheral circulation disorders, and self-neglect (which is likely why homelessness is another cause).
Though these are only a few of the causes, with others including pressure that arises from “improper footwear,” or hallux valgus, when hereditary, this can affect every toenail and fingernail.
2. Terry’s nails
The best way to describe these is probably nails in reverse. Whereas typical nails are only white at the tip, Terry’s nails are mostly white, aside from the “narrow pink band at the tip.” While it can, in cases, be the result of aging, this can also be the result of diabetes or liver disease. It can even be a symptom of congestive heart failure or kidney failure, so just keep an eye on it.
Onycholysis isn’t the only nail-related condition to stem from psoriasis. Pitting, also known as pitted nails, is another consequence linked to the skin condition.
It’s not just a disease you can ignore either, as having pitting on top of psoriasis can increase your risk of something like psoriatic arthritis, “a painful joint inflammation.”
3. Beau’s lines
Multiple issues can serve as the explanation for Beau’s lines, which “are indentations that run across the nails,” and can be found “when growth at the area under the cuticle is interrupted by injury or severe illness.”
Some of these issues which are linked to a high fever, include pneumonia, as well as measles, mumps, and scarlet fever—though the latter three are no longer particularly common in this day and age. Other possible conditions are peripheral vascular disease, uncontrolled diabetes, or an indication of zinc deficiency.
Spoon nails
Koilonychia, which, in lay terms, has been called spoon nails, can be distinctive in appearance. Unlike healthy nails, they aren’t hard and look as though they’ve been uplifted your fingers and turned outwards, or “scooped out.”
This can signify multiple conditions such as heart disease, iron deficiency anemia, hypothyroidism, or even hemochromatosis—“a liver condition … in which your body absorbs too much iron from the food you eat.”
4. Onycholysis
Are your fingernails loose? Do they easily detach from your nail bed? If you answered yes to either of these questions and “the separated part of the nail becomes opaque with a white, yellow or green tinge,” then you should pay special attention to this part, because those are the symptoms of onycholysis.
While the separated nails can be linked to an infection or an injury, that’s not always the circumstance. Sometimes it’s “a reaction to a particular drug or consumer product, such as nail hardeners or adhesives,” or it could also be linked to psoriasis or thyroid disease.
Though the process of the separation is regarded by the American Osteopathic College of Dermatology (AOCD) as painless and relatively common, it’s noted that women, specifically those who have longer fingernails, are most susceptible.
As it happens, this condition usually affects more than one nail, and a bacterial or yeast infection can begin to fester.
5. Yellow Nail Syndrome
Now, this is exactly what it sounds like, in terms of your nails being yellow, but there’s more to it than that. Not only will your nails be discolored, this will render them thicker and slow down their growth. As a matter of fact, that’s what causes them to turn yellow.
In addition to these factors, yellow nail syndrome might result in a “lack [of] cuticle and detach from the nail bed in places,” sounds nice, right?
Respiratory disease—which could be chronic bronchitis, for instance—many times, is what leads to this condition. When your hands swell, which is part of something known as lymphedema, can also result in yellow nail syndrome.
In some cases, this nail condition can be linked to “the accumulation of fluid in the membranes surrounding the lungs and lining the chest cavity (pleural effusion).” The syndrome doesn’t just affect the look of nails either, but people with it tend to have swollen legs and arms as well.
6. Splinter Hemorrhages
Splinter hemorrhages, which can also be referred to as fingernail hemorrhages, indicate bleeding, which occur underneath your nails.
If you recently injured yourself and you notice “long, black, splinter-like lines” ( which “run in the direction of nail growth” ) in your nails following said injury, there’s probably nothing to worry about. It becomes a bit more serious though, when there wasn’t an injury and then, there is cause for concern.
According to Dr. Dana Stern, who specializes in nails and is also a dermatologist, “They could mean you have bacterial endocarditis, an infection of the valves and inner lining of the heart,” especially if you’ve recently undergone a procedure—this can be medical or dental—and you’d need to take antibiotics to clear it up.
Other possible causes for splinter hemorrhages are lupus erythematosus, as well as antiphospholipid syndrome , or microemboli—this is when “tiny clots … damage the small capillaries.”
7. Clubbing
No, your nails aren’t heading off to party until three in the morning. If your nails are clubbed—think of a clubbed foot—it means that “the tips of the fingers enlarge and the nails curve around the fingertips.”
Though this doesn’t usually just occur overnight, rather being a years long process, clubbing can actually signify an assortment of lung diseases, in addition to less oxygen in your blood than there should be.
You should know that it’s a symptom of some additional serious conditions, including, but not limited to, cardiovascular disease or an early indicator of AIDS . Liver disease and inflammatory bowel disease have also been cited as possible explanations for nail clubbing, as has hypertrophic osteoarthropathy.
This “could indicate a life-threatening condition such as a heart attack or embolism.” While it isn’t always a sign of something quite so dangerous as those conditions, blue fingernails might denote that you’re near fainting or at least, lightheaded.
You might also want to hold off from working out if your nails are not only blue but heart and lungs are negatively affected as it can be harmful in these “life-threatening cases.”
While Medline Plus notes that abnormal hemoglobin, heart disease, not enough “oxygen being pumped by the blood through the heart,” and lung disease all serve as potential causes for this blue discoloration, the causes are not limited to these.
Additional reasons include, but are not limited to, asthma, pneumonia, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, and pulmonary hypertension. Raynaud’s syndrome, which, while “relatively harmless,” actually results in “[restricted] or [limited] blood supply, leaving behind a bluish color in the fingers.”
In this oh-so-stressful world of deadlines, social drama, and, of course, social media, it’s easy to get caught up sometimes. Don’t worry yourself too much though, there are plenty of things you can do to dial it back a bit and remind yourself how to be happy.
Here are 16 ways to do that, picked up by Esquire when they spoke to “happiness expert” Andy Cope.
Get excited about every single day.
The day of the week is what you make it. Rather than attributing a particular emotion to a certain day of the week (like Mondays being known for the “Monday Blues”), start getting excited about every day, especially towards the beginning of the week.
If you think about it, because Friday is at the end of the week, it’s a little bit closer to the end, whereas “Monday is an opportunity to make a dent in the universe.”
Aside from the morbidity you might now be associating with Fridays, it’s worth trying to see Mondays in a better light.
Hug away.
While this might sound a little bit like something you’d read in a hippie manifesto, it’s actually not all mumbo jumbo. As it turns out, hugs can pass along endorphins, though “it needs to last seven seconds or longer” (count in Mississippi’s, obviously) for this to be the case.
It might be a little difficult for those of us with strict personal space boundaries, but the endorphins will probably help to ease the way a bit.
Turn gossip around.
There are very few people out there who don’t have a penchant for gossiping, especially with social media making it easier than ever. Talking behind someone’s back doesn’t really have to be used for the negative stuff though, despite the connotation.
Instead, Cope suggests that you should use the time to “Say nice things about people behind their back.”
Not only will people not be able to accuse you of being petty and untrustworthy (which can only cause hassles and often lead to a loss of friends or people gossiping about you—also a hassle), but if you’re only caught being complimentary, they’ll label you as a nice person and likely someone they’d want to associate with.
After all, compliments are a treasured commodity, and who doesn’t want to hang out with someone who only strives to make them feel great about themselves? We know we wouldn’t turn it down.
Greet everyone you meet.
Have you heard of the 10/5 principle? No? Well according to Cope, it’s when you “smile at everyone who comes within 10 feet of you and make eye contact and”—don’t panic here—”Say ‘hi’ to everyone within 5 feet (except on the subway).”
Now, before you protest this idea because you a) don’t want to talk to, let alone risk starting a conversation with, strangers or b) identify as being a bit shy, just remember that there are some people whose entire days can be turned around by just a friendly greeting.
Does it sound like something you might hear on an after-school special? Yes. But it’s been said more than enough times that there has to be some merit to it, right?
It sort of goes hand in hand with not judging a book by its cover—again, after-school special sort of motto, but it’s an adage for a reason. You never know what sort of day or week or month a person is having, whether they’ve had any pleasant encounters recently, and yours could just be the one to make them feel the slightest bit brighter.
List what matters.
Nowadays, especially in the West where we have so many material luxuries that other nations don’t, we have a nasty habit of taking things for granted.
Cope suggests making “a list of ten things you really appreciate but take for granted.” He’s confident that “health” will make the list, and he’s likely not wrong.
Just keep in mind that health oftentimes can’t be bought, and many seemingly dire issues, like school, work, etc. become moot if you’re not healthy enough to contend with them.
Write down your best moments.
Piggy-backing off the first list idea, Cope has another top ten list you should be making. This one is to document the happiest moments you’ve experienced thus far, to help you discover “that most of the things on the list are ‘experiences’ rather than ‘products.’”
If you’re particularly caught up with material wealth and “Keeping up with the Joneses,” so to speak, this can serve as a really cathartic exercise, as the goal is to push you to experience more rather than buy more.
Remember the highlights.
We all know that dreaded question you get at the end of a long day if you’re in a relationship or you talk to your parents often, “How was your day?” they’ll ask, and you’ll likely groan, even if it’s only internally.
Rather than subjecting others to this weighty question, try the alternative, “What was the highlight of your day?” as it will force people to focus on the good aspects rather than dwell on the opposite.
Feel how you look.
This is a bit more difficult for those of us who get overly excited at the thought of a day spent in pajamas, but you should generally make the effort to at least “Walk tall and put a smile on your face.” We’d even go so far as to say, generally look your best.
You don’t have to cake on makeup or spend an hour working with pomade, but if you put in the effort, you’re bound to feel good about yourself and your appearance, and that confidence will translate.
Make optimistic goals.
Rather than putting things the emphasis on negative goals, like getting through the week or making it until your next vacation, neither of which sound particularly upbeat, Cope suggests reworking your goal-setting strategy.
He suggests endeavoring to “‘Enjoy the week’ or ‘to inspire people,’” both of which are admittedly rooted in conscious hard work, but the outcome is likely to sustain you for much longer than just getting through an off-day, with no plan in sight afterward.
Concentrate on your strengths.
Another way you can focus on the good is by making another list—don’t worry, this is the last one, and it’s shorter. Cope suggests making a list of what you consider to be your strengths, the five most important ones.
Rather than concentrating on your flaws or downfalls—both of which we all have, no matter what we might portray to the outside world—he suggests that you “Be aware of them and start seeing opportunities to play to them more often.”
Practice the 90/10 way of life.
This is another principle Cope mentions, which is rooted in the idea that 10 percent of your happiness is uncontrollable and left to chance. Essentially it’s what happens to you. The remaining 90 percent of your happiness though, is said to “[depend] on how you react to these events.”
Now obviously, some events in that 10 percent are much more dire and life-changing than others, but the overall point is that we’re in control of our own happiness, nearly any situation can include a silver lining.
Reframe the lame.
Instead of viewing chores and other seemingly grueling tasks as punishments or, again, things to just get through, try looking at them from a different angle. An example is, “a leaking gutter means you have a house; paying tax means you have some income.”
When you just look at it as having to fix a leaking gutter, you might groan, but when you think about the alternative, it almost looks like a privilege, doesn’t it?
Have real experiences with real people.
This is a big one and quite possibly the hardest one of of all. At the present time, the Western world is reliant on technology for just about everything, including things that are best done manually—like making friends.
A friend, despite popular belief, is not someone who you’ve just met once while waiting on line at the store, had a ten-minute conversation with, and only “talk” to one when you comment on a post of theirs. A friend is someone who’s there for you through thick and thin, with whom you’ve shared real and memorable experiences.
Spend more time focusing on the latter rather than how many photos of yours the former liked. You have more to offer the people in your life than something so impersonal, so give that (your thoughts, ideas, loyalty, trust, compassion) to them.
Memories are what you hold onto in old age and during the hard times, not what your most successful filter was or who tagged you the most.
Sure, most of us have heard of LASIK, and we know it has something to do with the eyes, but what is it really? What are the risks? Are you a candidate? Read ahead for some of what you should anticipate before jumping into LASIK—also, as with most medical procedures, it’s probably best to not just jump in.
What exactly is LASIK surgery?
First thing’s first, what does LASIK mean? Well, it’s an acronym, and it stands for laser-assisted in situ keratomileusis. To be fair, that probably doesn’t help clear up much of anything. FDA-approved near the end of the 20th century in 1998, LASIK is described by the American Academy of Ophthalmology (AAO) as “an outpatient refractive surgery procedure used to treat nearsightedness, farsightedness, and astigmatism.”
Astigmatism is defined by the AAO as “an imperfection in the curvature of your cornea”. There are two types of astigmatism—corneal and lenticular—though both result in “your vision for both near and far objects [appearing] blurry or distorted,” which the AAO equates to a fun house mirror.
Understandably, the procedure varies based on your reasoning for getting it. Basically, it utilizes a laser that will “reshape the cornea … to improve the way the eye focuses light rays onto the retina at the back of the eye.” Sounds like a piece of cake, right?
If you’re nearsighted, your cornea will need to be flattened, and if you’re farsighted, you’ll need your cornea to be steeper. It’s said to be able to rectify astigmatism through normalizing the shape of the cornea. One thing you shouldn’t count on LASIK fixing though, is “presbyopia, the age-related loss of close-up focusing power.”
According to the AAO, over 90 percent of LASIK patients are able to come away with vision that lands between 20/20 and 20/40 sans contacts or glasses. They stipulate that patients should also prepare in case they need a subsequent surgery, also known as an enhancement or retreatment, and that glasses might still be necessary for things like nighttime driving, as well as reading.
What makes a good candidate?
As with any surgery, there are certain factors that will determine whether or not the impending patient is truly a prime candidate for said procedure. If any of these apply to you, you might want to rethink LASIK: dry eye syndrome, thin corneas, keratoconus, or large pupil size. These are only a select few of the conditions listed, so be sure to check out the FDA’s own advice.
Insofar as dry eye is concerned, leaving it untreated before you get the surgery could affect your post-op results, though if “diagnosed and adequately treated before surgery, you will have the same chance of a successful outcome as a patient without pre-existing dry eye.” If your dry eye is severe though, you might want to rule out LASIK entirely. The risk for dry eye increases with age, particularly for post-menopausal women.
While thin corneas may render you a less-than-ideal candidate for LASIK, it doesn’t rule out the possibility of other similar surgeries. You can and should ensure that “the thickness of your cornea” is examined prior to any surgery.
Keratoconous, “a condition in which the clear tissue on the front of the eye (cornea) bulges outward,” is something that your doctor should ensure that you don’t have, prior to the procedure. It’s always better to take precaution, after all.
In terms of your pupil size, which will be determined during your pre-LASIK exam, a large pupil “has been thought to be a factor in undesirable side effects such as ‘glare’ and ‘halos.’” As it happens, “the relationship between pupil size in low light and these disturbing visual symptoms” isn’t entirely clear.
According to Paula Cofer, who underwent LASIK only to have her eyes forever changed—and not for the better—says she was never briefed about the issues she might later encounter, as she should have never ben a candidate, given her large pupils and propensity for severe dry eye. Back in 2010, a decade after her surgery, Cofer not only continued to endure “severe dry eyes and blurry vision,” but she noted that her eyes were always burning, and she even had to use a slew of products for them, such as eye rinses, drops, a mask to help with dry air, and more. She was also wearing goggles to help maintain moisture, which she said made her resemble a fly, and she called them “very unattractive.”
What sort of preparations should be made prior to surgery?
In addition to speaking with your doctor and ensuring you don’t have any of the aforementioned conditions, as well as the others listed in the links above, there are still plenty of things you should be doing to prepare yourself, some of which vary depending on whether you wear glasses or contacts. For the latter, you should “stop wearing them before your baseline evaluation and switch to wearing your glasses full-time.” Though how far in advance you should stop wearing them varies, based on the type of contacts you wear—soft, toric soft or RGP, or hard—as they can alter the shape of the cornea.
Make sure you disclose any medical or eye-related conditions to your doctor, regardless of whether the condition is a current or past one, as well as any medications you’re currently taking or could possibly be allergic to.
During an eye exam prior to your surgery, ensure that your doctor covers “the risks, benefits, and alternatives of the surgery,” what to anticipate, what sort of candidate you are, and “what your responsibilities will be before, during, and after surgery.” Don’t forget to ask any and all questions you have regarding the surgery so you can make an educated decision about how to proceed.
The day before your surgery is scheduled, the FDA recommends that you stop using perfumes and cosmetics, as well as lotions and creams, as any of these could pose an increased risk regarding possible infections.
You should ensure you have a ride to and from the procedure, as well as to your first post-op visit. Aside from possible blurry vision, the medicine you’ll have “impairs your ability to drive.”
What can be expected during the procedure?
Referred to by the American Refractive Surgery Council (ARSC) as “quick and virtually painless,” a LASIK procedure should actually only take up about a half hour of your time, says the FDA, if not less. It sounds like a pretty comfortable setup, especially for a doctor’s office, as you get to lie down in a reclining chair.
The procedure begins with a topical anesthetic, says the AAO, and that’s meant to numb the eye, after which the area surrounding your eye is going to be cleaned. Just like those tools the dentist uses to keep your mouth wide open, something similar will occur here with your eyes. Get ready for the lid speculum.
If you want to read a more detailed and in-depth description of what exactly the procedure entails, the FDA provides a description on their site, as does the AAO. One thing you should be aware of is that you won’t need stitches after, but you will need to use some sort of shield to protect your eye. This will “prevent you from rubbing your eye and putting pressure on your eye while you sleep, and to protect your eye from accidentally being hit or poked.” This is something you will need to continue wearing until you’re all healed.
According to the ARSC, given the technological developments since LASIK was first approved, there are additional technologies now used in the procedure. Excimer lasers, whether wavefront-guided or optimized, are one such example, as is 3D digital mapping of your eye. The ARSC points out that these help to increase the safety and accuracy to patients, “enabling surgeons to customize procedures for the patient and better visual outcomes.”
What other normal activities should be avoided, when can they be resumed, and are there other things to watch out for?
If you’re used to an active lifestyle, LASIK might pose a bit of a problem for you. Granted, for non-contact sports, it’s only advised that you wait one to three days after your operation to resume these—though it’s dependent “on the amount of activity required, how you feel, and your doctor’s instructions.” For contact sports, it’s not quite so lenient, as you should not be participating in any of these for a minimum of four weeks following your procedure. These sports include, but are not limited to, karate, boxing, and football.
Regarding the creams, lotions, and other cosmetics that you were supposed to stop using prior to getting LASIK, you shouldn’t resume using them just yet. In fact, the FDA suggests that, “To prevent infection, you may need to wait for up to two weeks after surgery or until your doctor advises you otherwise.”
Be aware that your vision is prone to changing over the course of the months following your operation. For instance, it could take “three to six months for your vision to stabilize after surgery,” which sounds like a lot if you’re not prepared, but this is why you should know all the facts going in. During these months, it’s possible that symptoms such as “glare, haloes, difficulty driving at night, and other visual symptoms may also persist.” If you do happen to need enhancement, you’re advised to “wait until your eye measurements are consistent for two consecutive visits at least 3 months apart before re-operation.”
While distance-related vision has the propensity to improve after a subsequent operation, glare or haloes likely won’t, so keep that in mind. No matter what, if you find yourself having new or unusual symptoms, or anything is, again, turning worse rather than better, reach out to your doctor right away.
Are there alternative procedures? If so, what?
As mentioned above, it’s possible that you might have some underlying conditions that would mean you’re not a prime candidate for LASIK. Don’t give up hope though, there are other refractive surgeries you might be eligible for. One such procedure is called Wavefront-Guided LASIK, in which “computer imaging technology creates a very detailed three-dimensional ‘map’ of the patient’s cornea that looks a bit like a miniature mountain range. …Wavefront technology can measure very subtle abnormalities in the surface of the cornea, enabling wavefront-guided LASIK to achieve vision correction beyond what is possible with glasses or conventional LASIK.” This type of operation has, according to studies, also proved to “reduce side effects, such as problems with night vision and contrast sensitivity (the ability to clearly see objects against a background, such as black letters on a white page), and also to increase the percentage of patients who achieve 20/20 vision.”
Photo refractive keratectomy, also known as PRK, is another alternative, utilizing an excimer laser, as LASIK does. According to the AAO, the results for a patient’s vision correction are pretty comparable, though PRK doesn’t have anything to do with a flap. Apparently, it can take “a few days before vision stabilizes for PRK patients.” There’s also wavefront-guided PRK, though, as, “the FDA approval process has not yet taken place … wavefront-guided PRK is considered an ‘off-label’ use of the technology.”
Other options include LASEK and EpiLasik; in both procedures, the epithelial layer tends to take around four days to heal. Alternative surgeries you might prefer include Conductive Keratoplasty (CK), Phakic Intraocular Lenses, also known as IOLs, and Refractive Lens Exchange, also referred to as Clear Lens Extraction.
What are the extreme risks?
In addition to the risks mentioned above, you should be wary of both undercorrections and overcorrections, according to the Mayo Clinic. Undercorrections occur when “the laser removes too little tissue from your eye.” This then results in your post-op vision not being as clear as you might have been aiming for, though this is a more prevalent issue with nearsighted patients. If this occurs, you could need one of those enhancement surgeries previously noted, to get the rest of the necessary tissue. As with many things though, “Less is,” as the old adage says, “More.” In this sense, it’s much less of a hassle to be saddled with undercorrections than overcorrections—“a complication of refractive surgery where the achieved amount of correction is more than desired,” as defined by the FDA. As the Mayo Clinic says, this “may be more difficult to fix than undercorrections,” as it means too much tissue was removed.
You also run the risk of eventually regressing back to your “pre-surgery vision,” which, according to the Mayo Clinic, could occur because of “abnormal wound healing, hormonal imbalances or pregnancy.”
Oh, and remember when we told you LASIK can sometimes help your Astigmatism? Well, it can also cause it, if there’s “uneven tissue removal. It may require additional surgery, glasses or contact lenses.” That sort of defeats the purpose, doesn’t it?
You might also recall us mentioning that people with severe dry
eye probably shouldn’t get the procedure. Well, the Mayo Clinic says that, “LASIK causes a temporary decrease in tear production.” If this is the case, you’re able to get an additional “procedure to get special plugs to put in your tear ducts to prevent your tears from draining away from the surface of your eyes.”
Remember, these aren’t the only risks, you can check out this link for more information.
What should you ask your doctor?
As is emphasized throughout this piece, there are certain things you and your doctor really need to go over before you decide to get LASIK. You should, as a precaution, ask these regardless of which refractive surgery piques your interest. Here are some of the things you should be asking, based on points made above.
Ask about the range in which your refractive error falls, and if it’s “within the approved range,” as “LASIK is approved by the FDA to treat certain degrees of nearsightedness, farsightedness and certain types and degrees of astigmatism, alone or in combination with near- or farsightedness.” As AAO says, if your refractive error is severe, it “reduces the chance of success and increases the chance that pretreatment may be needed.”
Ask if your current age and “life-stage” are ideal for you to undergo the procedure. Ask if, over the past 12 months or so, your eyes have constituted as “relatively stable,” which can be proven by your glasses and contact prescription. Inquire if and how LASIK will fit into your lifestyle. You should ask your doctor what retreatment could consist of, should you get it. Make sure you ask how other health conditions—be they related to your eyes or not—could affect your eligibility for LASIK, and whether they need to be taken care of prior to the procedure. Some of these could be diabetes, glaucoma, and autoimmune diseases.
Don’t forget to ask about the cost of the surgery and anything related to it, like subsequent treatments—should you need any of that.
Of course, these questions aren’t the only ones you should be asking, but they are a good place to start.