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8 Snow Day Activities That Are Perfect For Stir-Crazy Kiddos

“School is closed today due to inclement weather.” It’s the call kids across the country hold out hope for in the winter—engaging in superstitious rituals from flushing ice cubes down the toilet to sleeping with their pajamas inside out in an effort to bring on a snow day.
Snow days are the stuff of childhood dreams. They’re also almost certain to drive parents slightly batty. The longer it snows, the more likely kids are to start bouncing off the walls. And the more they bounce off the walls, the more our heads start to pound.
When you’re feeling like you just can’t play one more board game or read one more picture book, here’s how to push through the stir crazy to the other side with your kids. From inside activities that will get their sillies out to outside fun that will make them forget they’re cold, help is on the way!

1. Dance it out.

Whether it’s snowing so hard you can’t see more than an inch or two in front of your face or the sun has set and your kids are still raring to go, cranking up the tunes is an easy way to focus all of that energy.
Throw your own Dancing With the Stars–style competition in the middle of your living room or grab a hairbrush and recreate the sing-along from Stepmom.

2. Bring on the obstacles.

You’re going to have to shovel, so why not make the most of your back-breaking duties? Turn the backyard into an obstacle course with mounds of the white stuff piled beneath the swing set for jumping, paths for jogging, and more surprises to keep them moving.
Really need a break from the constant “Mooooooooooooom” whining? Add on the extra challenge of a scavenger hunt to keep them busy longer. Can they spot a backyard blue jay or some pawprints left behind by a neighborhood cat?

3. Blow bubbles.

If you’ve got some bubble solution (or just water and dish detergent) left over from the summer, have some fun with science. Fill a shallow bowl with solution, take it outside, and let the kids blow air into the liquid with a straw. Voilà: frozen bubbles!
You can also grab a bubble wand and let them send their bubbles flying the old fashioned way. If it’s cold enough, they’ll freeze mid-air and shatter on the ground.

4. Fill the tub.

With snow that is! Playing with snow inside is a fun treat, but it can get messy fast. Filling the tub with the white stuff means all that water has a place to go when it melts. You can let the kids climb in and stamp around (and then dry their cold tootsies off quickly), set up toys so they can build indoor snow villages, or just let them dig in and feel the sensations with their fingers.

5. Make ice cream.

There is one night a year when it’s mandatory that children have ice cream for dinner: the night you make snow ice cream.
Don’t worry; you don’t need an ice cream maker or any fancy ingredients for this. All you need is some sugar, milk, salt, vanilla, (clean) snow, and some seriously excited kids. Oh, right, and a recipe from Gimme Some Oven for the one dessert your kids are never going to forget. They may even take a break from hitting each other with the couch cushions long enough to hug you for this one.

6. Bring the snowmen inside.

Looking for something a little less sugary? Bring on the snowmen!
String cheese, tomatoes, and a little fresh basil make for tasty caprese snowman snacks with jaunty scarves (that can be picked off and handed to mom) in this super simple recipe from Arts & Crackers. Or you can pop some popcorn and draw snowman faces on plastic cups to create friendly snacks for a movie marathon.

7. Tape it up.

If you have a roll of painter’s or masking tape, you’ve got the makings of a game that can occupy the kids for hours (okay, at least 30 to 45 minutes). Rip off strips of tape and create shapes on the floor to serve as “bases” during a game of Simon Says.
The kids will wear themselves out crab walking from the diamond shape to the triangle and moonwalking from one square to another.

8. Bowl them over.

Snowball fights are cold and can send the whole family to the ER. Who needs snowballs when you’ve got balled-up socks? And who needs to throw them at each other when you can do a little snowball bowling?
Make a plastic cup tower and let the kids “bowl” with their soft, dry snowballs. The first one to knock down all the cups gets the first bowl of snow ice cream!
The best part of helping your kids fight their way through the “I’m bored”s on a snow day? A little extra snuggle time after they tire out!

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Buckle Up Baby: A Mom’s Guide To Car Seat Safety

My daughter was just a few months old when the technician climbed in the back seat of my car and said, “The way you’ve installed it, your car seat is a baby death trap.”
Okay, maybe she didn’t say baby death trap. But as a new mom who wanted nothing more than to protect my newborn baby, hearing that the one thing designed to keep my little girl safe in the car hadn’t been installed correctly was akin to being told I was a horrible mom.
I wasn’t. Nor was I particularly unique. Studies have shown some 95 percent of parents make at least one major mistake when we install our kids’ car seats. That’s almost every parent!
We all mean well, but every car and car seat is different, creating a whole lot of room for error.
So how do you wade through it all to make sure your baby is safe and secure?

Do you have the right car seat?

The world of car seats can be confusing for the uninitiated. What’s a booster? A forward facer? The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration breaks down the types of safety devices on the market into three basic groups:

Rear-Facing Car Seats

Just as the name implies, these types of car seats are installed facing the back of the car. That’s the suggested mode of getting around for baby’s first two years, so these types of seats are a must in the early days of life. Rear-facing seats are designed to cradle your child’s head, neck, and spine in case of a crash.

Forward-Facing Car Seats

Yup, you guessed it—these seats are made for the day when you can turn your toddler around to see the world through the front window of the car. These seats come with both a harness to keep baby inside in case of a crash and a tether to keep the seat itself hooked in place in the car. Some seats can actually transition from rear-facing to forward-facing safety devices, which can save you money.

Booster Seats

Designed for older kids (ages will vary based on manufacturer suggestions and your child’s height and weight), booster seats boost a child’s body up so that the car’s seatbelt sits safely across their body. The seats are usually the last step before your kiddo is ready to ride without a safety device, but they can end up sitting in them for several years before that happens.

Manuals Matter

If you’ve installed one seat, you can install them all, right? Not so fast.
Parents tend to get more lax regarding car seat safety as kids get older (almost a quarter admit to letting their kids out of a booster seat because they “felt like it,” rather than checking the rules), but no matter how good you think you are at installation, it’s always worth giving the manual a read.
The car seat manual will include guidelines that relate to your child’s height and weight, and the manual might suggest setting up the seat in one particular spot in the car (such as the middle of the back seat).
The proper way to install one brand’s car seat, or one type of safety seat, may be vastly different from another. In fact, sometimes the safest way to install a particular seat will differ depending on the type of car you have, so be sure to consult the manual before taking baby for a ride.

Follow the rules, not just the laws.

Car seat safety laws vary wildly from state to state in America, which can make finding the safest seat confusing for parents. The laws should always be followed, but it’s not just okay to be more cautious than whatever’s on the books in your state—it’s recommended by experts.
In states like Florida and Arkansas, for example, the law requires child restraints for kids 6 and younger. But the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends kids remain in a car seat until they’ve reached 4 feet 9 inches tall and are between 8 and 12 years of age. The AAP also recommends kids remain rear-facing until age 2, a guideline that’s stricter than many state laws, and studies back up the pediatricians. Kids are safer watching the world go by out the back window until they’re over 24 months old.

It doesn’t add up.

You’ve seen the fun toys, the pretty blankets, and those cozy-looking strap covers. The market is chock full of aftermarket products aimed at making car seats more comfortable for kids.
Just one problem: Most aftermarket products come with a loud warning from car seat experts, who advise against any add-ons, lest they become an issue in a crash.
Adding anything to the straps (or even dressing kids in puffy winter wear), for example, can alter the fit of the harness, which will affect how well the seat performs in an accident. The AAP warns that “if you can pinch the straps of the car seat harness, then it needs to be tightened to fit snugly against your child’s chest.” The group advises against coats or other items that will stand in the way of that perfect fit.
When in doubt? Go back to the manual. Car seat manufacturers include information about what can and can’t be used with a seat.

Dial a tech.

Feeling overwhelmed? Don’t panic!
You don’t have to beg your pediatrician to start making home visits to ensure a safe install. If you can’t figure out how to install your car seat (or just want someone to double check your work), the folks at Safe Kids Worldwide have got your back.
Just search their tool by state and city, and you can find a child safety seat technician who’s been certified to teach you the right way to install a seat.

Register your seat.

A car seat doesn’t require registration to work—it’s not like your computer software. But don’t throw that little registration card away! Use it! If a car seat manufacturer issues a recall for a seat—and these often pop up in the news—the info they receive when you register will enable the manufacturer to send you a personal note indicating whether you need to exchange your child’s seat or get it repaired.
Already have a seat that you forgot to register? You can register it on the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration’s website.

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Motherhood In Denmark: How The Danish Excel At Postpartum Care And Raise The Happiest Children In The World

Imagine giving birth to your new baby, knowing you’ll be getting your full salary for the next 14 weeks…while you’re on maternity leave. Even better? If you’ve got a partner, picture a year’s worth of paid parental leave between you—all protected by the law.
Welcome to Denmark, the country that often tops lists of the world’s happiest people. It’s the country that gave us the concept of hygge, the cozy notion that took over the internet in 2016, encouraging us all to throw off our cares and get under a knit blanket with some comfy slippers. It’s also home to babies with some of the lowest rates of colic in the world and a place where all kids are guaranteed a spot in public daycare…with the government footing a chunk of the bill.
It may sound like a dream, but the Danish system is helping raise some of the happiest kids in the world. So what can we learn from them?

Postpartum care matters.

You don’t have to be a parent to know that paid parental leave is hard to come by in the U.S. The country’s Family & Medical Leave Act guarantees new moms just 12 weeks of time off from their jobs—unpaid—and even that has exceptions, with many small employers exempt from giving new mothers time away from the office.
How much time, if any, a mom (and/or dad) takes is dependent on their own situations, but American moms who are feeling guilty about taking time off from the job can look to the Danes for a little reassurance that it’s okay to take as much time as they need.
Denmark guarantees moms and dads time—with pay—to get to know their new babies and get into the swing of parenting. Moms get four weeks of paid time off during their pregnancy to prepare for birth plus another 14 weeks after the birth. Dads get two full weeks of paternity leave. On top of that, parents are guaranteed another 32 weeks (yes, with pay) to share between them. Parents can be out at the same time or trade off.

It’s okay to send kids to daycare.

Guilt about working motherhood runs high here in the States, where parents are often at odds over work–life balance. But the stay-at-home/work-outside-the-home debate is much quieter in Denmark.
The country boasts the second highest rate of employed moms in the world, with 78 percent of moms working once their kids are in school.
The choice over whether to work or stay home is a personal one, but if Danish moms teach us anything, it’s that there’s no reason to worry if you’re one of those out-of-the-home moms. Not only do they embrace their love of their jobs, but their kids grow up to be happy and healthy!

Let them be little.

It’s no surprise that the country that gave us LEGO is also a place where kids have a whole lot of fun.
Danish moms and dads have an advantage: Their country has recently been ranked one of the safest in the world. And they take full advantage of this fact. Kids in Denmark are given a lot of leeway to play on their own and foster independence.
Iben Sandahl and Jessica Alexander, authors of The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids, posit that free play is what helps Danish kids not only develop self-control but also to be more resilient and bounce back from adversity. It follows that kids who learn to handle adversity without being bogged down in it would become happier, more well-adjusted adults.
But it isn’t just independence that matters. Danish kids tend to be fully immersed in what it means to be a kid. Two-thirds of them play sports and get a whole of what’s known as “frisk luft,” aka fresh air.

(Let them) get smart.

Education is important, and the Danes have built a system that helps kids prepare for the future with the support of the whole country behind them.
University is free for students in the Scandinavian country, paid for by their parents’ (and everyone else’s) taxes. But the Danes don’t just push kids into college. Vocational training is also a major component of the education system, where kids are given the chance to explore their own path.
Not surprisingly, the independent streak forged at home during playtime is fostered here too, with an emphasis on self-guided, hands-on education.
The takeaway for American parents? Letting kids take the reins in education may have its advantages. Sure, you’re still responsible for making sure they get their homework done, but you don’t have to stand over their shoulders and correct all of their grammar while they do it.

Go easy on yourself.

With all the good news coming out of Denmark, you might be thinking it’s time to make a move. But it bears noting that for all the happiness and freedom, nobody’s perfect…not even Danish moms.
When researchers looked at parental happiness in countries around the world, the U.S. had one of the largest “happiness gaps” out there, but the researchers noted it was tied to social support systems. Denmark’s postpartum care, free education, and subsidized daycare all take a giant load off moms’ shoulders. If you don’t have that kind of support, you deserve all the more credit for being an all-star mom.
And while Danish adults tend to be some of the happiest out there, it isn’t all roses and clover for the Danish moms. In one study of how having kids affects parents, Danish parents showed an increase in happiness after child number one, but if they went on to have more kids, that number dropped off. Even Danish moms get the blues!
At the end of the day, no matter where you live, the choices you make for you and your family are most likely to be the right ones. After all, you’re the mom. And mom knows best.

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Understanding Body Image And Learning To Love Your Body (Just The Way It Is)

I’m not sure when it hit me that I cover my mid-section when I’m alone. In the car, fully clothed, I still grab for a sweatshirt from the back seat and drape it across my lap. I sit in the living room with a pillow against my stomach.
I’m 35 years old, and I’m as uncomfortable in my own skin as I was as a 12-year-old still learning to make sense of hips and breasts and stretch marks. I want to love my body.
I want to.
But the words “positive body image” leave me gasping for breath.
The first time I made myself throw up, I was 14. That was more than two decades ago, and yet I carry bulimia around with me every day, a devil perched on my shoulder urging me toward the toilet. I am healing, but I don’t know that I will ever be healed.
And I know I’m not alone.
In a 2009 University of Central Florida study of girls just 3 to 6 years old, half already worried about being “fat.” A third said that if they could, they’d change at least one physical attribute. The numbers hardly improve from there.
In a Dove-sponsored survey conducted in 2016, 85 percent of women and 79 percent of girls said they opt out of day-to-day activities (from sports to spending time with family) when they don’t feel good about the way they look. Nine in 10 women said they’d keep themselves from eating if they weren’t feeling good about their looks.
For some, it stops there. For many, struggles with body image take them into dangerous territory. The National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders (ANAD) estimates that at least 30 million people suffer from an eating disorder in the U.S. That’s people of all ages and genders.
ANAD’s statistics show that eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness.
So how do we combat that? How do we face a society rife with photoshopped models and fat-shaming tabloids only to come out on the other side with a happy, healthy mind and positive body image?
Can you be that mom on the beach rocking a bikini with her tiger stripes out there for all the world to see—or the woman in the mall wearing a tank top, her upper arms bare and tanned?
I’d like to be her one day. But learning to love my body just the way it is has made me face one salient fact: I need to understand body image before I can form one that’s positive.

What is body image?

It seems self-explanatory, right? Body image is the image you have of your body. But according to Lauren Smolar, program director at the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), the concept is much more nuanced than that.
“Body image is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or when you picture yourself in your mind,” Smolar tells HealthyWay. “It encompasses what you believe about your own appearance, how you feel about your body, how you sense and control your body as you move, and how you feel in your body; [it’s] not just about your body.”
In other words, our body image isn’t just visual. It’s mental. It’s emotional. It’s physical. And it’s ever changing.
“We hear the idea of ‘good’ or ‘bad’ body image quite often, but in fact, body image isn’t that simple,” says Ashley Solomon, psychologist and executive clinical director of Eating Recovery Center. “It’s never all good or all bad, and it’s not static. It’s constantly evolving, even as we move throughout our day.”
Studies have found that the way we look at and feel about our bodies can be complicated by everything from the way different manufacturers cut clothes to the images in the media. And it’s not simply what we see in media but how the world around us responds to that media.
In one study performed in Nicaragua, for example, a group of 80 men and women who lived in a small town that had little exposure to Western media were shown images of thin and “plus sized” (the term used by the researchers) models. The study determined that exposure to the images shifted the participants’ perception of ideal female body size. The women internalized it, but the men also had their views skewed by the imagery. Feeling judged based on impossible standards only exacerbates the problem.
Writer Roxane Gay has long been a vocal opponent of fat shaming, all while sharing her own body image struggles with the world in frank and poignant essays. In her recent New York Times best seller, Hunger, Gay wrote, “This is what most girls are taught—that we should be slender and small. We should not take up space. We should be seen and not heard, and if we are seen, we should be pleasing to men, acceptable to society. And most women know this, that we are supposed to disappear, but it’s something that needs to be said, loudly, over and over again, so that we can resist surrendering to what is expected of us.”
Bucking those expectations is not easy. And yet, for all the bad news, for all the statistics, there are the success stories. There are the people who love their bodies or at least accept them. There are the people who have struggled and have come out on the other side. So what’s the difference between them and people who tear themselves down?
It may come down to how our brains work, says Kimberly J. Ujcich Ward, PhD, a professor in the department of psychology at Middle Tennessee State University who specializes in body image and children.
“Research with individuals with anorexia and bulimia suggests that certain brain areas seem to be negatively impacted in those who inaccurately perceive their bodies and/or are dissatisfied, especially the parietal lobe (somatosensory cortex),” Ward explains. “Recent research across medicine and psychology (especially neuropsychology) [has] been working to try to more clearly define the brain–behavior relations and to evaluate the neuropsychological and body image connections over time.”
Other risk factors for body image concerns include biological ties to someone who has struggled with mental illness, especially an eating disorder, and living with conditions that are diet controlled, such as diabetes. A parent’s difficult relationship with their own body image—particularly a mother’s—can also heighten your risk, especially if they are vocal about it in your presence.
Your risk of developing an eating disorder also jumps if you identify as LGBTQ, have a history of dieting, have suffered from weight-related teasing or bullying, or struggle with an anxiety disorder.

Positive or Negative?

The facts and figures sound daunting, but body image can and does go either way. There are hundreds of thousands of women (and men) out there who love their bodies.
Nor is every single bad thought about yourself proof that you’re doomed. Simply feeling like you don’t look good in a v-neck shirt at the mall is not a sign you’re going to have an eating disorder. Nor is it symbolic of “negative body image.”
“Negative body image is a distorted perception of your shape—you perceive parts of your body unlike they really are,” NEDA’s Smolar explains. “This can mean you are convinced that only other people are attractive and that your body size or shape is a sign of personal failure, you may feel ashamed, self-conscious, or anxious about your body, and you feel uncomfortable and awkward in your body.”
Positive body image, on the other hand, is what Smolar calls a “clear, true perception” of your shape.
“You see the various parts of your body as they really are,” she notes. “In addition, you celebrate and appreciate your natural body shape and you understand that a person’s physical appearance says very little about their character and value as a person.
“You feel proud and accepting of your unique body and do not spend large amounts of time worrying about food, weight, and calories and you feel comfortable and confident in your body.”
Clinicians tend to speak of the two sides of the coin in terms of satisfaction. There’s body satisfaction and there’s body dissatisfaction. Treating the latter means helping someone find their way toward the former. But as with anything else, there are degrees.
“It’s really important to note that even people with an overall positive body image can have plenty of critical thoughts or negative feelings about their bodies,” Solomon points out. “What’s more important is how much those thoughts and feelings take a front seat.”

Is there a better way for us?

It’s the push for overall positive body image that’s led to the body positivity movement, a grassroots effort that’s been gaining steam on the internet in recent years.
Linked to the fat acceptance movement, the trend dates back to the 1990s, but it’s social media that’s amplified voices from people who were long ignored by traditional media, people who don’t fit into the ideals once favored by mainstream magazines.
Instagram is now home to hashtags such as #LoveYourBody and #EffYourBeautyStandards. Bring them up on your phone, and you’ll find not dozens or even thousands but millions of images from people working out, showing off bodies in a variety of sizes and colors, and proudly proclaiming their confidence. Alongside them are photo sites like the 4th Trimester Bodies Project that allow women to celebrate their changing bodies in the wake of pregnancy.
Simply looking to them may be a way to find our own sense of peace with our bodies, Solomon says.
“We can learn some wonderful things from people who have a good relationship with their bodies,” she explains. “Our research has started to pay more attention to these people in recent years to determine just what we can learn. People that have a positive body image tend to see their bodies as functional—they help serve a purpose and a greater good. They tend to treat their bodies well by fueling them with regular meals and water, getting enough sleep, and moving regularly. They are grateful for the gifts that their bodies give them, like carrying a child or running a race.”
Another key facet of body positivity comes in embracing change. People who have high rates of body satisfaction tend to recognize that their bodies will change, be it over time or through different experiences. They accept it and often embrace it.
That is important, Solomon says.
“Body acceptance doesn’t mean loving every nook and cranny of our bodies or always feeling happy with the way that we look,” she points out. “It means deciding that you will stop fighting against yourself and actively commit to treating your body well.”
Solomon calls it body peace—making a truce with your own body and accepting the status quo.
“We don’t have to like each other, but we have to co-exist and show respect!” she says. “Body peace starts with some important basics—dropping the punishment and nourishing your body well. For me, just getting enough rest is an important way that I cultivate body peace. Practicing gratitude can also be an opportunity to build a stronger awareness of all that your body allows you to do.”
Author Lindy West is known for fighting the internet’s body shaming and calling out the concept of the perfect body as a lie. Coming to love her body, however, is not a perfect process either.
As she put it in her memoir, Shrill, “I hate being fat. I hate the way people look at me, or don’t. I hate being a joke; I hate the disorienting limbo between too visible and invisible; I hate the way that complete strangers waste my life out of supposed concern for my death. I hate knowing that if I did die of a condition that correlates with weight, a certain subset of people would feel their prejudices validated, and some would outright celebrate. I also love being fat. The breadth of my shoulders makes me feel safe. I am unassailable. I intimidate. I am a polar icebreaker. I walk and climb and lift things, I can open your jar, I can absorb blows—literal and metaphorical—meant for other women, smaller women, breakable women, women who need me. My bones feel like iron—heavy, but strong.”
There’s no magic pill to get us to that point. But Solomon likes to say that our bodies are vehicles for our values.
“How can we show kindness to them so that we can do the things we love and be the people we want to be?” she asks. “It can be easy to fall into the trap of believing that we’ll love and appreciate our bodies a few less pounds from now, or if we were a few inches taller, or if that skin cream works a little harder. I see my patients fall prey to a lot of the industries that profit off of all us hating our bodies and selves. It’s hard not to, especially when they invest billions in convincing us that we are not quite good enough. But we are good enough, even without any special creams or diet foods.”

What if I don’t love my body?

Okay. So loving your body is good, even when you can’t do it all the time. But if you’re not there yet, that doesn’t mean you need to feel left out in the cold.
“Being an advocate of positive body image doesn’t always mean loving your body 100 percent of the time,” Solomon says.
Instead, it means creating an environment in which all body types are embraced and valued. To that end, she advises people to:

  • Stay away from discussions that talk about food or weight in a negative light, such as avoiding discussions of food as “bad” or “good”
  • Refrain from talking about calories
  • Not comment on weight loss or gain for yourself or others
  • Engage in “media literacy,” thinking critically about the appearance-related media messages you see, hear, and read

Finally, don’t buy into the hype that a “perfect” body type will solve your problems.
“Everyone is different, and genetics can influence one’s body shape, weight, and size,” Solomon says. “One’s ideal body weight is the weight that allows you to feel strong and energetic rather than the size the media thinks is acceptable. If someone is struggling with their body image in a society that promotes an unattainable ideal, we encourage them to celebrate all the good things their body allows them to do and recognize that their self-esteem and identity comes from within.”
If you or someone you know is struggling with body image or an eating disorder, there is help available. Please call the National Eating Disorders Association’s toll-free hotline: 1-800-931-2237. 

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Tips For A Holiday Season That’s Simple And Sustainable

Excess. It’s a word we hear a lot around the holidays. Excessive eating. Excessive spending. Excessive baking.
Excessive waste.
By some estimates, Americans throw out 25 percent more trash in the stretch between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day than we do during any other time of the year.
Excess makes the holiday season fun, but it can also cause holiday stress … not to mention leave a heavy dent in the environment. If you’re already cringing over the post-holiday trash piles to come, it may be time to cut back just a wee bit.
But can you really stop the holiday train after it’s left the North Pole station? Oh, just wait…

The Gifts

If you’ve been scratching your head, wondering what to buy for people on your list, now is the time to give yourself a break. Guessing at gifts is a recipe for loading up the landfill, as yet another well-meant candle or body lotion is quietly dropped in the wastebasket by its recipient.
If you want to cut both your stress level and the growing mound of trash, consider asking your family to throw everyone’s name in a hat this year. Each member can pick just one other person to buy for, reducing the number of “maybe they’ll like it, maybe not” gifts you have to find.
Not a fan of picking recipients out of a hat? Suggest that everyone put together wish lists on Amazon. They may not get everything they want this year, but the chances that they’ll receive something they actually need will skyrocket, and you won’t have to worry about the item you order landing in the wastebasket.
Or you can opt out of “things” entirely! Take a page out of a study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology and give your friends and family “experiences” in place of physical gifts this year. The study’s researchers found that people are actually happier receiving “experiential” gifts, and they think they’re a better use of money, too.

The Shopping

If you’re headed to the mall this year, grab your reusable bags, then pick up that phone and dial a friend before you head out. Carpooling has long been touted as an earth-friendly way to get around, and the science backs up the theory. Even better, when you shop with a friend, you’re turning one of the holiday season’s biggest stressors into an opportunity for healthy socializing and self care.
Shopping online will cut your drive out of the equation, but you’ll need to factor in the delivery truck’s gas and emissions. That said, if you’re given the option to have packages shipped to you as they’re ready or all at once, choose option number two. Mother Nature will appreciate it!

The Wrapping

Gift wrap tends to pile up around the tree on Christmas morning, only to be shoved in a trash bag and taken out to the curb since the dye, lamination, and thinness renders much of it unfit for recycling. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Old newspapers—especially the comics—make for fun, retro wrapping that can be recycled after every package has been ripped open. Add some pretty ribbon (also reusable!) or bakery string to tie the look together.
Oddly-shaped presents that don’t lend themselves to paper wrapping can be placed in reusable bags for the gift recipient to use again and and again. Or you can try your hand at Japanese Furoshiki fabric wrapping this year to really wow your friends (and recycle that old fabric you have lying around).

The Cards

Emails, social media, and even texting can be an easy way to make contact with friends and family this time of year, and it can take a load off your shoulder while saving a few trees.
Sure, you have friends and family who expect that photo card every year, and you can still send those. Even cutting your list in half by taking advantage of digital means of connecting does its part for the environment. Just make sure the cards you do buy are printed on recycled paper.
As for the cards you receive, don’t trash them at the end of the season! The fronts of traditional cards can be reused by crafters, so ask your local senior center or art and pre-school teachers if they could use a pile. Take any photo cards and stash them in an album—they’ll be fun to look back at in years to come.

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Beyond The Morning Routine: 5 Rituals That Can Change You And Your Family (For The Better)

Remember the rituals you loved most as a kid? Did you listen to the same holiday radio station at exactly 7 p.m. every day in December? Or spend Friday evenings sitting around the dining room table reciting the kiddush? You might even be carrying around some of those rituals with you now, repeating them daily, weekly, or just once a year.
We tend to get caught up in routines when the kids arrive: bedtime routines, morning routines, teeth-brushing routines. They’re steps we take every day that help us keep all the plates we’re juggling way up in the air, but they don’t tend to take a lot of thought. We do them. We move on.
Rituals, on the other hand, stick with us. They take thought to do and put us in another frame of mind entirely. And the rituals you start now will likely stick with your kids for the rest of their lives.
Even better? There’s solid science out there that shows these rituals help us through tough times and ward off “negative emotions” such as stress and anxiety.
In a stressful world, who couldn’t use an extra ounce of armor against negative emotions? We certainly can, and our kids could too.
But getting stressed out about how to pick a ritual to develop with the kids would defeat the purpose of all that stress relief, right? Don’t worry, we’ve got your back. Try some of these options on for size to find one that works for your family.

Remember it.

Rituals don’t have to be long, drawn-out affairs. They just have to be repeated actions that are done with mindfulness. One easy but effective ritual? Go around the dinner table each night and ask each member of the family to talk about one good thing that happened during their day. Repeating the practice will help make it stick, but the practice itself can help re-focus everyone in the family on the positives in life.
Don’t always get to eat dinner together? That’s life! But similar practices can be done any time of the day. Try asking everyone in the family for one thing they’re excited about at breakfast time!

Try it.

We all depend on our routines, but if you’re caught in a rut, a ritual might pull you out.
Think about it: When’s the last time you tried to make something different for dinner? Tried to shop at a new grocery store? Did anything…new?
Spice up your family’s life and create a ritual with a “try it” day. Pick one day of the week when you and the kids try something new, whether it’s an activity or a food. Not only will you create a practice that the kids can take with them into adulthood, you’ll teach your kids not to get complacent.

Walk it.

We all mean to fit exercise into our lives, but somehow that 5 a.m. yoga class doesn’t sound quite as attractive when you were up until 2 a.m. sewing a costume for “dress like an old person day” at your kid’s school.
Make movement a ritual with a daily (if possible) or weekly walk with the family. Just 15 or 20 minutes of walking and talking is all it takes.  

Book it.

Reading with our kids is often part of the bedtime routine, and it can be a bit mindless when you’ve just read If You Give a Moose a Muffin for the thousandth time. But choosing a book that’s got special meaning and reading it just once a year can become a ritual that your family repeats again and again.
Whether it’s picking a chapter book that you read over the course of a month, every single year, or reading a special holiday-themed favorite every December, the mix of repetition and reading is both ritual and a chance to push the love of reading. Win–win!

Theme it.

Take a page out of the PTA fundraiser book and make theme nights your ritualistic friend. Pick a country once a year that your kids will learn about via books, plan a dinner around the country’s cuisine, and watch a movie set there. Or throw out the educational element (yes, it’s okay to just have fun) and make one night a month all about a favorite film, with eats centered on the movie and the whole family indulging in a quotefest.
 

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Have Questions About Varicose Veins? We’ve Done The Legwork To Get You The Answers

Somehow, it always seems to happen when you’re planning to wear an outfit that shows a little leg. You look down, and then you spot it. It’s blue. It’s bulging. Is that a varicose vein in your leg?
How the heck did that happen?
Varicose veins (not to be confused with spider veins) are one of the most common vein-related conditions in the United States. An estimated 23 percent of the population is walking around with at least one of these protruding veins. More common in women than men, they’re also an issue that’s largely kept under wraps, with thousands of embarrassed women throwing on capris, jeans, or a long skirt to cover up the bulges in their gams.
All the hush hush over varicosities can send you into a panic when you find one. But do you really need to freak out? Should you call the doctor? We’ve done the legwork so you can feel confident about what to do if a varicose vein pops out.

What is a varicose vein, anyway?

First up, a little flashback to seventh grade science class. Veins are part of the body’s circulatory system. These little vessels are tubes that pump blood throughout the body.
As Jonathan Weiswasser, MD, a double board certified vascular surgeon at the Plastic Surgery Center in New Jersey tells HealthyWay, “Veins are designed to bring blood in an upward direction, from the feet to the trunk, through an elaborate mechanism.”
Varicose veins are trying to do the work of pushing that blood upward, but they’re what Weiswasser calls “abnormal veins” caused by changes in the circulation in your legs.
“Often, the mechanism [that sends blood upward] can be disrupted, so that blood goes in the opposite direction when a person stands (called venous reflux),” Weiswasser explains. “The blood has nowhere to go but down and out, and it travels through little branches that are connected to the vein with reflux to these little veins underneath the skin that aren’t accustomed to dealing with that kind of congestion and pressure.”
Because they’re not prepared for the influx of fluid volume, the veins dilate, stretching and engorging. They go from invisible little rivers under the skin to highly visible (and often painful) varicose veins that bulge out from the skin.

Deep Vein Walking

It’s estimated that varicose veins affect 22 million women and 11 million men between the ages of 40 to 80, although they can crop up when you’re younger (or older). With numbers like that, it can seem inevitable that you’ll one day have varicosities to handle.
But who will actually face them is often determined by genetics, says Kurtis Kim, MD, a vascular surgeon at the Vascular Center at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, Maryland. If one of your grandparents or parents suffered from bulging veins in their legs, your own risk is heightened.
Another risk factor? Gender.
Women outnumber men by more than two to one when it comes to varicose vein diagnoses, whether it’s during pregnancy—when the sharp rise of estrogen and progesterone in our bodies can have an effect on our lower limbs—or later in life.
“Certain female hormones can cause laxity in the walls of blood vessels,” Weiswasser explains. This can be a good thing. It’s why women tend to have lower blood pressure than men.
“[But] in the setting of venous reflux, this can lead to a predisposition to the development of varicosities,” Weiswasser says.
So when varicose veins will arrive comes down to fate, but there are risk factors that can speed their debut along. Pregnancy ups your chances of being diagnosed with varicose veins significantly, as the body’s blood volume expands and stretches our veins. The weight gained during pregnancy is concentrated in the belly and puts pressure on the pelvic veins as well, which Kim says creates limitations on the blood flow toward the heart and causes the leg swelling that’s common during pregnancy.
“These ineffective venous valves allow reverse flow in the vein, causing branch veins that surface to the skin,” Kim says. Those veins become engorged and enlarged, and presto, you have varicose veins in your legs (and very rarely, your abdomen).
Working certain jobs can also up your risk of waking up to a vein popping out of your leg one morning. Ironically, both sitting at a desk all day in an office or being on your feet all day as a nurse or factory floor worker can up your chances of getting varicose veins, Kim says. That’s because upright and sitting positions both put pressure on the venous flow, making it tougher for our leg veins to pump that blood upward to the heart.
The fact that varicose veins tend to crop up after age 40 also lends credence to the idea that plain old wear and tear on the body can cause them to show up.
“You can say that just as our gravity and weight of our body generate wear and tear to our joints that [carry] the weight, our veins [go] through degenerative changes (dilat[ing], thereby making the venous valves not effective) that create varicose and spider veins, swelling, throbbing, burning, numbness and tingling, restless leg, night cramps, and in severe cases skin changes in the ankle (stasis dermatitis), ulcers, and infections,” Kim says. “This ineffective venous valves allow reverse flow in the vein causing branch veins that surface to the skin which becomes engorged and enlarged … which we call varicose veins.”

What’s the doc to do?

No matter when they show up, spotting a bulging vein in your leg may send you running for the phone to call your doctor.
But do you really need to seek varicose vein treatment from a doctor? Or can you just walk around with them?
First, you need to consider whether the vein you’ve noticed is even a varicose vein. If you spot something blue running down your calf or thigh, you may actually be dealing with spider veins, a similar condition wherein blood vessels dilate close to the skin and become visible. They don’t tend to bulge out the way varicose veins do, and they’re largely a cosmetic issue according to Weiswasser. In the medical world, spider veins are considered an inconvenience rather than a serious health condition.
That said, most varicose veins garner the same reaction from the experts: They’re inconvenient, but they’re not a cause for immediate alarm.
“I always tell my patients that varicose veins are completely benign,” Weiswasser says. “They are not a sign of bad health, poor circulation (in the sense that we hear about everyday), or blood clots in the leg.”
He doesn’t recommend running to the doctor just because you spot something blue. But that doesn’t mean that varicose veins won’t cause pain or bother you, or that you should never go to the doctor for treatment.
It’s when veins start to affect your lifestyle that you should seek a vascular specialist’s care, says Scott Musicant, MD, a board certified vascular surgeon at Sharp Grossmont Hospital in San Diego, Califormia. Musicant also warns patients who spot discoloration or wounds on their legs or feet to seek medical care immediately, as that can be a sign of other vascular disease.
“Varicose veins can go on to clot, which can be painful and if associated with significant swelling may indicate involvement of the deeper veins which can be life threatening,” Musicant says, although he’s quick to note that this is not common.
“Occasionally veins that are immediately below the skin can open and bleed, which is initially startling,” he adds. “But if the leg is elevated and the vein compressed, this can usually be stopped relatively easily.”
Leg elevation is a treatment for varicose veins—or at least the pain they cause—in and of itself as it takes the pressure off the veins so the blood can flow unimpeded.
Another consideration when deciding if you need to call the doctor now is this: The longer you walk around with varicose veins, the more extensive the treatment may be since varicose veins can worsen over time.
When you show up at the doctor’s office, you can expect to undergo an ultrasound, as your doctor will need to investigate what is causing the varicosities.
“I look at veins that are associated commonly with the development of varicose veins and determine whether there is reflux,” Weiswasser explains. “I can also tell from this ultrasound whether someone who is concerned but doesn’t actually have varicose veins [is] at risk for developing them in the future.”
Next up? Treatment. Typical treatment for varicosities in the legs can be done in a doctor’s office under local anesthesia, allowing patients to return to work and other normal activities within a day.
Most treatments are performed in less than an hour, and unlike treatments of old, today’s methods of removing varicose veins require no incisions or stitches and leave behind no scars. Vascular specialists take advantage of lasers and radiofrequency to do much of the work without damaging the skin of the leg.
“The goal of treatment is to not only get rid of the varicose veins but to eliminate the reflux,” Weiswasser explains. “The treatment of reflux involves a technique called ablation, which is where we shut the refluxing vein down. When the vein is shut down, the reflux is eliminated and the congestion that is causing the development of the varicose veins goes away.”
Although it can sound alarming to hear that veins are being shut down, Weiswasser says the veins aren’t necessary. Your blood will still continue to flow through your body via other blood vessels.
The next step in the process involves making a series of small nicks in the skin, through which a vascular specialist will remove the varicosities.
“The number of these nicks in the skin varies depending on how extensive the varicosities are, but usually we make between five and 20 nicks depending,” Weiswasser says. “The nicks require no stitches and they do not scar.”
Aside from ablation, sclerotherapy is another popular treatment option used on both spider and varicose veins, says Thomas Terramani, MD, another vascular surgeon affiliated with Sharp Grossmont Hospital.
“The procedure uses a needle to inject a salt solution into the vein, causing it to shrink,” Terramani explains.
The procedure is simpler, but there is a drawback: It’s considered temporary because varicose veins are often a progressive condition that can develop in other veins as well.
In fact, both ablation and sclerotherapy treatments are just that—treatments rather than cures, warns Kim. “This is a process that undergoes degeneration (again, just like joints after putting pressure on them for [a] lifetime), and so recurrence at a different site after initial treatment is common.”
There is one piece of good news: Because varicose veins do cause pain, treatment is typically covered by most insurance plans.

An Ounce of Prevention

Although there are certain factors that increase your risk of developing varicose veins, genetic and hereditary factors make preventing them almost impossible.
“There are ways to decrease the speed of progression which we call conservative management,” Kim says. His suggestions include wearing compression stockings (at least 20 to 30 mmHg), leg elevation, and exercise—which causes muscles to contract, pushing venous blood up toward the heart.
Terramani suggests the following, especially if you know you’re at risk of developing varicose veins based on your family history and gender:

  • Stay active—Avoid sitting for long periods of time, whether at home or work. Taking a 20- to 30-minute walk each day can help your body maintain proper venous circulation.
  • Don’t smoke—Research indicates that varicose veins are more common in smokers because of the effect smoking has on regulating fibrin, a blood-clotting protein.
  • Lose weight—Weighing more than 20 pounds over your ideal weight puts more pressure on your vein system.
  • Put your feet up—Resting your legs on footstools when you sit or putting a pillow under your feet when you sleep are a couple of simple ways to keep your legs elevated and reduce venous pressure.
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Wisdom From Women: The Best Advice For Every Decade

Hitting the 30-year mark was surprisingly inauspicious for me. There was no lightning bolt from the sky that offered up all the wisdom that I’d been lacking in my 20s. There wasn’t even a discount at the grocery store checkout.
It’s only been as I’ve marched onward into the fourth decade (yes, do the math) of my life that I’ve started to gain any sense of what I should have done back when I was 20 or 21.
Wisdom takes time.
Fortunately for us, the world is full of people who’ve had more time than we have to figure life out.
When you hit adulthood, you quickly learn that age melts away. Friendships with women who are 10, 20, 30, or even 40 (plus) years older than you become as natural as it once was to wrinkle up your nose and declare, “Thirty? That’s so ooooooold.”
And with those friendships comes the ability to learn. To learn from mistakes. To learn from experiences.
With three and a half decades down and plenty of learning left to do, I turned to some wise women who have a few years on me and asked a simple question: What do you wish you’d known in your 20s and 30s that women like me can learn from?
Here what they shared.

Your Career

Struggling with work–life balance and thinking you need to throw in the towel? It’s okay. You can do this.
“I’m 53, and if I could have 10 seconds of hindsight things would/could have been so much different,” says Faith Metzinger. “Someone my age didn’t necessarily have the means to pursue a career that they may have wanted. I would tell my younger me that she should pursue those dreams. It is possible to be a great wife, mom, and have a profession or career you love.”
When you’re succeeding, don’t forget to celebrate, says 51-year-old Jill Robbins.
“There’s a difference between tooting your own horn and being an obnoxious a***ole bragger,” the Texas-based writer says. “It’s totally okay to be proud of your accomplishments and let others know you are proud of your accomplishments. Own your success and your happiness.”

Your Family

There’s an old quote from Leo Tolstoy that often gets pulled out by people struggling with family drama: “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
If you’re trying to make your unhappy family fit the happy family mold, Zippy Sandler’s advice? Stop.
“You can’t change someone else,” 63-year-old Sandler says, “not your significant other/your child/your family/your friends. You can only change yourself and your reactions to them.”
Got an email box that’s crowded with baby shower invites taunting you about your child-free state? Wondering if you need to dive in because, “hey, everyone else is having babies,” but you’re not really sure?
Potter and florist Jill Weiner, 56, is matter-of-fact: “Having children is not mandatory. Be who you are. Conformity is not an option!”
If you do decide to have kids, on the other hand, take a page out of Patti Roche’s book.
“Don’t compare yourself to others or your children with anyone else’s children,” the 52-year-old elementary school teacher and mom of two says. “This was the one thing that made my life stressful and wasn’t good for my kids. I let others make judgments about my kids (including teachers), and I listened to them. It caused my kids pain and unnecessary “diagnosing” from other people who didn’t know more than me.”

Your Body

There’s a strength that’s expected in society. We cannot be frail. We must be fierce. But sometimes we need to give ourselves a break, Roche says.
“Feel what you feel with no reservations,” she advises. “I didn’t realize how important it is to allow yourself to be emotional. My mom passed away last year and my dad is lamenting all the unspoken and mysterious ways my mom dealt with all the rough patches in her life. Allow people to see your feelings, but also be okay with whatever a situation makes you feel.”
Body image is nothing if not complicated for millions of people. If she had her 20s and 30s to do over again, Roche says she’d tell herself, “Don’t constantly judge your looks or how you handle life. No one has it all together, so relax. Have a piece of cake and enjoy. Stay healthy but not with sacrifices that make you cranky!”
Weiner’s advice? “One piece of cheesecake will do—no need to eat the entire cake!”

Your Voice

There’s one word Robbins wishes she’d said more in her 20s and 30s.
“It’s okay to say ‘no,’” the Texas writer says. “It sounds like such basic advice (and it is) but I found ‘no’ harder to say when I was a younger woman. Whether that’s ‘no’ because someone is touching you, asking you out for coffee, asking you to put more things on your plate, to do more, connect them to someone, whatever it may be. It’s okay to say ‘no’ and not be a b***h about it or feel compelled to give an explanation as to why. Just ‘no.’ Learning to say ‘no’ is freeing and it’s something I don’t think I mastered until I was in my late 40s.”
And while you’re at it, participate, Weiner says.
“Roll up your sleeves and volunteer. Make a damn difference. There are wrongs that need righting all around us all the time, and we have a responsibility to act up for the best interest of our neighbors—be they next door or halfway around the planet.”
A final piece of advice from Sandler? Don’t forget to enjoy the ride.
“There is no happy ending, and thinking that all of the rewards come at the end means that you’ll miss the BEST part of life…the journey.”

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It Turns Out That Doing Good For Others Also Does Good Things For Your Mental Health

So, the holidays are driving at us with the speed of the Polar Express, and suddenly you feel like you should be doing a little volunteer work. There are toy drives to be run and carrots to be peeled at the community center Thanksgiving dinner, and it’s all for a good cause, so you had better be out there helping, right?
Of course, when we show up at any volunteer event to lend a hand, we have the best intentions in mind: helping others. But if you’re feeling the urge to give back this season, it’s okay to admit to yourself that you might also be looking for a little pick-me-up.
It turns out volunteering doesn’t just help others. It can boost our own mental health in countless ways. And that’s a good thing!

Dumping Depression

Rates of depression tend to skyrocket around the holidays, with a chunk of the country facing less sunlight (and an increased risk of seasonal affective disorder) and the stress that comes with finances, family, and all that cooking.
If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed, it might be worth swinging a hammer for Habitat for Humanity or lending a hand at your local food bank. Studies have shown that charitable efforts give us purpose when we’re feeling lost, and that can actually help us in a battle against depression. Helping others feel better literally makes us feel better!

Major Mood Boost

You don’t have to be facing full-blown depression to need a little good juju in your life. Sometimes the benefits of lending a hand come in the form of a simple mood boost.
In one study, more than three-quarters of respondents said that volunteering made them feel better and even reported it helped reduce their stress levels. There’s no shame in taking a little satisfaction in knowing you’ve done something kind for someone else.

Loneliness? Ain’t nobody got time for that.

Feeling isolated? When you’re trying to keep up with work and home, friends can (and too often do) fall by the wayside. A quick chat in a Facebook thread is great, but it doesn’t quite make up for those in-person gossip sessions with a girlfriend.
That’s where a trip to the library to shelve books or an afternoon at the animal shelter walking the dogs could help fight your lonely feelings. Volunteering has long been shown to help people combat their isolation—at least when you pursue charitable acts that involve other people. It tends to put us in contact with new faces, and the grassroots needs of non-profits make working together a must.
You can get the best of both worlds by inviting your BFF to volunteer with you—time to give back and time to gab!

Go where you’re needed.

There are dozens of charities that could always use an extra hand around the holidays, from the churches throwing holiday meals for the community to the organizations putting together toy drives for families who could use a little help playing Santa.
But there are also dozens more that could use a helper all year-round. The folks at VolunteerMatch have a free tool that will partner you with a charity that could use your skills, so you know you’re truly making good use of your time. Or you can simply look around your neighborhood with your own interests in mind.
Love dogs and cats? You can take advantage of the stress relief of spending time with animals while actually helping the critters at your nearby shelter become more adoptable.
Have a knack for art? Give yourself a little art therapy while volunteering to lead painting classes at your local senior center.
Whatever you choose, it’s okay to admit you’re taking something away from giving back.

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Shorter Days Are Upon Us: Here’s What You Need To Know About Seasonal Affective Disorder

Could the place you call home make you sick during the winter?
Some people love the change of the seasons, the early arrival of darkness, and the crisp chill in the air. They mean snow—and everything it comes with, from hot cocoa and holiday festivities to cuddling in front of a fire—is on the horizon. But if you live in the northern half of the United States, the changing seasons can spell serious trouble for your mental health in the form of seasonal affective disorder.
Nicknamed SAD by doctors, seasonal affective disorder tends to crop up during the winter months for an estimated 6 percent of the population. Most affected individuals live in parts of the country that are hundreds (if not thousands) of miles from the country’s southern tip. Where they live literally causes them to come down with a case of depression, which is seasonal, but is depression nonetheless.
If you’ve been feeling down since the days started getting shorter and you’re already dreading the winter blues, you could be suffering from the weather-related mood disorder.
But how can you tell if you’re just lowercase sad or actually suffering from uppercase SAD?
Here’s what the experts say about who is most at risk of experiencing seasonal affective disorder and what to do if you’re one of the millions of people struggling with the condition.

Why so sad?

With a name like seasonal affective disorder, it stands to reason that the condition is tied to the change in seasons. Nor should it be surprising that—unlike better known mental health disorders such as major depressive and bipolar disorders—SAD typically crops up during one time of year: in the late autumn or winter.
Still, SAD is a mental health condition, and it shares a lot in common with other types of depression, says Jade Daniels, a research psychologist with mental health app Woebot.
“Commonly, people with SAD tend to experience lower energy, feel more lethargic, and notice fluctuations in weight gain and appetite.”
Sound familiar?
With such marked similarities to depression and a catchy acronym that literally describes how the disorder makes many people feel, seasonal affective disorder is not without controversy. It’s been written off as a “trendy” disease in many an internet think piece, and scientists were thrown into a kerfuffle about the condition in early 2016 with the publication of a study that claims SAD doesn’t really exist.
But numerous other studies on the condition have been published in peer-reviewed journals, and they all seem to point in the other direction: SAD isn’t just real, it’s serious. Statistics back that up. The condition affects some 14 million Americans, Daniels says, and they’re all people whose symptoms worsen as the season goes on if they don’t seek and secure treatment.
SAD is also listed in the most current version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, commonly known as the DSM-5, a compendium of conditions that the American Psychiatric Association (APA) uses to diagnose and treat patients. The APA dubs seasonal affective disorder a “form of depression” and notes that sufferers experience mood changes and symptoms similar to depression.
The precise cause for this seasonal downshift in mood is unknown, but according to Craig Travis, PhD, director of behavioral science at OhioHealth Grant Medical Center, there are several biomarkers that relate to developing SAD.
“Some researchers speculate that maybe ‘winter blues’ is partially a biologically driven natural human adaption left over from our primitive ancestors to long cold winter months, and we should all be hibernating during the winter months,” Travis tells HealthyWay.
“We crave carbohydrates, gain excess fat storage, decrease activity and energy levels, [experience] increased lethargy/tiredness, tend to sleep more, etc.”
That’s not definitive, however, he’s quick to point out. Scientists are well aware that humans are not bears, and we cannot burrow into a cave to take a long winter’s nap.
To that end, SAD is considered clinically different from general winter “blah” feelings. Feeling down and out sometimes is normal, and it doesn’t call for a trip to your doctor’s office. You have to venture over the line into experiencing an impairment of daily functioning to be considered to suffer from seasonal affective disorder.

The Science Behind SAD

Neurotransmitters

“Some research has shown people with SAD have increased serotonin transporter protein during the winter months,” Travis says.
Serotonin is a chemical produced by the nerve cells, and it’s linked to our moods. In fact, many depression medications are called SSRIs, which is short for selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, and their express purpose is to regulate serotonin transport in the brain.

Hormones

“Melatonin is a natural human hormone that regulates sleep and circadian rhythms,” Travis says. “Darkness naturally triggers an increase in melatonin and engages the sleep cycle in all human beings.”
The problem? People with SAD tend to produce more melatonin than others, he says.

Vitamins

“Vitamin D is associated [and] produced with more sunlight,” Travis says. “Less daylight during the winter months [means] less vitamin D produced.”

Environment

It’s also theorized that the risk of developing SAD comes down to our environment, at least for some people.
“Descriptors (and thus experience) of winter are often in dreary harsh negative terms,” Travis explains. “That is, winter is often viewed socially and psychologically as depressing, grey, cold, barren, harsh, and death-like. That kind of mindset can set up a depressing mood, and that affects some people more than others.”

Who is affected, anyway?

Of course, winter isn’t exactly depressing, grey, and cold in every area of the country. The southern part of the United States tends to experience mild winters, if it experiences any winter at all. While it’s snowing in New York, it can be sunny and 89°F in Florida. Hence the thousands of “snowbirds,” who spend the wintry half of the year enjoying southern climes, only returning to their northern homes when the spring thaws out the ground.
Considering the effect light and wintry doldrums have on the psyche, it’s hardly surprising that Southerners tend to have much lower rates of seasonal affective disorder than people in, say, New England.
“Research shows about 1 percent of folks in Florida suffer with SAD, while 9 percent of New Englanders do,” says Travis.
But it’s not only Americans (or Canadians) in northern climes who are affected by seasonal affective disorder. The risk of developing seasonal affective disorder is linked to the distance they live from the equator during the winter because of the way the earth tilts away from the sun, reducing the amount of light experienced during daytime hours. So when someone in South Africa is making their way through winter, their risk is akin to that of someone in Maine.
SAD is also more prevalent in women, who are four times more likely than men to struggle with the condition. It also tends to be diagnosed in people over 20, although chances of experiencing it decrease as we get older.
There are other risk factors to consider, too. If you have a family history of SAD or if you suffer from closely related conditions, such as depression or bipolar disorder, your chances of developing the issue in the winter months are heightened, Daniels says.

What to Look For

So, it’s cold. It’s dark. You’re feeling “off.” But do you actually have SAD? The diagnosis is one that has to be made in a healthcare provider’s office, and it can be tricky, Daniels says.
“As SAD shares symptom similarities with other disorders, it can be difficult to accurately diagnose,” she says.
According to the American Psychiatric Association, doctors will look for the following in order to hone in on a seasonal affective disorder diagnosis:

  • Feeling of sadness or depressed mood
  • Marked loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
  • Changes in appetite; usually eating more, craving carbohydrates
  • Change in sleep; usually sleeping too much
  • Loss of energy or increased fatigue despite increased sleep hours
  • Increase in restless activity (e.g., hand-wringing or pacing) or slowed movements and speech
  • Feeling worthless or guilty
  • Trouble concentrating or making decisions
  • Thoughts of death or suicide or attempts at suicide

You don’t need to meet every criteria in order to be diagnosed, but again, symptoms do have to be inhibiting your daily function in order for a doctor or therapist to know you’ve crossed the line between “feeling down” and needing treatment.

How to Get Through the Winter

A physician’s diagnosis is the only way to determine for sure whether you are experiencing seasonal affective disorder.
But once you have a diagnosis, there is good news. There are both diagnosis-dependent treatment options and ways to self manage. And no, you don’t have to move to Florida.
One of the most popular forms of treatment is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This approach equips patients with both pro-active and reactive skills that can help them manage the symptoms of SAD, Daniels says.
“A typical CBT session would teach the individual how to manage feelings associated with SAD, recognize and challenge negative thought patterns and behaviors, and also adopt healthy coping strategies,” she explains.
“While the legacy of CBT has been grounded in one-on-one, therapist-patient interactions, new mental health tools have demonstrated clinical evidence for effective changes on mood and provide a new medium [by] which people can access and learn effective mental health techniques.”
She goes on to say, “CBT can offer an opportunity to teach preventative, useable, and effective skills to people who experience SAD. While you may be thinking immediate and affordable access to mental health care has undoubtedly proven itself troublesome, a rise in a mental health technology tools intends to fill this void.”
Another popular treatment for SAD is light therapy—literally exposure to bright light that mimics the sun.
“Ideally that would be increased exposure to sunlight, so get out into the sun whenever you can,” Travis says. But experts acknowledge that can be difficult when you’re facing a weather forecast that’s chock full of overcast, grey, cloudy days.
If that’s your reality, light box therapy is an option to explore. Light boxes can be set up at home or at work, and the therapy lamps offer a sun alternative of sorts, exposing the body to stronger lights than a traditional home or office lamp.
Some studies have posited that light therapy—when done correctly—is as powerful as anti-depressant medication. There are some provisos, however. You can’t lie down with the light directed toward you and take a nap. This is not like the (not-so-healthy) tanning you did as a teenager. You need to actually be awake and cognizant of the light. You also need to spend a solid amount of time with the light shining on you in order for it to have any sort of effect on your mental health.
“The key here is it needs to be 20 to 60 minute exposure to 10,000 lux of cool fluorescent light, which is more than most household lighting,” Travis explains. “You can’t just sit under a reading lamp.”
Whether light therapy works for you or not, it’s not the only medicine-free option that can help fight the seasonal scourge.
Exercise has been shown to help fight traditional depression, and establishing an exercise routine can fight off the seasonal stuff too. While many of us slack off on working out when the snow-blocked sidewalks make it hard to go for a run (or just walk the dog), even simple movement can make a difference, meaning you don’t have to be going wild in the snow to experience the benefits of wintertime exercise.
“It can be moderate walking,” Travis says. “Exercise is a great stress, anxiety, and depression buffer.”
Another option? Establish—or reestablish—a social circle. “It’s easy to isolate in the winter in the north; isolation can be lonely and depressing,” Travis says. But human beings are social creatures, and friendships have gotten more than a few thumbs up from researchers over the years, at least where mental health is concerned.
“We need connection. It’s supportive and validating to us,” Travis says.
One thing to avoid? Tanning beds, which do expose the body to light, but get the thumbs down from most physician groups because the UV rays they emit expose us to more harm than good, especially when it comes to our eyes and skin.
Bottom line: If winter leaves you missing your energy and contentment, or feeling like you’re someone else entirely, it might be time for a chat with your doctor.