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How To Safely Test Makeup In The Store

At its best, makeup gives us the confidence to feel our best. We highlight our brows, line our eyes, blacken our lashes, rouge our cheeks, and paint our pouts. We research the best products, we see samples in stores, we get free makeovers at department store counters—and we still spend thousands of dollars over a lifetime to feel beautiful. Ah, the price of beauty.
But some women have paid a much higher price. You may have heard of Katie Wright, a woman from Austin, Texas, who made headlines last summer. In a social media post, Wright wrote that she thought she had a “giant under the skin pimple” by her eyebrow and innocently squeezed it, as many of us would have done.

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Within an hour, Wright knew something was wrong. The area swelled significantly. She felt like it was going to explode. Wisely, Wright went straight to the hospital.
She was diagnosed with severe cellulitis, a type of staph infection. Physicians watched the young woman closely, as staph can easily spread to the bone, muscle, and blood. The location of her infection was too near her eyes and brain for their comfort. They acted quickly, as cellulitis can easily become life-threatening.
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Wright believes she acquired the infection from a makeup brush she used frequently on her eyebrows but never cleaned. Shocking pictures of her red, swollen face quickly went viral on social media. Wright tweeted that she had become famous for “being ugly.”
Wright is not alone, and even if you keep your own brushes ultra-clean, you might still be at risk…if you sample makeup in a store.
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Here’s the damage dirty samples can do.

In October 2017, a woman filed a lawsuit against Sephora claiming to have contracted oral herpes from a lipstick sample in their store. The alleged incident took place in 2015, when Elana Davoyan sampled the in-store lipsticks.

Davoyan is suing for $25,000 in damages for emotional distress, according to Today‘s coverage of the lawsuit. Prior to sampling the lipstick at Sephora’s makeup counter, she says, she did not have herpes. Davoyan claims she has been adversely affected due to the unsightliness of the sores now appearing around her mouth. The case is still pending.
In 2011, Mary Zorcik, a sales associate in a department store out of Forest Hills, New York, told Prevention that she contracted a horrible case of conjunctivitis the year before. The infection was so bad that she couldn’t wear her contacts for two weeks, and it may have been a result of contaminated samples.

Meanwhile, in a 2004 study out of Rowan University, Elizabeth Brooks, a professor and biological sciences researcher, found makeup samples to be harboring all sorts of contamination. Brooks found E.coli, staph, and strep in the samples, she told the Los Angeles Times in 2010.
The two-year study revealed that on Sundays, a shocking 100 percent of all the makeup samples (skin, eye, and lip makeup) were contaminated with a bacteria or virus of some sort. Most of it was staphylococcus aureus, a virus that usually doesn’t become a problem unless it’s transferred from the skin’s surface to the nose or eyes. But doesn’t makeup tend to get pretty close to our noses and eyes?  
The good news is that makeup doesn’t offer a lot of food for pathogens. The 100 percent contamination found on a Sunday would slowly die off as fewer and fewer visitors transferred new germs into the makeup during the slow part of the week, Brooks told her university’s website. In a later interview with the Wall Street Journal, Brooks clarified that the bacteria was “all surface contamination. If the ladies wipe it off, we can get it near zero.”

That’s if you wipe it off, though, and this still brings up important questions for anyone who buys cosmetics: How risky is testing makeup in a  store? If this can happen with a brush at home, as it may have with Wright, what about with brushes that are used by hundreds at the makeup counter? Or during free makeovers? Ultimately, how can you sample makeup safely?
Following these seven tips will help make your trip to the makeup counter as safe as possible.

1. Do your part. Don’t double dip.

Double-dipping spreads bacteria. If you want to sample a mascara a second time, ask for another wand. Know, too, that not everybody before you will be such a good citizen—always wash your face after a mall makeover, Brooks told the Rowan University news site.

To be extra safe, test everything on your wrist. Be sure to wash thoroughly with soap and water after you do, though, so any germs can’t find their way to your nose or eyes.

2. Beware of in-store brushes.

Before getting a “free” makeover in a store, ask some questions.
“You should be careful about using brushes that have been used on other people,” warns Alan Parks, MD, a board-certified dermatologist based in Ohio. “Make sure you see the brush being cleaned using some kind of [disinfectant] … .”

Parks isn’t wrong. The last thing you want is a free sample of pink eye with your makeover.
Celine Thum, MD, of Paradocs Worldwide has an even better solution. While she seconds that you should make sure brushes are cleaned before someone uses them on you, she goes one step further.

“Better yet, bring your own brushes!” Thum recommends. Also, she says, “before trying on [a] new color, have the employee scrape or sharpen off the top layers of exposed product.”

3. But if you’ve gotta use them, go disposable.

Use those disposable, one-time-use mascara wands, cotton swabs, and eyeshadow applicators on the makeup counters. They are there for your safety. Just hope that the person before you didn’t double-dip.

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“If you are going to try out makeup in a store, it should only be products that you can apply using some kind of q-tip or other disposable applicator, where you know that people aren’t actually touching the product,” warns Parks. “You even have to be careful in these cases, as you never know when people may have used their fingers instead.”

4. Skip the jars. Go tubing instead.

Never stick your fingers into a jar of cream, urges Parks. They’re a breeding ground for bacteria, and you may be the hundredth hand of the day to touch it.
“Think about all the germs that go into those jars when so many people are putting their hands in them,” Parks says. He also cautions against sampling products that go around the eye area because, remember: conjunctivitis.
When possible, opt for a squeezable tube, and only use it after wiping the tip with a tissue or—you guessed it—a disinfecting wipe.
No tube? Makeup that comes in a pump is safer than sampling from a jar, as well, because it’s a whole lot harder to “double-dip” with a pump—unless you have much smaller fingers than we do. The odds of someone before you contaminating it are extremely low. Pump away, germ-free!

5. Wipe it down.

Take disinfectant wipes with you to the store and wipe down anything that touches your face, like a lipstick tube or an eyeshadow brush, suggests Arisa Ortiz, MD, director of laser and cosmetic dermatology at UC San Diego Health.

6. Lipstick ‘em up.

Wipe off the end of the lipstick with a tissue or, better yet, a disinfectant wipe. Or scroll the lipstick all the way and use a cotton swab to sample from the very bottom of the stick (after wiping it off, of course).

Brooks told the Los Angeles Times that wiping the stick is probably sufficient. But she also added that she wouldn’t let her teenage daughters sample lipstick unless it was in an individual tester, so take that as you will.

7. Go Virtual

At some stores, you can actually try on makeup samples virtually. At Sephora‘s largest New York location, you can “Tap and Try” their makeup at a station that uses face recognition software to let you sample the latests shades and looks. At MAC stores, you can use their new Augmented Reality mirrors to see how a variety of eye makeup combinations would look on you.

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L’Oréal has even created an app so you don’t even need to leave your house to try makeup before you buy it. Their Makeup Genius app takes a picture of your face, then shows you how you’d look wearing different shades and products. Sephora has a similar app.

After her close call, Wright began advocating for better makeup hygiene.

“If you take one thing away from this, please see how crucial it is to thoroughly wash your brushes and tools,” she told a reporter for HuffPost. “I urge everyone to take an extra step in your cleaning routine to prevent yourself from a horrifying, painful and potentially life threatening infection.”
Most experts suggest washing brushes frequently and replacing them when they start to look worn, too.

This is important stuff. It wasn’t just Wright’s health that suffered from her infection. Her pocket book took quite a hit, too. Since Wright’s pictures went viral, she has been trying to raise money for the medical expenses with a GoFundMe campaign.
“Unfortunately, this was not a cheap lesson to learn. I was left with thousands of dollars in hospital bills that I haven’t been able to pay yet,” Wright wrote on her fundraising page. “The doctors of St. David’s [Hospital] saved my life and it would mean the world to be able to pay them back for their services.”
Unfortunately, Wright’s experience isn’t exclusive to the home. Luckily, though, there are some safe ways to sample makeup—thanks to disinfectants, disposables, and technology that won’t put you at risk of contracting an unwanted viral or bacterial pathogen. Beautiful, isn’t it?

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Healthy Her Way Lifestyle

Payton Sartain Of Hustle + Halcyon

This week’s Healthy Her Way feature is a breath of fresh, southern air in human form. Talking with the lovely Payton Sartain really brought back great memories of the hometown we both share: Fort Worth, Texas. Although we’ve both left the comforts of home to pursue our individual passions, I’ve been continuously inspired by watching Payton’s journey from afar.
Just after graduating from Texas A&M, Payton left everything she knew in our home state to pursue blogging and vlogging full time in Los Angeles. This was definitely a leap of faith, but this lady’s determination is second to none.
On her blog, cleverly titled Hustle + Halcyon, Payton shares her personal style, favorite simple recipes, go-to beauty tips, fitness secrets, and so much more. When we chatted about the blog’s name, Payton explained that it’s the perfect way to represent balancing life’s hustle with its halcyon—a concept with ancient Greek origins that means calm, peaceful, and tranquil.
One of the things that we’re most drawn to about Payton is the fact that you can always count on her to be unapologetically herself. She realizes that she may not be everyone’s cup of tea—and she’s okay with that.  
Payton has never been one to stick to the status quo, so you can expect to hear her real thoughts, see her fresh out of bed without makeup (or pants), and find out what really goes on behind the scenes of her fashion shoots. The effort and transparency she puts into each blog post and vlog really shines through.
When she’s not editing content for her blog, brainstorming new vlog concepts, or freelance modeling, Payton enjoys taking time to herself to focus on fitness and stay in tune with her body. Though she’s recently fallen in love with strength training, she’s also committed to trying new things—like boxing and tumbling classes—to challenge herself and get a boost of motivation.
If you ever need a reminder to chase your dreams and follow your heart, look to Payton for a little inspiration. You won’t be disappointed.

A Day in the Life

What does your daily routine look like?

As a blogger, every day is so different and it really keeps me on my toes! Some days I’m shooting for my blog, some days I’m running around town to meetings and showroom appointments, some days I’m freelance modeling, and some days I’m sitting in my apartment in my PJs (aka naked) working on the computer. The few daily consistencies I have are my daily sweat session, spending a little time outside, and at least one sit-down meal where I just eat and relax at home.

What are your favorite ways to practice self-care?

The most important way I take care of myself is through my fitness routine. Connecting with my body and pushing myself as well as allowing myself time to decompress and relax puts me more at ease than anything else. I also focus on nourishing my body with the nutrients it needs to fuel my daily life. It’s so simple, but so important! Mentally and spiritually, I set aside time every day to read and write so I can stay engaged, reflect, and learn something new daily.

How do you stay inspired?

I stay inspired by reading, writing, and surrounding myself with amazing humans, and planning future endeavors and travels! I love reading poetry and inspiring words from other women, artists, entrepreneurs, et cetera. I’m constantly writing in my journal, reflecting, or making lists of things I want to do, places I want to go, or goals I’d like to accomplish. Planning trips with my favorite travel buddies is also ultra-inspiring and gives me something to look forward to!


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Loving Lately…

What are the best products you’ve discovered recently?

My favorite products as of late are my Kopari coconut deodorant—it’s an aluminum-free deodorant that actually works!—Dr. Dennis Gross medical spray sunscreen, and Burt’s Bees BB Cream with SPF!

What are your favorite apps?

Oh, I have so many. The apps I use most often are Uber Eats, Google Calendar, Asana, Instagram—obviously—Spotify, and the Podcast app.

Whose Instagram is on your radar?

Again, so many! I follow so many unbelievably beautiful, strong, talented, inspiring women on Instagram.
Right now, my favorite fashion blogger to follow is @peaceloveshea for her incredible style and unapologetic attitude.
My favorite health and wellness guru to follow is @theskinnyconfidential because she has the best lifestyle tips and they’re so applicable to my own life.
Lastly, for general inspiration and good vibes, I follow @mj_day, the editor of Sports Illustrated Swimsuit, for her continuous positivity, her love for supporting other women, and, obviously, all the beautiful bodies she posts on her Instagram.

What are you reading, watching, or listening to?

Right now, I’m finishing Tim Ferriss’ Tools of Titans, which is a book I highly recommend to absolutely everyone. I’m watching lots of “What I Eat in a Day” YouTube videos to get daily healthy meal inspiration. I’m listening to My Favorite Murder podcast, Sex with Emily podcast, and of course lots of my Hustle + Halcyon playlist on Spotify!

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What would the title of your autobiography be?

I Want It All, by Payton Sartain

What woman in history would you love to take to brunch?

Hands down, June Carter Cash. I would love to meet the muse behind many of my all-time favorite songs sung by Johnny Cash. She seems incredibly strong and inspiring.

What superpower would you like to have?

I would love to read people’s minds. I’m kind of obsessed with knowing the good and bad thoughts people have about me and themselves. I’d love to know people’s perceptions of the world.

What’s your coffee order?

Either an almond milk latte with cinnamon and coconut sugar or cold brew with almond milk, cinnamon, and coconut sugar!
 


For more on Payton, check out her Instagram and her blog, Hustle + Halcyon!

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Conscious Beauty Lifestyle

The Beauty Products From 2017 We’re Still Loving, And What’s Next For 2018

It seems like new makeup and skincare products never stop rolling out onto store shelves, and 2017 was no exception. With something different hyped up every week, though, how are you supposed to separate what really works from what doesn’t? Fortunately, the shining stars of the beauty world were clear in 2017, and 2018 is on track to be just as great.

Here are our favorite discoveries from 2017.

Watermelon Glow Sleeping Mask

A true sign of a product that people just can’t get enough of? When it’s sold out again and again. Fortunately, though, you can get your hands on the Watermelon Glow Sleeping Mask now. With a blend of soothing watermelon extract and hydrating hyaluronic acid, this mask is well known for softening and plumping skin as you sleep. And alpha hydroxy acids (AHAs) work overnight to exfoliate your skin to leave it smooth and fresh all day long.

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GLAMGLOW Firming Glitter Mask

Face masks definitely hit their stride in 2017, and GLAMGLOW became known as the brand to turn to for a mask that you can paint on and peel off. They even stepped up their game with a firming peel-off mask that’s packed with glitter yet still provides the same benefits GLAMGLOW’s masks are known for. Social media users love this one for taking glittery skincare selfies. So tighten and tone your skin—and take a few shots for Instagram while you do it—with this mask that’s just as fun as it is effective.

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Fenty Beauty Pro Filt’r Soft Matte Longwear Foundation

There weren’t many beauty launches in 2017 that were as highly anticipated as that of Fenty Beauty by Rihanna, and the brand definitely didn’t disappoint. One of the most coveted items of the collection was the Pro Filt’r Soft Matte Longwear Foundation, a medium- to full-coverage foundation designed to look soft, smooth, and silky on the skin. The best part? The brand is inclusive of a wide range of skin tones; the foundation was released in a whopping 40 shades right off the bat!

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NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer

Looking for the next best thing after the release of Tarte Shape Tape? Look no further than the Radiant Creamy Concealer from NARS, a full-coverage concealer perfect for covering, correcting, highlighting, and even contouring. The formula isn’t just meant to cover imperfections, though. Packed with vitamin E, grape seed extract, and more, this concealer is meant to nourish the skin while it sculpts and corrects.

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Anastasia Beverly Hills Modern Renaissance Eyeshadow Palette

Anastasia Beverly Hills is a powerhouse brand, and the Modern Renaissance Eyeshadow Palette was one of their most anticipated releases. This is the perfect palette for both day and night looks, with 14 shades ranging from creamy neutrals to bright berry tones and even a deep chocolate brown. Complete with a mirror and a dual-ended brush, it’s the perfect versatile palette for taking on the go to create any look.

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Stila Glitter and Glow Liquid Eyeshadow

If you’ve been on the hunt for the perfect glitter eyeshadow without the mess, the Stila Glitter and Glow Liquid Eyeshadow is what you’ve been waiting for. The creamy formula is simple to apply—thanks to the fluffy applicator—and it’s easy to blend out once it’s on the eye, so you can combine with other shadows for a flawless look. The best part is that it’s lightweight, giving you a heavy dose of glitz and shine without the heavy feeling. Not a glitter fan? Check out the new Stila Shimmer and Glow Liquid Eyeshadow.

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Hourglass Ambient Lighting Palette

Highlighting wasn’t a new phenomenon in 2017, but Hourglass definitely upped the game when it released the Ambient Lighting Palette. These powders were designed not only to catch the light but to diffuse and soften the way it looks when it hits your skin, giving you the perfect lit-from-within look with just a few swipes. With three universally flattering colors, this palette helps to highlight the skin in a way that filters out harsh lights, giving you a soft, refined glow.

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Cover FX Custom Enhancer Drops

There are some who prefer a glow that can be seen from outer space, and for those individuals, there are the Custom Enhancer Drops from Cover FX. The drops allow you to customize your glow, using a little for a subtle shine or a lot for a look that gives off the vibe of liquid metal on your skin. Use the drops alone or mixed in your foundation or body lotion for an all-over radiance that’ll catch the light…and maybe even an eye or two.

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Fenty Beauty Stunna Lip Paint

It’s no secret that Fenty Beauty has been slaying the game ever since its launch, but the hype isn’t just about the foundation. If you’ve been looking for the perfect red lip product, look no further than Fenty’s Stunna Lip Paint in the shade Uncensored, a universal red that’s made for any skin tone. With one-swipe coverage and a 12-hour wear time, it’s the ultimate smooth liquid lip you’ll turn to again and again.

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Bite Beauty Agave Lip Mask

When your lips need a little love thanks to all of those drying liquid lipsticks—or even just because of the cold weather—Bite Beauty has you covered with their Agave Lip Mask. It’s the ultimate lip balm, packed with jojoba oil and agave nectar. And did we mention the brand is 100 percent dedicated to using only food-grade ingredients in its products? Take it with you for all-day use or apply it as an overnight lip mask for soothed, soft lips anytime.

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So, what’s next in 2018?

Though the new year has just gotten started, there are already some standout products in the beauty world.

Jade Roller

Looking for smoother, tighter, de-puffed skin without taking the time to put on a mask? Though jade rollers aren’t a new invention, they’re definitely having their moment in 2018, and it’s not hard to see why. Proponents claim that jade rollers can help you improve circulation, reduce puffiness, and smooth fine lines.

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NARS Radiant Longwear Foundation

Hot on the heels of their Radiant Creamy Concealer is NARS’ Radiant Longwear Foundation, a medium- to full-coverage foundation with a 16-hour wear time. Meant to stay put through anything, the formula is designed to smooth and perfect the skin, all while giving it a fresh and natural look.

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Kat Von D Studded Kiss Crème Lipstick

Say hello to your new favorite lipstick, the Studded Kiss Crème Lipstick from Kat Von D. Packed with pigment, these lipsticks are designed to provide one-swipe coverage with a creamy, light feel on the lips. With 40 shades and three finishes, everyone can find their new go-to color.

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Hourglass Arch Brow Volumizing Fiber Gel

Looking to fill in your brows without taking the time to really sculpt and carve them out? Hourglass’ new Arch Brow Volumizing Fiber Gel was made to help shape and fluff your brows in the half the time, thanks to its tinted formula that’s packed with microfibers. Just swipe through your natural brow hairs to fill them in and keep them looking fab all day long.

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Happy Home Lifestyle

How Feng Shui Works (And How It Doesn't) According To Science

Not happy with your home? Blame your chi.
That’s the basic reasoning behind feng shui, a Chinese philosophy that advocates cultivating harmony with your environment. Essentially, feng shui practitioners believe that every object and person has an energy—known as chi or qi—and that properly organizing your surroundings can allow your energy to flow more effectively.
That’s where the name “feng shui” comes from; it roughly translates to “wind and water.” The philosophy claims that different directions have different elements associated with them, and by managing the flow of your chi effectively, you can live a calmer, happier lifestyle.
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Of course, there’s no scientific evidence to support the spiritual claims of feng shui. Scientists haven’t found a chi in any laboratory experiments, and while organizing your surroundings can certainly improve your productivity, the effects are somewhat limited.

Still, feng shui has been around for thousands of years. Surely there’s some value in it, right? We spoke with several feng shui experts and self-proclaimed psychics to find out.

Claim 1: Choose the right color for your front door to complement your chi.

An article on The Spruce suggests choosing a color for your home’s front door to maximize the positive energy flowing through it. A south-facing door, for instance, should be red, since the direction signifies fire in traditional feng shui. A door that faces the west draws its power from metal, so homeowners should use white or grey.
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Unfortunately, there’s no science to back this up. Color can certainly affect moods, so if you paint your door green, you might feel slightly refreshed when you walk through it, but different colors affect people very differently.
“[Color perception] is very much based on culture,” Dustin York, an associate professor at Maryville University who specializes in nonverbal communication, tells HealthyWay. “Here in the United States, black is usually seen as a negative connotations. With other cultures, black is actually seen as a positive, clean color, almost like white is for people in the West. You will definitely see changes within cultures.”
There’s certainly something to be said for choosing colors carefully, but don’t expect any mystical energy to flow through your front door.

Claim 2: Bedroom organization can affect your energy levels throughout the day.

“To spread the good vibes or chi, you need the bed positioned as far away from the door as possible or diagonally from the door,” says Adam, head interior designer at Decorelo (he didn’t provide his last name). “Do not position in line with the door or too much chi will flow towards the bed.”
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We’re skeptical of that claim (sorry, Adam), but we could understand how putting a bed right next to a door could make a room appear somewhat cramped. We couldn’t find any research that looked at bed placement relative to bedroom doors (somehow, nobody’s funding that research).

However, we’re on board with this next bit:
“It is important that there is a gap under the bed to let the energy circulate around you while you have a good night’s sleep. Keeping the bedroom tidy and uncluttered should keep any negative vibes away, also.”
While we’re not strong believers in “energy,” air flow can certainly help to prevent dust and mold from accumulating on a mattress. If you can’t find a cheap frame, sleep blog Sleep Advisor recommends cleaning your floor and mattress regularly.
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We should also note that our feng shui expert is absolutely correct about clutter. A study from the American Academy of Sleep showed that people who sleep in extremely untidy bedrooms may be at risk for developing sleep disorders.
The key word there is “extreme,” as the study focused on people with mild to moderate hoarding problems, but it still demonstrates the importance of a clean, organized bedroom.
The takeaway: If you want to stay productive, stay organized. Our other feng shui experts agreed with that assessment.
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“In feng shui, the clutter symbolizes the unfinished work, so just remove every item without a practical purpose or those which don’t contribute to the overall look of the place,” says Lauryn Haynes, a home organizing expert at Star Domestic Cleaners in London.
That sounds perfectly reasonable to us.

Claim 3: Spread salt around your house and sing.

“Spread sea salt around the house and leave it for the next 24 hours to absorb the negative energy, then vacuum it all away singing joyful songs,” says feng shui expert and author Milana Perepyolkina. “Open all windows and go around the house clapping your hands, moving the negative energy out of the windows and inviting positive energy in through the doors.”
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Okay, we’re aware that this one sounds unorthodox, but science backs up Perepyolkina’s suggestions—just not the reasoning behind her suggestions.
Salt might not actually absorb negative energy, per se, but it’s fairly good at absorbing some odors. To take you back to high school chemistry class, a salt is an acid combined with a base, and table salt (sodium chloride) is relatively pH-neutral. When salt contacts the chemical compounds that cause odors, it sometimes helps to break those compounds up and reduce their acidity, neutralizing the smell. The vacuuming certainly helps. We’d classify nasty odors as “bad energy,” so we’re on board with that part of Perepyolkina’s advice.
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As for “singing joyful songs,” that sounds ridiculous, but it’s actually a pretty decent suggestion. A 2004 study showed that singers have lower levels of cortisol—a stress hormone—than the control group.
However, there’s a catch: The study looked at group singers, so to get the best possible effect, you’ll want to get a friend to sing with you.

Claim 4: Talk to your pillow before you go to sleep.

“Trust me on this,” says Perepyolkina, “your possessions absorb good energy and then share it with you while you sleep.”
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We really like her attitude, but sadly, we could not find any research that supports this idea. While you’re certainly free to engage in some pillow talk, you’d spend your time more effectively by researching pillows. One study showed that certain pillows can contribute to sleep disorders and advised using latex pillows to limit arm and spinal pain.
To give Perepyolkina the benefit of the doubt, talking to a pillow could be seen as a form of meditation. That’s certainly a helpful practice; numerous studies show that mindfulness meditation can fight insomnia and improve the overall quality of sleep.

Claim 5: Clean your windows to improve your perspective.

“The windows symbolize your eyes looking at the world,” says Haynes. “Clean windows can help you see things clearly, while dirty ones can only limit your perspective. Grab some old newspaper and a mixture of white vinegar and water, and voila.”
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Again, we don’t disagree with the advice, just the reasoning behind the advice. We’re not sure about windows symbolizing perspective, but they do let in daylight. One study showed that office workers report better overall health and fewer sleep disturbances when they have access to a window during work hours.
Researchers believe that daylight inhibits melatonin production, which allows for a healthy sleep cycle. To stay happy and healthy, you’d better keep your windows clean—and Haynes is right to recommend old newspapers and white vinegar. Newspapers are made with soft, densely packed fibers that pick up dust without leaving behind streaks.
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Of course, newspaper subscriptions are dwindling in the United States. If you don’t have any old newspapers laying around, you can simply grab a high-quality microfiber cloth.

Claim 6: Cover your bedroom TV with fabric.

“The active energy of the TV has active energy which can be really disruptive to your sleep and the overall mood of the bedroom,” says Haynes. “You can simply cover it up with a beautiful fabric when not in use.”
Once again, while we’re skeptical about the “energy” talk, we can support this suggestion with good, hard science. A 2009 study from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine showed that television watching is an important determinant of sleep quality. People who watch more television tend to sleep worse, particularly if they watch TV around bedtime.

There’s also a growing body of research indicating that certain wavelengths of blue light can diminish sleep quality by messing with your body’s production of melatonin (that sleep hormone we mentioned earlier). Watch a stressful television show, and your body will produce hormones like cortisol, which certainly won’t help your cause.
Putting a piece of fabric in front of your television might conceivably stop you from using it as often since you’ll be less likely to walk across the room to remove the fabric when you could simply reach for a book. Just make sure not to substitute your phone, laptop, or tablet for your TV, as any of those items could cause similar sleep disturbances.

We should note that feng shui isn’t a religion.

Its practitioners approach its fundamental beliefs in different ways. Some see it as a simple way to organize more efficiently, while some designers take the whole “chi” thing to heart. Some feng shui adherents will undoubtedly disagree with some of the suggestions in this list, and some will adamantly insist that we’re incorrect in approaching this ancient philosophy with science.
Our goal isn’t to paint the philosophy as ridiculous, but only to show that when the mystical advice works, there’s generally a practical, scientific reason. When the advice doesn’t work, it’s not because of an imbalance of chi; it’s because your interior designer didn’t quite connect the dots.

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Conscious Beauty Lifestyle

Which Hair-Removal Method (If Any) Is Best For You?

Is it weird that millions of women around the world spend tons of time and money—and regularly test their pain thresholds—in the name of removing face and body hair? Who’s to say? Culture is weird. Humans are weird. We are weird. But we do know that at this point, most women’s decision to go hairless, neatly trimmed, or long and loose—and how to achieve the look—is based predominantly on aesthetics and cultural standards of beauty.
Once upon a time, in addition to beauty standards, there were more health-oriented reasons to remove hair, e.g., nixing breeding grounds for parasites and maintaining cleanliness. But those of us living a modern lifestyle get to make the choice based on what looks and feels good. Experts Tsippora Shainhouse, a board-certified Beverly Hills dermatologist, and Enrique Ramirez, esthetician and founder of Face to Face NYC, share their insights on best and worst hair-removal methods based on their clients’ specific needs.
How you groom—or whether you go wild—is a personal choice. But if you do choose to keep your stubble on lockdown, we have the lowdown on the pros, cons, and best practices associated with managing when things get hairy.

The Methods and Their Madness

Hair grows in different amounts all over the human body and is “normal, natural, and genetic,” says Shainhouse. “Some ethnicities [tend to grow] more hair than others, while some women have darker hair that is more noticeable [versus] lighter, finer hair.”
In women, elevated testosterone levels can be responsible for darker, thicker hair in some places, while a thyroid imbalance can sometimes be to blame for loss of hair. Shainhouse says there are no dietary or otherwise easy fixes for tricking your body into growing less hair, so you’ve got to learn to either love the fuzz or exert the effort to eliminate it.
Here, we break down the eight major players in the hair-removal game by their pros and cons, exploring the associated pain, cost, convenience, and duration of results. We also touch on best practices for achieving smooth, flawless skin.

Shaving

Ah, this old standby. Shaving continues to be the default hair-removal method for most women and was often the first one they tried back in the day. Shaving maintains its popularity because it’s accessible, easy, fast, and cheap. The good news? Shainhouse says shaving will not make your hair grow back thicker. That said, the results of shaving can “last hours to days, depending on the body site and how quickly your hair grows,” according to Shainhouse, meaning it’s one of the shortest-lasting hair-removal methods.
If you’re committed to shaving, you’ve got to be prepared to rinse and repeat—potentially every day, depending on how quickly your hair grows and how important it is to you to be stubble free. Another potential downfall of shaving is the likelihood of nasty razor burn, which Shainhouse says can be prevented by using an electric shaver, which is less likely to irritate the skin but doesn’t guarantee a razor-close shave.

Tricks of the Trade

Shainhouse says it’s best to scrub up with warm water before reaching for your razor and shaving cream. This will soften the hair and open the pores, making for a smoother shave. It’s also a good idea to keep skin exfoliated, which will lessen the likelihood of folliculitis. This common shaving risk occurs when “follicles get irritated or infected,” according to Shainhouse, who also recommends using a razor with multiple blades for a closer shave with less chance of irritations like ingrown hairs. Once you’ve done the work, there’s not much you can do to slow the growth of shaved hair, but you will certainly want to keep the area soothed and moisturized.

Waxing and Sugaring

Like ripping off a band-aid (only worse—maybe more like 100 band-aids), waxing is not for the faint of heart but is extremely satisfying once it’s over. Waxing is super effective and is one of the longest-lasting hair-removal methods (more than a month of smoothness), according to Ramirez, whose expertise is waxing and sugaring. The cons here are the high pain factor, the cost (one treatment area can cost anywhere from $7 at a strip mall salon to more than $100 at a high-end spa), and the time and effort it takes to get in for an appointment with the professionals.
Like waxing’s hipper, crunchier cousin, sugaring works basically the same way (pulling whole areas of hair out at once with product-infused strips of cloth), but with a solution of sugar, lemon juice, and hot water in place of wax. In Ramirez’s expert opinion, “Sugaring is perfect for those who prefer the organic approach to life,” but will feel a bit more “uncomfortable to the client as we apply the paste in both directions to ensure every hair is caught in the sugar paste.”
Results will last about the same duration as waxing (four to six weeks on average) and come at a similar cost, depending on which salon you visit.
So how do you make the choice between waxing and sugaring? Ramirez says, “If the hair is soft and thin, then I suggest sugaring. For thicker hair, waxing is best.”

Tricks of the Trade

You can prep for waxing or sugaring by resisting the urge to shave beforehand, as your hair should be at least a quarter of an inch long at your appointment. You should exfoliate, however, to reduce the risk of ingrown hairs. And if you’re really concerned about the pain, you can pop an over-the-counter anti-inflammatory like ibuprofen a half hour before you go.

Depilatory Creams

The unappealing aspects of over-the-counter depilatory creams like Nair and Veet are their weird odors and the fact that you have to stand around in the bathroom naked and awkward until it’s time to rinse them off. That said, they’re cheap, fast, easy (even for hair-removal novices), and can be used in the privacy of your home whenever you have a spare moment.
Plus, depilatory creams have results that are similar to shaving—with none of the razor burn, because they chemically soften and dissolve unwanted hair so it can be rinsed away.
Shainhouse makes the point that “results should last a few days, depending on how quickly your hair grows, but in contrast to a razor blade that slices each hair shaft so that new hair growth appears thick and blunt, the tips of the cream-treated hairs will grow in softer,” which may let you go longer between treatments.

Tricks of the Trade

Shainhouse says depilatory creams are quite safe to use as long as you do a patch test first to make sure you don’t have an allergic or other reaction to the product. After you rinse and wipe the hair away, moisturize the area as you normally would.

Epilators

Once hailed as the at-home hair-removal “revolution” of the ‘80s, the new epilator machines are sleeker and smaller but still operate in the same (slightly scary-sounding) way that their predecessors did. An epilator machine is a small, hand-held electric device that looks a bit like a shaver but is really a system of many tiny tweezers that electronically pull out several hairs at once as you move the machine over the skin. You’re probably asking yourself Doesn’t that hurt? The answer is a resounding yes. So why do some people, including epilator fanatic Kelsey Miller, still stick with this method?
It lasts about as long as waxing, has the benefit of reducing hair thickness over time, and you can do it in your home without a salon appointment. Plus, you only need to buy the epilator once (usually for under $100), which means no more shelling out for expensive waxing treatments every four to six weeks.

Threading

This seemingly magic hair-removal method needs to be performed by a trained professional since it requires the special skill of using two strands of twirled thread to “catch” the hairs and physically pull them out. Seriously, how do they do that? As with plucking, you can only grasp a few hairs at once, so threading is better for small areas like your eyebrows and lip line.
There are no products applied to the skin in this method, so there’s “no risk of contact dermatitis,” according to Shainhouse, “but you can irritate the follicles from the tugging and potentially develop a folliculitis.” You have to be prepared for the pain, which is akin to regular plucking, and the cost (usually about the same as waxing), time, and effort associated with getting yourself to a professional threader. You can get nice shaping work done this way, however, and can expect results to last several weeks.

Should you go big and go permanent?

This decision is akin to getting a tattoo: You should only consider a permanent (or permanent-ish) hair-removal method if you’re sure you won’t regret it. Kim Kardashian famously wrote on her website that she regretted zapping the little hairs around her neck and hairline since now she thinks they look “youthful.” But if you’re positive you won’t want to try the pro–body-hair trend that might catch on even more in the future, you do have some options that will allow you to just be done with it. They’re expensive in the moment, but compared to years of buying waxing and shaving products, you may come out on top even if you opt for a pricier treatment.

Electrolysis

Electrolysis is the only truly permanent method of hair removal, according to Shainhouse, who puts it this way: “This old-school method uses electricity to zap individual hair roots within the follicle. The goal is to destroy the root and the follicle so that no new hairs grow.”
It’s also one of the most expensive hair-removal methods, costing “a few dollars per minute of treatment,” and usually requiring multiple treatments to get genuinely permanent results. Even then, it is possible for hormonal imbalances to cause new hairs to grow, requiring more treatments. That said, in most cases, once your electrolysis treatment course is complete, you can revel in your smooth, hairless skin into perpetuity.

Tricks of the Trade

Yep, as you may have guessed, electrolysis a pretty painful way to go hairless, but the discomfort of treatments can be managed with a topical cream applied before the procedure. Other risks include tiny, temporary scabs around the treated hair follicles and, worse, scarring that Shainhouse says is “either due to post-inflammatory pigmentary changes or physical scarring of the follicle and skin.” Finally, since this is a clinical treatment that should take place at a medical spa, you’ll want to follow aftercare instructions to a tee, otherwise you can risk bacterial infections like impetigo.

Laser

Although not a truly permanent hair-removal method, laser treatments are a very effective method for “permanently reducing hair growth by at least 50 to 70 percent after a set number of treatments,” says Shainhouse. It’s the most expensive option discussed here, and, as Ramirez stresses, must always be completed or overseen by an MD at a medical spa. You’ll also need to plan to stay out of the sun for a few days after each treatment to avoid skin hyperpigmentation. That said, after five to 10 treatments, you’ll see impressive results that people tend to be happy with. In fact, the American Society for Dermatologic Surgery reports that laser hair removal just keeps getting more and more popular.

Tricks of the Trade

This isn’t so much a trick as it is a shortcoming. Although people who get laser treatments tend to be happy with the results, it’s not suited to every skin or hair color.
“The laser uses focused light that is attracted to brown or black pigment,” explains Shainhouse. “It works best on people with light skin and dark hair. Lasers cannot treat blonde, white, gray, or red hair because there isn’t enough pigment to target.” On top of that, using lasers on darker or tanned skin carries a risk of burning or removing pigmentation from the skin. Major bummer. So while there are specific lasers that are safer for darker skin types, you’ll want to discuss whether laser is a safe option for your particular skin tone.

Or, you could just not.

Not into the hassle, money, pain, or aesthetic of baby smooth, hairless skin? More and more women are rocking their body hair au naturale. Maybe you’ll be the next one to let it all out.

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Treat Yo’ Self: Why You Should Buy Yourself Lingerie This Valentine’s Day

If I didn’t have to change diapers and give my dog daily dandruff baths, my personal style would be a combination of White Diamonds–era Elizabeth Taylor and Dolly Parton (in any decade).
Mama likes to look sexy, y’all.
That’s why I buy myself gorgeous underwear and lingerie on a regular basis, and you should too.
I like knowing that beneath the same pair of black leggings that get washed once a week (if they’re lucky) and an old maternity t-shirt, I’m wearing a hot push-up bra and barely-there underwear.
I wasn’t always the confident lady you’ve all come to know and love, though.
The first time I bought lingerie for myself, I morphed into a 13-year-old girl trying on her friend’s mom’s bras at a sleepover.
I giggled awkwardly as I perused teddies and strategically-placed keyhole undies until I finally settled on a piece of lingerie that was slightly more sexy than a nightgown that Laura Ingalls might have worn on Little House on the Prairie.
But I took it home, and when I put it on, I immediately felt bolder. It was totally empowering to buy lingerie for myself.
So I bought more.
If you think that lingerie is reserved only for anniversaries or to spice up your sex life, it’s time to think again, you beautiful tropical fish.

Here’s a secret: Buying lingerie is basically the same as going to the gym.

Okay, that’s not exactly true. But according to Kimberly Hershenson, a New York–based therapist specializing in eating disorders and body-confidence issues, putting yourself first can have a powerful positive effect on your health.
“In our society, we are often taught that if we put our needs first, we are being selfish; however self-care and being selfish are two different things,” says Hershenson. “Self-care involves activities and practices that we engage in to help enhance our health and well-being. Wearing lingerie just for yourself is a great form of self-care. Lingerie has a way of making one feel sexy and confident. It can be an effective way of boosting your self-esteem.”
Sort of like when Samantha wants to buy herself a particular expensive ring in Sex and the City—there’s something very empowering about buying yourself lingerie. But unlike the new shoes your kid had to have this week or new tires for your car, lingerie is a totally frivolous, fun purchase just for you.
You’re allowed to be selfish sometimes. And sometimes that means spending money on lingerie that no one will see but you.
Because listen up, ladies:
It’s 2018! And though some people feel that women can’t do certain things, like eat regular Doritos, you do not need to have a partner to buy yourself lingerie this Valentine’s Day.
Lucky for you, I went lingerie shopping (hey, it was all for research!). Here are a few of my favorite lingerie pieces for every style.

Make like Vin Diesel and go XXX.

See what I did there? Or is that joke too dated?
Either way, if you feel like (a lot) less is more, the Hollywood Exxtreme Lace Teddy ($48.50) from OG lingerie retailer Frederick’s of Hollywood is totally impractical, but it’s also a really hot piece of lingerie. I dare you to feel frumpy when you put it on.
If the teddy is a little too racy for your bedtime routine, channel your sexiest Morticia Addams in this Oh La La Cheri Eyelash Lace Robe Set from Bare Necessities ($35.50) which comes in sizes small to 4x.

Sustainability never looked so sexy.

Want lingerie that makes you look good while doing good?
This Origami Customs Cage Bra ($37) from Bluestockings Boutique is sustainably sexy, stylish, and completely handmade in Canada. Bluestockings Boutique’s mission is “to empower people who have been marginalized by the mainstream lingerie industry and to offer them an experience that reflects their identities, their bodies, and their values.” Whatever your lingerie style, they’ve truly got something for everyone, no matter what pronoun you use.
Azura Bay only carries sustainably and ethically produced lingerie, like the Floral Lana Lyocell Bra ($89) from Underprotection, which is fair trade–produced in India with eco-friendly materials, so you don’t have to worry about your underwear being bad for the environment.

Maternity Lingerie? Yes, please!

Have you seen the mesh panties the hospital sends you home in?
The only thing they share in common with lingerie is that both are designed to cover your lady parts.
Treat yourself to some seriously sexy maternity lingerie, like the Chloe Maternity/Nursing Bra $59.99 from Nestling and Co. Pair it with the matching Chloe underwear ($17.99) for a lingerie set that will make you feel like a million bucks, even though you haven’t showered in days.

Comfort is key.

You know what? I’m just going to say it.
No one really likes thong underwear.
You know what women do like?
Being comfortable and sexy at the same time.
Hands down, the most comfortable lingerie I’ve ever bought is the Gilligan & O’Malley Long Line Bra ($14.99) from Target. It’s ultra-flattering for every body type but comfortable enough to wear every day—and its price point can’t be beat. Plus, it comes in a ton of colors.
If your definition of comfortable means wire-free lingerie, then try Else Sheer Bare Sporty Top, a barely-there take on the classic sports bra ($85) from Journelle.

Ready to take your lingerie to the next level?

Teddies, babydoll nighties, and sexy bras are great, but sometimes you need lingerie that’s just a little extra.
That’s where an open-cup or peekaboo bra like the Vintage Lace Shelf Bra ($22.21) comes in. All the important parts of the bra that provide lift and support are there, but your breasts will be on full display. You can choose to wear a cute pair of pasties, like this gorgeous rhinestone set ($40) from Etsy seller Gothfox Designs, or go au naturel for a more daring look.
For a lingerie set that will make you feel sexier than Claire Fraser and Anastasia Steele combined, consider pairing a peekaboo bra with a pair of crotchless panties. Only you have to know what you’re wearing, and that can provide an extra boost of bravado when you need it most.
Edible underwear are the punchline to many a joke, I know. And most are really sort of gross. But, I actually don’t mind this rainbow candy g-string. For one, it’s the only edible underwear I’ve seen that actually looks anything like underwear.
Second, I didn’t so much wear these as snack on them while binge-watching The Crown, but hey—you’re buying them for you, so do what you want! Still, if you’re looking to sweeten your lingerie game, candy undies are deliciously appropriate.
If you’ve never treated yourself to lingerie, then now is the time. So take advantage of those Valentine’s Day sales and buy yourself a little something sexy.
Because single, taken, or just here for the party, you deserve it!

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Life x Culture Lifestyle

8 Healthy Living Podcasts We’re Loving In 2018

My name is Abby and I’m a podcast addict.
If I’m not sleeping, working, or with my family—and sometimes, gulp, even when I am—I have a podcast playing in the background. Moving to L.A. and becoming a mother has only intensified the addiction; what else would I do with all those endless hours on the freeway? Or while I hike? Or while I shop for and cook yet another dinner?
My obsession runs the gamut—from listening to the news to literary conversations to good old fashioned advice—but I also love any and all podcasts related to living a healthy life.
Here are a few favorites:

1. Headspace

Not a podcast, but a whole app! Learn to meditate wherever you are, any time of the day or night. Host Andy Puddicombe has the most soothing, reassuring voice, and once you’ve completed the initial 30 days of basic mindfulness meditation, there are dozens of programs to choose from including meditations on self-esteem, productivity, and calming down. Note that you can try Headspace for free, but will have to pay for a monthly or yearly subscription once the trial’s ended.

2. Metta Hour Podcast with Sharon Salzberg

Renowned meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg’s podcast isn’t a how-to. Instead, it is a platform for thoughtful conversations with today’s leading Buddhist and mindfulness meditation practitioners. My favorite episode: this conversation with writer and senior Buddhist teacher Ethan Nichtern.

3. Oprah’s SuperSoul Podcast

Who doesn’t need a little more Oprah in her life? The entire premise of this show is to live a more inspired, connected existence. Although the conversations are rarely about, say, eating more vegetables (although sometimes they are!), they always tackle some aspect of leading a more meaningful, whole, healthy life. Oprah interviews everyone from Buddhist nun Pema Chodron to President Jimmy Carter to Brené Brown.

4. Happier With Gretchen Rubin

Meet the queen of happiness hacks! Gretchen Rubin is obsessed with living a happier, healthier life. Every week she and her sister Elizabeth Craft explore how to do so, making suggestions from fitting in daily exercise to steering clear of the cookie tray at work. You can also crack open Rubin’s latest book, The Four Tendencies, in which she analyzes four different personality types and examines what helps each of us stick to our habits.

5. Yogaland Podcast

Hosted by yoga teacher Andrea Ferreti, each pod features an interview with a different giant from the yoga world and covers many aspects of the practice including poses (of course!), body image, positive thinking, and self-acceptance. Ferreti has a super sweet, relatable persona that makes for easy listening.

6. TEDTalks Health

Who doesn’t love a good TED Talk? This series features all the best talks on health, covering topics including the benefits of sleep, how to cope with depression, the secrets to living a longer life, and even…quinoa.

7. 10% Happier with Dan Harris

Are you a meditation skeptic? So was Dan Harris when he had an anxiety attack on air. This embarrassing moment prompted him to deal with his anxiety through meditation. The journalist interviews a different guest every week, and their interests and backgrounds represent a wide range—from Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche’s worldwide network of meditation centers to Moby’s music and activism. Harris’ smart, no-nonsense style can make even the most cynical person curious about the benefits of sitting down on the cushion.

8. Bite by Mother Jones

Did you read Eating Animals? Or The Omnivore’s Dilemma? If yes, this lovely podcast, hosted by Mother Jones editors and food and farming blogger Tom Philpott and billed as being for people who “think hard about their food,” is for you. During each interview, we learn about a different aspect of food production. Recent episodes have covered raw water, Brussels sprouts, and how you are what you eat. This is a wonderfully entertaining and informative listen.

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Healthy Her Way Lifestyle

Jules Hunt Of Om & The City

Healthy Her Way is a weekly spotlight where we feature a woman in wellness who we find insightful, inspiring, genuine, and all-around badass. So naturally, we had to start with the radiant Jules Hunt of Om & The City. In case you aren’t familiar with her, Jules is a wellness blogger, certified yoga instructor, dog mama to Luna, and founder of AWAKE | The Space—an NYC-based wellness pop-up concept that has me ready to pack my bags and move to the Big Apple to join the #Awakeners.
It took just one (embarrassingly lengthy) creeping session on Jules’ Instagram feed—which is filled with stunning images of plants, nutritious food, powerful yoga poses, and genuine messages—to know we had to learn more! Fun fact: She also owns the cutest collection of workout leggings that I’ve ever seen in my entire life.
On her blog, Om & The City, Jules is transparent about her mission to encourage others to “celebrate healthy living from the inside out” and promotes “self-love, positivity, and empowerment.” Jules also shares stories from her personal battles, including her struggles with self-love and body dysmorphia.
Struggling with self-love is something almost every woman experiences at some point in time, but due to social stigmas, it isn’t discussed as openly as it needs to be. Fortunately, Jules is doing her part to start a dialogue around these important topics while sharing helpful insights from her personal journey.
Jules recognizes that wellness and balance go hand in hand, and we couldn’t agree more. She began her wellness career as a guest blogger and intern at a yoga studio and is now building an empire while treating every stranger she encounters like a true friend. Now that’s girl power! We can’t wait to see what you do next, Jules! You’re definitely one to watch.
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A Day in the Life

What does your daily routine look like?

Every day is different when you work for yourself, but I do my best to keep some sort of structure. I wake up early—around 7 a.m. I do a little yoga and meditation to get centered and set the tone for my day. Then I usually make coffee or matcha and eat a light breakfast. By 9 a.m. I am at my desk starting my work day.
My days are typically spent answering emails, creating content, shooting for brands, writing blog posts or interviews, planning and strategizing for future content, etc. I keep the amount of events I attend down to a minimum, and I always make time to see my close friends.

What are your favorite ways to practice self-care?

For me, self-care is ongoing and just means listening to my body and honoring whatever it is telling me. Of course, I also love evenings spent with a face mask, good book, and my favorite human, Andrew, and my puppy, Luna.

How do you stay inspired?

I stay inspired by giving myself alone time to be with my thoughts. By creating space for my brain to process, I’m able to refuel. I also find inspiration from reading books, browsing my favorite blogs, listening to motivational podcasts, and listening to some good ol singer–songwriter tunes.
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Loving Lately…

What are the best products you’ve discovered recently?

Best deodorant: Vapour. Favorite probiotics: LoveBug. Favorite turmeric mix: Live 24k.

What are your favorite apps?

I love Planoly for planning out my feed.

Whose Instagram is on your radar?

Ah, there are just way too many people I love on Instagram! @jacimariesmith for lifestyle, @alison__wu for food, and @mikiash for yoga and meditation.

What are you reading, watching, or listening to?

I’m reading Woman Code, watching too many reruns of X Factor and America’s Got Talent on YouTube, and listening to Grace VanderWaal’s new album.
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Jules IRL

If your pet could talk, how would they describe you?

She’d probably say I’m very dedicated to my work and I need to play with her more during the day. She’s right.

What woman in history would you love to take to brunch?

Well, I wouldn’t call her a historical figure, but I’d take Sophia Bush to brunch. She’s been one of my role models since I was in high school.

Would you rather explore space or the ocean? Why?

Ooh, probably space. The deep, dark ocean actually scares me.

What’s your coffee order?

Regular coffee with a nut milk or nut milk latte and always with a sprinkle of cinnamon

What piece of advice has impacted you the most?

Listen to your gut; it knows everything.
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For more on Jules, check out her Instagram and her blog, Om & The City!

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Long-Term Loneliness: The Hidden Suffering Of The Chronically Ill

I was 32 years old when I had my first serious battle with loneliness. Gradually, I began to develop a list of health problems. Dizziness. Insomnia. Fatigue. Heart palpitations. A burning sensation along my spinal cord and in my brain. Weight loss. Sensitivity to light and sound.
I dragged myself from doctor to doctor—close to 20 of them in all—but none of them knew what was wrong with me. Eventually, I had to take a three-month medical leave of absence from my job as an occupational therapist. I had high hopes that 12 weeks of rest would revive my drained body, but that’s not how things played out. Three months turned into nine months, and I was involuntarily terminated from my employment because I was too sick to return.
My body was weak, and my spirit was crushed. How was it possible that I built a career by helping people, and yet, I was unhelpable? I felt like a failure, and I wondered why my body couldn’t just plow through these crippling symptoms. Instead of toughing out the mysterious illness, one day, my body collapsed, and I could no longer get out of bed. As my health continued to decline, I spent my days maneuvering between the couch and the bed.
[pullquote align=”center”]“Whereas most people associate loneliness and isolation with interpersonal loss, those with CMCs (chronic medical conditions) also experience the loss of control over their bodies and the impact that has on their identity and relationships.”
—Elizabeth Aram, PsyD[/pullquote]
Sadly, I became too ill to leave the house or, at times, even talk on the phone. I lived with my husband, who had been forced into the role of my caregiver, and my two senior beagles. One by one, I lost contact with my friends, and most of my family lived out of state. Months passed before I had any face-to-face contact with other people. I was profoundly lonely—I craved human contact—but my symptoms isolated me from everyone except the medical professionals who were trying to help me.
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After a few years, a doctor diagnosed me with a persistent case of Lyme disease—an illness that, when not caught in an acute stage, can lead to chronic and disabling symptoms. At the time of my diagnosis, I’d been bedridden for nearly two years. The prolonged period of social separation was undoubtedly the darkest time in my life, and I’ve had an ongoing fight to regain some semblance of my former self.
During my journey toward healing from a chronic illness, I’ve learned that many people battle feelings of loneliness and isolation. A survey conducted on behalf of the American Osteopathic Association found that 72 percent of Americans have felt lonely.
With so many people lacking meaningful relationships, I began to wonder what effects long-term loneliness has on our health. And for those of us with chronic illnesses, can the drawn-out periods of loneliness influence our symptoms? Let’s take a closer look.

Who’s affected by loneliness, and how does it impact our health?

“Loneliness and isolation affect all human beings, so patient demographics are widely diverse in age, gender, race, culture, religion, and socioeconomic status,” says Elizabeth Aram, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist in Illinois.
“Another subgroup of patients whose experience of loneliness and isolation are particularly poignant are those diagnosed with chronic medical conditions (CMCs). Whereas most people associate loneliness and isolation with interpersonal loss, those with CMCs also experience the loss of control over their bodies and the impact that has on their identity and relationships.”
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Although much of the research surrounding loneliness has been done on the senior community in America, it seems no one is immune from its impact. In 2017, the American Psychological Association released a statement at their 125th annual conference which read: “Loneliness and social isolation may represent a greater public health hazard than obesity, and their impact has been growing and will continue to grow.” Ultimately, long-term loneliness may place people at a greater risk of experiencing negative physiologic changes in the brain and body.
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“Long-term loneliness is also associated with inflammation and dysfunction in our immune, hormonal, and cardiovascular systems,” says Aram. “It can increase levels of stress hormones, overwork the heart, and reduce the quality of sleep. Over time, the damage can limit our ability to fight infection and heal after trauma.”
[pullquote align=”center”]”On the positive side, I believe many people ultimately adjust to pain and loss and learn to view their strength and resilience as part of their story.”
—Elizabeth Aram, PsyD[/pullquote]
“Moreover, as we age, it is important to keep our brain stimulated to protect from degenerative conditions like dementia. Without adequate opportunities for social connection and mental stimulation, we may experience greater deterioration in cognitive and emotional functioning.”

Why are so many people lonely?

“Lack of support is just one of many factors that contribute to loneliness. Failure, disappointment, regret, rejection, emotional invalidation, pain, and loss are all frequently associated with experiences of loneliness or isolation,” says Aram.
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A 2015 study in Health Psychology noted older adults who have chronic illnesses were more likely to report feelings of loneliness. But chronically ill individuals of all ages struggle with loneliness and social isolation from their family and peer groups. Aram cites limitations to freedom, mobility, and social connections as contributing factors to the feelings of loneliness and social isolation—though more research is needed to find out just how widespread these issues are among other age groups.
“On the positive side,” Aram says, “I believe many people ultimately adjust to pain and loss and learn to view their strength and resilience as part of their story.”
Although Aram has never met me in person, it’s as if she read my mind. Through my personal experiences with long-term loneliness, I too believe people can adjust to pain and loss, persevere, and discover newfound strength and depth. So, how do you make it through the desolate sea of chronic illness and symptoms that isolate you and come out on the other side?

How do you navigate loneliness?

My sincerest desire for chronically ill individuals is that I could provide easy answers to overcome feelings of loneliness and isolation, but that isn’t the case. Like many aspects of treating and healing from an illness, combatting loneliness and isolation requires commitment, self-care, and, at times, willingness: a willingness to be temporarily vulnerable and try something different than what you’re accustomed to doing.
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Adrienne Clements, a licensed marriage and family therapist associate, integrative psychotherapist, and relationship counselor in Texas, says loneliness and isolation require both internal and external actions to overcome them. “The first step is to name and accept what you are feeling and remind yourself that loneliness and isolation are normal human experiences which are trying to motivate you to connect. Without awareness and self-compassion, it’s hard to take action to create positive change,” she says.
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While many of us with chronic illnesses have felt the yearning for human interaction like Clements describes, we become static—unsure of what to do next. Clements adds, “Second is to identify some reasonable ways to increase your connection with others, and then force yourself to take action in spite of the loneliness.”
“Examples include reaching out to friends or family members instead of waiting to hear from them, getting out of the house—whether to connect with friends or simply to be in public and around others—get a pet, and get involved by volunteering or joining a club or group.”
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To further the idea that all individuals, including those who are chronically ill, must implement steps toward fruitful change, David Kaplan, PhD, chief professional officer at the American Counseling Association, suggests inviting people to your home. “It may be for just a few minutes, but it is the quality, not the quantity of social relationships that counts. Being around someone you truly like for 15 minutes is more beneficial than spending an entire day with a family member that you can’t stand.”
Does social media impact isolation? Can our online relationships break the loneliness and isolation many of us feel?
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Aram cautions against the use of social media to combat loneliness and isolation, though she affirms it has its place, “I think social media has both positive and negative influences on our experiences of loneliness and isolation. It can be a source of connection for those who have limited mobility, as well as a celebrated source of entertainment and personal expression,” she says.
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“On the other hand, we live in a comparison culture where technology makes it easy for us to see the idealized version of everyone’s lives. Thus, some may experience social media as a constant reminder of what they are missing, leading to feelings of frustration and low self-worth.”
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But Kaplan says as much as he—a part of the baby boomer generation—would like to say that social media makes our situations worse, there is little research to back up this claim. Instead, he says, “Healthy social relationships are healthy social relationships. If the relationship happens through social media, that is fine.” According to Kaplan, the primary key to relationships on social media is “to terminate the unhealthy ones.”

At what point should you seek professional services?

If, despite your best efforts, you can’t seem to shake your feelings of long-term loneliness and isolation, you should seek out a mental health professional.
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“A person should seek professional help from a therapist or doctor if loneliness or isolation is making it difficult for them to function in their daily life or they are experiencing suicidal thoughts,” Clements recommends. “Loneliness can be overcome, but only with self-action and support.”

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How To Be A Bridesmaid On A Realistic Budget

Your dear friend just got engaged, and she breathlessly asks you to be one of her bridesmaids. You’re honored. After all, being a bridesmaid signifies how much your friend loves and appreciates you, and how she trusts you to be a part of her big day.
But before you start brainstorming ideas for bridal showers and bachelorette parties, you should consider something much less romantic: your budget.
Being a bridesmaid costs, on average, more than $1,000. If you have a friend who will be walking down the aisle soon, that’s a scary sum. Although we all want to be there for our friends, paying for dresses, hair, makeup, a bridal shower, and other wedding activities can take a real toll on your budget.
In order to keep your bridesmaid duties from becoming a financial burden (or worse, a strain on your friendship), it’s important to talk about financial realities and budgeting constraints before you commit to being in the wedding party.
“While there are certainly … factors to consider that override money, this should definitely be a part of the discussion,” says Marsha Barnes, a financial social worker and founder of The Finance Bar, which provides financial education to people in and around Charlotte, North Carolina. “It’s also important to note that over 50 percent of Americans don’t have $500 in a savings account; therefore, it’s never safe to assume that others are in a position of affordability to participate.”
It’s always hard to talk openly about finances in an emotional situation, and you probably don’t want to let your friend down. However, talking about your budget can make the entire wedding process easier for you, the bride, and your fellow bridesmaids.
Here are some tips for being a bridesmaid on a realistic budget:

Have the hard conversation.

Barnes recommends talking about the financial implications of being a bridesmaid right off the bat. For example, if your friend wants a black-tie wedding and a full-weekend bachelorette party, you can bet that being a bridesmaid is going to get expensive. If you are concerned about being able to cover basics costs—like the dress, travel to the wedding, and contributions to the shower—discuss that with the bride right away.
“In no way should bridesmaids feel uncomfortable with addressing this,” Barnes says. “While a wedding is a one-day event to celebrate and honor someone that you love, it is equally important to remember any personal financial commitments that will continue afterwards.”

Take an honest inventory of your own financial situation.

Before you commit to being part of the wedding party, honestly ask yourself whether you can afford the added costs. Weigh your current financial situation and how soon the wedding is. If it’s further off, that gives you more time to save—if not, it may cause undue stress and strain.
“I believe it’s safe to say that for people we love, it’s natural to have the desire of participating in their special moments,” Barnes says. However, that can negatively impact your financial future. “As with many holidays or birthdays that excite us, we always have to look at our finances from a realistic view.”
Barnes recommends asking yourself whether you have disposable income, or whether you’re willing to cut back on non-essential expenses to budget for being in the wedding.
“What are you willing to give up personally in exchange [for] being available personally and financially to participate?” she asks. “Maybe this is an opportunity to shave off some of your non-essential expenses for six months to a year, which will increase your chances of being able to take care of costs associated with your bridesmaid responsibilities.”

Don’t be afraid to DIY.

If you’re trying to keep costs under control, considering doing your own hair, makeup, and nails. For added cost savings, don’t stop there, says Kim M., 27, who has been a bridesmaid six times and a maid of honor twice.
“Have a family member or bridesmaid host the bridal shower, and ask the bridesmaids each to bring a dish,” she says. “Make favors instead of ordering them—bridal-themed cookies are always a hit, as are little craft bags filled with candy.”

Plan ahead.

A little planning can go a long way when you’re trying to stay on a budget. Kim recommends putting money aside for wedding-related expenses each week, even if it’s only $10. Shop for dresses early to avoid rush fees, and triple-check your measurements to avoid costly alterations.
If you do need to have your dress fitted, consider going outside the bridal boutique.
“I’ve heard of friends spending $100 or more to get a dress altered when my local cleaner is a wizard with even the most complicated dresses, and it has never cost me more than $30,” she says.

Set limits.

Everyone wants their friend’s wedding to be unforgettable, but it’s perfectly ok to sprinkle in a dose of reality, especially if the entire bridal party is on the same page.
“I have told a bride before, ‘We can’t have a destination bachelorette party.’ It was out of everyone’s budget,” says Sara B., 30, who has been in three weddings recently. “Luckily for us, she was understanding.”
Open communication will help protect your pocketbook and your relationships.
“Remember that the wedding is such an important day for the bride,” Barnes says. “However, there are necessary moments when we must stop to evaluate our own personal circumstances to determine if we are able to participate or accept all invites as a bridesmaid. Be forthcoming and transparent regarding how you are able to contribute so that post-wedding emotions or bitterness do not inflate for months or years to come.”