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The choice between public and private school can be awfully daunting for a parent. The variables involved are overwhelming: Every family has unique financial, academic, spiritual, cultural, and even environmental factors to consider, and the task only gets more complicated for parents of children with disabilities.
That said, there are some clear advantages and disadvantages to each of these systems. The ultimate choice will vary from one family to the next, but here’s what you should know before you make this all-important decision for your child.

Money talks.

Private school can be financially prohibitive, which is the No. 1 reason many parents choose free public schools for their kids.
According to data from the U.S. Department of Education, the average price tag for a year of private elementary school is $7,770, and the average annual cost of a private high school is $13,030—neither one of which can compete with free.

My advice to parents would be to think longer term.

However, the quality of public schools varies from district to district, forcing many parents into tuition payments for private education just because of where they live. According to an article in Time, the high cost of living in a “good” public school district might just outweigh the cost of living in an average neighborhood and sending your kids to private school.
Time calculates that, by the time a child in the public school system graduates from a “good” high school, they will have paid $52,982 more than a private school parent for education and housing. The magazine also notes that putting away those savings in an Education IRA could offset costs for their child to attend a university when they do graduate.

Like everything involving money, the reality is far more complicated just beneath the surface.
Charlie Donaldson, MBA, a college funding advisor with College Bound Coaching, frequently speaks to families who have paid tens of thousands of dollars for their children to go to private school—yet who can’t afford to send them to a decent college when they graduate.
“My advice to parents would be to think longer term,” Donaldson tells us. “What’s more important? The best high school education possible but a second-rate college? Or, an average high school education from a public school and being able to afford to send your kid to the best college possible?”

Let’s talk results.

Getting down to brass tacks: Do public or private schools offer a better education? As you might have guessed, the answer is complicated.

Whether a school is public or private is far less important than whether it is well-run and using a good curriculum.

Laurie Endicott Thomas, a writer and editor who has written several books on education, says that there are more important things to worry about than the “public vs. private” debate.
“Whether a school is public or private is far less important than whether it is well-run and using a good curriculum,” Thomas tells HealthyWay.
If you want to know how well your child will do in a school, she suggests, pay close attention to the school’s reading program.

According to Thomas, phonics are preferable over “sight words,” which introduce children to reading through teaching common words as a whole. In fact, she advises, “If the school is giving out lists of ‘sight words’ for children to memorize, especially before the children have learned the alphabet, the parents should choose some other school.”
Of course, those would be fighting words to some education researchers. In a 2016 study published in the journal Literacy Practice & Research, Nancy Broz, Erica Blust, and Cynthia Bertelsen argue that “the best way to recognize words is through instant recognition that drains no attention, and therefore contributes most to fluency.” That is, sight words.
However, in that study, those same researchers built their word lists based on the sample school curriculum’s phonics program; they introduced words only after covering all relevant phonemes. So, again, perhaps we’re not dealing with an either/or debate. (Let’s just assume that we are never dealing with an either/or debate.) So it still a debate if the conclusion is “both/and”?
When it comes to where your child will get the best education, there’s no easy answer. All you can do is research each school’s curriculum and approach as much as possible.

Find the teacher for every child.

Despite the advantages of many public schools, parents of kids with disabilities often find that public schools are better equipped to handle their children’s special needs. The government mandates compliance with special education laws, and once an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) or 504 plan is set in place for the child, all parties are required to abide by it.

While many private schools are supportive of children with disabilities, they are not required by the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act to institute a formal plan—though, of course, they must still comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act. In a private school then, parents sometimes have to take it upon themselves to make sure a child’s progress is closely monitored and documented.
It’s a crucial issue—if children with disabilities later find they need help in college, they’ll need proof of a disability to achieve those accommodations.

One track…or many?

Then there’s the thorny issue of academic diversity, which Donaldson knows firsthand. His son attends a public honors academy in which the most-gifted learners—including his boy—are pooled together in an alternative program. Although he’s happy for his son, Donaldson has mixed feelings about this practice, he says.
“All of the ‘good’ kids and/or ‘smart’ kids have been removed from the regular public schools,” he says. “The average kids and those who don’t have great home lives no longer have good examples to look up to, to be friends with, to pull them up.”

This generally plays out in a discriminatory way, segregating students by race and socio-economic status.

As a parent, Donaldson is glad that his son has high achievers influencing him—but he thinks this sort of academic segregation could be a problem for society as a whole. And he’s not alone.
William Mathis, of the National Education Policy Center at the University of Colorado Boulder, calls the practice of separating learners into different classrooms based on test scores “tracking.”
“Initially touted as a way of tailoring instruction to the diverse needs of students, tracking has instead become a way to stratify opportunities to learn, limiting the more beneficial opportunities to high-track students and thereby denying these benefits to lower-tracked students,” Mathis wrote in a May 2013 brief.
Even worse, continued Mathis, “This generally plays out in a discriminatory way, segregating students by race and socio-economic status.”
This phenomenon has not gone unnoticed by the U.S. Department of Education. In 2014, the Department issued a press release that reads like the news of 60 years prior:”Black Students to be Afforded Equal Access to Advanced, Higher-Level Learning Opportunities,” says the subhead.

The Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights (OCR) found that the South Orange and Maplewood, New Jersey School District’s 2,500 black students were “significantly underrepresented in advanced and higher-level learning opportunities.” The district made significant changes as a result of the OCR investigation, revising criteria for Advanced Placement classes and limiting the practice of tracking in elementary schools.
Still, gifted programs—tracking—are one of the ways struggling city school districts retain the children of wealthier families—the families whose kids who might otherwise bounce for elite private academies.
That said, a greater variety of academic experiences may really be more available to children at private schools, creating a form of voluntary tracking without the scrutiny that comes with public funds.
Nicholas Maldonado, recruitment and admissions coordinator at the private Arthur Morgan School, points out the diversity of experience that private schools can offer. “Private schools provide the freedom to create curricula that encourages . . . experiential learning through more trips, both service-oriented and outdoor, active student government with real power to implement change, and a large variety of elective courses that can range from physical to artistic to intellectual,” Maldonado says.
Meanwhile, magnet and charter schools continue to blur the line between public and private.
Did we mention that this discussion gets complicated?

Keep the spirit.

If religion is important to you, private school will give you options outside secular public schools. The U. S. Department of Education reports that 19.9 percent of private schools are Catholic and 48.7 percent are categorized as “other religious,” while 31.3 percent are considered nonsectarian.

If you prefer to leave your religion out of education, public school might be a better choice. With the separation of church and state instituted by the U.S. government, public schools leave religious matters in the parents’ capable hands.

Consider inclusivity—or the lack of it.

Alina Adams, author of Getting Into NYC Kindergarten and Getting Into NYC High-School, counsels hundreds of New York families every year to help them make decisions about where to send their kids to school. The mother of three biracial children herself, Adams has experience with diversity issues in both private and public schools.

“My daughter actually spent much more time on the Civil Rights Movement and issues of racial, ethnic, religious, and gender diversity in her private Jewish day school than my son who went to a large public specialized high school, and was often the only African-American student in the class,” Adams tells us.
Her son put the issue clearly when he told her, “I’m tired of everyone turning to me when it’s time to hear the ‘Black’ perspective.”
It’s worth investigating any school’s record on diversity, both in the student population and the curriculum, before committing to sending your kids there; kids in integrated schools actually show better test scores, reports The Century Foundation. More importantly, exposure to people from all walks of life will help to engender compassion in a world of cultural pluralism.
Anyway, before you make the assumption that public schools will always be more diverse, consider the case of mom and attorney Jessica Paluch Hoerman.
“My husband and I were public school kids and always intended to send our kids to public schools,” she explains. Following that plan, Hoerman and her husband started their children in underfunded rural public schools without much racial diversity.

After some time, the Hoermans decided their kids would be better served in private schools.
“The private schools [in our area] have more diversity and inclusion than the public schools and given the challenges of today’s world, we have been thrilled that our kids have been able to speak openly in a safe environment,” Hoerman says. “We know that was not the case in the public schools we left behind.”

Go green.

With environmental degradation a critical issue in today’s society—and one that, we should point out, affects all of our children’s health—many parents are looking for schools that are explicitly concerned with their environmental impact. If sustainable living is important to you, too, you may be interested in what thousands of schools across the country are doing.

The Green Schools Alliance engages with nearly 8,000 schools—both public and private—as well as districts and organizations to create greener institutions. Together, the Alliance is playing a part in the lives of more than 5 million children around the world.
The GSA provides schools and educators with a step-by-step plan to go green (or at least get greener). Public or private, all are welcome.

We’ve got a problem.

Kids can be mean, and bullying remains a pervasive problem that schools must deal with. While every administrator is worried about the issue, private schools tend to have more flexibility about handling repeat offenders.

Parents have to not only worry about student bullying their child, but they also have to worry about teachers bullying students.

Corey Walker, an administrator at an elite private boarding school, testifies to this, saying that her admissions committee puts a strong emphasis on “having an open and inclusive community and [trying] to weed out anyone who wouldn’t do well in that environment.”

Ken Johnson, a culturalist, conflict specialist, lecturer, and award-winning author, suggests that public schools don’t have the same freedom to pick and choose the “nice” kids.
“Bullying is a huge issue in my public schools,” Johnson says. “Especially in low-income schools, parents have to not only worry about student bullying their child, but they also have to worry about teachers bullying students.”
To make matters worse, the pervasive use of technology and social media has brought bullying to an all-new level. Kid-on-kid cruelty can create a witch’s brew of mental and physical health issues—suicide, substance-use disorders, and eating disorders often originate with bullying.

So do the bullies really congregate in the public schools? A bit. Yeah. According to the latest U.S. Department of Education’s “Student Reports of Bullying” report, 15.3 percent of private school students between the ages of 12 and 18 said that they were bullied at school. Meanwhile, 21.3 percent of public school students in the same age range reported bullying.

Time to wrap it up (and time to get started).

There is a wealth of information to consider before choosing the appropriate type of education for your children.
Start by making a list of your priorities: Is diversity more important than academic variety, for instance? Is your child a victim of bullying? Do they have special needs?
The U.S. Department of Education Office of Innovation and Improvement suggests starting by writing down the five things that are most important to you in your child’s education. Then do the research. Websites like Great Schools and School Matters can help you learn about the options in your area.

It’s important to find out if schools you’re interested in have an application procedure as early as possible. You don’t want to find the perfect school only to discover that you missed a deadline. And if you go the private route, you’d better make sure you can afford the tuition.
Once your online research is complete, it’s time to do a little hands-on investigation. Call the schools you’re considering and schedule a visit. If they allow you to sit in on classes, take advantage of the opportunity; nothing shows you how a school operates like watching the teachers at work.
Ultimately, weighing the culture of the schools you’re interested in against a list of your top priorities will help you come closer to making this important decision.
No matter where you fall on the “public vs. private” debate, such a complex issue simply can’t be boiled down to a single question. We shouldn’t be asking ourselves, “Are private or public schools better?” We should, instead, be asking what’s right for our unique children.

Life as a pregnant woman is full of rules and guidelines. You can’t eat or drink this, they say. Make sure you’re eating and drinking that. Always sleep on your left side.
Loni Jane Anthony knows the pressure firsthand. As a popular blogger who adheres to a strict, plant-based diet, the Australian has experienced her fair share of pushback from fans during her pregnancies. Mainly, she gets criticized for following her strict vegan lifestyle during her pregnancies and while breastfeeding.

In an interview with The Daily Mail, nutritionist Fiona Hunter actually called Anthony “deluded” for believing her diet was the best choice for her unborn child. But when Anthony gave birth to a healthy, 8.7-pound baby who thrived while breastfeeding—even as she continued her plant-based diet—she finally silenced those who criticize her lifestyle. She continues to believe that a plant-based, vegan lifestyle is the perfect option for pregnant or breastfeeding moms, as well as her growing toddlers.
Now, I’m no vegan, but I find it interesting to see how much time is spent policing women’s health choices while pregnant and breastfeeding. During my own pregnancy, for instance, I was criticized on more than one occasion for eating fish, despite the fact that the FDA actually encourages women to eat certain fish during pregnancy. However, it seems that since some high-mercury fish are off-limits while you’re pregnant, many people have uniformed opinions about women eating all fish.

If you’ve ever been pregnant, you know that opinions about how to care for your body and your unborn child can be a source of controversy. It turns out, though, that beliefs about nutrition during pregnancy vary greatly from culture to culture. This may leave pregnant women scratching their heads—who’s really got it right?—wondering what foods and practices are okay for their unborn child.

So, before we move on, we should understand the basic tenets of a healthy pregnancy.

Although there is plenty of disagreement across cultures when it comes to nutrition recommendations for pregnant women (and even within cultures), there are some basic things that the global health community agrees on. This is largely thanks to the World Health Organization (WHO), which shares basic guidelines for a healthy pregnancy, no matter your culture or dietary habits.

Pregnant women should eat a varied diet of protein, fats and fatty acids, carbohydrates, vitamins, and minerals, the WHO says. They should consume plenty of green and orange vegetables along with protein sources like meat, beans, and nuts. The organization also recommends that all dairy consumed during pregnancy is pasteurized and that women remain active during their pregnancy to avoid excessive weight gain.

But like I said, what women eat during pregnancy appears to vary greatly from culture to culture.

And many cultures, it seems, aren’t quite as uptight as the United States’.

There really weren’t many no-nos…

While I’ve always been provided with a whole list of foods I needed to avoid while pregnant, moms in other cultures don’t necessarily have the same experience. Valerie Turner Quirey, mom of one, was pregnant and gave birth in Brazil, but was only given one piece of advice from her obstetrician during pregnancy: “Don’t get fat.”

“One month, he felt like I had gained too much [weight], and he told my husband to not let me eat so much… but that was literally the only guidance he gave me,” she says, adding that she ate a Nutella crepe soon after.
Another mother, who has three children and was pregnant in both Ireland and Belgium, said that she wasn’t given much guidance in Ireland—she was allowed to continue eating as she did when she wasn’t expecting. In Belgium, however, their recommendations were similar to the advice she had been given in the United States.
“In Ireland they don’t really talk about it,” she says. “In Belgium, they suggest eating salmon once every other week, eating a lot of protein, greens, and fruit … staying away from raw food.”

Brittany Sprague, a mom of three who was pregnant and gave birth to her youngest in Finland, says that the mentality about nutrition during pregnancy there was one of personal choice.
“Living in a place where fresh fish was the norm, sushi wasn’t as much as a no-no,” she shares. “A multi-vitamin wasn’t mentioned ever. There really weren’t many no-nos, but the food there is a lot fresher and it is quite obvious when it goes bad.”

Although women were discouraged from smoking in Finland, Sprague says, many still did and got very little criticism for it. Her experience makes sense, considering literature created for pregnant moms in Finland, like this pregnancy handbook by The Ministry of Labour, takes a pretty relaxed approach on the topic. In fact, the exact words used are that the mother and her partner should “consider giving up smoking.”
“There seems to be more of a ‘operate at your own risk’ mentality,” Sprague shares. “It was really freeing, a lack of judgement overall.”
Note: On the subject of smoking, it seems the U.S.’ cautiousness is for good reason. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), smoking while pregnant increases the chances of early birth, birth defects, and SIDS, to scratch the surface.

On Drinking

Of course, whether or not you eat meat during a pregnancy is not all that controversial in the grand scheme of things. Comparatively, there are many more fascinating variations that exist from culture to culture for pregnant/breastfeeding women.

For starters, the international thoughts on drinking during pregnancy and breastfeeding aren’t as black and white as you might think. In the United States, the CDC takes a hard stance on drinking: Don’t do it. “There is no safe time to drink alcohol during pregnancy,” they write, warning that children may suffer from things such as poor coordination, speech and language delays, intellectual disabilities, and heart, kidney, or bone problems.
The German government has more recently taken a very strong stance on drinking while pregnant, launching an entire campaign encouraging women to avoid so much as a sip while pregnant.
In comparison, some French women take a more relaxed approach to drinking. Although the official stance in France is abstaining from alcohol throughout pregnancy, many women still drink in moderation, trusting other mothers as their source of advice over their doctors, according to Stéphanie Toutain, PhD, in a 2010 study.

Beyond the more commonly known taboos surrounding drinking during pregnancy, different cultures have more specific, interesting rules about what a woman should or shouldn’t consume.

In traditional Chinese medicine, for example, pregnancy is viewed as a hot and damp condition, according to Elizabeth Trattner, a holistic practitioner who integrates ancient medicine into her practice.

“Mothers are encouraged to eat cooling foods like watermelon and cucumbers,” she says. “If a mother has hyperemesis (morning sickness), both herbs and food are prescribed to help with the nausea.”
In the past, food taboos in Nigeria were a factor in widespread malnutrition during pregnancy, according to research in the International Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology. In 1982, researcher EA Ugwa reported that two-thirds of pregnant women were avoiding milk, cowpea seeds, and the nutritional supplement Bournvita for fear of their baby becoming too large.

In 2016, a study published in The Annals of Medical Health & Science Research suggested that food restriction during pregnancy was no longer as prevalent of a problem in Nigeria. Specifically, their findings showed a wider understanding throughout the culture that eating more calories and consuming protein and fats during pregnancy are important to the health of mother and baby.
In my own pregnancies, I heard my fair share of warnings about two of my favorite foods: sushi and coffee. The truth is, most of the apprehension about consuming either is widely anecdotal.

Most respected sources in the United States, such as The American Congress of Obstetrics and Gynecology, suggest moderation of caffeine instead of completely abstaining, stating that there isn’t enough research to make a definitive decision about the impact of caffeine on miscarriage risk and preterm birth.
There are other countries that don’t appear to be even that strict. In the UK, one writer for The Guardian reported being told to limit herself to five cups of tea or a couple cups of coffee a day, which doesn’t see like that much of a limitation.

When it comes to eating sushi, multiple American mothers tell me they felt uncomfortable eating it at all (or felt they might be judged by others), but sushi isn’t inherently dangerous for pregnant women—it’s the risk of foodborne illness that is the big concern, which is a risk anytime you consume raw or undercooked food, according to Canadian Family Physician. As long as women are avoiding fish that is high in mercury and careful about raw fish, they can feel comfortable eating their favorite sushi roll throughout their pregnancy, according to the British National Health Service.

Being pregnant can be an experience filled with anxiety, and endless nutritional guidelines may only heighten anxiety for expecting moms.

Outside of a few obvious no-nos, like drinking and smoking, it seems best to focus on what moms should be eating—plenty of fruits, vegetables, and healthy sources of fat and protein. And honestly, even that decision should be between the mother and her doctor.

Fear primarily emanates from two sources: the unknown … and what we don’t understand.

MarySue Grivna was a developmentally typical 9-year-old girl when she experienced a sudden onset of acute disseminated encephalomyelitis, also known as ADEM. She went to bed one night in November of 2013 feeling fine and woke the next morning completely paralyzed, according to ABC Action News in Tampa, Florida. Her parents believe it was the flu shot she had received the week before that triggered this debilitating disease.

ADEM is a disease that is characterized by a short-but-devastating attack on the myelin, which protects nerve fibers in our brain and spinal cord, according to The National Institute of Neurological Disorders. This extremely rare disorder is most typically triggered by an infection of some kind, but in rarer cases, it occurs shortly after a vaccination.

Although doctors are uncertain if Marysue’s condition was caused by her flu vaccination, stories like these inevitably raise questions about vaccine safety. Do stories like these confirm the need to be cautious about vaccines, or are they rare coincidences?

Understand the Fear of Vaccines

Being fearful of vaccinations isn’t widespread, but it is more prevalent than most might assume. Each year, the United States government aims for 95 percent of children enrolled in public school to be up-to-date on their vaccinations. Each year, they fall short of this goal, according to CNN Health.

[Parents believe] flu shots are like rolling a dice.

More specifically, a 2015 survey by NPR found that only 62 percent of 3,000 survey participants reported that they had received their flu vaccine or planned to in the near future. Interestingly enough, this was a trend that was consistent across all income levels and education levels. The only population that really stood out above the rest was those over the age of 65, who had much higher vaccination rates than younger populations.

When it comes to the reasons parents delay or opt out of vaccinations, there a few popular reasons for their concerns, according to John Mayer, PhD, a clinical psychologist at Doctor On Demand.

Parents are concerned about the side effects, he says; they’re concerned that their child may develop autism or actually catch the flu after getting the vaccination. And although there are many proven risks factors for contracting the flu virus, parents tend to be fearful of the flu vaccination because vaccinating their child is a choice they make.

“Parents are actively participating in getting the flu shot for the child,” says Mayer. “Whereas they are innocent bystanders if the child happens to get the flu. It’s out of their control. It creates a parental excuse of, ‘It wasn’t my fault they got the flu.’”

As strange as it might seem, parents generally respond much better to the difficulties children experience when they feel they haven’t played a role in inflicting those difficulties on their child.

Additionally, many parents aren’t convinced that the flu shot does what it promises to do. They either believe the shot is ineffective or that their children’s immune systems are capable of fighting off the virus on their own.

“[Parents believe] flu shots are like rolling a dice,” explains Mayer. “ … Many years ago, there may have been some validity to this fear, but better research and vaccines makes the flu shot [much more] effective.”

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention wrote that the vaccination “reduces the risk of flu illness by between 40% and 60% among the overall population during seasons when most circulating flu viruses are well-matched to the flu vaccine.”

Social Media and Vaccine Fears

For parents trying to make a decision about the flu vaccine, the internet can be a blessing or a curse. In some cases, parents can use the internet to research vaccines and become well-informed on how safe and effective the shot is for children. On the other hand, social media has presented the opportunity for the spread of information about vaccines that may or may not be accurate.

When there is some dramatic, highly emotional case that may or may not be factually true … it runs through communities kind of like wildfire.

“Social media has greatly affected decisions about vaccines,“ shares Mayer. “The posting and publishing of lay persons speculating about the horrors of vaccines has left scars on the general public. … Before the term ‘fake news’ became so present in our world, these ‘chicken-little’ alarms that celebrities and other non-medical people voices about vaccines were fake news.”

Christine Johns, MD, a pediatric emergency physician who has been practicing for over fifteen years, agrees. Johns says she doesn’t feel that parents have always been as fearful of vaccines as they are today. In fact, she specifically maintains her social media presence as a physician so she can be a voice speaking up for the safety and effectiveness of flu vaccines and call out those who use their platform to spread fear of vaccines without sound, scientific evidence.

“When there is some dramatic, highly emotional case that may or may not be factually true, … parents pick up on that, and it runs through communities kind of like wildfire,” she says. “All of a sudden … people are drawing grossly generalized, inaccurate conclusions rather than taking a look at the science.”

The Facts About the Flu Vaccine

The truth about vaccines, specifically the flu vaccine, is that they are safe and effective, according to Johns. Vaccines are studied thoroughly and have been used on a massive scale effectively and safely for some time.

You may get a little bit of an inflammatory reaction, but you cannot get the flu [from the flu vaccine].

When it comes to popularly held beliefs that the flu vaccine isn’t effective, she explains why people adopt these beliefs even though they’re not factually accurate: The flu does adapt each year, and creating the vaccine requires thorough research and prediction of which strains will be circulating in the upcoming flu season. Johns believes that, because the virus does adapt quicker some years, and some people do get the flu, people begin spreading stories about the flu shot that do not represent its effectiveness as a whole.

“People say, ‘my kid got the vaccine but got the flu,’ and they think it isn’t working [overall],” she says.

When it comes to the risks of the vaccine, people should know that the risks and complications associated with influenza are much more likely than vaccine injury. While vaccine injuries are easily sensationalized on social media, it is the complications associated with the flu that pediatricians and emergency room physicians are seeing day in and day out.

“The risk of complications from the flu, certainly for the person who has a compromised immune system, is much high[er] than the risk of getting the flu vaccine,” she explains. “Really, the risks of the flu vaccine are very minimal.”

Specifically, Johns says the risks associated with the vaccine are minor symptoms for up to 48 hours, including low energy and tenderness at the site of the injection for a couple of days.

“You can’t get the flu from the flu vaccine. This year, it is the injection of the flu vaccine … We’re not using the live nasal spray. You may get a little bit of an inflammatory reaction, but you cannot get the flu,” she explains further.

When it comes to serious complications of the vaccine, they are very few and far between. One specific complication that is a big fear among vaccine recipients is Guillain-Barré Syndrome; however, research has found the the risk for GBS among people who have received a flu vaccine is one or two out of every one million people. Additionally, this rare disease is actually more likely among individuals who have had the flu virus, not the flu vaccine, according to the CDC.

And concerning ADEM, which affects Marysue: the condition only affects 0.000008 percent of people in a year, and only 5 percent of those few cases might be related to a vaccine, according to the National Multiple Sclerosis Society. Although Marysue’s story is heartbreaking, it is only one story among hundreds of millions of safe uses of the flu vaccine.

Addressing Fears of the Flu Vaccine

It is important that parents address their fears of complications and understand how to distinguish between fact and fiction about the flu vaccine. Everyone over the age of 6 months should have a flu vaccine, according to Johns—even those who are pregnant or breastfeeding.

… we need to be good stewards for humanity and get [vaccinated] to protect ourselves, our children, our neighbors, and our community.

“The advice I have for parents is to carefully research their fears about vaccines,” suggests Mayer. “Use multiple authoritative, trusted sources. Fear primarily emanates from two sources: the unknown … and what we don’t understand. Information … eliminates those fears.”

Additionally, Mayer urges parents to make the experience as low-anxiety as possible for their children by remaining positive. Parents can practice role playing with their child before the shot, explaining to them exactly what will happen at the next visit. He warns against pretending it isn’t that big of a deal or suggesting it won’t hurt; instead, he urges parents to explain that it will hurt but only for a short time, and that they won’t get sick because of the shot.

Ultimately, the choice to vaccinate isn’t just about a single family or single child. Parents should consider how their choice will affect those around them, like other students in their child’s school or daycare.

“Even if you or your child could weather the flu without any difficulty … there are a lot of people with chronic medical problems who will not get through it without any trouble,” says Johns. “… we need to be good stewards for humanity and get it to protect ourselves, our children, our neighbors, and our community.”

… as much as you think you’ve baby- or child-proofed your home, there will always be something you didn’t realize could be harmful.

For mom of two Christina Moreland, author of the Secrets of the Super Mom series, learning by experience was what led her to become more aware of potential safety risks in her home.

Years ago, when her youngest son was 3, he took off to run laps around the house with his bigger brother.

“Then we heard a very strange cry from the other room,” she tells HealthyWay. “I went around [to] find Luke on the ground. He had slipped and fallen in his socks while chasing his brother. I got him up and he started crying, his eyes started rolling back into his head, and he began vomiting.”

Moreland immediately suspected a concussion and took her son to the ER right away. After a CT scan and some monitoring, her son was fine, but his unexpected injury completely changed the rules in their house.

“Now we never let him wear socks around the house, and running in the house is still not allowed,” she explains, admitting that last rule wasn’t so easy to enforce with two active boys.

Moreland’s story is exceptional in the sense that most parents wouldn’t think twice about their kids running in socks around the house. At the same time, there is something incredibly common about her story: something seemingly innocent was the source of her child’s injury.

Most new parents stock up on baby-proofing supplies when they first have a child, but in some cases, it isn’t enough. Thinking outside of the box and considering the unlikely just might help prevent an accidental injury in your home. Below are seven seemingly innocent things you probably wouldn’t expect to put your kids in harm’s way.

The Safety Devices That Could be Dangerous

It may be hard to believe, but your child’s infant car seat could actually cause an injury if you’re not careful. Even safety devices need to be used according to manufacturer guidelines to be truly safe.

Inside the car, children should always be snugly buckled. Children shouldn’t wear extra clothing, puffy coats, or have blankets beneath the harness, as this could be prevent the car seat from doing its job if you get into a wreck, wrote Emily A. Thomas, PhD, in an article for Consumer Reports.

Reports like those are giving more and more parents better understandings of proper car seat use while driving, but fewer understand the risks related to using them while shopping or at home.

For instance, using a detachable car seat in a shopping cart is a fairly common practice, but it is actually not recommended by manufacturers. Even though the clips appear to be perfect for hooking the seat in the child seat of the shopping cart, they’re not. In a 2017 study published in the journal Pediatrics, detachable infant car seats were found to be responsible for 19.5 percent of injuries caused by baby products, and a third of those injuries happened when the seat fell from an elevated surface, like the top of a shopping cart.

When used outside of the car, infant car seats should always be placed on the floor—and truthfully, children shouldn’t be spending an extended amount of time in them when you’re not driving.

A Risky Bedtime Routine

For many families, a bath before bed is an essential part of bringing their child’s day to a peaceful close. Of course, we would never suggest that parents stop bathing their kids before their bedtime story, but we certainly think that parents should take bath time safety very, very seriously.

“Most young children are taught to love water from a young age in an effort to make them enjoy bath time, but we often forget just how dangerous water can be,” advises Max Robinson, who writes for PreciousLittleOne, a parenting blog full of child-rearing and child safety advice.

Robinson urges parents to make sure they understand that drowning during bath time is a serious risk, even in just a few inches of water. Additionally, many parents simply don’t consider that their child may be able to work the tap themselves until an accident happens. Specifically, young children face the risk of burning themselves in the tub.

“Most taps will provide water that is hot enough to burn a young child,” Robinson says. “The best way to prevent these accidents from happening is to ensure that taps are not child-friendly. Items like the Tap Strap fit on most taps and will make it near impossible for your child to turn on the tap.”

Jump at Your Own Risk

At-home trampolines are a popular way for kids to get plenty of exercise and entertainment, but they are unfortunately a frequent source of injury for children of all ages. As the contraptions have become more popular, rates of injuries have increased, with as many as 3,164 hospitalizations due to trampoline injuries in a single year, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics.

In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics believes that the risk of injury is so great that they advise parents to forego buying at-home trampolines altogether.

“Pediatricians should counsel their patients and families against recreational trampoline use and explain that current data indicate safety measures have not significantly reduced injury rates and that catastrophic injuries do occur,” their website reads. And, for families who can’t let go of this beloved recreational equipment, the AAP recommends strict rules about one jumper at a time and constant adult supervision.

Risks Beneath Your Feet

According to Sokhom Som, global brand manager at Safety 1st, many parents focus so much on making sure the kitchen and living room are safe that they miss the hazards in other areas of their home.

“Hazards can be found … in any room, including the bathroom, home office, and bedrooms,” Som advises, and emphasizes looking out for things that would cause falls.

“Try to keep hallways clear of extra clutter such as laundry, shoes, or toys,” she urges.

“Accent rugs are often overlooked when safeguarding the home,” continues Som. “Removing them during the ‘learning to walk’ stage allows your toddler to bumble around with ease.”

Additionally, Som shares a few tips for making sure the bathroom is especially safe from falls: Parents should move all medicine into cabinets that are either locked or far out of reach of the child, Som says. Also, non-slip bath mats will help prevent a slip and fall on tile floors that have become slippery during bath time.

Unexpected Bedroom Risks

When it comes to baby-proofing your home, making sure your child’s bedroom is safe should be a top priority, as they will spend more time playing there independently as they grow older. Most parents likely have the electric outlets covered, but there are other risks that often get missed, according to Som.

First, parents should be certain that all dressers, bookcases, and other heavy furniture are carefully secured to the walls using furniture straps, like those offered by Safety 1st. Window blinds provide an unexpected risk, as well, because of dangling cords: parents should may sure these cords are securely tucked away to prevent a baby or toddler from becoming accidentally tangled, advises Som.

Baby Gate Mistakes

Having baby gates installed in your home is incredibly important, but just like any other safety device, you have to be certain you are using it properly if you really want to prevent an accident.

“Make sure to install gates specifically designed for [where you’re putting it],” says Som, as some are designed for doorways and others are designed for stairways.

“Don’t put pressure-mounted gates at the top of stairs, as they aren’t strong enough to prevent falls,” explains Som, who suggests the Safety 1st Ready to Install Gate, which is specifically meant for the top and bottom of stairs and to block off rooms.

Parenting is scary enough without worrying about safety hazards you’ve overlooked in your home.

If you are concerned about unexpected ways your child could get injured, there are a few things you can do to put your mind at ease.

“The best way to prevent home injuries with children is to crawl around your house on your hands and knees and look at everything from their eye level,” says Moreland. “What’s tempting to touch? What did you think you put away but is clearly not safe yet? Try to think intentionally about what could happen, because as much as you think you’ve baby- or child-proofed your home, there will always be something you didn’t realize could be harmful.”

Additionally, there are a lot of resources out there that parents can use to make sure they’ve covered all the bases when it comes to child safety. Specifically, Safety 1st has a “Make My Home Safe” calculator available for free online. This calculator walks parents through questions they may might not think of themselves and then recommends safety products specifically for their home.