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Navigating The World Of Mom Cliques

Becoming a mom at 22 really turned my social life upside down. I was among the first of my friends to become a mom, which meant that my life and theirs were suddenly drastically different.
While many of my friends were still going out in the evenings, my schedule was suddenly very full with balancing life with the newborn and working a job with unusual hours I picked up because we couldn’t afford childcare.
I was technically a working mom, but my schedule resembled that of stay-at-home mom since I was working overnights and weekends. It made sense to try to get in with a group of mom friends, but I was surprised to find that it wasn’t that simple. There appeared to be rules and guidelines that, although unspoken, excluded certain kinds of mothers.
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I found that it didn’t matter what my schedule looked like: Being a working mom excluded me from many stay-at-home mom circles. In most cases, it was unintentional, with their get-togethers scheduled during my working hours. There were times, however, when it was clear that they disagreed with my lifestyle, with one mother talking of the “sacrifices” she made to stay home full-time, another of how staying at home was the best choice for all families, and another offering unsolicited budgeting advice so I could quit my job.
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And then there were exclusions that were strangely specific. I noticed that some moms grouped together because of the way they chose to discipline their kids. Others were friends because they ate organic food and had natural childbirths. It was difficult to find a place where I felt I fit in. It was strange as a person who was new to the world of motherhood to see that social circles were forming just like they had in high school.

The World of Mom Cliques

It’s natural to gravitate towards other people who share your common interests, according to licensed clinical social worker Kimberly Hershenson, who specializes in working with mothers coping with various motherhood issues.
“Mom cliques are a way for women to feel united in their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs,” she says. “Being a mom can be difficult, so it’s natural to want to seek out like-minded people who understand what you’re going through.”

… some moms can be kind of apprehensive or distant or cold. I think there is insecurity that is always there.

For the most part, groups of moms that are friends are just that. They’re just groups who have formed because their kids are in school together or they have common interests. Many mom groups are open to new members—they’re not intentionally exclusive, according to Lynn Zakeri, a licensed clinical social worker who practices in the Chicago area.
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However, some groups do form on a foundation of exclusion. It all comes back to insecurity, says Nicole Zangara, a licensed clinical social worker and author of Surviving Female Friendships: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly. She believes exclusive groups form as a kind of buffer for these insecurities. Those insecurities create competition between moms who make different choices about how they parent.

“I find that, unless a mom or a woman has friends that she’s known, when she tries to meet other moms, some moms can be kind of apprehensive or distant or cold,” she explains. “I think there is insecurity that is always there.”

Are all mom cliques bad?

I chatted with other moms who, like me, found themselves looking for friends once they become a mother. We all agreed that there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to be included and being happy when you found a group of people who make you feel that you belong.
For this reason, a few of the moms said that their experience with cliques was largely positive. It was their chance to find companionship and support while they adjusted to their lives as a brand-new mom.

You gravitate toward people you have something in common with.

“I have friends that all became moms around the same time, and we have kept in touch all these years,” shares mom of two Kristel Acevedo. “We have a group text that we call ‘The Mommy Text.’ Sometimes the text gets annoying (because hello, group text!), but for the most part, it’s such an encouraging thing for me and all of us.”
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Dawn Alcott describes a similar experience, admitting that her mom clique isn’t all that stereotypical because it isn’t exclusive. They’re a group of moms who met while they were all serving on the PTA board at her kids’ school. She considers these moms to be her very best friends and says they’ve been through a lot together, but they are also always open to new members.
”I don’t think cliques are inherently bad,” she says. “You gravitate toward people you have something in common with. It’s not like we exclude others.”

When Good Cliques Go Bad

Although many moms I spoke with cited positive experiences with cliques, the same argument continued to arise. Most of the women, even those who had positive experiences in cliques, didn’t believe a clique is still a clique if it is inclusive. Once everyone and anyone is allowed, a group actually loses its title as a clique.

I do see a few groups that are, well, the same kind of people I saw forming groups like that in junior high.

The moms I spoke with were right. When it comes to the textbook definition of a clique, it has to be exclusive, and there have to be some spoken or unspoken rules or social norms. A group of moms who connect over common interests is not necessarily a clique, according to Hershenson; some friendships simply form because people share opinions, hobbies, or are located in the same area.

Lydia Markoff is one who shares how she found her crowd after becoming a mom. It’s a group of friends she’s met through the relationships her children formed, but she is quick to admit that there are other kinds of cliques in her community.
“I guess we kind of do have a mom clique, but it’s not exclusive,” she says. “I do see a few groups that are, well, the same kind of people I saw forming groups like that in junior high … insular, exclusive, and catty about it.”
It doesn’t bother Markoff much. She simply smiles and waves at the women in these groups, keeping her distance. Other moms, however, haven’t been able to ignore the cliques in their schools and towns.

“I’ve never felt completely comfortable in any mom groups,” shares Sharon Van Epps, a writer and mom of teens. “There are mom cliques for my kids’ sports teams, and I don’t fit in and it’s hard. Everyone’s very nice, but I don’t have the time to invest to try to work my way in in a more meaningful way.”
Epps certainly isn’t alone. Olivia Christensen, a mom of three, said her exclusion was less direct—it just kind of happened. After becoming a mom, she sought out others in her city through her local Mothers of Preschoolers, but she never quite felt she belonged. Everyone was friendly, but she felt like she was disrupting a group of close friends who were simply being kind because they were polite, not because they were looking for new friends.
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It may be hard to imagine, but some mom cliques go beyond simply snubbing others. Some groups of moms, bound together by common interests, go the extra mile and actively work against other moms to make their lives miserable. The most common story I heard was one of ghosting: women previously at home in a clique suddenly learning that they were no longer welcome.
“I was ghosted by the self-appointed leader of the mom group, and it was surprisingly painful,” confesses Kimberly McGee. “Felt like I was 12 again and had lost the tools I had gained through previous (teenage) experiences. Why does it feel so personal? I felt very immature for feeling so rejected.”
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Jody Allard, a mom of seven, shares that her experience with mom cliques has never been positive. Even when she felt she belonged to a clique, she was uncomfortable with the exclusive nature of these groups and eventually left; she was then was targeted for removing herself from the group.

Navigating the World of Mom Cliques

Unfortunately, it seems that rejection and exclusion is a part of looking for new friends. However, Hershenson advises moms looking for friends to avoid focusing on rejection or exclusion and instead focus on what they’re looking for in friendships.
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“It’s important to recognize what you want out of a friendship and what doesn’t work for you,” she says. “If you value close relationships that are supportive and free from drama, keep this in mind when you start focusing on feeling left out: Surrounding yourself with negativity will only make you feel worse, so focus on the positivity you do have in your life.”
Additionally, if you happen to have a rich social life, be careful to watch for others who may feel lonely or excluded. Try to remember what you first felt like as a mom looking for a way to connect with others.
As for me? I gave up on finding a single of group of friends to call my own. I realized that what I needed wasn’t a squad—it was a couple of intimate relationships with people who understood what I was going through. So I reconnected with a friend from college, joined a book club, and kept myself open to the possibility of building friendships with people who live lives that are different from mine.

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What We Can Learn From Women Who Cheat On Their Significant Others

When damning photos recently surfaced suggesting Ewan McGregor was cheating on his wife of 22 years, fans were shocked. Many took to social media to express their dismay that the Hollywood heartthrob wasn’t the “good guy” they had once thought, while others posted messages of support on his wife’s Instagram.
These reactions are typical of many tales of infidelity, which often have a similar result: sympathy for the cheatee and vilification of the cheater. But what about the perpetrator’s side of the story?
As much as it hurts, infidelity carries heavy, but important, life lessons for everyone involved, including the cheater. While this doesn’t always have a positive impact on both parties, it’s an experience that leaves a lasting impression nonetheless.
We spoke to five women who cheated to hear about their regrets, motivation, and, most importantly, lessons learned. We’ve changed their names to protect their identities. How did cheating change them, and what can they teach us about relationships and ourselves?

The Question of “Why”

Anyone who’s ever been cheated on knows the torment of that one question: Why did they do it?
Cheating may seem like a morally black and white issue. But much like relationships, every instance is unique and can even be quite complicated.
So why do people cheat? Is it because they’re bad people? If that was the case, then a lot of Americans would fall under that umbrella. According to one survey, 19 percent of Americans have cheated on a partner. But as much as the word “cheater” is thrown around as a derogatory label, cheating can happen for many different reasons.
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The five women who shared their experiences had very different stories to tell. One cheated as a response to being cheated on, another reached out to someone else at the end of a dying relationship, and there was more than one case of infidelity as a means to seek comfort from an abusive relationship.

Reason and Recovery

No matter the reason, Sofie says that cheating on someone is “never ever worth it—even if your partner is abusive or neglectful.”
“The particular flavor of sickly guilt is awful, and it will make you a worse person to have to build up the hundreds of micro-lies needed to get away with it,” she says.
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Because of this emotional burden, Sofie isn’t optimistic about the future of any relationship where cheating has occurred.
“I personally don’t think a relationship can recover fully from infidelity, whether it’s discovered or not,” she says. “As I said before, the relationship has now had to weather hundreds of big and little lies, and the cheater is always afraid of punishment—while the cheatee is always afraid of further infidelity.”
Chelsea has also noticed that being unfaithful can wreak havoc not just on a relationship, but on a cheater’s mentality.
“After I cheat, I always get an intense jealousy feeling, like how they mention the jealous ones are usually the guilty ones,” she says. “Because that’s exactly how I feel afterwards. When I don’t cheat, I don’t get that feeling at all.”
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One commonality between almost all of their stories is that the cheating was a symptom of a less than ideal relationship.
Kat learned the hard way that cheating can be a lesson on “how to fall out of love with someone.”
“I got so involved in the relationship, and everything felt so good, and I couldn’t possibly imagine how it would ever end, nor did I want to,” she says. “I see now how unhealthy that mindset was, and I understand how to be realistic about love.”

“Maybe next time (s)he’ll think before (s)he cheats.”

Cheating often happens when a relationship has stagnated. When things reach that point, it’s better to just end things rather than cheat.
“A one-sided break-up is always going to be painful, but you are doing a huge kindness to your significant other by being honest and ending things without delay,” she says.
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Jess has cheated on multiple partners in the past and agrees that it wasn’t the right reaction to a loss of attraction. She says she should have instead realized that her desire to cheat was a sign that things weren’t working.
“I should’ve broken up with my first and last ex when I felt very tempted to cheat, because I knew in my gut that I was unhappy in the relationship,” she says.

… it’s never had anything to do with my current partner.

However, cheating isn’t always about the other person. Sometimes infidelity is simply a reflection of what’s going on with the cheater. Zoe has realized that she has a tendency to sabotage her relationships by cheating.
“For one thing, it was a step on the way to learning how deeply self-destructive I am,” she says. “I do things that I know are terrible because in some way, I want them to bring me down. It’s a problem. I’m working on it.”
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Chelsea says that her cheating has no connection to how satisfied she is in her relationship.
“For me, it’s never had anything to do with my current partner,” she says. “We could have a perfect weekend away, and then an ex could text me, and I’d consider meeting up.”

The Picture of a Cheater

We’ve all watched enough movies and listened to plenty of heartbroken friends to learn that cheaters are always the villain of the story, right? Not always. It’s difficult to humanize someone who cheats without appearing to excuse their actions. At the same time, it’s important not to reduce someone to their actions alone.
“Different circumstances lead to different actions,” says Sofie. “People change.”
Much like Sofie, Jess doesn’t agree with the old adage of “once a cheater, always a cheater.” While she’s cheated in relationships in the past, she can’t see that happening with her current partner of three years.
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“There are many cheaters who cheat shamelessly and notoriously on many or all partners, but not everyone who cheats fall in this category,” she says. “It also doesn’t mean that the next relationship a ‘past cheater’ enters is doomed to also result in cheating.”
Her previous transgressions were a reaction to what she now realizes were abusive relationships. She says she’s never come close to being unfaithful in her current relationship and has resisted advances from others many times since—even from one of her partner’s close friends.
“I always decline their offer and refuse to give out my number because I’m happy and have no hidden feelings of curiosity about what else is out there,” she says. “Because my significant other is literally perfect for me, inside and out.”
Jess’ partner is well aware of her cheating in past relationships. She believes you should always disclose past cheating in a new relationship.

… I wanted to give him the opportunity to choose to be with me or not, given the full disclosure.

“Not everyone agrees with being so transparent or talking about their past, but I saw a long-term future with my significant other and wanted him to know who he was getting in bed with every night and planning his future with,” she says.
“This may seem contradictory because I don’t believe cheating defined me or the trajectory of my future relationships, but it’s a taboo in our society for good reason. It shows that the other partner may have a certain level of distrust for the partner who cheated in the past.”
Being open about her history did make commitment a little more difficult in the beginning of her relationship. But Jess knew it was important to let her partner decide if she was the person he wanted to be with, baggage and all.
“I didn’t want to mislead him by the omission of my two past cheating transgressions, and I wanted to give him the opportunity to choose to be with me or not, given the full disclosure,” she says. “We weren’t official for a few months as a result, but now it’s a non-issue.”

Surprise-Side Cheating

If these women’s stories tell us anything, it’s that our view of the heartless cheater isn’t always accurate. The circumstances surrounding their actions definitely challenge those negative assumptions, especially when abuse is involved.
One surprising revelation is that cheating doesn’t always come with regrets—and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. This is certainly the case for Jess, who cheated on her ex with her current partner.
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“I’m not proud of cheating, but I don’t regret it because I wouldn’t have been in the place in my life that I was when I met my significant other if I hadn’t been in a relationship with my ex,” she says.
The stigma surrounding cheating dictates that it should always be regretted. A display of regret plays a big part in how likely they are to be forgiven or excused for cheating. If someone doesn’t regret cheating, then what’s to stop them from doing it again?
The thing is a person can show remorse for their actions but still not regret them. By showing remorse, they fully acknowledge how they’ve hurt someone else and take full responsibility for their actions.
As Jess has shown, it’s possible to feel remorse for cheating but still not regret doing it. She was previously in an abusive relationship; after discovering she’d cheated, her ex kept her captive for hours. Even so, she’d do it all over again to be with her current partner.
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“While our beginning was condemnable and morally wrong, and I lived through depression and PTSD from my ex finding me out, I would still live through that all over again and make those same choices to be with my current significant other.”

What Makes a Cheater?

Given that there are many factors that can lead someone to cheat, there’s really no formula to predict if you or someone you know is capable of cheating. Sometimes infidelity is a result of a toxic relationship, but other times it’s simply a reflection of one person’s issues. But they do provide some insights for people who feel they may cheat or have cheated before.

I shouldn’t have let it consume me because it doesn’t define ‘me.’

If you have cheated in the past, you might not be dealing with the issues that have stemmed from the guilt. This is something that Jess had to face for her own mental wellbeing.
“I needed to learn how to forgive myself,” she says. “I carried a shameful burden for two years after cheating on my third ex for my current significant other.”
Just like Sofie explained, Jess felt the weight of her guilt for a long time.
“At the beginning, when I started cheating and sneaking around, I fell into a deep depression that stemmed from guilt,” she says. “It ate away at me on the inside—lying to my ex and leading what felt like a double life. I knew I should feel badly for what I had done, but I shouldn’t have let it consume me because it doesn’t define ‘me.’”
Of course, the best way to avoid these issues is to stop before it goes too far—even if you think your interactions with that other person are innocent.

“Emotional infidelity is just as serious as physical and almost always leads to the latter,” says Sofie. “Don’t fool yourself that ‘nothing happened’ if you’re talking to some guy like he’s your partner every day.”
She’s learned that it’s crucial to be realistic about how tempted you might be.
“If you’re worried that you might cheat, just don’t put yourself in any stupid situations,” she says. “Don’t drink around the person you fancy. Don’t text them. Don’t feed the crush. If you need to get out of your relationship, do that first, then think about whether you still want to chase this new person. If you don’t want to leave your relationship, water the grass there.”
Sofie’s message is blunt, but she speaks from experience. Cheating hurts, especially if that relationship is going to continue after the truth comes out.
Zoe cheated on her partner five years ago and says they’ve since “come back from it.” For her, cheating showed her just how much power she had over her partner’s wellbeing: a discovery that hurt them both.
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“I realized how much power I have in my relationship, for lack of a better term,” she says. “I hurt him more deeply than I thought was actually possible. I knew he would be angry when I told him—and I did tell him, right away—but I didn’t realize he would be so sad.”
“He really loves me. Like, a lot. That doesn’t seem like it should have been such a revelation after four years together, but there you have it. Whatever thrill it gave me to mess around with someone new wasn’t worth losing that.”

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How To Get Smells Out Of Tupperware (And Other Impossible Kitchen Hacks)

As a child, I loved to cook. After my parents gave me an American Girl cookbook for Christmas one year, cooking quickly became a favorite hobby of mine. By the time I was ten, I was able to cook a few favorite meals for my family—and a whole lot of baked goods.
As fun as it was for me, I think the cookbook was a gift my mom grew to regret. I may have been a good cook, but I was a messy one, too. I would leave flour scattered across the floor, stain my clothes, and always managed to break a plate or a glass.
Not a lot has changed in the time since. I’m great with food prep, but I always manage to trash my kitchen in the process. My walls are perpetually splattered with tomato sauce or bacon grease, and most of my t-shirts are littered with stains. Neatness simply isn’t my strong suit, to say the least.
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I have, however, been working on this fault of mine. I eventually realized that my failure to clean as I go (and my propensity for being excessively messy) was creating extra work for me. I was spending way, way too much time trying to make up for the disasters I’d created while cooking a simple dinner. Cleaning may not be my strongest skill, but I’m learning from some fellow moms, and a few experts cleaners, that it doesn’t have to be complicated.
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If the same messes and stains are continually getting to you, there might be a hack to make your life simpler. Need help, say, getting smells out of tupperware or scraping baked-on food from the microwave? Check out these genius hacks before throwing in the towel.

First, don’t throw that GladWare away.

I have to admit, I’ve thrown away an embarrassing amount of tupperware simply because they stunk—they stinky things were forgotten in the back of the fridge or left in a lunch bag over the weekend. But it turns out stained and smelly containers don’t have to be tossed.
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“Baking soda, ammonia, vinegar, and bleach are the four things you need to pretty much clean anything,” says Judy Woodward Bates—an author, speaker, and TV personality known as the Bargainomics Lady—who struggles with stinky tupperware no more. “Make a paste of baking soda and water and rub [it] onto stained plasticware, and let it stand for a few minutes before scrubbing and rinsing.”

A Non-Toxic Approach to Microwave Messes

Many people opt to avoid cleaning products in their microwave because of the fumes they can create if any cleaning product is left behind. But without the help of products, cleaning a microwave can be totally tedious, especially with all that food baked on.
This trick from Jeanne Eschenberg Sager, mother and self-professed “queen of doing as little as possible,” uses natural ingredients to get stubborn messes out of the inside of her microwave.
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“Fill a cup with a mixture of water and lemon juice,” she instructs. “Pop it in the microwave and let it ‘cook’ for a minute. It will loosen all the baked on gunk … in the microwave, so you don’t have to scrub at all. You can just wipe it right down!”

Don’t Despair Over Drink Spills

Nearly every time I host a dinner party or family get together, some dark beverage ends up all over my living room floor. There’s no need to rearrange furniture to cover up these stains. Home designer and creator of a machine-washable rug Lorena Canals has a few genius stain-removing hacks up her sleeve.
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For fruit-based juices, she advises starting with quickly soaking up as much of the spill as you can to avoid it soaking into the fibers of the carpet. Avoid scrubbing. Then, mix half a cup of hydrogen peroxide, half a cup of water, and one teaspoon of dish soap together to create a stain fighting solution.
“Using a clean sponge or cloth towel, gently blot this mixture onto the carpet … ,” she says. “Using a clean, dry, white cloth towel, gently blot … .”
Repeat the last two steps until the stain is completely gone.
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Coffee is another drink that can cause stubborn stains when spilled on rugs and carpet. Canals recommends beginning by drying the spilled coffee with a dry, white towel. Then, mix a fourth cup of vinegar with a quart of warm water. Spritz the mixture on the stain, rinse, and repeat until the stain is gone.

Rescue Your Favorite Coffee Mug

When you have three kids in four years like I did, coffee becomes the beverage of choice. Unfortunately, I often neglect my favorite mug overnight, and I’ve even left it in the car over the weekend.
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But see, I’ve found a couple different hacks that are perfect for dealing with stubborn tea or coffee stains. My first method of attack is a paste made from lemon juice and baking soda. I scrub it on, wipe it off, and rinse the cups clean.
If there is still a ring or stain in the cup, I fill the cup past the stain with undiluted vinegar, leave it overnight, and rinse it clean in the morning.

Set Yourself Free From Fingerprints

Stainless steel faucets are really hard to get—and keep—clean in most kitchens. Even after a good scrub, they start to show fingerprints after just a few uses. Fell fingerprints and water stains with this hack from Joanna Douglas, the owner of Clean Affinity, a home cleaning service in Portland, Oregon.
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“For cleaning faucets and other pipes, we use waxed paper. This method gets rid of fingerprints and small stains,” she explains.

Rid Your Clothes of Cooking Stains

I’m the worst about remembering to wear my apron while I’m cooking, which means I’m regularly battling stains on my clothes. When it comes to most stains, Douglas says that a mixture of dishwashing soap and salt will easily remove the stain in less than five minutes.
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For more serious stains, or stains that have been ignored for a bit too long, Lauren Haynes, supervisor at Star Domestic Cleaners, has a few tried and true hacks her company uses.
For butter stains, for instance, you should always begin by scraping, not scrubbing, as much of the butter as possible off of the clothing. Then, rub the spot with dishwashing soap, rinse, and repeat until all of the butter and soap are gone. Before washing the clothing, pretreat the stain with a stain remover and wash on the hottest setting.
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“For gravy and ketchup stains, begin with removing the excess material and blot with a clean, white cloth,” she says. “Then mix two cups of cool water with a tablespoon of liquid dishwashing detergent. Apply the solution to a white cloth, and blot [the spot] until the liquid is absorbed. If necessary, repeat the process until the spot is gone. To remove the remaining cleaning solution, blot the area again with another cloth rinsed in cool water. At the end, blot dry, and you are done.”

Scrub Away Soap Scum

The tile, sinks, and faucets often become problem areas in kitchens because of soap scum and residue.
It’s a special kind of frustrating—soap is the chosen one! It was said that it would destroy the scum, not join it; bring cleanliness to the sink, not leave it in filth.
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Fortunately, you don’t need a store-bought solution to get rid of soap scum. Simply create a paste from one cup of baking soda and a few tablespoons of vinegar. Apply this paste to areas with soap residue, and use a sponge to scrub away.

Never Dust Cabinet Tops Again

Early this year, I painted our kitchen a fresh coat of white. Climbing the counters to paint hard to reach areas, I was horrified to find a thick layer of dust settled in the space between the top of my cabinets and the ceiling. It was the biggest pain to clean up, taking several rags just to get the top layer of dust and dirt wiped away. I wish I had spoken with Woodward years ago, when we first moved into this home.
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“If you have kitchen cabinets that don’t go all the way to the ceiling, cut or fold newspaper to cover the tops of the cabinets,” she suggests. “Instead of spending ages cleaning built-up gunk off your cabinets, just change out the paper from time to time.”

Stop Wiping Away Toast Crumbs

If your toaster leaves a sprinkle of toast crumbs on your counter every morning, it’s probably time for a deep clean of this kitchen appliance. I’m embarrassed to say that, until just recently, I had no clue that there was a “right” way to clean out a toaster.
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As it turns out, each toaster has spring loaded trays on the bottom that can be completely removed. These trays catch most of the crumbs. Once you’ve unplugged your toaster, you can remove them, dump them, and give them a good soak in soap and water.
Oh, and before putting it back together, use a pastry brush to free crumbs trapped in other areas of the toaster, and wipe the toaster down with vinegar for good measure.
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Can Women Live Well During Menopause?

Catherine, 62, first began experiencing perimenopause, or the span of time when a woman’s body transitions out of its reproductive years, when she was in her early forties.

During perimenopause, a woman’s estrogen levels rise and fall irregularly, which can produce signs that the body is entering a new season of life: For Catherine, the early signal her body gave was irregular menstrual periods.
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“I never knew when I would get my period,” she says. “It was challenging because it would catch me off guard, and my period would show up when I was unprepared to deal with it. I finally started carrying tampons with me at all times so I could deal with ‘surprise’ periods.”
In addition to an unpredictable menstrual cycle, Catherine encountered extreme hot flashes, both in the daytime and nighttime: “The night sweats [were] so severe that I would have to change my pajamas two to three times during the night because they would be so wet.”
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By the time Catherine’s symptoms ceased, she had endured them for 10 years, which she acknowledges was unexpected. “I started perimenopause in my early forties, and by the time the hot flashes finally stopped, I was in my fifties,” she says.
Due to a family history of cardiac issues and breast cancer, Catherine chose not to pursue any treatments—like hormone replacement therapy—to manage her symptoms throughout menopause.

So, is it necessary for women to struggle with menopausal symptoms for years on end?

Menopause is a fact of life, yet many women feel unprepared or misinformed about the shifts their bodies will encounter as they move through this life change. They’ve heard the less-than-favorable remarks regarding menopause, though, which can make this natural rite of passage sound like a terrible experience.
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Below, we’ll take a more detailed look at menopause, its symptoms, and ways women can thrive during this transitional time in their lives.

Menopause Explained—and Some Signs and Symptoms

Megan Schmitt is a board-certified OB/GYN and an associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Minnesota. Schmitt provides the following explanation of menopause: “Menopause is the permanent cessation of menstruation that occurs after the loss of ovarian activity. Basically, the ovaries stop the production of estrogen and progesterone—two main female hormones—to [below] the amount that it takes to prepare an egg and ovulate every month.”
“To reach this definition,” she clarifies, “a woman has to have a lack of periods for 12 calendar months.”
Yet symptoms associated with this transition appear much earlier than the twelfth month of no periods—often seven years prior, reports the National Institute on Aging, but occasionally up to 14.
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On the stages of menopause, Schmitt notes:

  • In the United States, the average age of menopause is around 51, but the age of onset can vary widely among women.
  • The symptom-laden time interval before the complete cessation of periods, as noted earlier, is called “perimenopause,” or the menopause transition. (The time after menopause, naturally, is called “postmenopause.”)
  • The duration and severity of symptoms during the stages of menopause are different for each woman.

When entering perimenopause, Schmitt says, “It is the fluctuation of hormone levels and decreasing estrogen levels that causes the physiologic changes and the clinical symptoms.” These symptoms can include:

  • Hot flashes
  • Night sweats
  • Irregular periods
  • Itching and dryness
  • Pain during intimacy
  • Weight changes
  • Sleep changes (due to night sweating)
  • Mental changes

Additionally, the Mayo Clinic reports that woman may experience a slower metabolism, thinning hair, dry skin, a decrease in the fullness of breasts, and urinary incontinence throughout the menopause transition.

Rebecca’s Story

Rebecca, 48, was in her early forties when she experienced the first signs her body was undergoing a significant change. She began having hot flashes, and after seeing a specialist in gynecology/endocrinology, he confirmed she was perimenopausal.
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In the years that followed, Rebecca says she developed night sweats, anxiety, depression, mood swings, bouts of confusion, irregular periods, food cravings, trouble sleeping, and weight gain.
Rebecca has sought assistance for her symptoms by trying hormone replacement therapy and increasing her antidepressant dosage. She hopes these treatments will bring her relief as she navigates the uncharted waters of menopause, but she fears these options may not be enough for her to feel in control of this time in her life.
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In reality, many women struggle with a whole host of undesirable symptoms as they approach and go through menopause. But what treatment options are available to support women, emotionally and physically, and make the second stage of their lives equal to or better than the first?

Ways to Reduce Symptoms

“Many women come to their routine yearly exam and say, ‘I want to talk about hot flashes [because they are] really bad,’” says Schmitt. She notes that many women are not aware of just how common their symptoms are.
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Yet no two women experience the stages of menopause in the same way. And because it is such a crucial and broad issue, Schmitt suggests that women make an additional appointment with their healthcare providers to discuss any uncertainties they have. Then, the provider can better understand their concerns and make the appropriate treatment recommendations.
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While it’s important to discuss your specific set of symptoms with your doctor, the following are non-hormonal possibilities that may warrant some consideration when looking to ease the transition from peri- to postmenopausal:

  • Phytoestrogens: These are plant-derived substances with estrogen-like effects. Examples of phytoestrogens include soybeans, soy products, red clover, flax seeds, and yams. Schmitt says these foods, especially soy products, are popular choices for women because people who consume them tend to have fewer hot flashes.
  • Herbal Remedies: There are many herbal remedies on the market, but some of the more common supplements used to reduce the symptoms of menopause include black cohosh, ginseng, St. John’s wort, and ginkgo biloba. “We do not recommend some of these herbal supplements for women on blood thinners,” Schmitt cautions, “as it can increase the risk of bleeding.” These remedies should also not be used to treat depression.
  • Treatments for dryness/itching: During menopause, it’s not uncommon for women to experience symptoms like dryness, itching, and pain during intimacy. Localized moisturizers, Schmitt says, can help restore moisture to the tissues.

Though the above treatments can be obtained without prescriptions, note, again, that you should always consult your doctor before using them. They shouldn’t replace your doctor’s recommended treatment, though they may be able to supplement it and further increase your quality of life.
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In addition, women may want to incorporate the following:

  • Lifestyle changes: Schmitt suggests that some lifestyle changes which may help women control their fluctuating body temperatures. Those changes include wearing layered clothing, decreasing the room temperature, and consuming cool beverages. Additionally, she recommends avoiding caffeine, as it’s associated with the increased severity and frequency of hot flashes.
  • Exercise: Many women notice improvements in their symptoms when they add cardiovascular exercise and weight training to their workouts. Plus, weight training increases lean muscle mass, which can reduce weight changes associated with menopause. Additionally, introducing meditation and other relaxation exercises can reduce the occurrence of hot flashes.
  • Non-hormonal prescription medications: In some instances, women find success using non-hormonal medications to mitigate the vasomotor (hot flashes, night sweats) symptoms of menopause. These medications include many antidepressants and the anti-seizure medication called gabapentin. Never take these medications without a prescription, and even then, make sure your doctor knows you’re using them to mitigate vasomotor symptoms.

On Hormone Replacement Therapy

The topic of HRT is vast. Many studies show a relationship between extended HRT and breast cancer, according to research in Obstetrics & Gynecology. Schmitt, though, notes (and The American College of Gynecologists & Obstetricians would agree) that it’s an effective treatment for hot flashes, night sweats, osteoporosis, and dryness/itching.
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“Systemic therapy, with estrogen alone or in combination with progesterone, is the most effective therapy for the treatment of vasomotor symptoms,” Schmitt says, though hormones “should not be used for the prevention of heart disease or strokes.”
“The goal is to use the lowest amount of hormones to control symptoms for the shortest duration of time,” she adds. “HRT is a very safe and effective treatment when initiated at the time of menopause for the treatment of symptoms.”
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When used under the guidance of a knowledgeable practitioner, HRT can be a valuable tool for women to feel their best. But it needs to be tailored to each woman and at the lowest possible dose to achieve the desired outcomes. Talk with your doctor regarding the benefits and risks of taking HRT.

“I hear a [certain] quote from patients on a daily basis,” Schmitt says.

“‘There’s a lot about aging that people don’t tell you!’ [So] it is important for women to not only talk about these issues with each other but also with their healthcare professionals.”
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“Most women feel uncomfortable discussing [the symptoms of] menopause,” she continues, “but these are common issues, and treatment can improve women’s personal lives tremendously if they have the confidence to discuss these issues with their doctors.”

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Should We Be Cool With Taking Cold Showers?

While the cold shower is long-known for its libido-stymieing properties, the topic of voluntarily lowering the temperature of your water has recently become, well, hot.
It seems that everyone from YouTubers to health bloggers, and even perhaps someone you live with, is testing the benefits of cold showers. Considering all of the acclaim it has received, it’s difficult not to jump in on this trend.
However, we’d be remiss if we forget the fact that it is a cold shower. Instead of spending a few minutes of your day basking in hot water and letting your cares slip away, you’ll be freezing, probably shivering, and cursing the water that’s traipsing around on your skin.
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But are the benefits worth the terror? Here we examine if, just like champagne, showers are better on ice.

Hair and Skin Benefits

Cold water showers can make you glow so hard that J. Lo will be jealous. From its color-complementing abilities to its cuticle-calming charm, even harmed hair can get a heavenly helping from some hardly-heated H2O. And your skin can get a heaping of this help with a dash of cold to remedy some cold-weather woes.

Forget what you’ve heard, your hair likes it cold.

Looking to get your hair luscious, smooth, and fabulous enough to star in its own shampoo commercial? If so, taking a cold shower may be your ticket to stardom.
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You may not have known this, but your hair loves cold water. It has a thing for the way the chilly liquid wraps itself around each strand, leaving it close to frozen. But it’s not because your hair secretly wants to be a polar bear; your hair likes cold water because of how it makes it look.
Cold water flattens ruffled cuticles—the outermost part of the hair shaft—and seals them, helping to keep in moisture. The result is hair that looks smooth, shiny, and healthy. And since warm water helps the cuticle to open, which allows the shampoo and conditioner to do their jobs, it’s a good idea to give your coif a final rinse with some cool water.
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You’ll come out of the shower feeling a little more chilly than usual, but one step closer to landing a prestigious hair modeling contract. Well, maybe not, but it will still look pretty dang luxurious.

Cold water knows that color that good isn’t meant to fade.

Those who dye their hair have a love/hate relationship with warm water. Although it does a fantastic job of removing buildup and other material that can make your hair color look less than vibrant, it can also suck the hue right out of it. So along with your gorgeous color going down the drain, so will the money you spent on getting it to look that way.
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Instead of using color-fading warm water, go for the cold, says long-time hair dye enthusiast Macey Milstead.
“Whenever any water touches my hair, it has got to be cold—and I mean freezing cold,” says the stay-at-home mother of two. “This prolongs the vibrant, unnatural colors I dye my hair with.”
Milstead has long been a fan of bright and bold shades and finds that certain colors are more difficult to maintain than others.
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“Currently, I am a hot pink beauty,” the Atlanta resident says of her hair. “It is one of the fastest fading colors. If I use hot water, the colors bleed so fast. If I use cold, the water comes out virtually clear when rinsed.”
The chilly water also helps to keep her hair shiny and reduces the amount of damage it endures, says Milstead.

Cool water can stop your skin from being so extra and just chill out already.

If the idea of freezing cold water against your skin doesn’t exactly make you feel warm and cozy, you’re not alone. After all, the point of taking a shower is to be comfortable and surrounded by all that steamy goodness. But no matter how amazing that warm water feels, it’s not doing your skin any favors.

As our external barrier breaks down, the skin becomes more prone to irritation.

“Hot water tends to strip natural skin oils and moisturizing factors from the out layer (epidermis) of the skin,” says Tyler Hollmig, MD, director of Laser and Aesthetic Dermatology at Stanford Health Care. “After the hot shower water evaporates, the skin is left dry, flaky, and is prone to rashes and irritation. This is one of the major reasons that eczema often flares during the winter.”
But eczema sufferers aren’t the only ones who experience issues while using warm or hot water when bathing: Just about everyone is affected.
“A colder, drier ambient climate, coupled with the temptation to take a long, hot shower, reduces the skin’s ability to keep itself fit and moist,” says Hollmig. “As our external barrier breaks down, the skin becomes more prone to irritation.”
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Instead, Hollmig recommends taking lukewarm or cold showers for 10 minutes or less, as the cooler water temperature is less likely to damage the skin’s external layers. And skip heavy-duty exfoliants and aggressive use of the loofah, as well. Although they work well at removing dead skin, they can wreak havoc on healthy skin, too.

Psychological Benefits

It may sound crazy, but taking a cold shower is thought to come with psychological benefits.

Bye, bye, blues.

After a long, hard day, one of the most enjoyable and relaxing activities a person can partake in is a nice, steamy shower or bath. But if you’re washing yourself with warm water, you might not just be washing away some stress.
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The bad news is depression affects more than 16 million American adults each year according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. The good news, however, is that taking a cold shower may decrease the symptoms.
According to a study published in Medical Hypotheses, cold showers can provide anti-depressive properties because of the effect they have on the sympathetic nervous system and the chemicals that are released in the brain during the shower. And because of the cold receptors in the skin, the icy water will send electrical impulses from the peripheral nerve endings to the brain. This feeling, says the study, may counteract depression.

Who needs coffee?

Sure, warm showers in the morning feel good, but are they good for your energy level? Warm and relaxing showers cause you to do just that: relax. The steamy water makes your brain and body think it’s time to snuggle up and get your chill on (not temperature-wise). But when you’re just waking up, this is likely the opposite of what you want, as a relaxed body is more inclined to hop back into bed than to take the day on with guns blazing.

Cool or cold showers can be invigorating by releasing endorphins and increasing heart rate …

That shocking little wake-up call of cold water will cause your body to experience an adrenaline rush, which can result in an energy boost. And it can leave you feeling good, too, says Catherine Forest, MD, family medicine physician at Stanford Health Care.
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“Cool or cold showers can be invigorating by releasing endorphins and increasing heart rate,” she says, “which some people find appealing.”
So, the next time you’re contemplating sleeping in and potentially losing your job, hop in a chilly shower instead.

Overall Health Benefits

Cold showers aren’t just good for your hair, skin, and mind. They can also improve the wellness of your entire body.

Your body + cold water = a match made in circulation heaven.

Having good circulation in your body means you’re getting enough blood, oxygen, and nutrients to all of your organs. When things aren’t running as well as they could, you may experience tingling, pain, muscle cramps, and numbness, which is a sign that certain parts of your body aren’t getting the amount of blood they need to perform optimally.

Cold or coolness can decrease inflammation from injury … by increasing blood flow in the body as a whole.

These issues, however, aren’t anything a blast of cold water can’t fix, or at least possibly improve. Poor circulation is actually a symptom of something else going on in your body. In order to completely eliminate poor circulation, you’ll need to find out the underlying cause. But until then, cool water on the skin may do the trick.
Treating yourself to a cold shower causes blood to surround your organs, which may improve your health. It also helps your arteries pump blood more efficiently, which is good for your heart and the rest of your body, as well. Cold showers may also help with inflammation and injury.
“Cold or coolness can decrease inflammation from injury—although site-specific cold’s usually recommended—or by increasing blood flow in the body as a whole,” says Forest.

Wash away excess weight.

And if cold showers haven’t already worked their way into your heart, this might do it: These potentially uncomfortable plunges may help you lose weight.
Oh yes, shivering in the shower can stimulate weight loss, but it’s not because of the teeth-chattering cardio you’ll endure. It’s because of your new best friend, otherwise known as brown fat.
Your body contains two types of fat: white fat and brown fat. White fat takes up real estate in your body when you take in more calories than you burn. It’s responsible for making your clothes feel too tight and problem areas on your thighs, neck, waist, stomach, and arms. Basically, it’s the bad fat.
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Fortunately, there’s someone else in your body who wants to kick that white fat to the curb: brown fat. Just like with cholesterol, fat has a good form and a bad form. Brown fat is the good form, as it insulates your body. And just like goose bumps, this fat is activated by exposure to cold temperatures. This means that spending time under cold cascading water can encourage healthy fat to form.

Want to take the plunge?

Although we’d like to tell you that jumping straight into a bone-chilling shower is going to be a cake walk, we can’t if we’re being honest. If you’re not a “jump in and get it over with” kind of person, start by ending your wash with a short little blast, and increase the torture, er, time, with each shower.
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Yes, it will probably be shocking, and yes, there’s a chance you may hate every second of it. But when you experience the potential health benefits that spending just a little part of your day colder than you care to admit can have, you will likely think it’s worth it.

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Here's What To Know About Early-Onset Alzheimer's

Bill Gates recently announced he will invest $100 million to help find a cure for Alzheimer’s disease. The degenerative brain disease has struck several men in the billionaire tycoon’s family, as well as around 5.5 million Americans.

“My family history isn’t the sole reason behind my interest in Alzheimer’s,” Gates wrote in his personal blog. “But my personal experience has exposed me to how hopeless it feels when you or a loved one gets the disease. We’ve seen scientific innovation turn once-guaranteed killers like HIV into chronic illnesses that can be held in check with medication. I believe we can do the same (or better) with Alzheimer’s.”

As such, Gates is dropping half of the massive amount of dough into the Dementia Discovery Fund, a private group that is working on identifying new targets for treatments and attempting to “diversify the clinical pipeline.” The other $50 million is going to start-ups working on Alzheimer’s treatments.

“There are plenty of reasons to be optimistic about our chances: our understanding of the brain and the disease is advancing a great deal,” he wrote. “We’re already making progress—but we need to do more.”

Alzheimer’s is categorized into three types: early-onset, late-onset, and familial. More is known about late-onset and familial Alzheimer’s, although 13 percent of early-onset cases are familial. Early-onset occurs in people who are younger than 65 and is rare, accounting for only about 5 percent of the Alzheimer’s population. Those with early-onset also experience more of the brain changes that come with Alzheimer’s than those who develop it later on in life do.

Alzheimer’s Disease 101

Alzheimer’s disease is most commonly known for its devastating ability to wipe out the memory of those who have it. Over time, however, it will also damage the person’s thinking skills, leaving them unable to perform even the simplest tasks.

Discovered in 1906 by Dr. Alois Alzheimer, the condition also creates significant changes in a person’s brain.

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Dr. Alois Alzheimer (National Library of Medicine via the Bernard Becker Medical Library)

“Two abnormalities central to the disease are plaques and tangles,” says Heather M. Snyder, PhD and Senior Director of Medical and Scientific Operations at the Alzheimer’s Association.

“Plaques are formed by clumps of beta-amyloid protein that interfere with cell-to-cell communication in the brain. Tangles occur when tau protein in the brain—a key component in the brain’s transport system—twist into abnormal tangles, disrupting delivery of nutrients and other essential materials within the brain.”

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Beta-amyloid-peptide

“Researchers are working to better understand the precise role plaques and tangles play in the disease and how to prevent or slow their development.”

The damage begins in the hippocampus, the part of the brain that is responsible for holding onto memories. Over time, and as more neurons die, other parts of the brain are affected. Eventually, the brain can experience significant shrinkage and prevent people from engaging in simple tasks like eating.

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Plaque composed of beta-amyloid

Although it is listed as the sixth leading cause of death in Americans, the disease isn’t usually what kills. Rather, the complications that come with the disease are thought to cause death. For example, a person who is bedridden because of Alzheimer’s may develop a fatal blood clot. Weight loss and other complications can result in a weakened immune system, which can lead to problems that may end in death.

Symptoms of Early-Onset Alzheimer’s Disease

Alzheimer’s is the most common type of dementia, a syndrome that includes a combination of memory loss and the inability to perform simple tasks that is so significant it affects a person’s daily life. Alzheimer’s disease accounts for 60 to 80 percent of all dementia cases.

Early-onset Alzheimer’s differs from late-onset and familial in that it typically appears when a person is in their forties or fifties, as opposed to when they’re 65. And although memory loss and confusion happen to even the healthiest brains from time to time, it’s worrisome when it happens progressively more than usual.

But it’s more than forgetfulness that is a cause for concern.

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Other symptoms of early-onset Alzheimer’s include trouble with time and place, difficulty completing familiar tasks, challenges in planning and problem solving, trouble speaking, misplacing things, withdrawal, and decreased or poor judgment.

Who gets Alzheimer’s?

Unfortunately, when it comes to Alzheimer’s, just about everyone is game. However, genetics do play a factor. Your chances of getting Alzheimer’s, either early-onset or late-onset, are increased if you have a parent or sibling who is affected, says Snyder.

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Familial Alzheimer’s, however, is a whole different ball of wa
x. Just like early-onset, familial Alzheimer’s is rare, affecting only about 2 percent of the Alzheimer’s population. It is the result of a mutation that affects one to three genes that are known to aid in the development of Alzheimer’s: PSEN1, PSEN2, and AAP. Those who have relatives with familial Alzheimer’s are just about guaranteed to inherit the condition, as well.

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Alzheimer’s is also more prevalent in certain groups, and researchers aren’t sure why that is.

“Current estimates indicate that African Americans are twice as likely to develop the disease,” Snyder says. “Hispanics are one-and-one-half times as likely. People living with Down’s syndrome are at higher risk, and two-thirds of Americans with Alzheimer’s are women.”

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Researchers are currently examining what mechanisms and underlying biology may be contributing to why the disease targets certain people, including genetics, and variations in health, lifestyle and environmental risk factors, she says.

Is genetic testing worth it?

Since medical professionals have identified which genes affect Alzheimer’s, it makes sense to wonder if genetic testing to determine if you will develop the disease is beneficial. The problem is that the tests don’t provide a definitive answer, says Snyder.

“Unless a person has familial Alzheimer’s that guarantees Alzheimer’s (2 percent or fewer of all cases), a genetic test will only indicate if someone is at greater or lower risk for the disease,” she says. “The Alzheimer’s Association cautions against routine genetic testing for Alzheimer’s disease risk until an individual has received proper counseling and understands the information necessary to make an informed decision, including the social and economic factors that could be impacted by having this genetic information.”

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In other words, you’ll need to ask yourself if finding out that you might have a greater chance of developing Alzheimer’s than the next guy does is worth the effect it may have on your life. Since you won’t receive a definite answer of whether or not you’ll have the condition, it may not be worth the what-ifs you’ll likely experience after receiving the results.

After the Diagnosis

Receiving a late-onset Alzheimer’s diagnosis isn’t a walk in the park. But finding out you have early-onset Alzheimer’s is typically worse.

It’s life changing, not only for the person receiving the diagnosis but for their loved ones as well.

Those with early-onset often begin experiencing symptoms while they are still working. This can create problems that people who develop the condition later on in life don’t usually have to worry about, says Snyder. They may find it gets increasingly difficult to perform their duties at the same level they did prior to the diagnosis and may also lose their jobs because of it.

As such, providing for their families, paying college tuition for children, and keeping up with the mortgage can become a struggle, particularly if the person with Alzheimer’s is the primary financial provider for the family. Because they are younger, they may not have the financial means to be able to retire. And since Alzheimer’s is a progressive disease, it only gets worse and worse.

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“It’s life changing, not only for the person receiving the diagnosis but for their loved ones as well,” Snyder says. “Following a diagnosis, it’s important for the individual and family members to educate themselves about the disease, available treatments, and care and support services that can help navigate current and future challenges associated with the disease, including the emotional aspects of coming to terms with a diagnosis.”

And although there isn’t currently a cure for Alzheimer’s, medications are available that can help to manage the symptoms. Participation in trials is also encouraged, as patients have access to treatment therapies that are in development that they may not otherwise.

What to do if you Think You May Have Early-Onset Alzheimer’s

Age-related changes in memory and thinking are expected. Experiencing them in your thirties, forties, or fifties, however, is a bit worrisome, and something you should definitely get checked out, cautions Snyder.

“Most everyone experiences occasional memory lapses, but when memory or cognition issues become more frequent and start interfering in your daily life—it’s important to be evaluated by a physician,” Snyder suggests. “Having trouble with memory does not mean you have Alzheimer’s. Many health issues can cause problems with memory and thinking.”

Joining the cause can help families facing the disease know they are not alone in their fight.

Thyroid problems, depression, drug interactions, excessive alcohol use, and certain vitamin deficiencies can all cause dementia-like symptoms, says Snyder. But the good news is that when the issues are caused by a treatable condition like these, the damage may be reversed.

Receiving an early-onset Alzheimer’s diagnose may seem like something you can’t come back from. Having a loved one find out they have it can also make your world feel like it will never be the same again. And although you may face challenges, you can provide hope by joining the fight against Alzheimer’s, says Snyder.

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“You can volunteer at your local Alzheimer’s Association office, participate in fundraising events such as the Walk to End Alzheimer’s and The Longest Day, advocate for more research funding, or sign up to participate in a clinical study as a healthy volunteer through the Alzheimer’s Association Trial Match,” she says. “Joining the cause can help families facing the disease know they are not alone in their fight.”

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4 Skinny Cocktails For New Year's

The countdown to the New Year is here! Call up the friends, gather together with your favorite people, and prepare to pop the bubbly. Or better yet, prepare to start the New Year off right with these four low-cal cocktails, which incorporate less sugar and more natural ingredients than the classics.
From simple twists on mimosas to a beautiful star-kissed vodka sparkler, you can cut calories and still enjoy sipping pretty drinks with these four fun ideas. We’ve added a little bit of luck to some, a lot of kombucha to another, and a list of everything you need to know to be your own bartender this year.
And if your New Year’s goals include no drinking, cheers to you! We’ve included a quick list of easy swaps you can make to any of these drinks, turning them from cocktails to mocktails in less than a minute.

Raise your champagne flutes! Shine those rocks glasses! These easy drinks are the perfect the New Year’s party accessory. Added bonus: They’re low-cal enough that you can enjoy them throughout January should cutting calories be one of your goals. Calorie counting aside, the thing we love best about these sippers is how splendidly tasty they are. If you already like New York Sours, you’re going to love our New Year’s Sour. And the Pom Mimosa may just become your new favorite way to sip fruit juice.

NEW YEAR’S KOMBUCHA SOUR

138 calories

If you’ve ever had a New York Sour, this cocktail will taste familiar. A classic NY Sour starts with a whiskey and sweet and sour base, then it’s spiked with a red wine float up top, creating a beautiful two-toned drink that is surprisingly sippable.
Here, we’re nixed the sugary, hi-cal sweet and sour mix and swapped it for lemon kombucha. This alone cuts the calories nearly in half (just 60 calories for eight ounces of kombucha vs. 114 calories for an equal amount of sweet and sour). Instead of whiskey, we opted for a naturally sweet bourbon to offset the sour. Then we topped it off with half an ounce of wine. Though any red wine will do, a red blend is our go-to pick. It lends a natural sweetness, which pairs nicely with the sour kombucha.

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Though the drink is typically served over ice and without garnish, we opted to use all chilled ingredients and a festive sprig of rosemary to finish off the glass. However, it looks just as lovely over the rocks.
The flavors here are sophisticated and satisfying: a little sour, a little caramel, and the mellow kiss of wine.

New Year’s Kombucha Sour

Makes one serving

  • ½ cup lemon kombucha, chilled
  • 1½ oz bourbon, chilled
  • ½ oz red blend wine
  • Rosemary or thyme garnish (optional)

In a rocks glass, combine kombucha and bourbon (add ice, if desired).
Gently pour wine over the back of a spoon so the wine floats atop the drink. If desired, garnish with rosemary or fresh thyme.

POM MIMOSA

116 calories

Orange juice and champagne: What could be better than a simple mimosa? Well…we’re about to one-up the classic with this ruby pomegranate mimosa made with almond champagne.
If you’ve never tried almond champagne, you’re not alone! It can be hidden among the bottles of regular champagne, but it is well worth hunting out. Slightly sweet with a touch of amaretto flavor, this drink is a great way to elevate the flavor of your mimosa without needing lots of special liqueurs.

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In this version, we’ve paired almond champagne with pure pomegranate juice. Available in the refrigerated juice section of most grocery stores, this lightly sweet juice makes for a beautiful drink, with a mellow fruit flavor that pairs nicely with champagne. A little goes a long way here.
You’ll need just three tablespoons of juice for one drink. It it usually purchased in 12 or 16 ounce containers, so you can make five or six cocktails with every bottle of pom juice.
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Perhaps pomegranate juice isn’t your favorite? No worries! Just about any fruit juice will do here. Look for fresh-pressed or cold-pressed juice for the best flavor. A fruit-and-vegetable juice blend also makes a surprisingly delicious mimosa twist. If you can find an apple-beet-carrot combo or pineapple-pepper-lemon juice, swap it in! You might be surprised at just how versatile mimosas can be.

Pom Mimosa

Makes one serving

  • 3 Tbsp. pomegranate juice, chilled
  • ½ cup almond champagne, chilled
  • Sugared rosemary for garnish (optional)

Pour pomegranate juice and champagne into a champagne flute. If desired, garnish with sugared rosemary.

PINK CHAMPAGNE FLOAT

151 calories
If you’re a fan of “church punch,” this one’s for you. Pretty, pink, and bubbly, this simple champagne cocktail starts with a scoop of sorbet, then adds a pour of pink champagne over the top, creating a fizzy cocktail that is mildly sweet and perfectly celebratory.
Perhaps one of the best things about this cocktail is all of the variations to which it lends itself. Use pink champagne, regular champagne, or an almond champagne. Pair with any variety of sorbet or gelato, depending on the desired color. Match your cocktails to your party colors by switching up the sorbet. We used a light pink strawberry sorbet to match the blush pink of rosé. Raspberry sorbet will give your cocktail a bright punch of color. Vanilla blueberry gelato gives the slightest tint of lavender—it also pairs beautifully with almond champagne.

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Create a table full of rainbow cocktails by letting guests choose between lime, orange or mango, lemon and raspberry sorbets.

Pink Champagne Float

Makes one serving

  • 3 Tbsp. strawberry or raspberry sorbet
  • ½ cup pink champagne
  • Colored sparkling sugar (optional)

Place a 3 Tbsp. scoop of sorbet in a coupe champagne glass. Pour champagne in glass. If desired, rim glass with colored sparkling sugar before filling.

LUCKY STAR SPARKLER

114 calories (221 with fortune cookie)
Give your guests a lucky start to their New Year with this fun sparkler. Naturally lower-cal vodka soda is spiked with little fruit stars we made by slicing seasonal persimmons and cutting them out with a mini star-shaped cookie cutter. Mangos, starfruit, or dragonfruit would all look equally adorable.
Once the fruit is cut into shapes, this cocktail is fairly straightforward. Fill a glass with ice and fruity stars, then top with vodka and sparkling water. Though any mineral water will do, sparkling water with passion fruit makes a fun flavor pairing here. Lime, lemon, or mandarin sparkling water also tastes great.
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For garnish, we love the look of a fortune cookie tucked on the rim of a mojito or champagne glass. You can purchases boxes of individually wrapped fortune cookies in the Asian section of most grocery stores. Or buy them online and get them shipped straight to your front door—just make sure they’re set to arrive before the day of your party!

Lucky Star Sparkler

Makes one serving

  • ½ persimmon or mango
  • ice
  • 1½ oz vodka
  • 1 cup sparkling water
  • 1 fortune cookie for garnish (optional)

Slice persimmon. With a mini star cookie cutter, cut slices into star shapes. Place in a rocks glass with ice. Add vodka, and top off with sparkling water. Garnish with a fortune cookie if desired.

Make it a mocktail.

As with most cocktail recipes, you can swap out the champagne in any of these recipes for white grape juice, replace the vodka with sparkling water, or omit bourbon and add pure apple juice instead.
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Wherever you are this year, whatever you decide to sip, we hope these cocktails help you celebrate while still keeping your healthy goals. Cheers!
Note: all calories were calculated with the SayMmmm app, which can be found here.

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Moms Love It When Their Kids Have Sick Days (And 9 Other Momfessions)

There are few things better than hearing a solid mom confession. It’s a glimpse into the realities of life and parenting. True reality, as opposed to the manufactured reality we see on social media, is a very beautiful thing.

As mothers, indulging in a momfession lets us breathe a sigh of relief. They recenter us and remind us that we’re not alone. Because you know what? Motherhood is hard. Motherhood is the real deal. Perhaps most of all, motherhood is something we’re constantly learning about, learning through.

Take me for example. Two months ago, my fourth baby was born. And since then, the confessions I’ve racked up…wow, they amaze even me (and after four kids, not much surprises me!). But the oddest confession I have to share?

Ready for it?

Really?

I love that my baby doesn’t sleep through the night.

I know, I know, wild! Who would like that? Well, I do. With a gaggle of kids, I have to be super intentional about spending one-on-one time with each of them. Most days, I either don’t or can’t get that time. It’s something I’m working on, because I know how they and I both crave that special connection. It grounds us and brings us back together. It lets them know that they are intensely loved, and it reminds me why I’m at home, investing in their lives no matter how monotonous these little years seem.

Since the big kids can all race for my attention, my youngest doesn’t get that one-on-one time during the day. But at night, he’s all mine, and I’m all his. When he wakes up to nurse, I love that I get to hold and snuggle him. Granted, when it happens every hour, I start feeling a bit foggy, but once or twice? That’s perfect. Sometimes he’s awake, and we stare into each other’s eyes. Sometimes he dream feeds, and I just hold his little hand while his body is cradled up against mine.

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I do look forward to the day when all of my children sleep through the night. But until then, I’m soaking up every last moment of that precious time with just the two of us.

I’ve got a crew of moms ready to spill their deepest, darkest secrets. Maybe one of them will put to words something you’ve quietly thought to yourself recently!

“I let my kids decide how much candy they want to eat.”

“My most recent guilty pleasure,” says Jacoba, a mom of two, “was enjoying the smile on my toddler’s face when I let her eat as much of her Halloween candy as she wanted. It turned out to be about five partial pieces before she got distracted, but I felt a bit like a kid again myself when I let her do it.”

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Maria Sanders, a licensed social worker and a parent coach, completely understands Jacoba’s rationale: “Sometimes it just feels good to give in! I love seeing my kids happy! I tell my kids no so many times throughout the day. We all know a bunch of candy in one day won’t kill them. So, why not just say yes?”

“It’s important for our children to know that while we set many boundaries for things like TV, food, and other things,” Sanders says, “we can also have some flexibility.”

“We are models for our children, so it’s good for them to see that sometimes it’s okay to break the rules! Setting boundaries is necessary. However, we must also allow enough independence to be given to our children so they can express their true, authentic selves.”

“I lie about song lyrics.”

Laura, a mom of two, has a brilliant little life hack for all us moms: “My children think that whenever Bruno Mars uses the word ‘sex’ [in his song, ‘Locked Out of Paradise’], he’s saying ‘snacks.’ I am just not ready to explain what sex is, and I don’t think they actually care yet. So I’m saving myself drama and get to have a cute little secret along the way.”

Emberlee, a mom of three, does the same thing: “My kids have heard the words wrong before, and I totally go with it.”

“I’ve also changed words myself. For ‘Uptown Funk,’ they think it says, ‘I’m too hot, I am’ instead of ‘hot damn,’ so I love that. For ‘Shut Up and Dance With Me,’ we say ‘Get up and dance with me.'”

Sanders understands these moms’ thought processes and comments: “Changing the words in songs is actually a really good skill! Many children are not developmentally ready to engage in these heavy duty topics.”

“I water down my kids’ juice.”

“My kids are grown now,” says Kathy, a mom of three, “but when they were little, I would buy the juice concentrate from the freezer section and put an extra container or two of water in the juice pitcher when I mixed it up.”

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“My girls were baffled why the same brand/flavor of juice at their grandma’s house tasted so much better … well, grandma bought juice from the refrigerated section and wouldn’t dare to think of throwing off the ratios!”

Sanders says this mom is spot on: “Children should get 5 percent of their daily calories from added sugar, but they tend to get 12–15 percent. If you can find little ways to cut out sugar, you’re doing a good thing for your child.”

“I love it when my kids have a sick day.”

Quite a few moms shared this sentiment. Because let’s face it, when our kid
s aren’t feeling well, we get to snuggle them up, watch movies together, and fit in extra naps. It’s nice to slow down!

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“We don’t have time to snuggle anymore! We live in a fast paced, do-do-do world,” Sanders says. “We have access to emails and phone calls all day long, but we crave that physical touch.”

On average, parents spend somewhere between an hour to an hour and a half caring for their child. “So wishing that your child is sick so you can snuggle makes sense. We get quiet time, we get that physical contact, and maybe we can even have a nice conversation with our children.”

“I hide veggies in TONS of meals.”

“I put protein powder or shredded veggies in so many things,” Charissa, a mom of four, shares. “I tell my 6-year-old that I put special powers in his food (like superhero type powers), and he eats it all up!”

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“I think it’s important to give children veggies, and if you have to sneak it in, that’s better than nothing,” says Sanders, “But you need to balance that with having your kids try real solid food … for example, cooked carrots and raw carrots; mashed potatoes, french fries, and a whole potato.”

I think we’d all agree that’s true, but I, for one, love Charissa’s superhero spin. What kid doesn’t want to try something that will make him big and strong?

“I enjoy coparenting with my ex.”

“Ah, this is something divorced moms don’t admit when they are talking to married moms, but the truth is they’ve earned that ‘mamma only time,'” says Amy McManus, licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Thrive Therapy. “Being a single parent is even more exhausting than parenting with a partner, and you are allowed to enjoy the breaks!”

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Tina, a mom of three, is all about the coparenting game.

Coparenting is awesome,” she says. “You and the kids get a break from each other, and you’re more apt to give them your best since you aren’t with them every single second.”

Sometimes, seemingly negative situations can create some bright opportunities.

“I love summer break more than the school year.”

Often, we hear parents lament the start of summer break since the hours of childcare significantly increase without the routine of school, but Julia, a mom of one, shares: “Summer break allows a flexible schedule. The school year is stressful to me.” And it’s not a secret that stress is commonplace with parenting.

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Sanders notes that flexible schedules allow for more creativity in the activities parents plan for their child.

“I don’t mind when my kid misbehaves.”

“I’m always so proud of my teen when he does well during the week and earns his allowance. When he doesn’t, however, I spend his allowance on myself at Ulta or Sephora,” Kelly, a mother of two, confesses.

Eek! What a lesson.

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“‘If you don’t do your chores, then I will do them and I will treat myself to something nice,'” Sanders says. “So if your teen can see that if they actually did their chores, they too can spend the allowance on themselves, then maybe they will be motivated to do some work around the house.”

“I embrace my kids’ messes.”

Jody, a mother to triplets, relishes in a messy house…and a less-than-pulled-together look for herself. Why?

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“I kind of don’t mind when my kids dump their toys everywhere—like, everywhere—or when my kids are uber tired and cranky and throwing fits at the witching hour,” she explains. “[It gives me] an excuse [as to] why I look like s*** and am tired and in a bad mood when my hubby comes home.”

Many of us go in to motherhood believing that it will be possible to figure out the best way to parent. It doesn’t take long to realize that is simply not the case.

Jody is completely normal, according to Sanders, who commends her for looking at her life through a positive lens: “… being able to find the bright side of things is a good skill. My kids’ crazy messes can drive me nuts, too, but it’s great when you can flip it around and use it to your benefit.”

Transparency is huge in parenting.

It makes the picture-perfect social media life disappear and returns to it an element of truth. When you and I take the time to be transparent about our struggles, shortcomings, hopes, and desires, we open the door to build a village of like-minded moms.

“It’s tough to be a mom,” McManus says. “There are a lot of expectations, some from outside, and many we just put on ourselves. Many of us go into motherhood believing that it will be possible to figure out the best way to parent. It doesn’t take long to realize that is simply not the case.”

At the end of the day, your best is good enough.

“There are many different theories of parenting, and when you are in the trenches, sometimes you just do the first thing you think of. There is a lot of judgment, as well, not only from society in general, but also from other moms,” McManus continues. “The more moms can open up and share their true feelings and experiences with each other, the more they can all begin to support each other in this crazy endeavor called ‘parenting.”

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No doubt we are all trying our best in this motherhood gig, confessing our secrets along the way.

“At the end of the day, your best is good enough,” says parent coach Gina Baker. If you question whether or not you should make a confession yourself, don’t hesitate! That dose of reality allows us to thrive as moms. The real deal is the best deal.

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Grain-Free, No-Puff Sugar Cookies (And 6 Other Grainless, Tasty Favorites)

The holidays are about twinkling lights and candlelit nights. Snow-covered trees and doors decked with wreathes.
Oh, and cookies. Let’s not forget the cookies.
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If you’re cutting grains from your diet this holiday season, though, you might be having a tough time in the cookie department. Traditionally, grain-free treats are a bit, well, bland. Take out that pure white flour, the recipes order. While you’re at it, that perfectly sweet sugar, too. And what do you often get? Desserts that are dry, chalky, and downright (and ironically) grainy.
But don’t lose your cheer, my dear: We have some cookies for you. Grain-free, gluten-free, made without refined sugar, and dipped in dark chocolate, our recipe for no-puff sugar cookies is one that Mrs. Claus would be happy to share with her round and plump hubby.

Thankfully, it has a short ingredient list. This is a big relief: Grain-free baking can call for some pretty crazy ingredients, sometimes requiring a full day of shopping just to hunt down hard-to-find items. This recipe calls for ingredients that are now carried in most traditional grocery stores. You may have to check the organic aisle for the almond flour, coconut flour, and coconut sugar, but they should be easy to find.
The other thing we love about this recipe is the way is comes together—and comes out. With a simple stir, you’ll have a soft, not-too-sticky dough that’s ready to cut into any shape you desire (we went with a miniature star cutter). Our final cookies were just a little larger than an inch wide, and they made perfect one-bite morsels. Once baked, they were soft with a touch of crispiness around the edges. Truly a perfect sugar cookie!

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While using icing is fine, too, you can keep the healthy vibe going by dipping them into grain-sweetened chocolate candy coating. A little bit of coconut oil, too, will keep that chocolate perfectly smooth and help it dry without mottling. The cookies will look as good on your party table as they did in your kitchen.
When it comes to decorating, we kept it pretty simple by using holiday-colored sprinkles, but the sky is the limit here. Hit the baking aisle in your local craft store, and let your imagination fly! Nonpareils, jimmies, or even shaped sprinkles are just a’waitin’ to be put on your creations!
Ready to snack this winter? Read the recipe below, then keep scrolling to find a few more grain-free recipes that are perfect for your grain-free holidays.

Grain-Free, No-Puff Sugar Cookies

Yield: 40 1″ star cookies
Total Time: 30 minutes

  • 6 Tbsp. butter, melted
  • 1 ½ cups almond flour
  • ¼ cup coconut flour
  • ½ cup coconut sugar
  • 1 egg
  • ¼ tsp. almond or vanilla extract
  • ¾ cup grain-sweetened chocolate chips
  • 1 Tbsp. coconut oil
  • Sprinkles

Heat oven to 350° F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper.
In a small bowl, stir together melted butter, almond flour, coconut flour, coconut sugar, egg, and extract. Once a soft (but not sticky) dough forms, turn out onto a separate piece of parchment, knead slightly, then cover with parchment and roll to ¼” thick.
Using any cookie cutter you prefer, cut shortbread into shapes. Transfer to the baking sheet. Bake for 5–7 minutes, or just until the edges turn a light golden brown. Remove from oven and let cool.
In a small microwave-safe bowl, melt chocolate chips and coconut oil together in 20-second bursts, stirring in between, until smooth. Dip cookies into chocolate.
Transfer to a piece of parchment. Sprinkle. Refrigerate or allow chocolate to harden. Enjoy!

A Few More Grain-Free Favorites

Honey Gingerbread Cookies

You will be shocked at how beautifully this recipe for paleo honey gingerbread cookies bakes up!

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Nature Nates

You might think it’s impossible to build a truly tasty gingerbread house without flour and sugar, but this honey-sweetened recipe is as scrumptious as gingerbread can be.
Added bonus: It bakes up into the most crisp, perfect pieces that don’t puff once baked. So you can finally print those gingerbread house plans from the internet and create a homemade house that looks just like it does on Pinterest. Paleo win!

Lemon Macadamia Nut Cookies

Looking for a truly stunning holiday cookie? Brighten up the dessert table with these zesty lemon macadamia nut cookies.

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Cotter Crunch

They’re so gorgeous, you’d never guess they are grain-free! Friends who love lemon bars are going to go ga-ga over these tasty little bites. They’re a mouth-watering addition to classic holiday flavors. They look beautiful surrounded by sugared lemons, too!

Sea Salt Maple Chocolate Chip Cookies

Upgrade classic chocolate chip cookies with a seasonal maple flavor. These simple sea salt maple chocolate chip cookies are grainless, and they may be the best you’ll ever share.

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It’s hard to stop noshing on these lovely little cookies, which are a bit like chocolate shortbread. The coconut and almond flour add a lot of flavor. These delectable treats are great for packaging and gifting to grain-free friends.

Mexican Hot Chocolate Sugar Cookies

Can we say hot-hot-hot? These Mexican hot chocolate sugar cookie showcase some of the most delicious flavor combos every married in a cookie. We’ve already got a glass of chilled almond milk in hand, and we’re ready to dip!

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Cotter Crunch

These cookies add a fun flavor twist to the usual sugar cookie. Since they’re totally gluten free with an avocado somehow thrown in the mix, we’re all in all kinds of love with this recipe.

Wholesome Brownie Gingerbread Men

Okay, okay. These wholesome brownie gingerbread men technically aren’t cookies, but you do get to use a cookie cutter for these no-flour, chocolately dudes. Plus, they’re cute, so we’re counting them.

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Made with a gluten-free flour blend and cocoa powder, these sweet little gingerbread men are a great way to give your chocolate craving some serious attention. Just bake up a pan of fudgy brownies, let them cool, and cut them into the timeless gingerbread man shape. As much an activity as they are treats, these cute little guys are a party must!

Paleo Thumbprint Cookies

What would the holidays be without pretty thumbprint cookies to complete the treat table? We love these Linzer torte paleo thumbprint cookies, which are made with a dollop of store-bought, all-fruit jam.

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Lexi’s Clean Kitchen

Lexi’s Clean Kitchen used seedless berry jam in the examples above, but feel free to switch up your centers and make a whole array of colorful cookies. Orange, apricot, blackberry, and raspberry all make for beautiful little bites.

Happy Cookie Season!

With so many cookie possibilities, it’s going to be a great grain-free holiday! Can’t wait to see what you cook up in your own kitchen. And, as always, we’d love if you’d tag us in in your creations—@healthwaymedia on Instagram.
Happy, happy baking!

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Cozy And Guilt-Free: 3 Twists On Skinny Hot Cocoa

When the weather gets chilly, there’s nothing quite like a steaming mug of hot cocoa to warm you up. Unfortunately, classic hot cocoa can be a hefty source of empty calories. So much sipping, so much sugar.

So we decided it was time to give classic cocoa a makeover. We took that delicious mug of chocolatey goodness and turned it into a sipper we’re proud of. We made it with whole food ingredients, no refined sugar, and lots of cocoa-y flavor. (Then we dreamed up three flavorful twists on the original recipe—stick around for those.)

If you’ve ever made hot cocoa at home, you know it can be a bit hit or miss. Some homemade cocoa recipes can be meh at best—not quite chocolatey enough, not quite creamy enough. So we worked through several versions to make sure we found one we could love. If you’re going to indulge in a cup of hot cocoa, it should be a delicious cup, and the version below is one of the best and simplest we’ve whipped up.

The basic recipe starts with cocoa powder, almond milk (feel free to use cashew milk, pecan milk, soy milk, or cow milk, if you’re into that), and coconut sugar.

Cocoa powder adds the chocolate flavor in this drink. Coming in at just 31 calories per tablespoon, it’s a great way to indulge chocolate cravings. Paleo eaters: Keep a look out for raw cacao powder, which is made by cold-pressing cocoa beans rather than roasting them. With that, you can enjoy the added benefits from the raw bean.

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An unrefined sugar with great flavor, coconut sugar makes a great paleo and vegan swap-in for traditional sugar. Feel free to swap it for pure maple syrup or raw honey. Monkfruit or stevia work, too. Mind you, once you add the chocolate, you need just a touch of sweetness to make a yummy drink. We recommend starting with half the sugar, adding in teaspoonfuls until your desired sweetness is achieved.

With the ingredients in hand, this recipe is pretty straightforward! Just whisk the components together in a pan until they’re steaming, then serve and enjoy. If desired, add a bit of vanilla extract and top it with mini marshmallows and mini chocolate chips.

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Note: This recipe is fairly flexible, so though the ingredient list below contains our favorite amounts, a bit of tweaking is always welcome.

Skinny Hot Cocoa

Amount served: 2 cups

  • 2 Tbsp. cocoa powder
  • 2 Tbsp. coconut sugar (or stevia/monkfruit, to taste)
  • 1 ½ cups almond milk
  • 1 Tbsp. vanilla (optional)
  • Mini marshmallows (optional)
  • Mini chocolate chips (optional)

In a small pot, heat all ingredients together until steaming. Pour into two large mugs. If desired, top with marshmallows and mini chocolate chips.

3 Barista-Inspired Twists

With a pan full of skinny hot cocoa on the stove, why not go full gourmet and whip up a batch of flavored cocoa?

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Rather than blowing $5 at the coffee shop down the street, we’ve got three recipe twists that will have all the hottest flavors filling your kitchen. And since this recipe takes less than 5 minutes to make from start to finish, you’ll save money and time.

Tantalising Toffee

First up, we have toffee nut hot cocoa. Toffee tastes great when paired with cocoa. The concoction makes the perfect sipper for hazelnut and toffee lovers. It starts by melting a spoonful of chocolate-hazelnut spread (think Nutella) into a pan of skinny hot chocolate, then topping it off with whipped cream and crushed toffee.

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If you’d prefer a totally dairy-free mug, whipped coconut cream or vegan whip work just as well as traditional whipped cream.

Most grocery stores sell crushed toffee bits in the baking section near the chocolate chips. But you can also make your own by purchasing a chocolate-toffee bar and crushing in a ziptop bag.

Toffee Nut Hot Cocoa

Amount served: 2 cups

  • 1 batch skinny hot cocoa
  • 1 Tbsp. chocolate-hazelnut spread (like Nutella)
  • ⅔ cup whipped cream or whipped coconut cream
  • 1 Tbsp. crushed toffee

In a small pot, heat skinny hot cocoa and chocolate-hazelnut spread together until steaming. Pour into 2 large mugs. Top with whipped cream and toffee. Enjoy!

Merry Mocha

If adding a bit of coffee to your cocoa is wrong, we don’t want to be right! Mix cold brew or espresso powder into our skinny hot cocoa (with a smidge of peppermint extract whisked in, as well) to make one of the best cups of DIY cocoa we’ve ever enjoyed. The flavors here are divine.

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Since we skimped on calories for the main cup, we went with full-fat whipped cream, gluten-free marshmallows, and sprinkles of candy canes. The results were so good, we’re pretty sure we could hear Santa ordering a cup from way up in the North Pole. No joke.

Peppermint Mocha Hot Cocoa

Amount served: 2 cups

  • 1 batch skinny hot cocoa
  • ½ cup cold brew coffee (or 1 tsp. instant espresso powder)
  • ½ tsp. peppermint extract
  • ⅔ cup whipped cream
  • Mini marshmallows
  • 1 Tbsp. crushed candy canes

In a small pot, heat hot cocoa, cold brew coffee and peppermint extract together until steaming. Pour into 2 large mugs. Top with whipped cream, marshmallows, and crushed candy canes. Enjoy!

Cookie Cocoa

We love the look of this mug of cookie-infused cocoa. As almonds lovers, we’re also crazy for the flavor of this simple, nutty twist.

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Rim a mug with a bit of honey, crushed sugar cookies, or graham crackers (gluten-free, if you please) to make it look as good as it tastes. Stir a bit of almond extract into your pan of cocoa, pour it into your jumbo mugs, then top them off with whipped cream and sprinkles for a truly fun treat.

Sugar Cookie Hot Cocoa

Amount served: 2 cups

  • 1 batch skinny hot cocoa
  • ½ tsp. almond extract
  • ⅔ cup whipped cream
  • 1 Tbsp. rainbow sprinkles

In a small pot, heat hot cocoa and almond extract together until steaming. Pour into 2 large mugs. Top with whipped cream and sprinkles. Enjoy!

Try These Twists, Too

If you’re throwing a winter party, why not have a hot cocoa bar, complete with a menu, where guests can make their own fancy custom-flavored cocoas? In addition to providing tastiness, a hot cocoa bar helps you get the party warmed up right away.

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In addition to the recipes above, here are a few other menu additions. At your hot cocoa bar, simply set out all ingredients and add-ins, write recommended flavor pairings on a chalkboard (or print on some paper), and let your party guests go wild.

  • Caramel Sipper: Skinny hot cocoa + caramel sauce. Top with whipped Cream + mini caramel cups.
  • Cookies and Cocoa: Skinny hot cocoa + hot fudge sauce. Rim glasses with chocolate creme cookies + top with Whipped Cream
  • White Chocolate Gingerbread: Skinny hot Cocoa + white chocolate syrup + a pinch of pumpkin pie spice. Top with whipped cream + crushed gingerbread cookies.
  • S’mores: Skinny hot cocoa + vanilla extract. Rim mugs with honey and crushed graham crackers. Top with marshmallows and chocolate chunks.
  • Banana Split Cocoa: Skinny hot cocoa + banana liqueur or extract. Rim mugs with hot fudge sauce and sprinkles. Top with whipped topping and a maraschino cherry.

Happy holidays! Wishing you lots of happy hours of sipping by the fire.