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The Ultimate (And Updated) Newborn Baby Checklist

Here’s a secret most experienced moms will tell you: You really don’t need a lot of gear. We promise!
In the very beginning, you need very few essentials: diapers and wipes, a stroller and/or car seat, a carrier, onesies, and burp clothes. Seriously. The rest is all extra.
But! It’s always good to have extra stuff, and eventually almost all of it becomes necessary.

Baby Checklist Part 1: The Absolute Essentials

Make sure to have these on hand before the baby arrives.

Diapers

Most companies now offer a subscription package so you don’t have to think about it each month. (See Honest here!) Do NOT go crazy on the newborn diapers. She may outgrow them really quickly and then you’ll have way too many teeny tiny diapers on your hands.

Burp Cloths

Any old thing will do, really, so hand-me-downs are great here. But you can also go for gorgeous ones that double as swaddle blankets, like these from aden + anais.

Baby Carrier

A few mom faves: The Baby K’tan, the Ergobaby (with infant insert, which I will say is hot in the summer), or the Moby Wrap. Before you buy anything, borrow from a friend. You might spend a few days in agony, or you might be really happy and comfortable. It’s worth doing some investigating before investing.

Car Seat

It’s best to stay on top of Consumer Reports since the guidelines for car seats change all the time. (In fact, what you use for one kid might not be okay for the next!) But some very reliable seats are the Graco SnugRide Click Connect and the Safety 1st Grow and Go 3-in-1 car seat.
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Stroller

This depends a lot on your particular circumstances. If you’re in a city where you walk far more than you drive, you’ll want something robust, like the Bugaboo, City Mini or UPPAbaby Vista.

Wipes

You do not need them to be warmed (really), but it helps to have a dispenser, so you can pull them out with one hand.

Bottles

Now if you’re planning to breastfeed, you may not need these. But if you’re planning to pump at all (or you’re going with formula), these are a must-have. Most will do—the baby has to like the feel of the nipple—but if you want to go eco-friendly, try a Philips AVENT Glass Bottle (don’t forget the sleeve!) or Lifefactory Glass Bottles. (So many cute colors!)
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Nice-to-Have Items for Your Baby Checklist

Swaddles

The Woombie or the Miracle Blanket make swaddling really easy. The nurses make it look easy, BUT IT ISN’T. You’ll want some help, trust me.

Snuggle Spots

The Snuggle Me or DockATot are lifesavers. Put the baby down in the coziest little cocoon. Just be sure to keep an eye on her for safety.

NoseFrida

Get all that snot out.

Sleep Sound Machine

This can be a machine you buy for the baby or just an app on your phone that plays all sorts of sounds, from a washing machine to a rainfall. Either way, the white noise will be your new best friend.
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Rock ’n Play Sleeper

This cult fave item does double duty! Get the baby to sleep…or entertain her.

Hooded Towels

Keep baby super snug (and his head from getting cold).

Newborn Nightgowns

Wayyyy easier than stuffing their legs in footie pajamas. How adorable are these?

Bottle Drying Rack

Just so the bottles don’t get mixed in with the dishes. Try the Boon Lawn Drying Rack (so cute!) or this adorable one with a drainer.

Bottle Sterilizer

This puppy saved my life! No more boiling water and dipping in nipples. Wash them, put them in, press “start”—and done!

Pacifier

Not all babies are into these (my daughter wouldn’t take one). And they can be controversial (some point out that babies eventually need to be weaned, while others claim it’s not great for their teeth), but in those early months it can be a lifesaver. Try this eco-friendly option.
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Baby Checklist Items for Around the House

Baby Monitor

How big is your house or apartment? Ours was so small there was absolutely zero need for a monitor. (Babies can scream, have you heard?) But if you want to keep an eye on the little one, you have plenty of choices, from low-tech to very high. The latest is an Alexa baby monitor and speaker.

Co-Sleeper

If your little one isn’t content in her crib, try something like the Halo Bassinest to keep her close—without worrying you’ll roll over her.

Bouncer

How much do you want to do? If you’re okay with bouncing the chair yourself, go with the BabyBjörn Bouncer. Unlike so much other baby stuff, it won’t be an eyesore in the middle of the living room. If you want all the bells and whistles, go for the mamaRoo4. You can control it with your phone!

Diaper Pail

Trust me, you’re going to want one of these. And don’t forget the bags. Running out is the worst.
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Changing Station

Set it up so it makes sense for you—everything within reach. You can go really streamlined or really fancy, but the point is that you develop a system that works for you. I loved having the changing table as part of a dresser—major space saver. Whatever you choose, you’ll need a pad too.

A Good Nursing Chair

This can be a glider or just something you’re happy sitting in for hours. I was comfortable on the IKEA Poang. Basically you want to make sure you find something with armrests, because those arms will get realllllllly tired.

Lots and Lots of Pillows

You can get special nursing pillows (more below), but you can also just pile up a bunch of pillows you already have. They really do help with nursing.

Baby Bathtub

It’s not easy bending over the tub. You can set this sucker on the counter or in the bathtub without having to worry about the baby slipping out of your arms.
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Baby Checklist Essentials for You

Lansinoh

Those nips are going to need some love. Keep it near you at all times.

Pads

For your vagina and for your boobs. Your vagina will probably need overnight pads for a long while. If you have leaky boobs, they will love these washable, eco-friendly nursing pads.

Hospital-Grade Breast Pump (or Something Close)

There are so many breast pumps on the market these days. The old reliable is the Medela; the Pump in Style is a good go-to. If you want something more discreet, the new Willow Pump is sort of incredible.

My Brest Friend

If your regular bed pillows aren’t doing the trick, keep this tucked around you to keep you from breaking your back as you nurse.

Yoga Ball

Yoga balls are ideal for bouncing the baby when she won’t. stop. crying. It’ll keep your arms and legs from getting tired, plus it can do double duty when you get back to your flow.

Food Delivery

Anything! Have your friends set up a meal train delivery. Ask your parents or friends to cook ahead of time. Cook and freeze meals before you go into labor. Chances are you won’t have the time, energy, or desire to cook for a while.

Nice Soap and Shampoo

No real reason for this, but you need to feel good, too. Treat yourself, mama—you’ll need it.
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Lifestyle Well-Traveled

Good To Go: Travel Essentials You Shouldn’t Leave Without

Packing for a trip is so stressful, I sometimes think it would be nice to have a crystal ball. After all, in just one afternoon you’re expected to conceptualize an entire week’s worth of outfits while trying to take into account your mood, the weather, and any unexpected plans. But even beyond having the perfect outfit (and shoes…and accessories), there are plenty of travel essentials that completely slip your mind come packing time. Suddenly you find yourself buckled in for an eight-hour flight in a dried-out cabin, searching feverishly for your lip balm.
We have all been there. And it is truly the worst. So to make sure you never find yourself in an ohh, I wish I had that moment again, we’ve rounded up the best travel essentials for your toiletry kit and beyond. Though these things might not have been at the top of your list before, this will surely become your go-to travel essentials checklist.

Travel Essentials for Health

Flying isn’t always a smooth experience. Rough air can lead to anxiety and sometimes even nausea and sickness. Insomnia is also a major villain when it comes to air travel. Fortunately, our experts have holistic tools at the ready to help.

Supplements

“I take a multivitamin and lots of vitamin C, like Emergen-C or Airborne, to boost my immune system while traveling,” says Tiffany Dowd, a global hotel expert and founder of Luxe Social Media and Luxe Tiffany. “In addition, I take magnesium supplements to help regulate my sleep, and I find it also helps my jet lag.”

Resistance Bands

Exercise post-flight is also crucial to fighting jet lag. Dowd travels with resistance bands to get a quick workout in her hotel room.

Your Fave Tea

“If I’m feeling run down after traveling, I have the hotel make me a cup of fresh-brewed ginger tea,” Dowd shares. “It’s soothing and has anti-inflammatory properties.”

Travel Essentials for Nourishment

There’s nothing worse than an inevitable airplane hangry moment. Sadly, airplane food isn’t the tastiest, and it’s never the healthiest option.

Water Bottle

“I never leave home without an empty water bottle. It saves money so you’re not constantly buying water in the airport and during the trip,” says Debbie Arcangeles, host of the podcast The Offbeat Life, a series committed to highlighting those who live location-independent lives. “I also fill the water bottle before I board the plane, so I don’t have to keep asking for water during the flight.”

Snacks

“I always pack high-protein granola bars and raw almonds, which I portion into snack-size bags,” says Dowd. “These are quick energy snacks that are easy to pack.”
“I always travel with Quest and One protein bars, because a hungry Sarah is an angry Sarah,” says Sarah Greaves-Gabbadon, Caribbean travel expert and owner of JetSetSarah.
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Tech Travel Essentials

Air travel is a perfect excuse to catch up on anything you ordinarily don’t have time for. Because you won’t have cell service and might not want to pay for wifi, you’ve got the perfect excuse to pause work to enjoy a little you time with the help of these high-tech touches.

Your Gadgets…and Noise-Canceling Headphones to Go With Them

“I need my iPhone, of course,” says Greaves-Gabbadon. “I’m currently looking for a pair of noise-canceling headphones to block out other people’s noise when I work in public spaces.”

Portable Charger

Greaves-Gabbadon, Dowd, and Arcangeles all recommend a portable charger for cell phones, as well.

Kindle

“I always have my e-reader with backlight,” says Arcangeles. “It’s a space saver, and I can even read when the lights are out so I don’t disturb the other passengers. It’s also great to have when your flight is delayed or when you have a long layover.”
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Travel Essentials for Beauty

Dry, cold air, a change in pressure, and lots of sitting can wreak havoc on a beauty regimen. Still, there are ways to maintain healthy skin while traveling with a few simple must-have beauty travel essentials for your toiletry kit.

Face Wipes

“I love having face wipes with me on the plane, especially during long flights. I can feel refreshed and clean right away,” says Arcangeles.

Sunscreen

“I always wear sunscreen when flying. You are actually exposed more to the sun’s harmful rays up in the air,” says Dowd. She recommends EltaMD UV Daily broad-spectrum sunscreen ($26) because it’s light and blends well under makeup.

Eye Cream

“I splurge on La Prairie Skin Caviar Luxe Eye Cream ($460), which is so soothing under your eyes and prevents dryness,” Dowd says. She also recommends the Malin + Goetz Replenishing Face Serum ($70) for facial hydration on a flight.

Travel Makeup

“I keep travel makeup to a minimum,” Dowd says. “I love wearing a dab of NARS Illuminator ($30). It gives you an instantly refreshed and beautiful look.” She also recommends powder bronzer by Bobbi Brown ($44) and a lengthening mascara like Lancôme Définicils ($27.50).

Lip Balm

“I discovered Lanolips 101 Ointment Superbalm ($17) and it’s since become my go-to for my chronically dry lips and cuticles,” says Greaves-Gabbadon.
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Travel Essentials for Comfort

Airplanes are incredibly cold—and dry. The air at 30,000 feet can’t hold much moisture, and adding it to the airstream in an airplane is very difficult. Flying with 300 passengers also means the flight attendants aren’t going to change the temperature just for your frozen toes.

Eye Mask

“I must have an eye mask because I take a lot of early morning flights to the Caribbean, and there is always someone in my row who just has to have the window shade open,” says Greaves-Gabbadon.

Foot Hammock

“On long-haul flights I always bring a foot hammock,” Greaves-Gabbadon says. “I’m only 4’9” so my feet don’t touch the ground on many aircraft. The straps fit over the tray table and then I just slip my feet in. It’s way more comfy than having my feet just dangle (and swell) for hours.”

Eye Drops

“I always pack rewetting eye drops, as the air is so dry on airplanes,” says Dowd.

Compression Socks

“I was recently on a 16-hour flight from Hong Kong to Boston, and on a long-haul flight like this I always wear compression socks to prevent deep vein thrombosis,” Dowd says. “I find my legs are more relaxed and less swollen when I land.”

Don’t forget your passport!

We asked our experts for anything else they like to bring with them on their trips that makes the journey a little more personal. Interestingly enough, all of their answers had to do with their passports.
“I never leave home without my passport,” says Dowd. “Whether it’s domestic or international, I’m ready to go anywhere at any time. I also always keep an extra copy of it somewhere in my bags as well as a digital copy on my phone.”
“I just got the most stylish red leather passport case from Anya Hindmarch,” says Greaves-Gabbadon. “It zips around so nothing falls out, has plenty of pockets for cards, and it’s personalized with “JetSetSarah” on the front. I won’t leave home without it.”

What to Wear on the Plane

We all want to feel as relaxed and comfortable as possible on an airplane. Still, there are some travelers who take this a little too far and show up for a flight as if they are turning in for the night. Pajamas on an airplane is not the most pulled-together look. But today’s trends tend to favor comfort and function, so it’s not difficult to throw together a stylish plane outfit that you don’t mind sitting in for hours.
“I’m usually in dark pants, ballet flats like Chanel or Paul Mayer, which are easy to get off in security, and a comfortable top, such as a ¾-sleeve top or tee from Michael Stars or Three Dots,” says Dowd. She also always brings her Hermès pashmina, which doubles as a stylish scarf and also keeps her warm during the flight. Tip: When wearing ballet flats, don’t forget to wear your no-show socks—no one wants to walk barefoot through security.
“I bring a light, long jacket to wear over my outfit,” she adds. “I’ve just discovered this new brand called Anatomie, which is super stylish and comfortable travel wear.”
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“I am a big believer in wearing anything that is a one piece, like maxi dresses and jumpsuits,” says Arcangeles. “It’s a lot less stressful to figure out how to put together an outfit, and they are super comfortable to wear while still looking stylish.”
“Most often I wear boyfriend jeans, a T-shirt, and an adidas track jacket,” says Greaves-Gabbadon. “On longer-haul flights I might swap the jeans for something softer, like harem pants or track pants. And nine times out of ten, wherever I’m flying, I’m in adidas sneakers. I’m quite the sneaker head. I customize them with Hickies so they’re easy to remove at security.”

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In the Kitchen Nosh

What Is Ghee? Everything You Need To Know About Your New Favorite Ingredient

Tasting ghee for the first time is like discovering delicious liquid gold; you’ll want to use it on everything (and we mean everything). Made from clarified butter, ghee is a popular fat regularly used in Indian cuisine and Ayurvedic medicine. Unlike butter, all the milk solids are removed from ghee, which means that ghee has a much higher smoke point and is shelf-stable. Ghee has a pronounced nutty taste that’s just as at home in a stir-fry as it is thinly spread on a piece of good bread.
In Ayurvedic medicine, ghee is used for its alleged digestive, anti-inflammatory, and immune-boosting properties. Here, we cover everything you need to know about getting started with ghee and explore all of its different uses, both in and out of the kitchen (including how to easily make it at home!).

What is ghee? Your new favorite pantry staple.

The distinction between clarified butter and ghee comes down to cooking time; ghee is simmered for a longer period of time than clarified butter. This results in darker milk solids that give ghee a nutty, deeply savory flavor. In India, ghee is made from cow’s milk and water buffalo milk.
[pullquote align=”center”]“Ghee is considered by Ayurveda to be the most penetrating of edible oils, which means it digests well and travels to nourish the deep tissues of the body…”
—Kate O’Donnell, certified Ayurvedic practitioner[/pullquote]
Although it’s possible to find water buffalo milk ghee, it’s far easier (and less expensive) to buy cow’s milk ghee in North American grocery stores. When purchasing ghee, look for brands that only contain cow dairy and are free of hydrogenated vegetable oils (a tell-tale sign of subpar ghee.) Because the lactose-containing milk solids are removed from ghee, it’s generally considered safe for those who suffer from lactose intolerance (although as this article in Today’s Dietician points out, butter is also naturally very low in lactose.)

Is ghee healthier than butter?

One important difference between ghee and butter are their smoke points. Because the milk solids have been removed in ghee, it has a higher smoke point than butter (ghee has a smoke point of 485 degrees Fahrenheit, whereas butter begins to smoke at a much lower 350 degrees Fahrenheit.) Why are smoke points important? According to an article in The Globe And Mail, “the more refined an oil, the higher its smoke point, because refining removes impurities and free fatty acids that can cause the oil to smoke.” That said, both butter and ghee are very high in saturated fats, a type of fat that the American Heart Association recommends you consume in very small quantities.

Ghee and Ayurvedic Medicine

When talking about the perceived health benefits of ghee, it’s important to remember that ghee comes with its own unique cultural context—one that is informed largely by the Ayurvedic tradition. Kate O’ Donnell is a certified Ayurvedic practitioner, Boston-based Ashtanga yoga teacher, and is the author of The Everyday Ayurveda Cookbook: A Seasonal Guide to Eating and Living Well and Everyday Ayurvedic Cooking for a Calm, Clear Mind: 100 Sattvic Recipes. For O’Donnell, ghee is an essential part of practicing Ayurvedic medicine.
“Ghee is considered by Ayurveda to be the most penetrating of edible oils, which means it digests well and travels to nourish the deep tissues of the body, such as bones, nerves, and reproductive tissues,” she says. O’Donnell is a particularly big fan of ghee’s purported antibacterial abilities. “Ghee can be used in the nostrils before a flight to avoid picking up pathogens. Use the pinky fingers to rub a small amount around the nostrils and inhale deeply. Bugs will stick to the ghee, not your passages, and it helps with dryness as well.” Ghee is also used for oil massages, detoxification, and as the base of many Ayurvedic homeopathic medicines.
Although scientists are beginning to study ghee for its potential health benefits, the available literature on the subject is fairly limited. One notable study in the Ayurvedic medicine journal AYU found a positive link between regular ghee intake and a reduction in cardiovascular disease. Another study published in the Journal of the Indian Medical Association used a physician-administered questionnaire to examine the effects of ghee on cardiovascular health in males living in a rural Indian village and found the prevalence of cardiovascular disease was lower in males that regularly consumed ghee than those who didn’t.

Ghee as an All-Natural Beauty Aid

Considering the popularity of natural moisturizing substances like coconut oil and shea butter, it’s no surprise that ghee is also being used cosmetically for its super moisturizing properties for both the hair and skin. Ghee can be applied directly to the skin or hair as is, or, depending on your beauty regimen, it can be mixed with ingredients such as honey, milk, rosewater, and ground almonds. Shannon Buck of Fresh-Picked Beauty recommends this rosemary-infused ghee hair mask.
The idea of using ghee as a beauty product is also gaining traction with those in search of ethically made, all-natural products that they don’t have to DIY, and the European beauty company MIRATI has even released an entire line of products specially formulated with ghee.

How to Cook With Ghee

O’Donnell likes to use a small amount of ghee in her cooking whenever possible. “I usually recommend ghee in smaller amounts with each meal, such as 1 teaspoon in morning eggs, oatmeal, or toast, and then again for sautés, grains, and soups at lunch and dinner. Use it anywhere you would use other oils!”
[pullquote align=”center”]It may take a few ghee-making attempts to figure out exactly how deeply browned you prefer the milk solids, but don’t worry, each batch of practice ghee will still be delicious.[/pullquote]
Ghee has a stronger flavor than butter, so use it judiciously as you only need a small amount. Thanks to its high smoke point, ghee is a great choice for shallow or deep frying (yes, frying in ghee nullifies any potential health benefits…but the results are spectacular.)

How to Make Ghee at Home

When making ghee, use the absolute best unsalted butter available (if you can find Échiré AOP butter from France I highly recommend the splurge, but any good quality butter will work well.) Making ghee at home isn’t a difficult process, but it does require some trial and error. It may take a few ghee-making attempts to figure out exactly how deeply browned you prefer the milk solids, but don’t worry, each batch of practice ghee will still be delicious.

Yield: About 2 cups of ghee

Ingredients

  • 1 lb unsalted butter, cut into cubes

Special Equipment

  • Heavy-bottomed saucepan
  • Large spoon
  • Mesh sieve
  • Cheesecloth
  • Glass jar with lid

Method

  1. Place the cubes of butter in a heavy-bottomed saucepan.
  2. Melt the butter over medium-low heat. You’ll notice that the butter separates into three distinct layers: a layer of solids on the bottom, a middle layer of clarified butter, and a top layer of foam.
  3. Gently simmer the butter for approximately 10 to 15 minutes. Push aside the top layer of foam with a large spoon and look at the milk solids on the bottom of the saucepan. You want them to turn a light brown color. At this point, you can take the melted butter off the heat or you can simmer for another 5 minutes for a deeper color and a more intense flavor.
  4. Remove the saucepan from the heat.
  5. Using a large spoon, scoop off and discard as much of the top layer of foam off as you can. Line a mesh sieve with cheesecloth that has been folded to form several layers and carefully pour the melted butter into a clean glass jar through the sieve (repeat this step if there are any lingering milk solids*.)
  6. Store the jarred ghee in the fridge for up to six months or at room temperature for one month.

*A note on milk solids: Don’t throw these tasty cooked bits away! Deeply nutty in taste and pleasantly chewy, leftover milk solids can be sprinkled onto rice and risotto, mixed into bread dough, or used as a topping for vegetable gratins.

To ghee or not to ghee?

Like any type of fat—and saturated fat especially—ghee should be used sparingly. The purported nutritional and health benefits of ghee are only now being studied despite the fact that Ayurvedic medicine has been ghee’s biggest supporter for thousands of years. It may help to think of ghee as an accent ingredient, meaning you don’t need very much of it to add a noticeable improvement in flavor. Because of its high smoke point and depth of flavor, it’s absolutely worth it to add ghee to your arsenal of cooking oils (not to mention your beauty regimen!).

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Health x Body Wellbeing

Orthorexia Is The Eating Disorder No One Talks About

There was no name for orthorexia when Lisa Fogarty started showing the signs of the eating disorder as a young tween. “I gave up eating foods with sugar when I was 12,” Fogarty recalls. “I lost a little weight and got positive attention for it, so I kept going. I remember loving how it felt to not feel full, so I gradually restricted more and more until I was skipping meals and labeling a lot of foods, including carbs and veggies like sweet potatoes, as bad.”
Most of us associate some foods with being inherently “bad” for our bodies—after all, no one is eating a platter of brownies expecting it to make us healthier. But people with orthorexia don’t just categorize some food as “bad” and some as “good”: They’re preoccupied with the differentiation, and they eschew the “bad” and only eat the “good.” Put more simply, people with orthorexia are obsessed with healthy eating—to the point of what doctors call disordered eating (which commonly includes having an eating disorder).
After dire warnings about the childhood obesity crisis in the aughts, Americans have slowly but surely come around to the idea that a nutritious diet is crucial to our overall health. Spend more than a few minutes on any social media site, and you’re bound to run into a slew of posts about eating healthy: Raw food. Clean eating. Farm-to-table. Whole30. Non-GMO.
Surely those people are just trying to make good choices for their bodies, right? Well, most of them are!
But what happens when you go from eating healthy so you can sustain your body and mind to allowing healthy eating to become an obsession? How do you go from a diet that’s designed to keep your heart muscles happy and your mind sharp to a therapist’s office and a diagnosis of orthorexia?

What is orthorexia?

In 1997, a name appeared for the restricted diet that’s followed Fogarty and thousands like her into adulthood. That’s when Steven Bratman, MD, a physician from Fort Collins, Colorado, wrote an article in Yoga Journal that changed the face of the eating disorder discussion in America and around the world. It’s believed to be the very first time the term “orthorexia” was written down.  
Titled “Health Food Junkie,” the article centered around Bratman’s premise that healthy eating can be good for you, but it can also become an unhealthy obsession.
“Many of the most unbalanced people I have ever met are those who have devoted themselves to healthy eating,” Bratman wrote at the time. “In fact, I believe some of them have actually contracted a novel eating disorder for which I have coined the name ‘orthorexia nervosa.’ The term uses ‘ortho,’ meaning straight, correct, and true, to modify ‘anorexia nervosa.’ Orthorexia nervosa refers to a pathological fixation on eating proper food.”
How does someone end up, as Bratman described in 1997, “dominated by efforts to resist temptation, self-condemnation for lapses, self-praise for success at complying with the chosen regime, and feelings of superiority over others less pure in their dietary habits”?
The experts say orthorexia has direct ties to other eating disorders (such as anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating disorder) and the risk factors inherent in them all.

Signs of Orthorexia

Of course, just because you love kale smoothies and could live the rest of your life without ever eating an Oreo doesn’t mean you’re orthorexic. Some people have better dietary habits than others, and just about every medical practitioner out there will tell you to eat a nutritious diet as often as possible.
“Orthorexia is defined as an ‘unhealthy obsession’ with healthy eating, a term which literally means ‘fixation on righteous eating,’” says licensed marriage and family therapist Ashley Moser, site director at the Renfrew Center, an eating disorder treatment facility in Charlotte, North Carolina.  
Here’s how Moser says you can tell if you (or a loved one) might be crossing the line into an obsession with healthy eating:

  • Compulsively checking of ingredient lists and nutrition labels
  • Refusal to eat foods labeled as “unhealthy” or processed
  • Showing high levels of distress when “healthy” foods are unavailable
  • Variety of foods eaten becomes fewer and fewer
  • Increased social isolation and eating alone

Typically folks who battle orthorexia have similar risk factors to those who battle other eating disorders, says Lauren Smolar, director of programs at the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA). She divides those risk factors into three categories: Social pressures, psychological risk factors, and/or biological predispositions.
For example, someone with a family member who has (or had) an eating disorder might have a biological predisposition to disordered eating, whereas someone who struggles with weight stigma or teasing and bullying might have social pressures that increase their risk of an eating disorder, including orthorexia.
From a psychological standpoint, issues such as body image dissatisfaction and a personal history of an anxiety disorder can up one’s risk for an eating disorder such as orthorexia.
What’s more, there are typically what doctors call comorbidities that come along with orthorexia. That means that you can have two (or more) conditions at the same time. With orthorexia, that typically involves other eating disorders as well as an anxiety disorder and/or obsessive–compulsive disorder (OCD), Smolar says. OCD in particular is often found in folks with orthorexia, but because orthorexia isn’t an “official” diagnosis, there is little research on why the two crop up together so frequently.

Diagnosing Orthorexia: How does it work?

If you look at the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition (more commonly known as the DSM-5), you won’t find orthorexia nervosa listed.
The DSM-5 is the diagnosing manual used by the American Psychiatric Association, which declined to add orthorexia as its own diagnosis in its most recent edition.
So does that mean orthorexia doesn’t exist as anything more than a word thrown out by Bratman once upon a time?
Not at all, says Thom Dunn, PhD, a professor of psychological sciences at the University of Northern Colorado who has committed much of his time to researching orthorexia.
Although orthorexia isn’t in the DSM, neither was binge-eating disorder before 2013, “although it was widely acknowledged that it existed before then,” Dunn tells HealthyWay.
Researchers like Dunn have found conclusive evidence that orthorexia is real, and professionals in the eating disorder field—such as the folks at NEDA—do recognize orthorexia as something that can not only occur with other disordered eating conditions but is a separate condition in and of itself.
[pullquote align=”center”]“The irony is that people are being unhealthy in their pursuit of being strictly healthy.”
—Thom Dunn, PhD[/pullquote]
What sets orthorexia apart from other eating disorders is an obsession with being “healthy” that takes someone to the point of actually being the exact opposite.
“For some people, their desire to be healthy becomes all consuming and it starts to affect their ability to live their lives,” Dunn explains. “For some, they get malnourished. The irony is that people are being unhealthy in their pursuit of being strictly healthy.”
So, if orthorexia isn’t an “official” diagnosis, how can someone be diagnosed with it?
Often, patients aren’t—at least not where health insurance companies are concerned.
“Most often these people get an anorexia diagnosis since they are underweight,” Dunn says. That can be enough to trigger a health insurance company to start paying for treatment. If not, practitioners like Dunn may diagnose someone with other specified feeding or eating disorder(OSFED), which is in the DSM.
For Fogarty, that’s exactly what had to happen. Now 40, she spent her twenties and thirties drifting in and out of therapy for anorexia; it was at age 34 that a therapist and nutritionist both told her that she had “orthorexic tendencies” and began treating her for her food-related obsessions in addition to her tendency to starve herself.
She works with a nutritionist now to help develop the skills she needs to vary her diet. “The biggest obstacle I have is overcoming the fear of new foods or foods that I still associate as bad,” Fogarty says, “like taco shells or white pasta. The recent campaign against carbs really screwed with my head a bit, I admit.”

Orthorexia Treatment and Recovery

For those who have extreme orthorexia that has caused them to become malnourished, hospitalization may be required. After all, Moser says, while it’s sometimes referred to online as the “good eating disorder,” there’s nothing positive about restricting your food intake to the point of getting sick.
And someone with orthorexia can get very sick. “Some of the risks include medical complications from malnutrition, which affects every organ system in the body,” Moser points out.
It’s a fact Fogarty knows all too well. When she was 21, she was slated to enter a hospital and be force-fed food, which is what first prompted her to seek treatment.
Fogarty has been trying to make treatment work for nearly 20 years. That’s because there is no quick cure for an eating disorder. Often recovery begins with treatment—be it hospitalization or intensive, outpatient therapy—and turns into living in recovery.

Living With Orthorexia

It’s partly because of the near constant and often contradictory headlines about what different foods will do to our bodies (butter’s healthy—no, it’s not—wait, yes, it is!) that orthorexia recovery can be so difficult.
While an alcoholic may be able to steer clear of bars and ask their friends to throw booze-free bashes, we can’t ignore all the news or stay away from the grocery store and its human-sized displays touting the purported benefits of the latest health craze.
[pullquote align=”center”]“It is important to provide education on balanced eating and approach food with a more neutral stance of ‘all foods fit.’”
—Ashley Moser, LMFT[/pullquote]
That’s why orthorexia treatment focuses not just on therapy but on forming a healthier relationship with food.
“It is important to provide education on balanced eating and approach food with a more neutral stance of ‘all foods fit,’” says Moser. “It’s helpful to remember these messages when faced with societal pressure to eat healthy.”
If you’re struggling to develop a food plan without falling back on old habits, set up an appointment with a nutritionist. They can help you map out meals that are healthy—both in the sense of giving your body the nutrition it needs and in the sense of stretching beyond orthorexic tendencies. You may also want to start a food journal, which you can review and/or share with your nutritionist on a regular basis to ensure you’re actually meeting your nutrition goals rather than denying yourself.
You can also work with a nutritionist to set goals that test the bounds of what you’ve come to consider as “safe” and “okay” foods. For example, Fogarty has been challenged by her nutritionist to eat dessert at least once or twice a week with her family.
“That’s hard,” she admits. “But my nutritionist is trying to make me understand that the things I think will happen, like losing control or gaining 10 pounds overnight, won’t happen when you just let go of some of these fears. It’s an ongoing process and it takes therapy and nutritional counseling.”
Not sure where to begin? That’s okay. Call the NEDA support line at 800-931-2237 or look into their online chat options to talk to someone on their team.

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10 Best Ab Exercises To Get Results

A strong core provides fundamental support to your back, abdomen, and entire body.
But doing any ol’ ab exercise won’t get you the results you’re looking for. In fact, they could even cause injury. “With sit-ups, for instance, you’re activating the muscles on the outside—not the deep transverse abdominis. You can hurt your spine or overuse your hip flexors,” explains Kara Griffith, exercise physiologist at Colorado Canyons Hospital & Medical Center.
So what are the best ab exercises?
To get the real skinny, we asked a physical therapist, certified personal trainer, and exercise physiologist about the ab exercises that will help you achieve a stronger, more toned core.
The best part? You can do all of these exercises at home. No need to pay for a gym membership or carve out time to attend a pilates class.

But first, why is an ab workout routine so important?

“The core is the foundation of the body,” says Griffith. “Just like a house, if the foundation is weak, it will crumble. It’s the same with the body.”
Griffith says that when we talk about core, we don’t just mean the abdominal muscles. “The core muscles are meant to stabilize your spine. The core includes abdominal, diaphragm, and pelvic floor musculature,” explains Nina Strang, physical therapist and certified strengthening and conditioning specialist at Michigan Medicine in Ann Arbor.
Griffith shares that the benefits of strengthening your core are numerous and include injury prevention, decreased back pain, less fatigue, less pain in other parts of the body, more endurance, and increased strength. “When your core is strong, you have better balance and you’re able to do activities in your daily life using less energy because you have a strong core supporting all of that movement.”  
That’s right: ab exercises aren’t just about getting a flatter stomach or achieving a 6-pack. And if we’re honest, focusing on just aesthetic results can be misleading. “We’re all different. Some people are tall, some are short, some have big hips. Everyone carries their weight differently,” shares Ann Scheufler, registered dietitian nutritionist who owns and runs Peas and Hoppiness.
[pullquote align=”center”]“The core is the foundation of the body. Just like a house, if the foundation is weak, it will crumble. It’s the same with the body.”
—Kara Griffith, exercise physiologist[/pullquote]
So rather than focusing on a certain “look,” Scheufler encourages women to enjoy their personal fitness journeyknowing that with consistent exercise and proper nutrition, you’ll see results in your weight, inches, and level of toning.

Proper form and variety are essential.

Just like any exercise, ab workouts need to be done properly to get real results. “Our bodies are good at finding the path of least resistance, which isn’t always the best way,” explains Strang. If we’re not mindful of our form, we put ourselves at risk of injury … and of missing out on the intended rewards.
“Variety is your best friend with any workout,” says Griffith. “You don’t want to do the same workouts every time because of muscle memory: The body gets too used to doing the same exercises.” To keep improving and strengthening (and to avoid muscle overuse), it’s a good practice to vary your ab workouts.

Best Ab Exercises

1. Pilates 100

Lie on your back with your knees bent, feet on the floor. Imprint your pelvis by drawing your belly button up and in to press your lower back against the floor. Lift your head and neck off of the ground in a lifted crunch position, maintaining a neutral neck line by looking at your knees.  Extend your arms along your sides and reach away from you. Breathe slowly, using five counts on the inhale and five counts on the exhale, pulsing the arms with each count.
“Your arms should be strong and not floppy. Engage your shoulders,” says Griffith. “Hold your legs in the same position, maintaining control of the lower back and pelvis.”
Suggested reps: Do as many as you can with good form, or up to 100 counts (per the exercise name) for one set.
Advance the movement:

  • Beginners: Keep your feet on the ground.
  • Intermediate: Lift your legs up to a table top position with your knees and hips at a 90 degree angle.
  • Advanced: Extend your legs upward at an angle.

“Do the version that’s appropriate for your level. The better your form, the better your results,” says Griffith.

2. Vacuums

Face a wall in standing position with both hands on the wall in front of you. “You shouldn’t be leaning or resting on the wall, but stabilizing your body there,” says Megan Williams, certified personal trainer, diet specialist, and founder of Megan Williams Training.
Then, squeeze your core, sucking in and straightening your spine, as if you’re putting on a pair of tight pants. Hold this upright, tucked ab position for 30 seconds. “You should feel your entire core, transverse abdominis, and obliques engaging as you hold this elongated spinal position,” says Williams.
Suggested reps: Four to five reps.
Advance the movement: Hold for 60 seconds instead of 30.

3. The Bridge

Lie flat on your back with your knees bent and your feet on the floor. Extend your arms to your sides or cross them over your chest. Your feet should be hip-width apart with your toes facing away from you.
Lift your hips toward the ceiling while contracting your abdominal muscles. “Make sure you’re lifting with your hips. Your abdominals should stabilize your spine to prevent lifting with your back,” explains Strang. Hold your hips up for a count of five while stabilizing your ab muscles. Bring your hips slowly back down.
Suggested reps: 15 to 20 reps, three or four sets.
Advance the movement: Extend one leg upward in line with your hips. Remember to keep your lower back and pelvis tilted toward the ground to keep your form.

4. Marching

The marching exercise is ideal for an ab workout at home. Lie on your back with your neck and shoulders resting comfortably on the floor. Tighten your abs and tilt your pelvis so your lower back touches the floor. Both legs should be bent and resting on the floor. Lift up one leg at a time, focus on keeping your back still and abdominals tight. “Go slow and focus on controlled motion. If you can’t control the motion, limit your leg movement. Remember to keep the focus on engaging your transverse abdominis,” says Strang.
Suggested reps: 20 reps, three sets.
Advance the movement: Bend both legs in a table top position (90 degree angle from your hips). Slowly lower one leg down at a time and tap your heel to the floor.

5. Backward Crunch

Start in a seated position with your feet on the floor and a straight, neutral spine. Lean backward slowly, counting to 20. Controlled movement is key, says Williams.
Once you feel like you could fall backward, plant your hands on the floor and slowly push yourself back up to starting position. “Instead of a normal crunch, you’re only doing the leaning back portion, which elongates the spine and engages the core muscles. It also burns!” says Williams.
Suggested reps: Work your way up to 10 reps, but start with three to five.
Advance the movement: Lift your feet off of the floor so your knees are closer to your chest.

6. Bird Dogs

Begin in a table top position with your knees on the ground and your hands planted firmly shoulder-width apart. With a flat back, engage your abs by tucking in and keeping your spine straight. Extend one leg straight backward (in line with your spine) while simultaneously extending the opposite arm out straight. Bring them back in to the starting position. Alternate by extending the opposite leg and opposite arm.
Suggested reps: 20 to 30 reps, three sets.
Advance the movement: Hold your arm and leg in the extended position for five seconds before bringing them back to the starting position.

7. Planks

Lie on the floor with your stomach facing down. Touch your toes to the floor and lift your body using your glutes, core muscles, and arms. Support your body weight on your elbows or hands. For beginners, keep your knees on the ground.
“Your elbows or hands should be right under the shoulders, and your legs should be straight out behind you,” says Griffith. Keep your hips in alignment, creating a straight line from the ankles to the knees to the hips to the shoulders. If your hips are too high, you won’t be engaging your core. If they’re too low, it puts stress on your lower back, explains Griffith. Remember that you’re pulling in on your abs and not pushing out.
Suggested reps: Hold for up to one minute (or as long as you can), three times. If you need to take a break before one minute, do it.
Advance the movement: Engage your obliques with side planks by rotating your body sideways, keeping one foot on the ground and stacking the other on top of it. Rest on your elbow or straighten your arm, planting your palm firmly on the ground. Elevate your hips to remain in line with your body.

8. Banded Obliques

Loop a resistance band with handles around something sturdy that won’t move. Take a few steps away from the object that the band is attached to. Lift both arms above the head while holding the band by the handle. Lock the shoulders so they don’t move. Slowly side bend away from the attachment, then come back to center, but don’t let the band pull you past center. “It’s all about smooth control,” says Griffith. Adjust the resistance of your band as needed by moving closer or further away. Alternate sides to get both sets of obliques.
Suggested reps: Perform one set to fatigue with 10 to 20 reps per side. Use a lighter or heavier resistance band as needed.
Advance the movement: Increase to 15 reps, but keep your form intact.

9. Rotating Ab Plank

Begin in a plank position (see #7). Bend your knees slightly so your feet are closer to your shoulders than normal. Start in the middle position, and pull in the stomach as you rotate slowly to one side without dropping the knees. Extend your top arm toward the sky. Hold for 20 seconds. Rotate back to the middle slowly, hold for 20 seconds, then rotate to the opposite side for a 20 count. “You should be squeezing your bottom abs and working your obliques as you rotate,” says Williams.
Suggested reps: Two reps, three sets.
Advance the movement: Hold for 40 seconds on each side and in the center.

10. Knee Tucks

Time to pull out your exercise ball! Start in a plank position with your hands planted firmly on the floor, shoulder-distance apart. Your toes should be secure to the ball for stability. Tuck your knees to your chest, rolling in the ball toward your head. Slowly extend your legs back out.
Suggested reps: 10 to 15 reps. Two to three sets.
Advance the movement: Hold for a five-second count when your legs are in the extended position.

Incorporate ab exercises into your daily routine.

Building a strong core doesn’t just involve consistent ab workouts. It’s about utilizing your core in your other exercises, says Strang. Engage your core when you do lunges, squats, and while weightlifting.
[pullquote]Building a strong core doesn’t just involve consistent ab workouts. It’s about utilizing your core in your other exercises.[/pullquote]
“Even when you’re sitting at your desk, your abs can be engaged to support healthy posture. Place both feet on the ground, press your feet lightly as if you’re standing, and straighten your spine,” instructs Griffith. You can even engage your core while you wash dishes or stand in line at the grocery store.
Wondering how many times per week to do ab workouts specifically?
“Three days a week is recommended for ab workouts,” says Griffith. “You don’t need to do a specific ab workout every day, and you shouldn’t do ab-specific exercises two days in a row. Just like the rest of the body, those muscles need recovery days.”

And don’t forget a crucial ingredient: your nutrition.

“There’s an old adage that says ‘Abs are made in the kitchen,’” says Williams. And others agree.
For healthy, toned abs, it’s important to reduce the fat that’s around them. Scheufler explains: “If someone wants to lose weight, especially around the middle, they need to reduce their caloric intake. You want to specifically avoid blood sugar spikes. When the liver doesn’t have enough room to store the excess sugar that isn’t immediately burned (and it maxes out quickly), that excess sugar turns into fat.” Reducing your intake of simple sugars and carbs, like soda, helps reduce your belly fat and your fat overall.
“Fruits and veggies are also important when it comes to weight loss because they are full of fiber and water,” says Scheufler. She encourages everyone to get the recommended daily protein amount of 0.8 grams per kilogram of body weight. For a person who weighs 150 pounds, that means around 54 grams per day. “You can get protein from meat, dairy, beans, lentils, nuts, tofu, and any soy protein,” Scheufler says.
To see the most significant body changes, Griffith suggests the fitness trifecta: healthy eating, balanced strength training with a focus on the core, and cardio that’s not seated.

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What Types Of Therapy Are Out There? How To Find The Best Fit For You

Going to therapy can be tough.
That’s an understatement. There’s a great deal of stigma surrounding therapy and mental health issues, accessing a therapist can be expensive, and sometimes your therapist doesn’t really gel with you.
Not to mention that it’s often difficult to talk about your experiences, thoughts, and fears.
I’ve seen therapists off and on from the age of 13. My first therapist was more harmful than helpful, and she barely helped me with my post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms at all. I was afraid of approaching a second therapist because my first experience was so unhelpful.
I’m glad that I eventually tried therapy again, because my second experience helped me a great deal. My new therapist used two kinds of therapy—cognitive behavioral and eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR)—which meant her approach was totally different from the first therapist. This approach helped me a great deal.
[pullquote align=”center”]If you discover that one type of therapy doesn’t seem to be helping you, don’t be put off therapy altogether.[/pullquote]
It’s important to realize that different therapists will have different approaches to therapy. In part, this is because they each have their own areas of interest and expertise. It’s also because there are a number of types of therapy out there. Many psychotherapists are trained in more than one kind of therapy, and some may use a blend of different methods to treat you. Some types of therapy might work for you, and others won’t. It’s a matter of finding something that suits you.
If you discover that one type of therapy doesn’t seem to be helping you, don’t be put off therapy altogether. Consider seeing another therapist or pursuing another kind of therapy; it might just pleasantly surprise you.

What types of therapy are there?

There are numerous types of therapy, and while we can’t cover them all here, we can discuss some of the most common types of therapy.

Client-Centered Therapy (CCT)

Also known as person-centered therapy, client-centered therapy is a widely used form of therapy that was first conceptualized in the 1940s. The idea behind CCT is to constantly remember that the client is a person and that we have the power to heal ourselves—we just need a little support. The therapy focuses on the client; the therapist is there primarily to listen and empathize. While the therapist can give a little guidance, they encourage the client to make their own decisions and work through their own feelings.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

Another fairly common type of therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy focuses on changing your thought patterns to help you develop healthier patterns of behavior.
Cognitive behavioral therapy revolves around the principle that our feelings result from our thoughts and that therefore the best way to improve how you feel is to work on changing your thoughts,” says Raffi Bilek. Bilek is a licensed clinical social work counselor and director of the Baltimore Therapy Center, as well as the director of the Montgomery County Abuse Intervention Program in Maryland. “This kind of therapy is usually practical, concrete, and directed.”
Olivia Djouadi, a licensed psychotherapist and counselor, often uses the image of a triangle to help her clients navigate certain experiences. The three points of the triangle represent thoughts, feelings, and behavior, all of which she examines when helping a client work through an experience.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) includes helping the client change their behavior by developing new skills. These skills could include mindfulness, positive social skills, regulating your emotions, and tolerating distressing situations.
If you’re prone to self-destructive behavior, or if you struggle with regulating your emotions, this could be a great form of therapy for you. Although DBT was originally used to treat people with borderline personality disorder, substance abuse issues, and/or suicidal thoughts, it’s also effective for a range of other mental health issues. Studies suggest that DBT can be helpful in eating disorder treatment, particularly for binge-eating disorder and bulimia.

Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR)

According to the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA), this type of therapy is helpful in processing trauma. If the memory of a trauma is greatly upsetting to you, EMDR can help you process the experience. This form of therapy can also be used to treat a range of other mood and personality disorders.
An EMDR session might seem different from most types of talk therapy. In my case, my therapist would tap one knee and then the other while I had to imagine and recall the details of traumatic experiences. While this was hard, it ultimately helped.
EMDRIA notes that the movement of the eyes during EMDR is like what happens when we dream. Our eyes move back and forth, which is why the dreaming phase of sleeping is called rapid eye movement or REM. We know that dreaming is important for storing and processing information, and it is thought that EMDR elicits a similar process.

Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy

Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) can blend mindfulness practices with CBT. “Mindfulness broadly refers to the practice of being aware of your feelings, thoughts, and sensations in the present moment,” Bilek says. “This kind of therapy is aimed at helping you develop the skill of mindfulness, which can help you gain more control over your experience and thereby better achieve your goals.” Mindfulness-based therapy can also include using meditation and breathing exercises as tools.
“It slows down the thinking patterns and can help people focus on the situation they have been through and start to accept what has happened,” Djouadi says. “Before discussing any trauma, I connect a client with a safe object, which may be a good memory or their phone. Some clients might not have ever had a safe feeling so I slowly introduce what one may be,” she explains. This exercise helps to ground them and help them feel safe.
Studies have found that mindfulness-based therapy is effective in treating depression as well as bipolar disorder and anxiety disorders.

Play Therapy

Talking about your feelings and past experiences isn’t always easy, so expressive forms of therapy like play therapy can be useful. Djouadi says that play therapy, while often used with children, can also be used to treat adults. “I use play therapy when clients struggle with dissociation, as it begins to heal the developmental areas that were affected by early trauma,” she says.

Which type of therapy is right for me?

As you can see, there are so many types of therapy out there that it can be hard to choose one. The important thing to remember is that there are many different approaches to therapy, and you can seek another therapist or a different kind of therapy if one doesn’t work for you.
[pullquote align=”center”]“The best therapy to go with is the one that resonates with you the most.
—Raffi Bilek, LCSW[/pullquote]
The type of therapy that’s used to treat you will depend on your own needs; particular types of therapy are more suited to certain types of mental illnesses or emotional struggles.
“Research seems to indicate that the best therapy to go with is the one that resonates with you the most,” Bilek says. “Studies have shown that all therapeutic modalities are more or less equally effective, so long a there is a plausible theory behind it. This means that if you really like the idea of CBT, then that will work well for you, and if mindfulness is your thing, that can work well for you too,” he says. Experimenting with different types of therapy could be helpful.
You should always ensure that your therapist has a license to practice therapy. If you’re looking for a therapist who practices a specific type of therapy, ask what types of therapy they practice and what their relevant training is.
Bilek points out that it’s more crucial to make sure that you’re comfortable with your therapist than to look for a specific kind of therapy. “Far more important than the kind of therapy is the relationship you have with the therapist. So your best bet is to pick a therapist, meet with them, and see how you like them. If you don’t, try someone else,” he says. “You shouldn’t shop around forever between all the therapists in town, but you should feel free to try a couple until you find one you feel comfortable with.”
Opening up about your innermost feelings and life experiences can feel overwhelming, but fortunately there are many types of therapy available—and qualified therapists who are willing to help.

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Benefits Of Chia Seeds You Never Knew Existed

By now, you’re probably familiar with the ever-popular, incredibly versatile, super nutritious chia seed, which is finding its way into tons of healthy recipes on the internet. And, if you’re old enough, you might remember the catchy 1980s commercial for the Chia Pet, a terracotta-style figurine that sprouted the tiny seed (which you can still purchase in many varieties, by the way). It’s clear that Americans have become somewhat obsessed with these gluten- and nut-free seeds, and not only because they sprout cute plant hair on top of our favorite terracotta characters. The benefits of chia seeds for health abound.
“Chia seeds have become known as a superfood, touting the ability to lower blood sugar, cholesterol, improve gut health, and help in appetite suppression and weight loss,” says Jeanette Kimszal, registered dietitian nutritionist. “The promise of these benefits give the food a ‘power,’ leading to consumers wanting to get their hands on these little seeds of hope.”
So how did this tiny seed become such a staple in the worlds of nutrition and health, and how you can benefit from consuming chia seeds on a regular basis?

But first, what are chia seeds, exactly?

Also known as Salvia hispanica, chia seeds are tiny seeds that come from a flowering plant in the mint family. The plant grows best in tropical climates and is native to Mexico and Guatemala.
Aurora Satler, chef and author of The Ultimate New Mom’s Cookbook, says that they can be used in almost any kind of food, from a vegan egg replacement to an oil, and in energy bars, drinks, and even in chocolate bars and snacks. “With their many health benefits—high in fiber, high in omega-3, high in calcium, and very uncommon as an allergen—chia seeds have fast been touted as a go-to health food,” she says.

The History of the Chia Seed

While we’re only just learning about the impressive abilities of this tiny seed, the plant is actually an ancient crop; the Aztecs planted it as far back as 3500 B.C. as one of their main food sources. “The Aztecs used ground chia seeds in foods like tortillas and tamales, as an ingredient in beverages, in medicinal oils, and in religious ceremonies,” explains Kimszal. “The long shelf life made chia a good food to carry on long trips, giving people energy on the go.”
[pullquote align=”center”]“Chia seeds are a good source of protein and an excellent source of fiber, two nutrients that work together to help keep you fuller for longer.”[/pullquote]
Chia remained a staple in Mexican and South American culture for centuries before they were taking over home gardens and adorning terracotta heads in the 1980s. Around the 1990s, American and South American scientists, nutritionists, and agriculturalists started looking at the chia seed for its health benefits and began treating it as a nutritional food crop to add to people’s diets, explains Kimszal.

The Health Benefits of Chia Seeds

We asked experts to share some of the science-backed benefits of chia seeds that deserve our attention.

They’re chock-full of protein and fiber.

You may have heard that chia seeds are a hunger suppressant. While there have been no scientific studies to back up this claim, experts say that the theory can be explained.
“Chia seeds are a good source of protein (4 grams per 1 ounce serving) and an excellent source of fiber (11 grams per 1 ounce serving), two nutrients that work together to help keep you fuller for longer,” says Amy Gorin, registered dietitian nutritionist and owner of Amy Gorin Nutrition in the New York City area. “Another reason that chia seeds are filling is because they offer a lot of volume when they expand in liquid to form a gel.” This is what makes them a great ingredient in desserts and breakfasts.

They’re a hydration helper.

Approximately 43 percent of Americans drink less than four cups of water a day, which is four less than the recommended amount, according to a study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. While consuming water the old-fashioned way is best to ensure you’re getting your eight or more cups a day, you can also consume water-rich foods, like chia seeds, which can absorb 10 times their weight in liquid.
“This means that when you eat the hydrated seeds in a pudding or gel, you’re also getting the water along with it,” says Frances Largeman-Roth, registered dietitian nutritionist and author of Eating in Color: Delicious, Healthy Recipes for You and Your Family. “This makes chia seeds a great way to stay hydrated, especially when you don’t want to drink a lot of liquids, like before a race or before going to bed.”

They’re packed with calcium.

Chia seeds provide 179 mg of calcium in a mere one-ounce serving, which is more than half the amount in an entire glass of milk! “Calcium is needed to help strengthen bones, improve our blood circulation, and keep our muscles contracting and heart beating,” explains Kimszal. “Just one-third cup of chia provides 18 percent of your daily calcium needs, which is important for people who are vegan or lactose-intolerant and might not be getting their fair share.”

They can help athletes decrease their sugar intake.

One study published in The Journal of Strength & Conditioning found that chia loading before endurance events over 90 minutes had the same performance outcomes as carbohydrate loading, which means chia seeds might offer a viable option for athletes to decrease their sugar intake while upping their omega-3s and seeing similar results.
“By consuming chia seeds, athletes are also getting the benefits of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA), the plant form of omega-3,” explains Largeman-Roth. “ALA contains anti-inflammatory and cardioprotective benefits, which help not only athletes, but normally active individuals too.”

Are chia seeds a superfood?

There are no nutritional requirements set by the FDA for a food to be considered “super,” however, there’s no denying that chia seeds fit the common description. “When people think of superfoods, they think of foods that are a good source of many nutrients that are important and essential in our diets, which chia seeds are,” says Julie Andrews, registered dietitian and chef. “Chia seeds are packed with nutrients like omega-3s—and not many plant foods have omega-3 fatty acids—and fiber, which are both very important for maintaining a healthy heart, and fiber is important for digestive health, as well as protein, which builds and repairs tissues in our body.”
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Additionally, as we mentioned, chia seeds contain calcium, which is important for maintaining strong bones. Because of this laundry list of nutrients that chia seeds contain, there’s no reason not to consider them a superfood.

Who are chia seeds good for?

One of the best things about chia seeds is that they’re really ideal for almost anyone, especially since they’re uncommon as an allergen. However, Roger E. Adams, PhD, Houston-based dietitian, nutritionist, and founder of Eat Right Fitness, points out that there are some side effects of chia that must be considered while pregnant. “While specific research into chia and pregnancy is scant, pregnant women should carefully monitor how much they have (probably well under two tablespoons per day) and keep a check on their blood pressure throughout their pregnancy,” he adds.
[pullquote align=”center”]“If someone is eating a low-fiber diet, they will not be able to handle much chia in the beginning without experiencing gastrointestinal issues.”[/pullquote]
Like anything else, munch on chia seeds in moderation, as too much chia can lead to drops in blood pressure that may be dangerous, especially during pregnancy. Chia seeds also might increase the risk of bleeding in pregnant women. “Both of these are primarily due to chia’s concentrated source of omega-3,” explains Adams. Additionally, as with any high-fiber food, he adds that the risk of nutrient malabsorption must be considered when consuming chia, as high amounts of fiber at one time may prevent certain nutrients, mainly iron and calcium, from being absorbed.
Adams recommends eating no more than 1.5 to 2 tablespoons a day, however, this suggestion may change depending on an individual’s size and existing diet. “If someone is eating a low-fiber diet, they will not be able to handle much chia in the beginning without experiencing gastrointestinal issues,” he says. He suggests that beginners start slow and spread out their intake throughout the day.

How to Incorporate Chia Seeds Into Your Diet

Since chia seeds are gluten-, nut-, and dairy-free, they’re incredibly easy to incorporate into almost any food philosophy. You can also consume them raw or cooked. “When consumed raw, the chia retains all of its omega-3, and you reap more benefits from it; however, the protein in raw chia is not as bioavailable so may be poorly digested and absorbed,” says Adams. He recommends using both raw and toasted cooking methods to reap the most nutritional benefits. However, if gastrointestinal issues are a concern, then toasting should be your primary option.
When purchasing chia seeds on your own, choosing organic versus conventional is not super important, as Andrews says that the seeds are pretty much the same. Still, many people choose organic versions just to be safe. You can buy them online or at the grocery store. “Oftentimes grocery stores have chia seeds in the bulk section, and those tend to be cheaper, plus you can choose how much you want to buy,” adds Andrews. But remember, a little goes a long way as far as nutrition is concerned.
Due to the impressive health benefits of chia seeds, many health-conscious recipes that contain these little nutrient powerhouses are available online. Some of Andrews’ favorites include overnight oatschia seed pudding, and chia seed jam.

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Life x Culture Lifestyle

Experts Explain How To Save Money Realistically

The struggle to save money is real.
With regular monthly responsibilities (rent, mortgage, car insurance, health insurance, cell service, and more) along with fun expenditures like your monthly yoga pass or happy hours with co-workers, expenses add up fast.
Fortunately, there are concrete changes you can make to your routine to help you save more money every month without completely killing your lifestyle.
Whether you’re saving up for a down payment, dream vacation, retirement, or emergency fund, we’re sharing the best ways to save more money every month—and how to stick to your plan for the long run.

Money Saving Tip #1: Shift your money mindset.

Our own beliefs about money and the beliefs of those around us impact our actions regarding money. “You have to be intentional with what you allow into your environment: what information you’re consuming and what you’re exposing yourself to when it comes to money,” says Amanda Abella, founder and CEO of Make Money Your Honey.
What influenced you as a kid and throughout your lifetime makes a difference. Do you believe you can save a lot of money? Or do you believe that you’ll always be scraping by?
Before you can make a money-saving transformation, you have to truly believe it’s possible to accumulate wealth. “If there’s a subconscious belief that you can’t do it, you’ll sabotage yourself,” explains Abella. “People aren’t accustomed to saying what they want. But you have to allow yourself to dream in order to make your savings goals a reality.”
That’s why Abella encourages people to seek out information on wealth consciousness and money mindset. From reading books like Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill to listening to financial podcasts like Jamila Souffrant’s Journey to Launch, you can mentally condition yourself to believe wealth and financial stability are possible for you.
[pullquote align=”center”]“People aren’t accustomed to saying what they want. But you have to allow yourself to dream in order to make your savings goals a reality.”
—Amanda Abella of Make Money Your Honey[/pullquote]
Souffrant, a certified financial education instructor, blogger, podcast host, and money coach, says that shifting your mindset to “I’m going to save first, then spend what’s left” (instead of the other way around) is foundational and essential.

Money Saving Tip #2: Yes, you gotta have a budget.

If you don’t know what you’re spending compared to what you’re making, it’s difficult to make any financial progress. “A budget or spending plan is helpful because it gives you an inventory of your habits: what you spend on and where the leaks in your budget are,” explains Souffrant.  
The amount you spend per month on lattes or grocery shopping remains a mystery if you don’t track it. Luckily, you can make a budget retroactively. On a piece of paper, in a spreadsheet, or with an app, record your financial activity for the last two or three months, recommends Souffrant. Look at your credit card statements, checking accounts, and bank accounts to determine what you spend in each category. After you have this baseline, continue to track what you’re spending and where the money is going. Review each month’s budget to see where you can make changes.
“Look for repetitive patterns,” says Tanya Ince, PhD, a money coach and business consultant. “Maybe you have a monthly membership that could be canceled or downgraded.”
Ince teases: “I know coffee is important, but even $2 a day equals more than $700 a year.”

Money Saving Tip #3: Design crystal-clear goals.

“I knew that in order to start saving, I had to get clear on my ‘why,’” explains Abella. “I wanted to live by the water and run my own business. I knew it was going to require money.”
By taking time to determine her goals and how she wanted to live, she was able to calculate how much money she needed. From there, she reverse engineered her budget—knowing exactly how much she had to save.
So how can you get clear on what you want? “Identify your goal and make it specific, measurable, and timed,” encourages Ince. If your goal is to vacation to the Greek islands within the next year, estimate the total cost. “With a clear goal like this, you understand how much to save and how long you have to save that money.”
Ince suggests creating a mental or, better yet, a physical picture of your goal. Print a photo of the car you want or your dream vacation destination and put it on your fridge or computer monitor. That constant visual reminder will help keep you on track.
But quality is far better than quantity when it comes to financial goals. “If we have too many competing goals and desires, we become overwhelmed and make poor financial decisions,” explains Ince.
That’s why it’s important to pick one or two goals that are top priority. Is it a trip to Vegas or a down payment on a house? If it’s important to save for a house, you may have to forgo the trip (but don’t worry—you could always staycation as a cheaper alternative). “Some sacrifices will need to be made,” says Souffrant. “There might be times when you’ll need to cut back on things that don’t matter as much.”

Money Saving Tip #4: Automate, automate, automate.

Have you ever thought to yourself “I’ll put money in an account later” but it never happens?
Don’t worry, we’ve all been there.
“Your savings should be automatic. Ideally, they should be deducted before you see your paycheck and taxes,” says Souffrant. Many employers offer options to automatically deposit money into different accounts, including savings accounts and retirement accounts.
If your employer doesn’t offer multiple direct deposits, use an app to automate your savings. “It’s easy to start saving using robo-advisors and automatic savings apps, like Acorns or Stash,” explains Ince. “You can choose the right portfolio for you and the amount to save per month. Or choose an option to invest your leftover change from each transaction.”
When your savings are automatic, you don’t have to think about it. Your saving plan is on autopilot. It’s one less decision to make.

Money Saving Tip #5: Start small—and be consistent.

“Research shows that people increase their amount of savings over time. The hardest thing is to start. So, start small and save regularly,” encourages Ince.
Souffrant admits that the delayed gratification of saving is tough. “Many people say, ‘I work hard. I deserve this. Life is short, and I can’t take my money with me.’” But it’s not about whether you deserve something. It’s about remembering that the time is going to pass anyway. If you save small amounts, you can still enjoy life. “Saving money shouldn’t be a complete deprivation; it’s about being smart about the future,” Souffrant says.
A long-term goal like buying a house or traveling internationally can seem far away. But if you save consistently over time, you will get there. Souffrant explains: “It’s kind of like going to the gym once. You won’t see a flat tummy right away.” But if you save for even five weeks, you’ll see the progress. “Stick with it, and your future self will thank you.”
“Make a commitment to increase your savings by 1 percent each year,” Ince suggests. “Time works in your favor, and it really makes sense to start early.”

Money Saving Tip #6: Identify the best places for your money.

Dropping your money into a savings account isn’t always the most lucrative option.
Where you put your money depends on what you need it for, explains Souffrant. “Everyone needs an emergency fund, which should be easily accessible funds in a savings account.” Experts recommend three to six months of living expenses be stowed away in case of a job loss or unexpected bills. Rather than putting those charges on credit cards with high interest rates, you’re accessing your own cash.
And emergency funds aren’t just to prepare for negative circumstances. “That extra money also allows you to take advantage of an unexpected opportunity, like friends taking a trip or a training class that will improve your chances in the job market,” says Abella.
In addition to easily accessed cash, you’ll want to consider funds for long-term gain, like a retirement or investment fund. “If you’re saving for something that’s not a short-term goal, consider a mutual fund, IRA, or retirement account,” explains Ince. You’ll reap more reward, like an 8 percent compounding return on an investment, over the 1 to 3 percent interest you might see in a savings account.
[pullquote align=”center”]“The longer we wait, the more money we lose. The power of time and accumulation is huge. The difference is in hundreds of thousands of dollars.”
—Tanya Ince, PhD, money coach and business consultant[/pullquote]
“Remember: Investing in stocks, mutual funds, or index funds [is] riskier but offers a much higher return over time than a savings account. So don’t invest money you need in the near term,” says Souffrant.
Abella recommends opening different saving accounts with labeled names that represent your goals: a house down payment, a trip to Thailand. “Every time you log in, you see the specific goal and what you’re working toward.”

Money Saving Tip #7: Maximize your retirement matching.

“Make contributions to your retirement plan—at least enough to maximize how much is matched by your employer,” encourages Ince. At that point, it’s basically free money.
If you have access to a 401(k) or 403(b) through your place of employment, you’ll have different options for what you can choose to invest in, says Souffrant. “Call your human resources department or plan provider to understand where your money is going.” Compare fees and average return rates to maximize growth in your retirement accounts.

Money Saving Tip #8: Consider additional income streams.

Saving more money isn’t just about limiting your spending. “We either need to increase our income or cut down on spending or both,” Ince remarks.
To add income, ask for a raise, volunteer for more hours, or take on a part-time job or side hustle. “For those without a large gap between spending and income, there isn’t much money to save. In these cases, focusing on increasing income is the best strategy.”
Abella agrees, saying that it’s important to have your money coming from different sources. Whether it’s freelancing on the side, becoming a social media influencer, waiting tables, or selling items you no longer need, you’ll be in a position for setting aside more money. “If you pick up a side gig, make sure to save that money and live off of your normal income,” reminds Abella.

Money Saving Tip #9: Seek accountability.

As with changing any habit, follow-through is where many people get stuck. Finding someone or a group to hold you accountable can make all the difference. “When we state our goals verbally, we tend to stick to them more than if we don’t,” says Ince.
“Get a close friend on board with you. Make it fun and update each other every week,” says Souffrant. When someone is supporting your journey and goals, you’re more likely to follow through.
Don’t have folks in your life who want to save money like you do? “Listen to podcasts, follow people on social media who are on the same journey, and read inspirational material to keep you focused and motivated,” Souffrant suggests. If the people around you aren’t changing, connect with online groups and resources who will help motivate you.

Money Saving Tip #10: Begin now.

“The longer we wait, the more money we lose. The power of time and accumulation is huge. The difference is in hundreds of thousands of dollars,” says Ince. If you start saving now, your interest doesn’t just accumulate on the initial amount but on the interest itself.
Ince provides an example: If you start saving $300 a month at age 25 and you do it continually (consistency is key), by the age of 65, you’ll have accumulated $1 million (assuming an 8 percent interest rate). If you wait 10 years and start at age 35, saving the same amount monthly with the same interest, you’ll only have $450,000 at 65. If you start at 45, the amount reduces to $178,000. At 55, it would only be $56,000.
But don’t be discouraged if you’re getting a later start. “Starting now is always the best choice,” says Ince. You will accumulate far more wealth by starting to save now than if you begin in 10 years—so it’s certainly better late than never, and better now than later!

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Health x Body Wellbeing

Tick Bite Symptoms You Shouldn’t Ignore (And Some That Never Show)

Tick bite symptoms are about as maddening as it can get. Sometimes they show up. Sometimes they decide to hide like an ostrich with its head in the sand.
And yet, everywhere you turn, there are warnings that getting bitten by a pesky tick can put you at risk for some serious diseases, including Lyme, the most rampant tick-borne disease of them all.
If you’ve been bitten by a tick or you’re wondering if one of those wily arachnids snacked on your skin, you’re probably searching for a rash that looks like a bullseye somewhere on your body. So what happens if you find one? And, for that matter, what happens if you don’t?

Tick Bite Symptoms: The Bullseye

The bullseye rash has become synonymous with tick bite symptoms ever since Yale University researchers first discovered Lyme disease and deer ticks—the critters spreading the infection—way back in the 1970s. The first cases of Lyme disease cropped up in and around Lyme, Connecticut (hence the name), where 51 residents were diagnosed with juvenile arthritis or arthritis of unknown cause. The more research scientists did, the more sure they were that the problem was the bite of the deer tick, or Ixodes scapularis.
Fast forward some 40 years, and the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) estimates 329,000 cases of Lyme disease now occur annually in the United States. The species of tick that makes people sick has spread from Connecticut to 14 states in the Northeast and upper Midwest, and they typically come out to bite people during the late spring, summer, and early fall (from about April to October).
As the tiny disease-carrying creatures have spread, the tick bite symptoms that doctors tell patients to look for have changed rather drastically too.  
The bullseye that was once known as a classic sign that someone has been bitten by a tick and was at high risk of contracting Lyme is no longer a given, says Bruce Robinson, MD, a clinical professor of dermatology at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City and the creator of JAS, Just Amazing Skincare, a plant-based skincare collection.
“It can look like an ordinary mosquito bite,” Robinson says of a tick bite. “It can look like any version of a bite from a filled-in circle of red to a bullseye.”
In fact, Robinson finds that many patients show up thinking they have a “new mole,” only to find out that the new spot on the body is actually a tick bite.
Even more confounding? Different bodies react differently to tick bites, says David Claborn, doctor of public health and director of the master of public health program at Missouri State University. Your tick bite symptoms might include itching. Your friend’s tick bite symptoms might involve pain. But each of you could have been bitten by the same little critter!
“Much depends on the body’s reaction to the bite,” Claborn explains. “Allergic reactions can cause a great deal of discomfort—or worse. If the person has pulled the tick off, the tick’s mouthparts may have been left in the bite site and these can fester up.”

Why Tick Bites Are So Dangerous

Being bitten by a tick is unpleasant. It can itch. It can cause pain, and for some people, diseases and other conditions can set in.
For example, Claborn says, if the tick is feeding near the spinal cord or base of the brain, a type of paralysis called tick paralysis can occur. This usually resolves quickly after the tick is removed or drops off. Another condition linked to tick bites causes an allergy to red meat, Claborn says, although the full explanation for how this allergy develops is not yet known.
There’s also ehrlichiosis (a bacterial disease fairly common in parts of the U.S.), Rocky Mountain spotted fever, tularemia (a bacterial disease often associated with hunting rabbits that is actually transmitted by ticks) and diseases common to the Midwest caused by the Bourbon virus and the Heartland virus.
[pullquote align=”center”]“For some people, Lyme disease can go away on its own within several weeks, but for others, if not treated, Lyme disease can spread to the central nervous system, muscle and joints, eyes and heart.”
—Jack Cornwell, MD[/pullquote]
Finally, there’s  Lyme disease, the most common tick-borne illness in the U.S. Every year, approximately 30,000 cases of Lyme disease are reported to the CDC by state health departments and the District of Columbia, but the CDC estimates there are substantially more cases that go undiagnosed and thus unreported.
It’s Lyme disease that gets the most attention in part because it’s most prevalent but also because it has devastating effects for some people who don’t get treatment or aren’t treated in a timely manner.
“For some people, Lyme disease can go away on its own within several weeks,” explains Jack Cornwell, MD, medical director at CareWell Urgent Care, “but for others, if not treated, Lyme disease can spread to the central nervous system, muscle and joints, eyes and heart.”
“Everyone’s body reacts differently, and symptoms may vary in severity,” Cornwell continues, “but since Lyme disease can affect multiple systems, it’s important to see a doctor right away if you suspect it.”

When will tick bite symptoms show up?

What tick bite symptoms should you be looking for, and when should you be looking?
Unlike a bee that stings and flies off quickly or even a mosquito that lands, snacks, and flies away within seconds, ticks stick around on your body. An adult female tick can actually stay for as long as 7 to 10 days without being noticed, although nymphs (young ticks) or larvae (very young ticks) tend to feed off a subject for less than four days according to Robinson.
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Some more good news here: In most cases, to transmit Lyme disease, a deer tick has to be attached to its host for 36 to 48 hours, Robinson says. Grabbing a tweezer and pulling that sucker off before it hits that point means you can usually stop potential infection before it sets in, although it’s still good to check in with your doctor as your estimate of how long the tick was attached may be off.
Gross? Yes.
But if you don’t notice a tick using you as a snack, don’t beat yourself up too hard. It happens, and it’s extremely common—hence the CDC’s warning that estimates of Lyme disease are on the low side. Ticks are tiny, even smaller than your pencil eraser, so you may or may not notice one on your body. And they like to move into warm, moist spots on the body, such as the crack of your butt or the fold between your leg and labia (or penis).
And even when they drop off, the signs that a tick has bitten you may not be immediate. Rashes may appear anywhere from 3 to 40 days after a bite, Robinson warns.
Even then, the rash only occurs in about 70 to 80 percent of the population. When it does, it will typically (but not always!) look like a bullseye or target that expands gradually over a period of days, spanning a diameter of 12 inches (30 cm) or more across.
You may also experience fever, chills, headache, fatigue, muscle and joint aches, and swollen lymph nodes. Any or all of these symptoms of a tick bite are reason to head to your doctor ASAP.
If Lyme isn’t caught early, it can progress to additional symptoms, including:

  • Severe headaches and neck stiffness
  • Additional rashes on other areas of the body
  • Arthritis with severe joint pain and swelling, particularly the knees and other large joints.
  • Facial palsy (loss of muscle tone or droop on one or both sides of the face)
  • Intermittent pain in tendons, muscles, joints, and bones
  • Heart palpitations or an irregular heartbeat (known as Lyme carditis)
  • Episodes of dizziness or shortness of breath
  • Inflammation of the brain and spinal cord
  • Nerve pain
  • Shooting pains, numbness, or tingling in the hands or feet
  • Problems with short-term memory

Tick Bite Testing

Once you show up in the doctor’s office, they’ll examine your rash or bite mark—if you have one—and run some blood tests.
Unfortunately, even if you are tested for Lyme, as many as 60 percent of cases are missed by diagnostic testing, says Jo Ellis, director of education with Bay Area Lyme Foundation. And that’s even when doctors use the blood tests that are what Ellis calls the “gold standard” for diagnosing Lyme.
“As a result of the difficulty in diagnosing and treating Lyme disease, at least 500,000 Americans, and possibly up to one million, suffer from its debilitating later-stage symptoms,” Ellis says.
So what does that mean for you if you’ve been bitten by a tick? If you continue to experience any of the symptoms mentioned above, follow up with your doctor immediately. Sometimes performing the test at a later date may result in a positive.
Some doctors have now taken to treating patients prophylactically—aka without a confirmed diagnosis—if it can be confirmed that they were bitten by a tick (an attached tick or a bullseye rash are major indicators). But that means calling your doctor very quickly after a suspected tick bite, Cornwell notes.
[pullquote align=”center”]Many doctors’ offices and urgent care centers have the ability to send ticks out for testing for Lyme, which can help a doctor make the diagnosis even if a blood test is negative.[/pullquote]
“The window for taking prophylactic doxycycline, the medicine that decreases the likelihood that you develop Lyme disease, closes between 48 and 72 hours after infection,” he warns.
If you found the tick attached to your body and you were able to remove it with a pair of tweezers, you can stick it in a Ziploc baggie and bring it along to your doctor’s office for testing, although it’s not required.
“There is no way to know for sure if a tick is carrying Lyme disease or not unless the tick is tested,” Cornwell explains. Many doctors’ offices and urgent care centers have the ability to send ticks out for testing for Lyme, which can help a doctor make the diagnosis even if a blood test is negative.
This only works if the entire tick is intact, however, so Cornwell is quick to warn patients to pull gently with their tweezers so they can ensure they get the entire tick off the skin.
If the tick comes out in pieces, however, don’t stress yourself, especially if you’re not showing any symptoms!
“Plenty of laboratories offer to test ticks to determine whether they’re carrying any diseases. But that’s generally not worth your money,” Robinson notes, explaining that the tests can be $50 or more at some labs. “Even if the tick is infected with something, it doesn’t mean that it was able to transmit that infection, and if your tick comes back positive for Lyme disease or another infection, you probably won’t be treated unless you yourself start having symptoms.”

Don’t anger the tick!

Notice that the experts suggest grabbing a set of tweezers to remove a tick? No matter what you’ve seen on Pinterest or what your best friend swears her grandpa used to do to remove a tick, tweezers are the only doctor-recommended removal method for ticks.
“Common folk wisdom strategies for getting that tick to detach include holding a lit match toward it, smothering it with petroleum jelly or nail polish, and dabbing the spot with acetone or bleach,” Robinson says, but he’s quick to note that “all are questionable ideas!”
“With the lit-match strategy, you may just end up burning yourself, and while you might kill the tick, that won’t necessarily cause the tick to detach,” he warns. “ A dead tick is not going to come off any more easily than a live tick. As for the other methods above, even if they do work—and it’s not clear that they will—they may take long enough to allow a tick to pass on an infection.”
So grab the tweezers and grasp the tick as close to the surface of your skin as possible (this way you get the head as well as the body). Then firmly but steadily pull the tick directly backward from the bite site without twisting or jerking, Robinson suggests.
If there are still bits of the tick in the bite, use the tweezers to remove them as well. After everything’s gone, grab the rubbing alcohol and a cotton swab or a washcloth with soap and water, and clean the area to prevent additional infection of the wound.  

Don’t panic.

Although the number of Lyme cases in the U.S. has been trending upward and tick bites are not to be ignored, simply being bitten by a tick does not mean you will get sick.
“Only 2 percent of tick bites result in Lyme disease,” Cornwell says, “So while it’s important to be proactive, not every bite will result in an infection.”

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Does Couples Therapy Really Work?

You and your partner can’t seem to communicate without ending up in an argument. You often spend more time apart than as a couple. At least one of you is pretty unhappy with the state of your relationship. You love your partner deeply, so you don’t want to end your relationship, but you feel your current situation is untenable.
Or maybe none of those things are happening, but you feel that something is off with your relationship and you’re not sure how to fix it. Sound familiar?
If so, couples therapy may be able to help you and your partner get your groove back.
I spoke with licensed family and marriage therapists who specialize in couples therapy to get answers to some of the questions surrounding it and to find out whether it really works—and how to know when it might be time to give couples therapy a try.

Signs You and Your Partner May Need Couples Therapy

First of all, it’s important to remember that happy couples go to counseling too. “Counseling [can] strengthen a relationship, even if it is already strong,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Sara Stanizai of Prospect Therapy in Long Beach, California. “It would be like saying that people who are fit [or] in shape should be embarrassed about going to the gym!”
But if you can’t honestly describe your relationship as a happy one, your relationship may need professional intervention, Stanizai explains. Each partner rates or describes the relationship differently. You may rate your relationship as unsatisfactory, but your partner may think things are great.
No matter how each of you views your relationship, you may want to start thinking about couples therapy if you experience any of the following on a regular basis:

  • You are unhappy in the relationship more days than not.
  • You are having regular, frequent disagreements (especially if the same issue keeps coming up).
  • You feel nervous, anxious, or depressed thinking about your relationship or when you’re with your partner, but you’re okay with your friends, family, at work, or even around strangers.

This list is by no means exhaustive, says Stanizai. In fact, you may want to give couples therapy a go for other seemingly minor issues that have begun to cause a rift in your relationship over time.
For example, your partner may always leave dishes in the sink, which drives you crazy. They say, “But it’s just dishes!” To you, though, it might be a bigger issue. As Stanizai explains, “If you keep having the same disagreement, there is an underlying issue that is coming up in different situations in your relationship. It’s not about doing the dishes, but it’s about showing respect, trust, or aligned values.”
That said, it’s a myth that couples have to be actively unhappy to seek couples counseling or marriage therapy. Your relationship with your partner might be great—so great, in fact, that you find yourself unable to function without your partner. “If you feel like your identity is wrapped up in your partner and you struggle to be your own person, if you can’t make decisions without them…that’s unhealthy too,” says Stanizai.
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How to Know if You Need Couples Therapy

Everywhere from the workplace to the doctor’s office, women are often accused of overreacting, being overly emotional, or worst of all, the “C” word. No, not that one, the other “C” word: crazy.
In fact, researchers in a joint study by Arizona State University and the University of Illinois at Chicago found that men are perceived as being more influential when they assertively express themselves, but the opposite holds true for women. Unfortunately, this can be all too common in relationships as well.
[pullquote align=”center”]“If you can’t ‘get over’ the issue or you’re still upset about it later, it means it was more than a temporary irritability.
Sara Stanizai, LMFT[/pullquote]
So how do you know if you’re “overreacting” to a situation or if there is a real problem between you and your partner?
“If it’s a repeat issue or you have had the same disagreement before, it’s a sign there’s an underlying issue at play,” explains Stanizai. “Likewise, if you can’t ‘get over’ the issue or you’re still upset about it later, it means it was more than a temporary irritability.”
If you still feel upset, sad, or angry about an issue in your relationship, then your feelings are valid, regardless of whether your partner agrees with you. In this case, a marriage and family therapist may be able to help you and your partner communicate effectively to gain clarity on how each of you is feeling.

How to Convince Your Partner to Go to Couples Therapy

It’s not a good idea bring up the topic of marriage counseling or couples therapy in the middle of an argument, says Stanizai. Issues in your relationship are the responsibility of both you and your partner. But bringing up therapy during an already tense conversation could result in your partner showing hostility toward couples counseling because they may feel blamed for the situation (even if that wasn’t your intent).
Stanizai recommends that people “bring up couples therapy during a calm, happy time in your relationship … instead of bringing it up during or right after a disagreement.” She adds that people are less likely to be defensive if they’re both already in a calm place in the relationship. You’ll be able to explain why you think you need couples therapy without inadvertently placing an unfair share of blame on their shoulders.
Licensed marriage and family therapist Whitney Hawkins of the Collaborative Counseling Center in Miami, Florida, echoes Stanizai and says that if your partner gets upset when you mention couples therapy, it’s time to take a break from the conversation. “Table this conversation for a later time. Once one or both of you are flooded with emotion, it will be impossible to make any headway. You can say something as simple as, ‘I understand why you would feel that way. I’ll give you some time to think [and] we can talk about it tomorrow.’ Set another time to have a discussion about what is going on in your relationship.”
Even if you feel very strongly that you and your partner should attend couples counseling or marriage counseling, don’t make the decision for the both of you. Instead, suggest couples therapy to your partner as one option for working through your relationship issues and explain why you’d like to give couples counseling a try; end your proposal by telling your partner that it’s a decision you’d like to make together.
If your partner is totally unreceptive to the idea of going to couples therapy, then don’t give up completely.
[pullquote align=”center”]“The first step to eliminating stigma around couples therapy is simply talking about it.”
—Whitney Hawkins, LMFT[/pullquote]
“Remind them it’s not a ‘done deal,’ or an ultimatum, says Stanizai. “Say they can think about it and see if it’s something they’re interested in pursuing. People freak out because they feel they don’t have an option. If given the option, especially if they are having the same disagreements with you over and over, they are more likely to agree.”

The Stigma Around Couples Therapy

When you demonstrate shame about a subject, people often assume it is something to be ashamed of,” says Hawkins. But that shouldn’t be the case with couples therapy. “The first step to eliminating stigma around couples therapy is simply talking about it,” she continues.
When you start talking openly about therapy, Stanizai says you might be surprised to find that many couples have either thought about therapy or participated in couples therapy exercises.
If you’re worried that your family and friends already suspect something’s up or if you’ve been asked directly if you and your partner are in couples counseling, you’re under no obligation to share any personal information about your relationship. Plus, you don’t have to worry about your therapist sharing that information, because couples counseling and marriage therapy sessions are 100 percent confidential.  
Still, if you want, you can talk to people about counseling without revealing what goes on in your therapy sessions. Here are some responses Stanizai recommends for when your well-meaning mother or best friend wants to know what’s going on:

  • “We’re getting a relationship tune-up.”
  • “We got a great recommendation for a therapist and thought, ‘Why not?’ We’re excited to see how therapy can help our relationship grow.”
  • “We’re meeting with someone who specializes in [xyz issue, demographics, profession, ethnicity, etc.] so we’re interested to see how it works for us.”
  • We keep having the same disagreement and we’re over it, so we’re hoping to get to the bottom of it with some professional help.”

How to Choose a Couples Therapist

“An objective third party is never a bad idea,” Hawkins says. “When things get heated or tense in a relationship, it can be really difficult to remain objective, because you are invested emotionally. A professional can help shine a light on the dynamics that are keeping you stuck and teach you new ways to interact and support one another.”
Choosing the right therapist is critical to whether you and your partner will see positive results from couples therapy. To ensure that you and your partner pick a therapist that you both like, make sure you are both involved in the initial consultations and that you both address any questions or reservations that you may have.
You’ll also want to make sure that the therapist you choose uses a treatment model that works for your relationship issues.
For couples seeking help with substance abuse and other addictions, behavioral couples therapy (BCT) is an ideal treatment model, because it incorporates couples counseling techniques that promote abstinence from drugs and alcohol and help to build a stronger support system.
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) puts the emphasis on a couple’s emotions and how to transform negative emotions eroding a relationship into positive ones. If you’re dealing with multiple relationship issues, your therapist may use couples therapy techniques from a variety of treatment models.
Both Stanizai and Hawkins use the Gottman method of couples counseling. In this treatment model, couples complete extensive assessments and therapists use their findings to create a unique, research-based treatment plan for each couple.
While the most important thing is choosing a therapist who is going to help you improve your relationship, couples also have to consider the practicality of couples therapy. Therapy can get pricey, and according to both Stanizai and Hawkins, it’s rarely covered by insurance. Sessions vary in price depending on where you live, but you can expect to pay between $100 and $300 per session.
If money is one of your big relationship stressors, perhaps you can compromise by agreeing to one session and have the therapist help you come up with a plan for how to budget couples counseling together.

What to Expect in Couples Therapy

Once you’ve chosen a therapist, you’ll dive into the actual work of couples therapy. In the beginning, you can expect to attend weekly couples counseling sessions, with the first few sessions focused on gathering information about the relationship, says Hawkins. Don’t be alarmed if your therapist interviews both of you together and separately to get to the root of what’s causing your relationship issues.
“We gather that information and focus on your strengths as a couple as well as the areas that are mismatched [and] areas of growth,” Stanizai says about the Gottman method of couples counseling. “People worry that ‘all their problems’ will come out in couples therapy, but we also focus a lot on what you’re doing well.”
You can expect that couples therapy sessions will be hard work, Stanizai explains. Your therapist will guide you through the counseling session, but they’ll really allow you and your partner to work out disagreements in your sessions, as they also teach you to communicate effectively.
As therapy continues and you show progress as a couple, the frequency of sessions will typically decrease to every other week, then once a month or on an as-needed basis, but there is no set schedule for when weekly meetings end.

Couples Therapy Coping Skills

During couples counseling, you won’t just focus on everything that’s bad in your relationship. In fact, you can expect to spend some sessions building on what is already working and enhancing your friendship with your partner. This is what you’ll want to focus on between sessions. Plus, your therapist will often give you communication tools to use at home.
“People will see the benefits as their therapy tools start working at home as they use them,” says Stanizai. “As with any new set of tools (like learning a new language—you’re saying the same things but using different language) it will feel awkward at first. The best way to learn is to practice, which you can do in and out of session.”
It’s imperative that both of you commit to therapy if you want it to work, says Hawkins. “It can be very difficult to engage a partner who wants out of the relationship and has been forced into attending counseling,” Hawkins continues. “For some couples, marriage counseling is actually divorce counseling because they’ve already decided it’s over. Some partners may use counseling as a venue to dissolve the relationship, but if you and your partner are open to the process, a lot of great change can be made.”
That can be tough to hear if you’re committed to working things out but your partner isn’t. Still, if you mutually decide to end your relationship, that doesn’t mean you failed as a couple.
If the relationship is not able to be salvaged this does not constitute a failure,” Hawkins emphasizes. “Maybe throughout the course of therapy, you decide you would like to end the relationship. …Keeping a relationship intact is not the only option in couples counseling. You and the clinician can work together to create goals that are appropriate for your life and provide you with the best result.”